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Day 3688: Coasting

Two days ago, in my “Defining Moments” blog post, I declared my intention to commit to coasting after 70 years of climbing.

What do I mean by coasting? I mean I’m going to stop trying so hard to get everything right and I’m going to enjoy the ride more. It means that I’m going to believe that over my life I’ve built up enough energy and accomplishments to just let go and say “wheeeee! as I go coasting along. Coasting means that I stop worrying about what other people think or anything else, for that matter.

Coasting doesn’t mean that I stop trying; it just means that I really commit in a new way to an old resolution — to lose my investment in the outcome while remaining present and committed to the process.

Coasting sounds like more fun, doesn’t it? Let’s check out a definition of “coasting.”

As Mel Brooks might say, sorry about the word “creep.” Do you see coasting in my images for today?

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Sounds like a good day to be coasting, doesn’t it? Here’s what I find when I search for “coasting” on YouTube.

I look forward to your coasting comments, below.

Thanks to all who are coasting together with me, here and now, including YOU.

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Day 3681: That’s the story of my life

Yesterday, my husband Michael said “that’s the story of my life” regarding something negative, which I’ve heard a lot in my life.

Most of us have negative narratives (like “I never get what I want”) that cause us to say “that’s the story of my life” when things don’t work out. It’s important to realize “that’s the story of my life” also includes exceptions to those narratives, since the stories of our lives are complexly rich with negatives and positives, too.

I almost said “that’s the story of my life” yesterday when somebody resisted listening to me and made it difficult for me to get what I needed. I felt helpless and beaten thinking “that’s the story of my life” until I remembered a traumatic experience in the hospital many years ago when an anesthesiologist callously refused to honor an easily-granted request from me. After realizing “that was then and this is now” and that I wasn’t doomed to repeat negative experiences, I was appropriately assertive yesterday, got what I wanted, and proved again that “that’s the story of my life” includes good outcomes too.

Yes, “that’s the story of my life” means problems but also solutions, uncertainties but also resolutions, rejections but also loving relationships.

When I look at my images for today I think, “that’s the story of my life,” in a good way.

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Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “that’s the story of my life.”

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Thanks to all who make the story of my life better, including YOU.

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Day 3678: Great beginnings

Yesterday, I ended my day by asking a question about great beginnings on Twitter.

Great answers about great beginnings of movies included Raiders of the Lost Ark, La La Land, Jaws, Apocalypse Now, The Producers, Star Wars, Raising Arizona, A Touch of Evil, Double Indemnity, and (last but not least) Up.

Here’s the great beginning of Up.

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Do you see great beginnings in my other images for today?

Saying “sorry” is usually not a great beginning, which is why I often respond to “sorry” with “no need to apologize.”

That reminds me that I always play my favorite board game — Sorry! — on my birthday and I’m looking forward to that great beginning next week with no apologies.

Who wants to begin a comment with thoughts and feelings about great beginnings?

Gratitude makes great beginnings and great endings, so thanks to all who help me start my day with great beginnings, including YOU!

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Day 3661: It’s not where you are, it’s who you’re with

I like following up yesterday’s post — titled “Where and When” — with this phrase I’ve heard many times from my husband Michael: “It’s not where you are, it’s who you’re with. “

No matter where I am, I’m so grateful to be with:

  • Michael,
  • my son Aaron,
  • my late parents, through my memories,
  • my ex-husband Leon and his family,
  • my wonderfully supportive friends,
  • my helpful co-workers,
  • my inspiring patients,
  • my doctors and my dentist (who reads this blog every day),
  • my therapist,
  • my followers on WordPress and Twitter (including YOU!),
  • cats, and
  • all those who appear in today’s images.
That’s my ex-husband, Leon, whose birthday is this Wednesday. I was also at Sichuan Gourmet with camera-shy Michael and Aaron.

It’s not where you are, it’s who you’re with, and I’m glad to be anywhere with the Daily Bitch.

This is the first thing that comes up on YouTube when I search for “it’s not where you are, it’s who you’re with.”

Thanks to all who are with me, here and now, including YOU!

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Day 3655: Wildcat

On the recommendation of my husband Michael, I watched the superb documentary Wildcat.

Michael — who is very critical and “discerning” (his word) about films — described Wildcat as “moving” and “surprising” which moved me to watch it the day I got back from my trip to NYC. Also, Wildcat is about cats and PTSD — both defining interests in my life.

Here is the trailer for Wildcat.

Do you see any wild cats in my images for today?

While our wild cats will be celebrating Festival of Sleep Day, I’ll be working from home providing behavioral health services.

Thanks to all who helped me create this “Wildcat” post, including YOU.

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Day 3624: Find

I find it useful to define my terms, so here’s a definition of “find.”

I always appreciate what people find in therapy, discovering that they can find resilience and hope in the midst of emotional and physical pain. I find we keep learning important lessons over and over again, perceiving new understanding every time.

Yesterday, I was grateful to find, again, that I can use my adult wisdom and capabilities to react more effectively to situations that trigger painful childhood memories.

I find that this newly installed pipe …

… can either obscure my view or help me see more clearly. And if I find that I don’t like looking at it, I can always have it redone.

Here are the images I find on my phone this morning:

I find that

  • I’m trying to obsess less about shit in general,
  • I’m grateful to have a roof over my head,
  • I like to play outside with Joan the cat, and
  • the Daily Bitch calendar is a real find (as is Joan).

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “find.”

It took me several careers to find my main passion, which is group therapy. I’m hoping to find more time to pursue my other passions, including travel and songwriting.

If you find you have something to share about this “find” post, please find the comments section below.

Thanks to all the finds who find me here on WordPress, including YOU!

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Day 3619: Mind changes

I’ve been going through mind changes about several things lately, including:

  • home remodeling details,
  • a support group I’m trying to get started for the doctors where I work,
  • balancing my needs with other people’s needs,
  • social media,
  • prioritizing contentment over happiness,
  • food choices,
  • exercise,
  • masking, and
  • travel.

I have NOT been going through mind changes about my core values, which include authentic connection with others during the precious time we have together on this earth.

Do you see mind changes in my images for today?

Originally I was going to call this blog post “The Little Things,” but I had a mind change about that.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “mind changes.”

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Thanks to all who experience mind changes, including YOU!

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Day 3618: Happy Mix

Yesterday, I was happy to see that Spotify had created a happy mix for me.

Even though I’m reading a book that helpfully promotes being content over being happy …

… I still like to mix it up with happy mixes, so here’s today’s happy mix of images

I’m happy that after a mix of less-than-ideal INR readings for months, my anti-coagulant levels are back in the sweet spot!

Here’s a tune from my Happy Mix that made me happy yesterday:

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Every happy mix includes gratitude as a main ingredient, so thanks to all who help me mix these daily blogs, including YOU!

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Day 3617: Listening

Yesterday, on the National Day of Listening, I asked a question about listening on Twitter.

There are many things besides Joan I love listening to; can you see any of them in my images for today?

Listening to the Daily Bitch calendar, I’m thinking that for many years I WAS the youngest, baddest bitch in cardiology clinics; these days, not so much.

I love listening to the Daily Bitch calendar, the ocean, animals, the sounds of change, jokes, good advice, and — especially! — people I love, like my friend Jeanette, who was visiting yesterday from D.C.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “listening.”

I feel better after listening to that.

Thanks to all who are listening, including YOU!

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Day 3616: What we choose to share

In group therapy, I sometimes ask how people decide what they choose to share. Naturally, people share more when things feel safe, comfortable, and familiar.

Here’s what I choose to share with you today:

The Daily Bitch chooses to share whatever the hell she wants.

Here’s what I find when I search YouTube for “what we choose to share.”

I look forward to reading what you choose to share in the comments section, below.

Every day I choose to share gratitude, so thanks to you!

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