The new cool for this blog is to get right to the point, so here’s the new cool I saw yesterday:
Cool! Who knew?
Here are other kinds of cool I saw yesterday. Are any new to you?
That’s Al, our friendly neighborhood supermarket cashier, looking kind and cool. Al is retiring after 23 years, which is cool for him but not cool for me. Yesterday, Al was kind enough to tell us that his first and last days are, coincidentally, the same — September 6. That’s kind of cool, don’t you think?
I think it’s kind of cool to discover new kinds of music. I shall now be kind enough to include one new result of searching for “cool kind” at YouTube:
Since kind is the new cool, please be kind enough to leave a comment. Whatever you write, it’ll be cool to me.
New cool thanks to Al, to Anna Lee Chisholm, to Blues Girls everywhere, to the kind of cool boutiques they have in Belmont Center, to Star Market, to everything new and not-so-new I saw yesterday, to cool and kind thoughts when it hits 90 degrees Fahrenheit today, to whatever kind of cool sign-in book I decide to use at my 45th high school reunion, and to you — of course! — for the new kind of cool you are, every day.
Yesterday, right before I intentionally met my friend Barbara in downtown Boston for an intentionally different brunch and the intentionally different musical Kinky Boots, I saw these two signs outside an intentionally different theater:
In this intentionally different post, I shall show you MANY intentionally different things I encountered during an intentionally full Saturday — which included intentionally different types of transportation and an intentionally different trip with my boyfriend Michael to Nantasket Beach in Hull, which is intentionally different now than it was when we both visited the long-gone amusement park that was there when we were both kids.
Before I intentionally proceed with this intentionally different post, I intentionally will share this with my different readers: my being intentionally different is often linked to how I was unintentionally different from birth (because of an unintentionally different heart).
And because I believe we are all intentionally and unintentionally different AND the same, I will intentionally ask you these intentionally different questions: Are you ever intentionally different? What are your intentions in doing so?
Okay! Here are lots of intentionally different photos from yesterday, intentionally presented (1) in intentionally chronological order and (2) with no explanation (which is no different from several of my close-to-1000 previous, intentionally different daily posts). If any of the photos seem intentionally different enough to you, I intentionally (and not so differently) would like to know about it.
Also, I intentionally included more photos than in any of my other intentionally or unintentionally different blog posts, so you might want to do something intentionally different while this intentionally different post is loading.
I am now going to intentionally repeat one of my intentionally different photos from above:
… because Lola is one of the main characters in Kinky Boots.
Here are the same two amazing performers Barbara and I saw yesterday in Kinky Boots, singing about intentional and unintentional differences:
And here‘s intentional footage from the first intentionally different rehearsal of the intentionally different and fabulous musical Kinky Boots:
Intentionally different and not-so-different thanks to Kinky Boots, Barbara, Michael, Boston, Nantasket Beach, Paragon Park, and every other intentionally different and similar person, place, and thing I intentionally noticed yesterday. Intentionally special thanks to you — of course! — for intentionally visiting here, today.
On Thursday evening, a long-time participant in my Coping and Healing groups — after listening to what other members were sharing and discussing — offered this helpful conclusion:
You just never know.
You just never know what somebody else intends to communicate, but I felt like I knew what that person meant.
You just never know:
what is going to happen next,
another person’s experience,
why people make the choices they do,
another person’s thoughts,
all the feelings somebody else is having,
how and why other people behave the ways they do,
what our leaders are thinking,
how everything that happens might have an effect,
how other people see you,
what it’s like to be another creature on this earth,
how to keep up with rapidly evolving technology,
how we’re all going to survive,
how to make meaning out of senseless cruelty,
how people go on after traumatic experiences,
what beauty you are going to encounter,
how kind strangers can be,
how much time we have in this world,
what the heck I’m going to blog about any given day, and
which images are going to capture my attention, as I make my way through this world.
… you just never know what I’m going to bring back from Scotland.
You just never know what’s going to show up outside a hospital gift shop.
You just never know what beautiful natural scenes exist close to where you are.
If you know anything about me from reading this blog, you probably know that I’ll be doing my darnedest to get outside for lunch on a Friday. You might also know, if you’re a long time and faithful reader, that my Friday lunch choice, from the cafeteria where I work, is kick-ass macaroni and cheese (not pictured).
You just never know what people are going to say at a goodbye party, although that usually includes words of appreciation never before spoken. After I took that last picture above, I witnessed many others expressing love and hopes for my wonderful co-worker, Mary, who is retiring from our hospital-based practice. Mary, when saying goodbye to me in front of everybody, mentioned Friday macaroni and cheese! You just never know how well somebody can get to know you, in only four years. I told people at that going-away party that if I didn’t know I would definitely see Mary after she leaves next week, I knew I’d be bursting into tears.
You just never know how many connections you’re going to make in one day.
You just never know what amazing things you’re going to see when you’re spending time with somebody you love.
And you just never know when the inspiration for a blog post title is going to hit. Yesterday, on my drive home to spend Friday evening with my boyfriend Michael, I noticed something I’d never known before, and I pulled over to the side of the road to photograph it:
You just never know when a local marching band is going to appear on a main street.
You just never know when auto-correct is going to slow you down — it just took me many attempts and minutes to write “Main Street” in that last paragraph without initial capitals.
You just never know when I’m going to give up fighting auto-correct.
You just never know what music I’m going to choose on a Saturday.
You just never know when a beloved friend is going to raise you up by inviting you to go to a musical, like my friend Barbara did yesterday. Six hours from now, know that Barbara and I will be at a matinee of Kinky Boots, in Boston.
You just never know how others are going to comment on something you create. I guess we’ll find out, below!
Unknowing and knowing thanks to those who helped me create this post today and to you — of course! — for all you know.
Here’s just the inspiration for today’s post title, taken after a day at work when I was speeding around doing so much that I could have easily gotten a ticket from a pedestrian patrol officer, if there were such a thing:
Maybe it’s just me, but I wonder if it’s just or fair for any one car to accumulate so many tickets.
That photo may be just the ticket, but is today’s topic “Just the ticket” just the ticket for me to create a just and righteous post for you this morning?
Or am I just giving myself a one-way ticket to nowhere?
How could my ticketed title relate to the stories I heard and the lessons learned in therapy sessions yesterday?
It’s not like anybody needed a ticket to get into those individual and group therapy sessions.
Also, how does “Just the Ticket” relate to the other photos I had time to take yesterday?
Hmmm. I suppose that truck — up on the sidewalk to make a delivery near Fenway Park in Boston — deserves to get a parking ticket. Also, I might pay for a ticket to see lots of bold characters in one play.
That photo could also be ticket-related, since clothes on sale have tickets attached to them.
Hearts are just the tickers, I mean tickets, for keeping us all alive. I hope that — for one of my non-ticketed patients yesterday — using a jeweled, ticker-shaped “worry box” will allow her put to her worries away at night and get some sleep.
“Learning” was just the ticket for a discussion topic at one of the non-ticketed therapy groups I facilitated yesterday.
I should probably buy a ticket to a hand-writing improvement seminar (and perhaps an art class, too). Here’s what I wrote on one side of that flower:
The flower doesn’t have to learn how to grow.
And on the other side:
Certain things we learn get in the way of growth and we have to unlearn them.
When I saw the moon during my walk away from work last night, I thought, “There’s a spectacular full moon coming up soon. Thank goodness I don’t need a ticket to view that. ”
I don’t know how and when I took that photo, but isn’t it just the ticket for a post like this one?
I don’t know what was going on at Fenway Park last night. It was definitely not a baseball game, but something was playing on the Jumbotron. I’m assuming that
people needed to have tickets to get in there and
I deserve a ticket for using the word “Jumbotron. “
I wonder if the person who posted that sign on their car has the authority to give out tickets to people who park too close?
Okay! I managed to come up with tickets for each of those photos. Isn’t that just the ticket?
Now, are you — my non-ticketed reader — ready for a one-way ticket to a ticket-related tune?
If you are hooked by that song, you can find it here on YouTube, which contains a lot of musical hooks.
Immediately after I was hooked by that tune, I was hooked by the sight of an actual hook in the sky:
When I got to work, I was hooked by my Wednesday morning therapy group, especially by their expressed relief and gratitude about my return from a two-week vacation.
I was also hooked by some anxiety, because:
I felt a little out of practice, facilitating a group, and
I had a 2 PM appointment with my wonderful dentist, Dr. Del Castillo, and — for the first time in years — I would NOT be hooked up to an IV an hour before a dental procedure to receive endocarditis-preventing antibiotics.
Lest you be hooked by any concern about that, my doctors have decided that taking a single oral antibiotic is enough protection to prevent my heart from the dastardly hooks of endocarditis-causing bacteria (which have gotten their hooks onto my heart valve three times in the last 18 years).
As I am writing this hooky post, I’m being hooked by an unpleasant reaction to the oral antibiotic which is “off the hook, as the kids like to say” (which my boyfriend Michael likes to say). I shall be ringing my doctors’ phones off the hook, and I won’t let them off the hook until we find an oral antibiotic with fewer yucky side effects.
I’m going to let you off the hook, now, and quit writing about my antibiotics. Instead, here are some other images that hooked me, yesterday:
Which one of those hook-y shots hooked you?
I am now going to unhook myself from writing this post and take some more probiotics. I wonder if one can get hooked on those?
Sky-hooks-and-tartan-paint thanks to Sting, everybody playing musical hooks in that video, Michael, Dr. Luis Del Castillo (who is hooked on reading this blog), my therapy groups, PetSmart, Whole Foods Market, probiotics, every single hook I encountered yesterday, and you — of course! — for getting hooked here, today.
Yesterday, I met with a very interesting person who, interestingly enough, feels uninteresting. Feeling uninteresting causes this person to avoid interacting with other people, for fear of being seen and judged as not interesting.
It’s interesting to me how many interesting people suffer from these kinds of fears. I, as an interested psychotherapist, am very interested in helping people reduce the interestingly common cognitive distortion of labeling themselves
other harsh, judgmental, painful and interestingly destructive adjectives.
Therefore, I gave this interesting person two interesting prescriptions yesterday, of different strengths:
Here are some other interesting photos I took during my interesting yesterday.
Which photo did you find most interesting? I was most interested in the last one. I was so interested in it, I had the interesting plan of giving this interesting post today the interesting title of “No Title.”
Yesterday evening, after we’d sat down to dinner, I asked my son Aaron, “What would you like to talk about?” He replied, “The meaning of life.”
I thought for a moment (because that topic deserves careful consideration) and quoted something my late mother would often say:
Life is what you make it.
When that got no response from Aaron, I tried again, with something closer at hand: “Maybe Michael’s mashed potatoes explain the meaning of life.”
That photo of my boyfriend Michael’s mashed potatoes (taken when the meal was over) means I was too busy eating them — and thinking about the meaning of life — to capture those delicious potatoes on my dinner plate.
What do you think? If asked about the meaning of life over dinner (or anywhere else) by a 17-year old, how might you respond? Would your opening gambit include something you heard growing up, something close at hand, or something else?
Might any of my other recent photos provide useful talking points about the meaning of life?
Allow me to explain the meaning of the life shown in those last four photos. On my first day back at work, yesterday, a co-worker I like very much showed me pictures of the recent 16th birthday party of her sister’s cat, Simba, who was diagnosed with a fatal disease four years ago. To me, Simba looks quite healthy and happy, partaking of some ice cream birthday cake.
That reminds me! Last night, Michael finished his own birthday ice cream cake, pictured in its entirety here:
I see how that photo — taken on Michael’s birthday, August 21 — includes the word “trust.” I trust that word might come up in some discussions about the meaning of life.
If you were writing a blog post about the meaning of life, what music would you include?
Meaningful thanks to my late mother, my son Aaron, my boyfriend Michael, Monty Python, Michael’s mashed potatoes, my co-workers, Simba, survivors everywhere, creatures who enjoy ice cream birthday cakes, and every other person, animal, place, and thing that helped me make meaning in today’s post. Special thanks to you — of course! — for any meaning you are making in your life, here and now.
Call Me Lucky is an amazing movie — about the beloved, much-respected political humorist/children’s protection activist, Barry Crimmins — that I was lucky enough to see yesterday at the Somerville Theater, near Boston USA.
I hope you are lucky enough to see this great film, which I believe is now available on iTunes.
You could call me lucky because:
my 17-year-old son Aaron — after spending lots of time with me recently in Edinburgh, Scotland — was still happy to spend the afternoon with me watching that funny, wrenching, illuminating and, ultimately, life-affirming film,
in the 1980s, I got to see Barry Crimmins and all the other great Boston-based comedians who appear in Call Me Lucky, many times,
in the 1980s, when I performed my own stand-up routine at two Open Mic nights, one of those nights was the Boston-comedy-club debut of the director of Call Me Lucky, Bobcat Goldthwait,
I have seen and heard many wonderful films and performances at the Somerville theater over the years, including several shows by my guitar hero, Pat Metheny, and
like Barry Crimmins, I am passionate about my chosen work, to which I am returning, today, after a two-week vacation.
You might also call me lucky because yesterday I could see
with non-red eyes, all these other interesting and wondrous things around me:
Might you call any of those shots particularly lucky?
Are there any reasons why you might call yourself lucky, here and now?
Lucky and copious thanks to Barry Crimmins, to my son Aaron, to Bobcat Goldthwait, to stand-up comedians in Boston and elsewhere, to all the brave children’s protection advocates in the world, to the Somerville Theater, and to you — of course! — whom I am lucky enough to call “my reader,” today.
Do you ever get stuck in a behavior, a feeling, or a thought? Do you ever repeat patterns of acting or thinking you KNOW are neither positive nor helpful?
If you answered “yes,” you are NOT alone in your stuck-ness.
If you answered “no,” could you let the rest of us know how you stick to being unstuck?
Here’s why I’m stuck thinking about getting unstuck today:
Tomorrow I go back to work helping others get unstuck in their lives, after two weeks of being wonderfully unstuck from my regular routines, on vacation.
One article I read while in Social Work graduate school — that has stuck with me for decades — suggested that all mental/behavioral health diagnoses could be replaced with a single, one-word diagnosis: “Stuck.”
While I’ve made a lot of progress in my own life, I still get stuck in certain ways of thinking, reacting, and behaving I KNOW are unhelpful, outdated, and automatic.
Let’s stick to the title of this post — “Getting Unstuck.” How do those of us who know we get stuck start unsticking from old, unhelpful habits of thinking and behaving?
What’s one thing you’ve learned in your life about getting unstuck, even temporarily?
Stick with that question, for a moment. What memories, images, or other associations about getting unstuck are sticking with you, now? If you stick any of those in a comment here, you might help others get unstuck, too.
Because I’m stuck with that promise I made to share something I have learned, in my long life, about getting unstuck, here it is:
When you feel stuck, get in touch with your experience and your intuition and do ONE THING differently. Then, notice the other changes that one simple change creates.
With all of you as my witnesses, I now pledge to do one thing differently when I return to work tomorrow. In order to get unstuck from old and unhelpful post-vacation habits, I am going to consciously allow the many wonderful feelings, thoughts, and images from eight glorious days in Edinburgh, Scotland to stick around, for a long time.
We’ll see how long I can stick with that.
If I had brought my Scottish walking stick back with me to U.S., perhaps that stick would help me stick to sustaining and change-inspiring memories of freedom, creativity, beauty, and growth. However, I left that stick behind on the streets of Edinburgh, stuck with the hope that walking stick might help somebody else — who might need support — move forward through that cobble-stoned city.
Because I have no pictures of that stick, I’ll stick to other images, old and new:
What music might help us all stick to those things that help us get unstuck in our lives?
Who has the time to even figure out what those important things are?
Specifically, who has the time to:
read blog posts (besides you)?
write blog posts (besides me and several other people who read this blog)?
take lots of photos of things that evoke personal memories and associations and which might be interesting to others?
go to the movies?
wear unusual hats at work (e.g., on the anniversary of the publication of Alice in Wonderland)?
take much-deserved rests?
write clever, eye-catching marketing materials (besides these guys)?
attend to aches, pains, and sprains, taking the time to choose among different cold-delivery systems?
and, finally, express appreciation (for new shoes and everything else)?
In the end, we all have the time to get better at setting priorities and making choices. Not unlimited time, but all the time we need.
Who has the time to choose the music for this post?
Thank goodness, the Beatles had time to write timeless music like “The End.” I also have the time, right now, to notice that 3K people had the time to like and 59 people had the time to dislike that video of “The End” on YouTube.
I have the time to make one more point: now that we know that 59 people can go out of their way to take the time to dislike THAT, why do the rest of us take any time at all worrying about what other people might dislike about us?
Who has the time to express any thoughts and feelings about this post?
I now have the time to thank the Beatles, my boyfriend Michael, my cat Oscar, my downstairs neighbor Karen, Faxy the dog who loves and lives with Karen, Mingus the dog who’s visiting before he leaves to love and live with Karen’s daughter and new son-in-law, the staff person who was wearing the Alice in Wonderland hat at Heathrow Airport, Marathon Sports, the produce department at Whole Foods, Penny from Pop Pop! at the Edinburgh Festival Fringe (who threw small potatoes at the audience), and you — of course! — for taking the time, today, exactly the way you are.