Posts Tagged With: acceptance

Day 2845: It’s a beautiful day

It’s a beautiful day to

  • blog,
  • return to my work as a group and individual psychotherapist after a long staycation,
  • let go of worry about the future,
  • let go of regret about the past,
  • be in the moment,
  • show up,
  • be gentle,
  • tell the truth,
  • take achievable next steps,
  • stay safe,
  • look up,
  • look down,
  • look all around,
  • listen carefully,
  • trust myself to figure things out,
  • accept all feelings,
  • recognize that I cannot change others but I can change myself,
  • lose my investment in the outcome,
  • stay committed to the process,
  • recognize and use my personal power,
  • be aware of internalized and unconscious messages,
  • do more of what helps,
  • do less of what doesn’t help,
  • just be,
  • make long lists, and
  • share these photos.

It’s a beautiful day to hide in my office at home (which I’m doing right now as I’m creating this blog).

It’s a beautiful day to share “It’s a Beautiful Day” by Tohpati (featuring Moonlight Project).

It’s a beautiful day when I find out about an Indonesian jazz guitarist and songwriter whose “most significant influence came from Pat Metheny.”

Is it a beautiful day to comment on a blog?

It’s a beautiful day to express gratitude, so thanks to all those who make my days more beautiful, including YOU.

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Day 2759: Way stations

I just found my way to an online way station that has a definition of “way station.”


way station (noun)

Definition of way station

1: a station set between principal stations on a line of travel (such as a railroad)
2: an intermediate stopping place

Synonyms

station, stop

Examples of way station in a Sentence

a way station for truck drivers

Recent Examples on the Web

The house became a gathering place for an indelible cultural moment, a way station for Andy Warhol, Terry Southern, Ike and Tina Turner, and Black Panthers.
— Mark Rozzo, The New Yorker, “Dennis Hopper’s Quiet Vision of Nineteen-Sixties Hollywood,” 22 Dec. 2019


In my way, I tried to make that definition of “way station” a way station (an intermediate stopping place) within today’s post.

I think it’s helpful, here and now, to think of every thing we experience — alone and together — as way stations on our way to where we are going.

Do you see any way stations in my photographs from yesterday?

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As I’m moving among way stations, I often listen to The Way Up by the Pat Metheny Group. Here’s one performance of The Way Up from the way station YouTube:

 

On your way today to other way stations, I hope you spend some time listening to The Way Up and also in the way station of the comments sections, below.

No matter what the way station, I am grateful to be there and grateful for YOU.

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Day 2653: What I found

Yesterday, I found hope

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… amid all the spin.

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I found a sign about how others are finding God.

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I found photos of beloved animals.

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I found ways to brace myself for a week away from home and Michael.

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I found peace in nature.

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I found everything I needed to pack for my trip to New York City today.

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I found compassion for my own and others’ fragility, and I found this song written by Sting and performed by Stevie Wonder and Sting.

 

As usual, I found gratitude.

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Day 2643: Life is short …

I wrote a short post titled “Life is short” about 1,200 days ago. (My calculations may be imperfect, but — hey! — life is short.)  But … is that the end of the story?

Apparently not.

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Life is short …

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… stop and smell the roses.

Life is short …

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… eat mindfully.

 

Life is short …

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… try to get your act together.

Life is short …

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… accept that people will disappoint each other.

Life is short …

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… learn the important differences.

Life is short …

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… expect the unexpected (like those three photos on my iPhone).  Also accept the light AND the dark.

If life is so short

… share what’s important to you (like music, travel, and love).

Life is short and your comments can be, too!

Life is short …

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… thanks!

 

 

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Day 2486: Shocking confession. I’ve made mistakes.

Shocking confession.  I often steal the titles for these posts.

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I’m wondering if this shocks my old friend Lawry, a lawyer who specializes in intellectual property and who used to read this blog every day.  Shocking confession: Lawry and I are both attending our 45th college reunion this weekend.

Shocking confession: I keep rewriting the first paragraph of the five-minute “Ted Talk” I’m giving at the reunion, which includes shocking confessions.

Everyone in our class, I’m sure, remembers where you were on November 22, 1963.  I’m different from you.  I have no memories of that day, because I was having heart surgery to get my first cardiac pacemaker. While the world was being traumatized by the assassination of President Kennedy, my family and I were being traumatized by that unexpected surgery, by hospital rules preventing parents from staying with their children, and by medical staff not knowing how to answer the questions of a frightened 10-year-old girl, like “What’s that coffin on the TV screen?” and “What’s this giant thing sticking out of my body?”

It’s shocking how many mistakes people made back then.  Unless I’m mistaken, giving this speech in front of my classmates will be a reparative experience, even if I make mistakes in my presentation.

Shocking confession. I’ve made mistakes every day of my life.  Let’s see if I’ve made mistakes in my other photos from yesterday.

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Shocking confession.  I like to make up stories based on what I see around me.  What story might you make up using the photos in this post?  Don’t worry about making mistakes.

Shocking confession. One of the people pictured in today’s blog played the role of Ursula in a local production of “The Little Mermaid.”  Can you guess who that was?  Here is a song Ursula sings about mistakes being made:

Shocking confession. We’re all poor unfortunate souls who make mistakes.  Ariel makes the mistake of giving up her voice in the Disney version of “The Little Mermaid,”  but she recovers it in the end.

Shocking confession.  I’d love to see your comments about this post and I’m grateful to all who helped me create it.

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Day 2476: It’s okay!

Yesterday, somebody in a “Coping and Healing” group suggested that we share thoughts and feelings about “It’s okay,” especially since the week before we had focused on “It’s NOT okay.”

I hope it’s okay that I share what I wrote in that group:

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It’s okay that my “It’s okay!” poem is on its side.

Here are more photos residing on my okay iPhone:

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It’s okay that I missed last night’s spectacular sunset, because I was facilitating the Coping and Healing group.  Yes, somebody else took that much-more-than-okay last photo.

Here‘s OK (Anxiety Anthem) by Mabel:

 

Whatever comment you choose to leave, it’s okay.

I know it’s okay for me to end these posts with gratitude, so thanks to all who helped me create another okay post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 2426: Say YES to …

Yesterday morning, after saying YES to sharing another daily blog post, I looked at a previously published post, also titled “Messes,’ and found this:

I will tell you that I messily shared at the end of the group session my inspiration to make a new t-shirt that says, “Say YES to the mess.”

Over two years later, I am belatedly saying YES to that intention by designing and ordering this t-shirt:

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I said YES to that typestyle of “Say YES to the Mess” because it’s called “Unkempt.” YES!

Here on this blog, and also in my therapy groups, we often discuss how and when to say NO, but it’s equally important to know how and when to say YES.

Say YES to …

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… listening to music you love.

Say YES to …

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… being mindful and non-judgmental of your moods.

Say YES to …

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… observing what’s around you.

Say YES to …

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… long life by practicing good habits.

Say YES to …

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… the most valuable people in your life.

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… creating your dreams, even if it’s just one.

Say YES to …

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… welcoming all.

Say YES to …

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… whimsey.

Say YES to …

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… the dress (I THINK that’s what that is).

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… beautiful sunrises and sunsets.

Say YES to …

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… staying in touch.

Say YES to …

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… curiosity, partnership, empathy, apology (when appropriate), reflection, legitimization, support, and wellness.

Say YES to …

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… sharing what’s important to you with other people.

Say YES to …

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… feelings.

Say YES to …

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… flowers.

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… safety.

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… love.

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… healthy hearts, fewer worries, and good sleep!

Say YES to …

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… group support.

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… taking the stairs.

Say YES to …

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… Yoko, a valued member of the Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy executive board, who says YES to fresh fruit in her drinks and who also says YES to sitting with Oscar.

What do YOU say YES to?

Here‘s “Ascent” by Lyle Mays (featured, yes, in this post).

I always say YES to gratitude at the end of these posts, so thanks to all who helped me create this one and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 2419: Keep doing what you’re doing

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“Keep doing what you’re doing” is

  • something I’ve written on my white board and on prescription pads at work,
  • often a validating, supportive, and encouraging phrase,
  • a non-judgmental acceptance of habitual behavior, and
  • a new title for this blog.

Because WordPress and my laptop keep doing what they’re doing,

  • I can’t save a post while I’m writing it and
  • only some of my photos are loading today.

Keep doing what you’re doing, including smiling,

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scanning,

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welcoming,

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watching,

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noticing signs,

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celebrating,

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avoiding danger,

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and focusing on what’s important to you.

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I keep doing groups and I keep doing rhymes.  Yesterday, I wrote this rhyme in a group focusing on “the unexpected.”

The unexpected

Needs to  be respected

And not neglected

And definitely accepted.

People keep listening to this podcast interview about my heart keeping on:

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I keep sharing what I’m sharing in this blog, including this song by Anita Wilson:

Keep doing what you’re doing and if that includes commenting on this blog, thank you!

I keep expressing gratitude every day for the help I receive from others, including YOU.

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Day 2415: Weirdness

When I search for “weirdness” in this blog, Weird WordPress tells me that weirdness exists in 2 out of my previous 2414 posts, a weirdness percentage of only 0.08%.

Since I look for weirdness (in addition to looking for love),   I would have expected a much higher weirdness percentage. Nevertheless, as always, the weirdness in me honors the weirdness in you.

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Today, we’re looking for love AND weirdness in my photos from yesterday.

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I took that last photo because of this weirdness:

  1. “Narcissist Foundation Stick” and
  2. Mascara is listed under “face” instead of “eyes.”

And is non-vegan arugula even a thing?  Weirdness.

Here’s “AMAZING VIDEO WEIRDNESS” compiled by CDTcrew.

Here’s some weirdness from the comments for that video:

christian style swag on god
5 years ago
This video is the reason I haven’t killed myself yet.

Anton Sinner
5 years ago
You’re doing god’s work.

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6 years ago
Like if U are a disco dancer (Y)

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6 years ago
80s and 90s were awesome…i want them back…

Daniel Etheridge
6 years ago
Thats enough internet for today.

Moshugaani
7 years ago
To think of all the phantastical things contained on this Earth…

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7 years ago
No one brought me here

I’m looking forward to the weirdness in your comments.

I’m very grateful for the weirdness in me and in others (including YOU).

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Day 2408: Accepted

Yesterday, I got this message from my son Aaron:

Hi, my fringe show has been accepted. There are shows from the 20th to the 24th.

Since Aaron and I both applied many months ago to perform our own shows at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival  (which starts in August), we’ve accepted the ever-growing possibility that neither of our shows would be accepted.

My son and I accepted the process of waiting to hear about our shows  very differently — I kept holding out hope (until  very recently) that we would both be accepted and Aaron very quickly accepted the stance of assuming that both of our shows would not go on.

I hope Aaron accepted both of my responses to his wonderful news:

Great!

What can we learn from this?

I hope you’ve accepted my intent there: to invite Aaron to hold on to hope in the future.

Personally, because I’ve accepted years of uncertainty dealing with medical issues from birth, it helps me to hold onto hope.  I’ve accepted that other people deal with uncertainty very differently. (It’s accepted that I sometimes say this in my Coping and Healing groups: “Different strokes for different folks.”)

I’ve also accepted that I probably will not get a Fringe show, which was titled Group “Therapy” with Ann. However, if I do get accepted, I’m ready!

In the meantime, YouTube has accepted a two-minute version of Free Therapy with Ann.

Aaron was accepted to teach English in Jordan this month, so when he gets back here on July 20th, we’ll make sure that YouTube accepts a longer version of that.

Also, I applied yesterday to join a panel in September for my 45th reunion at Harvard on “Picking up the Pieces: How Did You Embrace Life and Find Happiness Again?” In my application, I offered to talk about dealing with conflicting medical advice and finally getting a mechanical heart valve in 2016 (a process well documented and accepted on this blog). I wonder if my application will be accepted, especially since I offered to perform my original song “Shameless Appeals for Applause.”

Five years ago, I applied to be on a “Voices of Our Class” panel at my college reunion, and my application was not accepted.  I’ve accepted that often you have to try, try again.

In other “accepted” news, I’ve been accepted by the “Heart to Heart with Anna” podcast to be interviewed about my life with congenitally corrected transposition of the great arteries (cctga).

I hope that my photos from yesterday are accepted by my readers:

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I’ve accepted that my boyfriend Michael doesn’t like to be photographed for this blog, but I think he can accept that last photo, above.

As always, your comments are accepted, below.

I think it’s accepted here that I’ll be ending my posts  with thanks to all who help me create them and — of course! — to YOU.

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