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Day 3542: Surprising

It’s not surprising to regular readers of this blog that I’m starting out this post with a definition of “surprising.”

It’s surprising to me how limited that definition is, so here is a definition of “surprise”:

The bell-ringing part of that definition is surprising to me — who knew bell-ringing has its own nomenclature?

It’s surprising to me how insecure I can be about whether I’m using the right word, like “nomenclature.”

Phew! I was surprisingly accurate.

All of these things are surprising to me, here and now:

  • Using three definitions in one blog post (a personal record for me),
  • The people who are testifying against Trump in the hearings about the January 6 USA insurrection,
  • How many people are not using the word “insurrection,”
  • How people seem so sure that the Republicans are going to take the House and/or the Senate in the November 2022 midterm elections, and
  • That people here are so appreciative of the photos and images I share.

Do you see anything surprising in today’s images?


There’s often something surprising in the list of National Days, don’t you think?

This is the first thing that comes up on YouTube when I search for “surprising”:

I wonder what will be surprising in the comments section, below.

Surprising thanks to all my surprising readers, including YOU!

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Day 3530: Keeping Up

I’m having trouble keeping up with many things these days, including

  • changes in technology,
  • the news, and
  • responding to all the wonderful people who engage with me through social media (here and on Twitter).

Let’s see if I’m keeping up with the latest definition of “keeping up.”

Keeping up with the first definition and with my role as a psychotherapist, I keep telling people not to keep comparing themselves with others, because that keeps them feeling bad about themselves. If you want to keep up with definitions of comparisons and other cognitive distortions (which I keep calling “automatic and unhelpful thoughts), I’m keeping those definitions here.

I’m keeping up with blogging every day by sharing my thoughts, my feelings, and the photos and other captured images I’m keeping up on my phone (which may explain why my phone is slowing down and having trouble keeping up with me these days) (but that’s not keeping me up at night).

Do you see keeping up in my images for today?

Today I’ll be keeping up with the National Days by seeking out my favorite flavor of ice cream, Rocky Road. Keeping up with National Leave the Office Early Day is challenging, since Thursdays I work late until 8, but I’m working from home (which I keep doing, except for Mondays, when I’m keeping up with work at the hospital).

Keeping up with the theme of irresistible dance music, here’s “Everybody Walk the Dinosaur” by Was (Not Was).

If you comment below, I’ll try keeping up with you by answering as soon as I can.

I’m keeping up with my tradition of taking photos of thank you’s so I can express my gratitude every day for all those who are keeping up with me, including YOU.

Categories: definition, personal growth, photojournalism, Psychotherapy | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

Day 3523: Some measure of comfort

Last night, on the day after the horrific shootings at a Texas elementary school (and the typical, infuriating reactions from those opposed to sane gun laws), I asked a question on Twitter about finding some measure of comfort through music.

Here’s how I would answer my own question:

It gives me some measure of comfort to share a few images with you today.

No matter what day it is, I’m always grateful for the measure of comfort I experience here with you.

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Day 3514: What I forgot to pack

Whenever I pack for a trip, I make many decisions about what to take and what to leave behind. Rather than get too caught up in perfectionism about that, I remind myself that no matter what I forget to pack, I can always adapt. At the same time, I make sure that I have my medication, my identification, a device so I can blog and tweet, and layers of clothing to wear no matter what the weather.

Yesterday, when I was packing for my trip to Portland, I couldn’t decide whether to take a portable music keyboard. I packed it, took it out, and then repacked it again.

On the way to the airport, I talked to my Lyft driver about that nagging feeling that I had forgotten SOMETHING. He related to that, mentioning a toothbrush as something he had forgotten to pack in previous travels.

When I was on board the plane, I felt pretty secure I had everything I needed for the ride, including masks, something to read, and snacks (especially useful because the airline announced that only people who had reserved food over a week ago could get any). After my friend Maria picked me up at the Portland airport and I got settled in her lovely home, I realized, as usual, that there was one thing I had forgotten to pack.

Let’s see if my readers can guess what that might be, as they look through the images in today’s blog.

Happy National Pack Rat Day (which seems somehow appropriate as I post about packing). And by the way, I didn’t pack walnuts, cherry cobbler, or a graduation tassel and I’m not in Idaho, but I’m okay with all that.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “what I forgot to pack.”

Hint: I didn’t pack everything on her list and she didn’t have what I forgot on hers.

Don’t forget to comment with your thoughts about this what-I-forgot-to-pack post and thanks to all who help me blog every day (no matter where in the world I am), including YOU!

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Day 3508: What impresses you?

What impresses you?

Is it fortune, fame, talent, integrity, humor, intelligence, commitment, bravery, creativity, honesty, or something else?

Here’s what impresses the Daily Bitch today:

The Daily Bitch never fails to impress. What impresses you about my other images for today?

Are you impressed by anything being honored with a National Day today?

I am impressed by multi-instrumentalist/ singer-songwriter/ producer Tatsuro Yamashita, whom I learned about on Twitter.

I am grateful for all those who impress me, including YOU!

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Day 3401: Good choices

I’ve made many good choices in my life, including

  • becoming a group therapist in my 40’s after careers as a technical writer, marketing writer, film school instructor, and advertising/marketing communications business owner,
  • having a child in my 40’s,
  • both my husbands,
  • my wonderful friends,
  • several shelter cats,
  • starting this daily blog in 2013,
  • agreeing to get a mechanical heart valve in 2016 despite my fears of open heart surgery (because of traumatic childhood experiences),
  • disconnecting from toxic people, and
  • voting for Democrats who support a woman’s right to choose.

Do you see good choices in my images for today?

There are lots of choices from today’s National Days and I choose to celebrate National Star Wars Day by sharing this.

This is the 3,401st time I’ve made good choices about how to end my blog posts — with gratitude for all who appear here, including YOU.

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Day 3365: Asking for help

Asking for help is difficult for me and for most people I know.

Why is asking for help so difficult? Is it

  • the wish to be independent?
  • based on bad experiences asking for help in the past?
  • the fear of rejection?
  • a fear of bothering others?
  • wanting to avoid unpleasant feelings in oneself and in other people?
  • a belief in the fragility of relationships?
  • counter to one’s self image as a helper to others?
  • an inability to find the right time and the right words?

Rather than ask for help, I will go to long and elaborate lengths to solve and accomplish things on my own. When I consider asking for help, I imagine other people’s negative reactions in words and facial expressions. When I do ask for help, I often preface it with “I have trouble asking for help.”

I feel like I need to ask for help in understanding why it is sooooo difficult to ask for help, considering that when I do ask for help, it usually turns out okay. Nevertheless, what sticks in my mind are the times that asking for help did not go well.


Last night on Twitter, I asked about what people had trouble asking for, and a vast majority of the hundreds of people answering said “help.”

Does it help to know you are not alone if you have trouble asking for help?

I’m relieved that I don’t have to ask for help in gathering and sharing my images for today.

We don’t have to get our lives in order in order to ask for help, you know.

I didn’t need help finding helpful videos to share today, including this

… and especially this:

Now I’m asking for help, specifically your comments about this post.

See? (I am saying to myself.) That wasn’t so difficult!

Thanks to all who help me maintain the confidence to create and share this blog every day, including YOU!

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Day 3357: I know this much is true

“I Know This Much is True” by Spandau Ballet is running through my head right now:

I know this much is true:

  • Innocent people are dying because of the actions of terrible leaders.
  • My suffering does not alleviate the suffering of others.
  • There are many wonderful people on this earth.
  • People are causing irreparable damage to this earth.
  • Some things can be repaired.
  • Cats are personal medicine for many of us humans.
  • I have trouble making certain types of decisions.
  • People grieve according to their own timetable.
  • Being kind to others and to myself is a priority for me.
  • My husband Michael is a fabulous cook.
  • It’s often healing to realize that you are not alone.
  • I share thoughts, feelings, and images on this blog to prepare for each day and to connect with others.

I know this much is true: it’s important to celebrate whatever you can these days.

True thanks to all who know their personal truths, including YOU.

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Day 3352: Surprise!

Last night, when I was surprised that the U.S. Senate had unanimously passed a bill revoking those surprisingly annoying, semi-annual time changes, I asked this question on Twitter:

I am surprised by how many nice people there are on Twitter and by how many of them are following me and answering my questions.

Are you surprised by any of my images for today?

I was momentarily surprised by how Everything You Think Is Wrong Day (March 15) is immediately followed by Everything You Do Is Right Day, but then it didn’t seem so surprising.

I’m grateful that, after more than 68 years alive on this surprising Earth, I am still capable of being surprised.

When I search YouTube for “Surprise!” I find this:

Thinking of leaving a comment? Surprise me!

Thanks to all the wonderful, kind-hearted, empathic people out there who are capable of being surprised, including YOU!

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Day 3345: National Get Over It Day

As a therapist, I try to help people get over it, where “it” is

  • loss,
  • old patterns of behaviors or thoughts that interfere with their moving forward,
  • past traumas, and/or
  • a belief in their own worthlessness.

However, I have never, ever said to anybody, “Get over it” because that never, ever helps.

So I wasn’t sure how to observe National Get Over It Day, especially in a world where people aren’t getting the opportunity to get over it, where “it” is

  • injustice,
  • war,
  • terrible people in power, and
  • COVID.

On National Get Over It Day, it also occurs to me that people in my nation (the USA) need to get over our unhealthy and self-centered nationalism.

Personally, I’ve been making progress on getting over it, where “it” is

  • a fear of machines breaking (because I’ve been dependent on cardiac pacemakers to stay alive since I was 10),
  • fears about doing or saying the wrong thing,
  • worries about putting myself out there on social media, and
  • an inaccurate sense of my own importance.

It’s time to get over myself and to move on to my images for National Get Over It Day.


Do you see anything about getting over it in my other images for today?

I can’t get over the fact that in all the hundreds of Daily Bitch Calendar entries I’ve seen over the years, this is the first one where she isn’t bitchy.

Here’s “Get Over It” by OK Go …

and “Get Over It” by the Eagles.

If you want to leave a comment, get over to the comments section, below.

I never, ever get over my gratitude for all those who help me blog every day, including you.

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