Posts Tagged With: group therapy

Day 1837: SAD

What is your first association with SAD?

My first association with SAD these days is that it’s a negative and judgmental way to end a tweet. SAD.

My second association, these days, is Seasonal Affective Disorder, which is

a type of depression that’s related to changes in seasons — SAD begins and ends at about the same times every year. If you’re like most people with SAD, your symptoms start in the fall and continue into the winter months, sapping your energy and making you feel moody. Less often, SAD causes depression in the spring or early summer.

Treatment for SAD may include light therapy (phototherapy), medications and psychotherapy.

Don’t brush off that yearly feeling as simply a case of the “winter blues” or a seasonal funk that you have to tough out on your own. Take steps to keep your mood and motivation steady throughout the year.

I’m happy to quote the Mayo Clinic, above, about SAD.  I’m sad to report that many people I know are currently dealing with Seasonal Affective Disorder. I may have some SADness, too, because I struggle to keep my mood and motivation steady during this time of year.

The steps I take to keep my mood and motivation steady include

  • sharing my thoughts and feelings,
  • helping others,
  • eating healthy and comforting food,

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  • avoiding snow and ice,

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  • being inspired by others,

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  • seeking light wherever I can find it,

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At least, Lana Del Rey’s “Summertime Sadness” reminds me that summer is on the way.

Yesterday, in my therapy group, people talked about making gratitude lists to help themselves feel less sad.  My gratitude list includes all those who helped me create this SAD post and — of course! — YOU.

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Day 1830: Non-disparagement agreement

Today, I’m waking up to news about a lawsuit regarding the violation of a non-disparagement agreement between Donald Trump and Steve Bannon.

Please don’t disparage me about this, but I didn’t know that non-disparagement agreements were a thing, much less legally enforceable.

In five years of writing this daily blog — even without the benefit of having a non-disparagement agreement with my readers — I can’t remember receiving any disparaging comments.  Maybe non-disparagement agreements don’t have to be in writing. Maybe we can all just agree not to disparage each other, even when we don’t agree.

However, I’m thinking that written  non-disparagement agreements might be useful for reducing self-disparagement. Here’s a first draft of that kind of non-disparagement agreement:

I agree not to disparage myself, silently or out loud.

Signed,

(your name here)

I agree not to disparage myself about my other photos from yesterday.

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I don’t want to disparage the people in the news these days, but I wish they’d act more like adults. If they did, perhaps people in my therapy groups wouldn’t be focusing so much on self-protection.

Should we disparage this  YouTube video?

 

What do you think about non-disparagement agreements? No disparagement here, even if we disagree.

As always, I agree to  (1) write every day that I am able and (2) express gratitude at the end of each post.

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Day 1803: Common Sense

This is the first appearance of “Common Sense” here at The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally, as I approach the fifth anniversary of this daily blog.

It’s about time for common sense here and elsewhere, don’t you think?

Here are some uncommon quotes about common sense:

Common sense is not so common.  — Voltaire

Common Sense is that which judges the things given to it by other senses.  — Leonardo Da Vinci

I read, I study, I examine, I listen, I think, and out of all that I try to form an idea into which I put as much common sense as I can. — Marquis de Lafayette

Society is always taken by surprise at any new example of common sense.  — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Common sense is the most fairly distributed thing in the world, for each one thinks he is so well-endowed with it that even those who are hardest to satisfy in all other matters are not in the habit of desiring more of it than they already have.  — René Descartes

Philosophy is common sense with big words.  — James Madison

Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age 18. — Albert Einstein

Everybody gets so much information all day long that they lose their common sense.  — Gertrude Stein

It is inaccurate to say that I hate everything. I am strongly in favor of common sense, common honesty, and common decency.  This makes me forever ineligible for public office.  — H. L. Mencken

Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.  — Clive James

There is nothing more uncommon than common sense. — Frank Lloyd Wright

Do you seen any common (or uncommon) sense in my photos from yesterday?

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Was it common sense for me to invite people in a therapy group last night to express what makes them cry and what makes them laugh?  I didn’t have the common sense to photograph more things on my list of what makes me laugh.

Here‘s “Common Sense” by John Prine:

Common sense dictates that I thank all who helped me create this “Common Sense” post and you — of course! — for all your common and uncommon sense.

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Day 1801: What’s bothering us? What do we do about it?

What’s bothering us?

Well, I can’t speak for all of us, but what’s bothering me are the latest headlines from my news feed.

What do I do about it?

When something is bothering me, I do my best to share thoughts, feelings, and images.

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Those squiggles on my office whiteboard represent the ups and downs of moods and life, which can bother people.

This video of the Old Philosopher, Eddie Lawrence, helped what was bothering me, Bunky.

What’s bothering you?  What do you do about it?  How about leaving a comment?

Thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and to you — of course! —  no matter what you do about it.

 

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Day 1796: What keeps you up at night?

What keeps you up at night?

Money?

Love?

Hate?

The dark?

Too much light?

Pets?

What’s permanent?

What’s temporary?

What you ate?

What’s eating you?

The unknown?

What you know?

Taxes?

Politics?

Problems with photos that force you to blog from your cell phone?

Or is that just me?

Might this song from Cabaret keep you up at night?

Comments from my readers don’t keep me up at night. However, comments from world leaders do.

Thanks to all who helped me write this “What keeps you up at night?” post and to you — of course! — for keeping up with my blog.

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Day 1794: Where we will end up

Since yesterday’s post was about where we start, today I’m giving equal time to where we will end up.

I’m not sure where this post will end up, but let’s start with this teabag:

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Yesterday, I ended up happy by facilitating a therapy group where people talked about turkeys and then attending the musical The Color Purple with my sister-in-law Linda.

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This is where The Color Purple ended up, which made the audience very happy.

If you end up leaving a comment, you’ll give happiness to me.

Where will this post end up?  With thanks, of course, to all who helped me create it and to you, for ending up here.

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Day 1788: Giving thanks

In all my therapy groups this week, people were giving thanks.

Today, I am giving thanks to all my readers.

I am giving thanks for the opportunity to blog and to post pictures every day, even when they have little to do with the current topic.

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If you can make a story out of those photos, I’ll be giving thanks to you.

Here‘s what “giving thanks” returns on YouTube:

 

I GIVE THANKS

by Shameem

I give thanks for the morning sunrise

I give thanks for the clouds of rain

I give thanks for the joy and peace in life

I give thanks for the times of pain

I give thanks for the green grass that grows

I give thanks for nectarines and mangoes

I give thanks for all the people who cross my path

I give thanks to all the people who touch my heart

I give thanks, I give thanks.

I give thanks for all the love around me

I give thanks for the truth that has found me

I give thanks for family and for friends

I give thanks for being able to give thanks

I give thanks for every day that is breaking

I give thanks for every day that I’m waking

I give thanks for the gifts in which I’m partaking

I give thanks for the music I’m making

I give thanks, I give thanks.

 

I’m giving thanks to all who helped me create this Thanksgiving post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1767: Unlawful

What does “unlawful” mean to you?

Here‘s what it means to Merriam-Webster:

Definition of unlawful

1 :not lawful :illegal
2 :not morally right or conventional
— unlawfully \ˌən-ˈlȯ-f(ə-)lē\ adverb
— unlawfulness  \ˌən-ˈlȯ-fəl-nəs\ noun

First Known Use: 14th century

So now we know that unlawful means “not lawful.” Is that helpful or not helpful?

Also, is morally right really equivalent to conventional? Personally, I strive to be morally right but rarely strive to be conventional.

I also wonder what “unlawful” meant in the 14th century and how the meaning has changed over time.

These days, when I read the news (which is still lawful, as far as I know), I see many stories about people in power being unlawful, which is awful (“unlawful” minus the first three letters).

Is this photo unlawful, lawful, or awful?

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What about this one?

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“MKM” are the initials of my boyfriend Michael.  If I had written that on a wall, would that have been unlawful? How about taking a picture of it, like I did yesterday?

Here‘s Unlawful singing “You’re Not Alone.”*

I’m glad it’s not unlawful to sing or say “You’re Not Alone,” because that’s a very important message of group therapy (which I practice lawfully in Boston).

Here and now, it’s not unlawful to

  • blog,
  • leave comments, and
  • express gratitude to all who helped me create this”unlawful” post and to you — of course! — for lawfully reading it.

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* Perhaps it was unlawful to use that video of Unlawful, because sinceI published this post,  that video has disappeared.

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Day 1762: Different parts

I talk to people, in therapy and elsewhere, about accepting all the different parts of themselves.  Sometimes, people use the healthiest, most loving parts of themselves to nurture and comfort the frightened and wounded parts of themselves.

Today, I’m meeting with many skilled and experienced group therapists during a day-long retreat at our new home. I’m sure we’ll be sharing different parts of ourselves. I hope all the different parts of  our home work well throughout the day.

What different parts do you see in today’s different photos?

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Here is one of the different parts of jazz pianist Lyle Mays‘s Alaskan Suite.

All the different parts of Alaskan Suite are here, live, in Boston.

Feel free to express different parts of yourself in a comment, below.

Thanks to all who helped me create the different parts of this blog post and — of course! — to YOU.

 

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Day 1761: Frustrating

When I type “frustrating” into WordPress to see if I’ve ever written about that topic before, the results are frustrating:

Day 153: Do I Dare to Tweet a Tweet?

Day 148: Dreams I Have Known

Day 108: Everything makes sense on some level(s)

Day 23: 8 Degrees of Safety

Why are those results frustrating?

  • They’re all from my first year of blogging.
  • None of them have photos or music, so my current readers may find them frustrating.
  • None of them use the word “frustrating.”

In my therapy groups lately, “frustrating” keeps turning up.

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That’s frustrating.   The word I wrote on my white board in group yesterday is actually “frustration.”

If I search WordPress for “frustration,” several of my old blog posts show up, including these (which include pictures, music, and the word “frustration”):

Day 1469: Rubatosis

Day 1486: You don’t want to do that

Day 1633: Tantrums

One of those posts was also very popular.

What’s frustrating for you, these days?

For me, the news is frustrating.

Is it frustrating that I have only two other photos to share today?

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It’s frustrating that it takes a lot longer to take and upload photos since I updated my iPhone last week. However, if that’s my main problem these days, I am truly blessed.

Here‘s the first thing that comes up on YuTube for “frustrating.”

Is that the most frustrating video? How long could you take it?

It would be frustrating if I forgot to thank everyone who helps me create these posts and — of course! — YOU.

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