Day 1800: GUILT — Why?

Why is this post titled “GUILT– Why?”

Is today’s post — on the 1800th day of consecutive blogging here at The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally — an examination of why we human beings experience guilt?

Why would I attempt a post of such sweeping scope on a morning when I have only 15 minutes to create it before I need to get ready for work?

Here’s why “GUILT — Why?” is today’s title:

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Yesterday, in my office, somebody was trying to figure out why they were experiencing increased feelings of guilt.  The conclusion was that this person was not getting enough sleep and was eating more sweets and carbs.

Why would lack of sleep and a less healthy diet cause more guilt?

I have no guilt about

  1. not answering my own questions in this post and
  2. sharing my other photos from yesterday.

 

 

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Just a reminder … I can find a helpful video on YouTube by searching on my post’s title.

Why should you feel any guilt about leaving (or not leaving) a comment?

GRATITUDE (for all who helped me create this post and for you) — Why?

Just because.

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Day 1799: New and Wonderful

Yesterday, I saw a new and wonderful sign,

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a new and wonderful movie,

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and new (to me) and wonderful children’s books.

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Here are more new and wonderful photos from yesterday:

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I am sorry whenever I temporarily lose the ability to notice the quietly profound, amazing, new and wonderful things around me. When that happens, I take another look, and there they are.

Last night, I watched the new and wonderful   50th Anniversary celebration of the Carol Burnett Show. Here’s the wonderful Sorry! skit from The Carol Burnett Show.

If you watch that skit, you’ll see that Vicki Lawrence says a new and wonderful line at 12:49.  I assume that because of Carol’s reaction and because of her wonderful response: “That’s a new one, Mama.”

What’s new and wonderful in your world?

Thanks to all who helped me create today’s new post and — of course! — to you, on this new and wonderful day.

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Day 1798: Value

If you value blog posts about values, you might value this, this, and/or this.

If you value my photos, here’s the first one I took yesterday:

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If you value definitions, here’s one:

val·ue
ˈvalyo͞o
noun
1.  the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
“your support is of great value”
synonyms: worth, usefulness, advantage, benefit, gain, profit, good, help, merit, helpfulness, avail
2. a person’s principles or standards of behavior; one’s judgment of what is important in life.
“they internalize their parents’ rules and values”
synonyms: principles, ethics, moral code, morals, standards, code of behavior
“society’s values are passed on to us as children”
verb
1. estimate the monetary worth of (something).
“his estate was valued at $45,000”
synonyms: evaluate, assess, estimate, appraise, price, put/set a price on
“his estate was valued at $345,000”
2. consider (someone or something) to be important or beneficial; have a high opinion of.
“she had come to value her privacy and independence”
synonyms: think highly of, have a high opinion of, hold in high regard, rate highly, esteem, set (great) store by, put stock in, appreciate, respect

 

Is there anything you particularly value about that definition?  I notice the very different values of the estates in those examples. I do not value people based on the size of their estates. Do you?

Now that the tax bill has passed both chambers of the U.S. Congress, it’s clear that their values are very different from mine.

Do you see value in my other photos from yesterday?

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I have sustainable love for this valuable song from Newsies, which cheered me up yesterday.

Finally, here’s a quote I value from that definition of value, above:

“your support is of great value”

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Day 1797: Victories

I’m reading about a “major victory” in the news this morning. I’m not as inspired by that as I am by small, unreported victories, like

  • an unexpected act of kindness,
  • a healing experience,
  • a good night’s sleep,
  • a small step towards a goal,
  • people helping people,
  • living a dream,
  • peace, or
  • any treasured moment.

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I was going to post a sing-along for “Ice Ice Baby”, but in a small victory, this song is suddenly and inexplicably playing on my laptop:

Shower the people you love with love.  Show them the way that you feel.  Things are gonna work out fine if you only will.

Thanks to all who contributed to the small victories in this post and to you — of course! — for all your victories.

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Day 1796: What keeps you up at night?

What keeps you up at night?

Money?

Love?

Hate?

The dark?

Too much light?

Pets?

What’s permanent?

What’s temporary?

What you ate?

What’s eating you?

The unknown?

What you know?

Taxes?

Politics?

Problems with photos that force you to blog from your cell phone?

Or is that just me?

Might this song from Cabaret keep you up at night?

Comments from my readers don’t keep me up at night. However, comments from world leaders do.

Thanks to all who helped me write this “What keeps you up at night?” post and to you — of course! — for keeping up with my blog.

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Day 1795: Entitled

I think we’re all entitled to a definition of today’s title.

en·ti·tled
inˈtīdld,enˈtīdld
adjective
believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.

Yesterday, when I entered the group room, followed by the group members, an entitled person kept talking on the phone despite my  multiple requests that he vacate the room so I could start my patient group.

One group member who witnessed this wondered whether the young doctor  felt entitled to finish his  phone call because medical systems have a hierarchy.   I felt entitled to express my opinion that in any medical hierarchy, the patients should be on the top.

We are all entitled to our opinions.

I’m wondering if my photos from yesterday relate to today’s title of “Entitled.” In any case, I’m entitled to share them.

If we realize we are acting in an entitled way, we can always try again with more empathy and compassion.

Here’s “Entitled” by Leighton Meester:

I hope you know you are entitled to make a comment, below.

Everyone who helped me create this “Entitled” post is entitled to my sincere gratitude and so are you!

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Day 1794: Where we will end up

Since yesterday’s post was about where we start, today I’m giving equal time to where we will end up.

I’m not sure where this post will end up, but let’s start with this teabag:

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Yesterday, I ended up happy by facilitating a therapy group where people talked about turkeys and then attending the musical The Color Purple with my sister-in-law Linda.

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This is where The Color Purple ended up, which made the audience very happy.

If you end up leaving a comment, you’ll give happiness to me.

Where will this post end up?  With thanks, of course, to all who helped me create it and to you, for ending up here.

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Day 1793: Start where you are

Where are you? You’re at the Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally. Start here.

Where do you want to go from where you are? Start by taking a small step. Then another.

If it’s difficult to start where that caption is, it says

Without any tennis balls around, Zoe has resorted to the limes that fall off the tree…

I want to start being more like Zoe.

“Start where you are” finds lots of videos on YouTube. Let’s start here:

Start a comment, if that’s where you are.

Where I am is here, so I’ll end with gratitude to all who helped me start and complete this post and — of course! — to you, wherever you are.

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Day 1792: Yes!

Yes!  It’s another post at the Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally.

Yes!  I saw this yes-terday

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and almost said “yes” to writing a post titled “No!”

Yes! I’ve already written Day 1539: The No List which includes interesting quotes about “No.” Yes!  I’ll wait while you read that other post.

Yes! There are also interesting quotes about “Yes!”

Always say ‘yes’ to the present moment… Surrender to what is. Say ‘yes’ to life – and see how life starts suddenly to start working for you rather than against you. — Eckhart Tolle

When you are discontent, you always want more, more, more. Your desire can never be satisfied. But when you practice contentment, you can say to yourself, ‘Oh yes – I already have everything that I really need.’  — Dalai Lama

Never allow a person to tell you no who doesn’t have the power to say yes. — Eleanor Roosevelt

A nice person is a ‘yes’ person, whereas a good person is a person who accepts their responsibility in things and moves forward and tries to constantly evolve and isn’t afraid to say no or challenge someone or be honest or truthful. — Miranda Kerr

Learn to say ‘no’ to the good so you can say ‘yes’ to the best. — John C. Maxwell

A ‘No’ uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a ‘Yes’ merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble. — Mahatma Gandhi

The oldest, shortest words – ‘yes’ and ‘no’ – are those which require the most thought.  — Pythagoras

Cynicism masquerades as wisdom, but it is the furthest thing from it. Because cynics don’t learn anything. Because cynicism is a self-imposed blindness: a rejection of the world because we are afraid it will hurt us or disappoint us. Cynics always say ‘no.’ But saying ‘yes’ begins things. Saying ‘yes’ is how things grow. — Stephen Colbert

Never say ‘no’ to adventures. Always say ‘yes’, otherwise you’ll lead a very dull life. — Ian Fleming

I thank you God for this most amazing day, for the leaping greenly spirits of trees, and for the blue dream of sky and for everything which is natural, which is infinite, which is yes. — e. e. cummings

Yes!  That last  quote is a nice segue to other pictures from yes-terday.

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Would you say “Yes!” to things that are almost funny?   What do you say “Yes!” to, here and now?

Yes! I love YesHere they are, when the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame said “Yes” to them this year:

 

I always say “Yes!” to gratitude.  Thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — yes! —  to you.  Yes, you!

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Day 1791: Disturbing

It’s disturbing to me how often I’m hearing the word “disturbing” lately.

Here’s a disturbing definition:

dis·turb·ing
dəˈstərbiNG/
adjective
  1. causing anxiety; worrying.
    “disturbing unemployment figures”

Here are disturbing synonyms :

alarming, annoying, bothersome, creepy, depressing, disconcerting, discouraging, distressing, embarrassing, frightening, irritating, ominous, painful, perplexing, sinister, startling, threatening, troublesome, troubling, unpleasant, unsettling, upsetting, vexing, worrisome, worrying

and  antonyms:

agreeable, auspicious, comforting, delightful, easy, encouraging, good, happy, helpful, nice, pleasant, pleasing

Is it disturbing how many more synonyms we have for disturbing than we have antonyms?

Actually, that imbalance of language doesn’t surprise me, since human beings seem more naturally focused on what’s disturbing rather than on what’s comforting.  That automatic attention to what’s disturbing,  alarming, distressing, frightening, ominous, painful, threatening, and worrying may be an outmoded survival technique (discussed here).  In my work as a psychotherapist, I invite people to balance that hyper-awareness of all things disturbing with a conscious attention on what’s comforting, helpful, and pleasant.

What is disturbing to you, here and now?  What’s  comforting, encouraging, and helpful to you when things are disturbing?

Are any of my photos from yesterday disturbing or comforting?

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I love Steely Dan, whose songs can be  disturbing AND comforting.  Here‘s “Jack of Speed” from Two Against Nature:

Is it disturbing how much Donald Fagen and Walter Becker look like me and Michael?

Thanks to all who helped me create this disturbing post and — of course! — to you, no matter what disturbs and comforts you.

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