personal growth

Day 1606: Self conscious

I am very conscious that many selves have shared being self conscious this week, in individual and group therapy.

Yourself, are you conscious of the meaning of “self conscious?”

self-con·scious
adjective
feeling undue awareness of oneself, one’s appearance, or one’s actions.
“I feel a bit self-conscious parking my scruffy old car”
synonyms: embarrassed, uncomfortable, uneasy, nervous

Why do so many selves feel embarrassed, uncomfortable, uneasy, and nervous about awareness of oneself?  This week, self conscious people described pain, mind reading, personalization, paranoia, projection, isolation, and a drastic restriction of activities.  This self is conscious of a wish that consciousness of self could lead to  self-confidence and self-worth, not self-judgment.

Should I feel self conscious about today’s photos?

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I don’t think cats are particularly self-conscious.

Here’s Ellen being self conscious:

I am conscious that I, myself,  love comments from my readers.

Conscious gratitude to all who helped me create this self-conscious post and to you — of course! — for being yourself, here and now.


Minutes after I published this post, I became conscious of today’s New York Times piece on being self conscious.

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Day 1605: Guess what? I’m nuts! Really nuts!

Guess what? I’m nuts about getting my morning-blogging inspiration from a nutty snapshot.

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Guess what?  I’m nuts, really nuts because I

Guess what?  I’m nuts, really nuts about taking photos and putting them in my blog.

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Is it nuts for me to repeat the wisdom in that last photo?

It’s the strangest thing,

how happiness comes out of nowhere

and inflates your soul.

Guess what?  I’m nuts, really nuts about nutty music.

I’m nuts, really nuts about

  • getting comments from my readers and
  • expressing thanks to all with words and nutty pictures.

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Day 1604: You can live as if everything is a miracle

As I was living my life yesterday, I encountered this small miracle:

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“You can live as if everything is a miracle,” said Albert Einstein.  You don’t have to be an Einstein to see the truth there.

I like to take pictures as if everything is a miracle.

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It will be a miracle if I get to work on time today, but I still want to find some miraculous music for this post.

We can live as if everything is a miracle. Thanks for the miracle of your presence, here and now.

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Day 1603: Yield

Whenever I start writing a blog post, I consider millions of ideas and then usually yield to the simplest solution:  sharing an image I captured the day before, which is often the first photo I took.

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What does that “Yield” sign at Mount Auburn Cemetery mean to you?

To me, it means yield to the beauty of your surroundings.

While I was yielding to the beauty of Mount Auburn Cemetery yesterday, I captured another “yield” in two photos:

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“In surrendering

life for Eternity,

I yield to and

trust implicitly

in the Power that

created me.

Oran McCormick

 

Let us now yield to contemplating other images from Mount Auburn Cemetery, accompanied by sounds similar to what I heard yesterday.

 

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I now yield to any thoughts and feelings you have about this post. 

Yielding and profound thanks to all who helped me create this post and to you — of  course! — for meeting me, here.

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Day 1602: Millions of Ideas

I have millions of ideas about this one-in-a-million picture I took yesterday.

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How could one city have millions of ideas? Do you have any ideas about that?

Actually, I believe that one PERSON could have millions of ideas — some more helpful than others —  so it’s likely that any place in the world would have millions of ideas.

Let’s see if we can find millions of ideas in my other photos from yesterday.

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I may have millions of ideas, but I have no idea how that last photo got on my phone.

Here‘s a song with millions of ideas and millions of miracles.

Feel free to express any of your millions of ideas in a comment below.

Millions of thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and to my less than a million readers, including the one-in-a-kashmillion YOU.

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Day 1601: Stress Relief

I’m going to relieve some stress by confessing that  I wrote another post titled “Stress Relief” last August, when I had a LOT of stress needing relief, including

  • my only child leaving for college in Scotland and
  • my first open heart surgery.

As always, it was a relief for me to describe and let go of my stress in that post. I can’t stress enough how writing this blog is stress relief for me, every day.

Yesterday, I definitely needed some stress relief.

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I did end up happy yesterday, but that took some time and work because of all this stress:

  • My boyfriend Michael is away from home  helping out his brother for three days.
  • We’re moving to a new place near the ocean this summer.
  • Scientific reports indicate that our new house will be under water soon.
  • Because of a ridiculous series of unfortunate events, I will be losing long-term disability payments for the rest of my part-time leave from work.
  • I was so stressed by all the urgent calls at work yesterday that I didn’t have time to take any more photos.

As usual, it’s a relief to name my stress here.

Pat Metheny’s music is a reliable source of stress relief for me.

However,  on June 10, I’ll have the stress of deciding whether to use my ticket and see him live in concert or attend an important dinner at a group therapy conference.

It relieves my stress to realize that some of these are good problems to have.

Gratitude is always great stress relief, so thanks to all who helped me create this stress-relief post and to you — of course!  — for the relief of your presence, here and now.

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Day 1600: Round numbers

Today is the 1600th day in a row of blog postings, here at the Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally.  1600 is a round number and a much bigger number than expected when I began this blogging journey back on January 1, 2013.

Do you have any reactions to round numbers?  In therapy, people often describe negative reactions they have about reaching round numbers as they age. For example, somebody yesterday talked about turning 40 with a lot of self-judgment.  For some reason, when people approach round numbers, they can roundly judge themselves about their accomplishments and life situations.

A round number is just a number, no more significant than any other number. And yet,  here I am roundly noting it.

However, I am not going to get into a round of self-judgment about my posts. Instead, I’m going to post two musical round numbers (going round here and here on YouTube).

Here’s a round number of photos I took yesterday:

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This is my blogging world, and I’ve tried to shape it as best I can.

A round of applause for the large number of people who’ve help me create these 1600 posts and — of course! — for you, on this round-number day.

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Day 1599: Bad habits and good habits

Because I’m in the habit of asking people in therapy groups to express their thoughts and feelings on paper, yesterday I asked a group to write down their bad habits and good habits. I also have the habit of reminding people that we tend to focus on the negative, so I encouraged people to make their list of good habits as long as possible. We discussed how much easier it was to identify bad habits, perhaps because we take our good habits for granted.

I have a habit of including photos to illustrate my blogging points:

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Because I have a bad habit of hastily taking pictures when I’m in a hurry, I cut off one of my good habits in the second photo above.  I have the bad habit of sometimes forgetting the good, so I can’t remember what that good habit was. I think the first word is “ask.”  I do have the habit of asking lots of questions, like this one: can anybody guess what I wrote there?

I’m trying to break my bad habit of being in a hurry, but I had a good reason for rushing yesterday: I had to get things done before signing a Purchase & Sale agreement. Soon, I’ll be developing the habit of living near the water!

I also have the habit of taking pictures that magically fit whatever topic I choose for my daily blog post.  Do you see any evidence of bad or good habits here?

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That’s Jessica, who was at Whole Foods Market last night giving free samples of Nada Moo! — a coconut milk-based alternative to ice cream.  Michael, who is trying to break the bad habit of eating too much cholesterol, bought two pints.  I’m also in the habit of including people I like in my blog and Jessica was a GREAT salesperson.

I also have the habit of sharing music with my readers.

I hope you have the habit of leaving comments for bloggers.

One of the good habits I listed above was “expressing appreciation.”  Many thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and to you — of course! — for reading it.

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Day 1598: Silence sucks

There’s a new ad campaign in Boston: “Silence sucks.”

Do you think that silence sucks?  Always?  If not always, when?

I believe that silence sucks when there’s

  • injustice,
  • danger,
  • pain, or
  • the need for help.

Here are two examples of the “Silence Sucks” ad campaign:

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It sucks that I couldn’t get better photos of those yesterday. The tagline on those posters is:

When it comes to postpartum depression (PPD)

SILENCE SUCKS

I noticed “Silence Sucks” yesterday because

Here’s a video about postpartum depression that doesn’t suck.

It doesn’t suck that

  • my son is home for the summer,
  • I’m getting a 5-year award at work this morning,
  • I’m facilitating a therapy group after that, and
  • I’m seeing my therapist this afternoon.

You know what else wouldn’t suck?  A comment from you.

Non-silent thanks to all who helped me create this post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1597: Tips for operating your home

Here’s a tip for operating your blog. Start by reconnecting with your title and with a photo you took recently.

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I haven’t opened that book, so I don’t know which tips for operating my home are in there.

However, here are my personal tips for operating your home:

  • Learn about the systems.
  • Maintain the systems.
  • Repair and/or replace systems in a timely fashion.
  • Use your personal home-operating skills wisely.
  • If you need help from experts, find trustworthy ones and treat them fairly.
  • Don’t allow incompetent people to take over operating your home.

If you think I’m also writing about my homeland right now…

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Let’s see what other tips I found when I was operating my iPhone camera at home yesterday.

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Home by Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros includes some tips for operating your home.

And Ellen has some tips for buying a home.

Now I have some tips for operating the comments section, below.

  1. Go to the very end of this post.
  2. Click on the word “comment.”
  3. Comment.

Many thanks to those who helped me include all the tips in today’s post and to you — of course! — for visiting my blogging home, here and now.

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