Day 1995: What wakes you up in the middle of the night?

What wakes you up in the middle of the night?

For me, it could be

  • concern about children,
  • worry about the state of the world,
  • something I ate,  and/or
  • something that’s eating me.

What do you do when you wake up in the middle of the night?

Sometimes, I blog.

Here are some photos from yesterday:

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Here are “8 Reasons You Are Waking Up at Night”:

Here’s “What to Do When You Wake Up in the Middle of the Night”:

Finally, here’s “How to fall back asleep in the middle of the night.”

I’m going to follow the advice of that last video and do some deep breathing.

Thanks to all who helped me create this blog post and — of course! — thanks to YOU.

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Day 1994: What makes a good father?

Today seems like a good day to ask “What makes a good father?”

My response to that question would be based on my experience of my late father:

  • Honesty.
  • Humor.
  • Authenticity.
  • Consideration for other people’s feelings.
  • A commitment to doing the right thing.
  • Acts of kindness.
  • Social involvement.
  • Joie de vivre.
  • In the words of a friend of his soon after he passed, “I never heard your father say anything bad about anyone and I never heard anyone say anything bad about your father.”

Here are other responses to the question “What makes a good father?”

A good father is somehow just THERE, always, a reassuring presence — even when he’s not there anymore, because of the rules of mortality, and all you can do is hear his voice in your head.  –– Joel Achenbach

So what makes a man a good father? A stew of love, humor, empathy, humility, and, perhaps most of all, time. — Dave Taylor

 

 

Do you see any good fathers in my photos for today?

 

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What makes a good comment on this Father’s Day, USA?  Anything you choose to share.

Thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1993: Power

Yesterday, in a therapy group, I randomly picked this “angel card”:

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We all have power. Soon, I will be taking on more power as the President of a professional group therapy organization. I hope to use that power well.

A few days ago, I noticed that the cafeteria in the hospital where I work had stopped including vitamin-K-rich spinach in their salad bar. Because I take the powerful medication Coumadin. I need the power to control the amount of Vitamin K in my diet, and I usually do so by taking the same amount of spinach every day from the salad bar.   I owned my personal power and asked to speak to the person who had the power to decide what items to include in that salad bar. She told me that the hospital had decided to feature local produce and had replaced the spinach with locally grown kale. I told her about my taking Coumadin, which is a very common drug, and explained that kale had too much vitamin K and that I can’t eat kale.  As I was explaining all this to her, these were my powerful thoughts, “Why am I doing this?  I don’t have any power here. They’ve already made this decision.    I’ll have to figure out how to regulate my vitamin K a different way.”

The next day, I saw this at the hospital salad bar:

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Sometimes we have power even when we think we don’t.  The powerful moral for me: keep speaking up, because maybe somebody is listening.

Do you see power in my other photos from yesterday?

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People have the power to decide whether they want their pictures taken.  My son Aaron was okay with that last night (and Michael wasn’t).

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The ocean has the power to heal, I believe.

Today, Aaron and I will be experiencing the power of “West Side Story” at Boston’s Symphony Hall.  I never get tired of the power of that score by Bernstein and Sondheim and I’m glad that YouTube has the power to provide the musical clips I need for this blog (here and here).

I look forward to the power of your comments, below.

I always end these daily posts with the power of gratitude to all who help me create them and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1992: Michelle

Yesterday, my good friend Michelle passed away.

Last month, I wrote and shared this limerick with Michelle:

A wonderful person Michelle,

Treats all whom she meets very well.

I’m consistently crying

’cause I know that she’s dying

Though I know she’s not going to Hell.

Michelle smiled and said, “Maybe I am going to Hell.”  I replied, “With everything I know about you and Hell, there’s no way you’re going there.”

I don’t know where Michelle went yesterday but I do know she’s no longer here where I and many others have known and loved her for so long.

Michelle’s husband Joe wrote yesterday about how she had spent her last day on this earth. He told us she heard her favorite Irish blessing.

“May the road rise to meet you, may the wind be always at your back, may the sun shine warm upon your face, the rains fall soft upon your fields and, until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of his hand.”

He wrote that she felt held and that she died at home at peace with grace and dignity. He signed his email to us “With profound sadness.”

With profound sadness, here are all the photos captured on my iPhone yesterday.

 

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Many years ago, when I was in the hospital recovering from a heart-related illness, Michelle loaned me her DVD of “Rent.”  Today, I include this song from that musical in honor of her.

Thank you, Michelle, for all the seasons of love.  And thanks to all of you for visiting here, now.

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Day 1991: Untold stories

I’ve told many stories in this blog over the years, but many remain untold.

We all have untold stories, including Boston’s Public Garden.

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In my profession as a group and individual therapist, I hear many previously untold stories.  Because of patient confidentiality, those stories remain  untold outside the room (unless the story is mine).

Every picture tells a story, I’m told, but there are many untold stories in my pictures today.

 

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I know there are untold stories in the news these days, but hope, respect, joy, peace, kindness, patience, healing, inspiration, comfort, and love seem to be missing in the stories that are being told.

Here‘s “Untold Stories” told by Sinead O’Connor:

 

I look forward to reading some untold stories in the comments, below.

My gratitude — for all who help me create these posts and for all who read them — is not untold.

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Day 1990: Colorful

As colorful as this daily blog may have been since January  2013, I’ve never written a blog post titled “colorful” before this colorful day.  Ready for a colorful definition?

col·or·ful
ˈkələrfəl
adjective
1. having much or varied color; bright.
“a colorful array of fruit”
synonyms: brightly colored, vivid, vibrant, brilliant, radiant, rich;
2. full of interest; lively and exciting.
“a controversial and colorful character”
synonyms: vivid, graphic, lively, animated, dramatic, fascinating, interesting, stimulating, scintillating, evocative
“a colorful account”

Now I have to make sure this post has much or varied color, is bright, brightly colored, vivid, vibrant, brilliant, radiant, rich, full of interest, lively and exciting, graphic, animated, dramatic, fascinating, interesting, stimulating, scintillating, and evocative. That seems like a tall order, especially since I have to leave soon for physical therapy with my colorful physical therapist, Matthew.

Perhaps my colorful photos from yesterday will help.

I couldn’t capture how colorful those fireworks were last night with my iPhone. Yeah, I live in such a colorful place that sometimes we are surprised by colorful fireworks for no apparent or documented reason. 

Sometimes I wish I didn’t live in such colorful times, but  I still have gratitude for all the colors around me.

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Orange is my son’s favorite color and it’s also the official color of the group psychotherapy organization I’m becoming president of on July 1.   What a colorful life I lead!

I almost forgot to include a colorful song.

If you receive a colorful message saying that video is unavailable, try clicking on the “colorful song” link, above.

I look forward to your colorful comments and hope you have a colorful day.

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Day 1989: Joy

Yesterday, I noticed that somebody had chosen joy from the emotions chart on my door at work.

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That gave me joy then and now.

What gives you joy?

Can you find joy in any of my other photos from yesterday?

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There’s lots of joy on YouTube from for King & Country ,

from the movie Immortal Beloved,

from VaShawn Mitchell,

from the Georgia Mass Choir,

 from the Muppets,

and from Leven Kali.

I will take joy in your comments, no matter what they contain.

There’s joy in gratitude, every day.

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Day 1988: It’s all in the details

Here’s a detail about how I got today’s title:

Do you agree that it’s all in the details?

I love these details about how to live life:

  1. Show up.
  2. Be gentle (with others and with yourself).
  3. Tell the truth.

I’m telling the truth about the details of the first verse of my second original song, “Catastrophizing.”

Now that I’ve started this song

So many things could go wrong.

What if I make a mistake?

This string or that string could break!

I think I sound out of tune.

You look like you’re leaving soon!

©️Ann Koplow 2018

Here are the details of my other photos from yesterday.

Nothing says fun like this video where it’s all in the details.

It’s all in all the details for comedian Todd Barry, whom my son saw Friday night.

I noticed that some of the details in Todd Barry’s routine are about Chicago. It’s all in the details when you travel and I’m traveling to Chicago with my son in two weekends.

I’m looking forward to all the details in your comments below.

It’s all in the details when you express gratitude, so thanks to everyone who helped me create today’s detailed post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1987: Pride

Take pride in yourself and your accomplishments, no matter who you are. Your pride is contagious and good for us all.

Here’s a definition of “pride.”

pride
prīd
noun
1. a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.
“the team was bursting with pride after recording a sensational victory”
synonyms: pleasure, joy, delight, gratification, fulfillment, satisfaction, a sense of achievement
“take pride in a good job well done”
2. a group of lions forming a social unit.
verb
1. be especially proud of a particular quality or skill.
“she’d always prided herself on her ability to deal with a crisis”
synonyms: be proud of, be proud of oneself for, take pride in, take satisfaction in, congratulate oneself on, pat oneself on the back for
“Lucas prides himself on his knowledge of wine”

Yesterday was the Pride Parade and many other Pride activities in Boston, including a Pride service, a Pride festival, a Pride concert,  the Boston Pride Parade, and Pride Parties. (Here‘s a link to bostonpride.org.)

I take pride in my photos from yesterday.

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Here‘s a “Boston Pride 2018” video:

Here‘s another one:

What does “Pride” mean to you?

Thank you all for your pride, here and now.

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Day 1986: Make a Difference

Yesterday, while I was at a group psychotherapy conference, I saw a sign.

I try to make a difference with this blog. Starting next month, I’ll try to make a difference by becoming President of my local group psychotherapy organization.

Do any of these other photos make a difference for you?

If you’re a writer and an activist, you definitely need stress management tips. I shall do my best to ask others for help, eat healthy, exercise, get enough sleep, get organized, practice relaxation techniques, and take breaks often, because those all make a difference.

Anthony Bourdain made a difference to many people.

As one of the messages in that video says, “Small acts of kindness can make all the difference. If you are struggling, call 1-800-273-8255.”

Your comments make a difference for me.

Thank you for letting me make a difference here, every day.

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