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Day 2210: The exception that proves the rule

I wonder if this post will be the exception that proves the rule.  In order to know that, we need to know what “the exception that proves the rule” means.

“The exception proves the rule” is a saying whose meaning has been interpreted or misinterpreted in various ways. Its true definition, or at least original meaning, is that the presence of an exception applying to a specific case establishes (“proves”) that a general rule exists. For example, a sign that says “parking prohibited on Sundays” (the exception) “proves” that parking is allowed on the other six days of the week (the rule). A more explicit phrasing might be “the exception that proves the existence of the rule.”

An alternative explanation often encountered is that the word “prove” is used in the archaic sense of “test”.[1] Thus, the saying does not mean that an exception demonstrates a rule to be true or to exist, but that it tests the rule. In this sense, it is usually used when an exception to a rule has been identified:[clarification needed] for example, Mutillidae are wasps without wings which cannot fly, and therefore are an exception that proves (tests) the rule that wasps fly. The explanation that “proves” really means “tests” is, however, considered false by some sources.

Does that exceptional definition, from Wikipedia, prove anything?  Maybe we need to know what the rule is, here, before we prove any exception.

One of my rules here is providing some clarity and explanation about why I’m writing each of my daily posts.  Maybe this post will be an exception to that.

Or maybe not.   In narrative therapy, it’s important to identify exceptions to people’s unhelpful, generalized, negative rules about themselves and their lives.  For example, if somebody sees themselves as a loser or a failure, the narrative therapist helps them identify and talk more about the exceptions to that self-defeating rule.

When I hear exceptions outside my therapy office, I sometimes say, “That’s the exception that proves the rule.  Whatever that means.” I’m realizing now that I do know what it means.

Let’s see if any of my photos today illustrate “the exception that proves the rule.”

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Usually we don’t have balloons of woodland creatures in the cafeteria at work.  Yesterday, there was a holiday celebration called “Wintery Woodlands,” where employees received hot chocolate, chocolate-covered pretzels, a calendar, and a lunchbox.  Because I’m exceptionally distracted these days, I left my calendar and lunchbox in the cafeteria. The rule is only one calendar and lunchbox for everyone, so I guess I’m out of luck.

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That’s my new and exceptional co-worker, Alice.  She’s also taking a picture of the wintry woodlands in that photo.  I have a rule, in this blog, of not identifying where I work. I don’t think this photo is an exception to that. (Although I have slipped, one or two times, during the two thousand, two hundred, and ten days of blogging, so I guess those posts are exceptions that prove the rule.)

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I’ve taken a lot of photos of this hotel marquee, but none of them have ever said, “12 Days of Music.”   I am predicting that this photo won’t be the last one that says that. I’ve also included a lot of music in this daily blog, but I don’t remember ever including any punk.  If so, today will be the exception that proves the rule.

Here’s a punk rock cover of “Rudolph, the Red-Nosed Reindeer.”

 

If you usually don’t comment, why not make today the exception that proves the rule?

I’m considering not thanking people at the end of this post (which definitely is a rule at this blog), but some rules I do not want there to be an exception to.  So, exceptional thanks to all those who helped me create today’s blog and — of course! —  to YOU.

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Day 2209: Everyone

Hi, everyone!

Every one of my photos today could relate to everyone.

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Everyone with a closed heart is driving me crazy.

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That teabag is telling everyone to be kind to everyone else, but to be compassionate to oneself, in every moment.   I hope everyone reading this can do that.

Everyone I know has been been encouraging me to keep writing songs.  Thanks, everyone!  I wrote every one of these words while I couldn’t sleep:

 

Don’t Call Me

Don’t call me too weepy,

too creepy, too sleepy,

too selfish, too giving,

too sensitive from living.

 

Don’t call me too bitchy,

too itchy or twitchy,

too soft or too loud,

too modest, too proud.

 

If you’re gonna type me or hype me,

pigeonhole, assign a role,

Decide I’m a saint or some asshole,

Don’t call me.

 

Don’t call me too funny or too serious

I find it deleterious,

So don’t call me.

© Ann Koplow, 2018

 

How Much Time

How much time do we have with each other?

With a friend, sibling, or mother.

We don’t know,

take it slow,

Let things grow.

 

How much time do we have with each other?

With a partner, child, or a brother.

It won’t last,

The die is cast.

Take it fast.

© Ann Koplow, 2018

 

Every one of those lyrics is mine and every one of those songs is not yet finished.

I’m going to try to memorize every one of my songs before I go to Edinburgh in August.  I’ll let everyone know if I’m doing a show there.

Here’s Van Morrison with Everyone:

 

Every one of the lyrics for Everyone is in the YouTube description, here.

I’m looking forward to everyone’s comments and I’d like to thank everyone who helps me create every one of these daily posts, including everyone who reads them (like YOU).

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Day 2200: Another bitchin’ blog

Do any of you bitches out there worry about being a bitch? This blogging bitch wants to embrace her inner bitch, here and now, by sharing  two pages of The Daily Bitch calendar:

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Would it break this blog if I changed the title from The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally to Anyone Who Judges People is a F#!*ing Asshole?

Feel free to bitch about that or about my other photos from yesterday:

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Yesterday, I bitched to my cell phone carrier about my phone not ringing.  The first person I bitched to put me on hold for long periods of time and then told me that I needed to go to the Apple Store to fix it.  I bitched about that and then, instead of connecting me to her supervisor,  she transferred me to somebody else who, after my being on hold for another loooong time, bitched to me about the fact that the first person should not have transferred me to her but then kindly agreed to help me.  It took her two bitching minutes to fix the problem by telling me to turn off “Do Not Disturb” on my phone.  Together, we both bitched about how phones can accidentally be turned on to “Do Not Disturb” without people knowing about it.  I would have been a lot bitchier and disturbed if I had driven all the way to the Apple Store just to find out it was such a bitchingly easy fix.

Today, I’ll be bitching about a cherished co-worker leaving my workplace by singing my original song “Hidden Thoughts” at a going-away party.

Here‘s my bitchin’ debut of “Hidden Thoughts” at an Open Mic from four bitching months ago:

Even bitches want to express gratitude, so many thanks to all who help me bitch in this daily blog and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 2199: Making _______ Bright

In my geographic location, as we approach the day with the fewest hours of light, it’s especially important to be making things bright.

How have you been making things bright? I’ve been making things bright by

  • Connecting with other people,
  • Blogging, and
  • Taking photos of things that brighten my day.

I just looked on YouTube for Bruce Springsteen singing a Chanukah song; I hope what I did find (here, here, and here) will be making this blog bright.

 

As always, gratitude makes things bright, so bright thanks to all who helped me create today’s blog and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 2198: Oh what fun

Oh what fun

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there is today,

If we see things in this way.

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Walking by the sea,

Writing bad poetry,

Swearing up a storm

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About how it’s getting warm.

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Noticing a new fruit

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and animals so cute,

Enjoying what’s almost funny

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And focusing less on money.

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Living for today

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in your own special way,

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Knowing you’re amazing

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Even when others are not praising,

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Deciding to just dance

 

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When ever there’s that chance.

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And singing along

To an “Oh what fun” song.

Expressing gratitude

For readers, songs, and food.

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Day 2196: Danger

When you’ve been blogging as long as I have, there’s always a danger you might repeat yourself.  And on May 12, 2016, I published a post also titled “Danger” (which is allowed here in The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally).

In that post, there was a drawing of a fish committing suicide. However, nature seems to be in much more danger now than it was in May, 2016.

Because I’m in danger of being late for work, I’ll quickly share yesterday’s photos, which include danger and also some ways to deal with danger.

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Here‘s ‘Danger’ dance practice, featuring the  “South Korean boy band” BTS.

I’m in danger of assuming that there are no North Korean boy bands.

I hope you know there is no danger involved if you leave a comment, below.

There’s also no danger in expressing thanks to all who help me create this daily blog and — of course — to YOU.

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Day 2193: What do you require?

Here and now, what do you require?

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Wines? Vines? Whines? Madness?  Wisdom?  Being watched over? Lucidity? Poets? Lovers?  Helpful quotes?  Art?  Artists?  ACCURATE SPELLING?

 

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Tea?  Compassion? Advice?  Never being wrong?

 

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Celebrating?  Cats?  Being like a cat?

 

 

Cool socks?  Giving?  Receiving?

 

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A perfect world?

 

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Blessings?  An angel by your side?

 

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Encouragement? Compliments?  Niceness? Puns?

 

 

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100% reality?  Feeling special?

 

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Affirmations?  Magic? More quality time with people you love?

 

Do you require more sleep?  I do and this video shows up when I search YouTube for “What do you require”:

 

Do you require thanks for reading my blog?

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Day 2185: Understanding how good people think

Yesterday, I saw this on a magazine cover:

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I don’t know about you, but I’m good and tired of trying to understand how bad people think.  How about understanding how good people think?

My good friend and good person Jeanette thinks this way: She wanted to celebrate — with other good people — turning 55 in November (even though her birthday is in April).  Other good people thought that was a great idea.  Here are some photos from that good celebration, yesterday:

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Good people like Jeanette think of dressing their good dog in a Princess outfit and calling it a “pink wave.”

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Good people like Jeanette think a black unicorn would be wonderful and good people like our good friend Carol  create one, just for Jeanette.

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Good people like our good friend Janet like to pose like this and good people like me post this photo with this caption: “You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose, but you can’t pick your friend’s nose.”

Also, I think I there’s some good Vitamin K stuck in my teeth there.

Here’s Jack Johnson with “Good People.”

My good and understanding readers, please show how you think in a comment below.

Now it’s time for understanding  how grateful people think about people who help them create blog posts and also — of course! — about YOU:

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Day 2147: Bravo!

At our Airbnb home-away-from-home in NYC, I noticed this on a signed photograph:

It says, “Bravo! Great voice!”

In the groups I observed and participated in yesterday (at the Eastern Group Psychotherapy Society annual conference), I heard variations of “Bravo!” when people were brave, authentic, went beneath the surface, and gave great voice to their thoughts and feelings.

What helped people do all this in those groups? Perhaps it was this clear message (which I saw at the church where the conference took place):

“You are safe here.”

Bravo!

Do any of my other photos from yesterday deserve a “Bravo!” ?

Here‘s the Goedicke Concert Etude, played by Julia Bravo:

Thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — Bravo! — to YOU.

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Day 2125: The truth

The truth is that I knew the title of today’s post even before I reviewed my photos from yesterday.

The truth is that when I think of the truth these days, I’m on the verge of tears.  The truth is that the truth seems to depend what side you’re on. The truth is that I can never remember people being so divided about what the truth is.

The truth is that I keep inviting people in my therapy groups to write helpful truths on post-it notes (which, in truth, I call “stickies”).

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The truth is that the post-it note above describes the Four Agreements and the truth is that you can read more about those here.

The truth is that I took more photos yesterday.

The truth is that I didn’t mean to take the last four.

The truth is that this sign …

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… includes the word “true” in it, which I just noticed.

Here’s “True Colors” by Cindi Lauper.

Is it the truth that the truth was simpler in 1986, or is that just an illusion?

The truth is that I hope you share your truth below.

The truth is that I’m always grateful for those who help me create this blog and — of course! — to YOU, for being true.

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