Day 2561: Perfect for each other

Yesterday, I found an online article about Myers-Briggs types that explained why my fiancé Michael and I are perfect for each other.

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I wonder if a levitating unicorn made of rainbows could do our taxes after Michael (“The Counselor”) and I (“The Champion”) get married.

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Or maybe I’ll be doing our taxes.

Here are  other ways Michael and I are perfect for each other:

  • He’s very funny and I love to laugh.
  • He likes to talk and I like to listen.
  • I like to quote people and he is very quotable.
  • He cooks great food and I love to eat.
  • I like to drive and he likes to be driven.
  • We share similar political views, so there’s no fighting there.
  • He likes coffee and I like tea.
  • I like to be loved and he loves me.
  • He likes to be loved and I love him.

Yesterday, Michael and I went to City Hall to apply for a marriage license, but it was closed. That wasn’t perfect, but I think we’ll still be able to get married before the end of the year. (When people have been asking me to name the date of our nuptials, I always answer  “2019.”  I think that’s a perfect response.)

We then went to a perfect little place near City Hall with lots of books, where he had coffee and I had tea.

Photos and my blog are perfect for each other.

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Harley and that sofa are perfect for each other.

Here‘s “Perfect Together” by Rosanna Pansino.

 

Thanks to all who help me create this daily blog because we’re perfect for each other!

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Day 2560: Look what I made!

Look what I made!

I made a life filled with

  • creativity,
  • curiosity,
  • puzzles,
  • welcomes,
  • friends,
  • wonderful connections,
  • sweet things,
  • hopeful signs,
  • love,
  • cats,
  • joy,
  • purpose,
  • appreciation,
  • wonder, and
  • images like these:

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Look what my future in-laws’ cats are doing — making out the smell of our cats on my boots (which I didn’t make).

Here‘s “Hey Look Ma, I Made It” by Panic! At the Disco.

 

Look what I made!  Another blog post!

Thanks to all who help me make it through every day, including YOU.

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Day 2559: I give thanks for you

Today, I give thanks for you.

I am also giving thanks for everyone and everything else, including whatever I photographed yesterday.

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I give thanks for Jimi Hendrix and messages to love.

I’ll end this Thanksgiving 2019 post by repeating this message to love: I give thanks for you.

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Day 2558: Success

One thousand, five hundred, and fifty-three days ago (but who’s counting?), I published Day 1005: What is success?  Because I’m feeling self-confident today, I think it’s time to revisit success.

Here’s a quote from Emerson about success:

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Reading that, I believe I have succeeded.  My success would be complete if you could admit that you’ve succeeded, too.

I had success taking these other photos yesterday:

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Even though Michael says he doesn’t like tilapia, he has great success in transforming it into delicious and nutritious meals.

Here‘s Squeeze launching MTV Unplugged with great success:

It’s love.

The day before Thanksgiving here, I now aim for success in expressing my  profound thanks to all who help me create this daily blog, including YOU!

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Day 2557: How to be more self-confident

Yesterday, people in a therapy session started a list of how to be more self-confident.

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I’m self-confident enough to

  • ask if you know other ways to be more self-confident and
  • share my other photos from yesterday.

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One of those turkeys looks more self-confident than the other. Do you see more self-confidence in any of those other photos?

I am confident that YouTube will have a video about “How to be more self-confident.”

Since #5 is “Play Music,” here’s me playing two original songs at the Edinburgh Festival Fringe three months ago:

That helps improve my self-confidence about applying to do more shows at the 2020 Edinburgh Festival Fringe.

Are you self-confident to leave a comment? If not, how might you be more self-confident about that?

Gratitude helps me be more self-confident, so thanks to all who help me be self-confident enough to share this daily blog, including YOU!

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Day 2556: What’s so funny about 2019?

What’s so funny about 2019?

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Esquire Magazine asked and now I’ve asked, too.

What’s so funny about these 2019 images?

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What’s so funny about peace, love, and understanding?

What’s so funny about gratitude for all who helped me create this “What’s So Funny?” post in 2019?

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What’s so funny about “Thanks a hole punch”?

 

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Day 2555: It’s safer than it feels

When people with a history of trauma (which seems to include everybody, these days) are feeling shaky, anxious, and fearful, I often encourage them to focus on this helpful phrase:

It’s safer than it feels.

Yesterday, our scaredy-cat Harley was safer — even if he didn’t feel like it — when our new vet, Dr. Jo, came for a house call.

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Michael, who wanted everybody to feel safer, had spent days developing a plan for how Dr. Jo could safely examine Harley and give him his shots.  When Dr. Jo arrived, Michael was closed up in Aaron’s bedroom with Harley, having set up the room so there was (as Michael said), “Nowhere to run, nowhere to hide.”

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Dr. Jo helped us all feel safer as she quickly, efficiently, and kindly examined Harley and gave him his yearly shots, declaring our “chunky” cat safely healthy.  Miraculously, Harley felt safe enough to be in plain sight minutes after we allowed him to escape from that safe room.

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In the past, when Harley felt unsafe, we would see neither hide nor hair of him for hours, if not days.

Now that we have a great vet who makes house calls, we all feel safer. Can you tell that I was feeling safer when I took the rest of the photos in today’s blog?

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Who feels safe enough, here and now, to dance to “Nowhere to Run” by Martha Reeves and the Vandellas?

I hope it feels safe enough for you to express your thoughts and feelings about this “It’s Safer Than It Feels” post, below.

Thanks to everybody who makes this world feel safer, including YOU.

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Day 2554: Mood swings

Yesterday was November 22, a day when I’ve often had mood swings.  Why? Because fifty-six years ago on that date, President John F. Kennedy was assassinated and I had my first heart surgery to get my first cardiac pacemaker.

After I swung myself out of bed, I put on my “I have mood swings” socks, hoping that my mood swings that day would be manageable.

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Thankfully, my mood swings yesterday were not remarkable. For example, when I noticed that Michael had removed stuff from two kitchen cabinets during the night, I thought, “That can’t be good.”

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But my mood didn’t swing dramatically.

When I noticed a truck that reminded me of death on my way into work …

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…. my mood didn’t swing that much.

Here are more things that caused negligible mood swings yesterday:

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Did any of those photos swing your mood in any way?

Here‘s The Mood Swings Orchestra, an all-woman big band located in the Boston area:

I expect my mood will swing up when I read your comments about this “Mood Swings” post.  Thanks to all, including YOU.

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Day 2553: Who is on your mind today?

Who is on your mind today?

Wonderful people?

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Difficult people?

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Shadows from the past?

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People who are reassuring?

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People who have a lot of nerve?  People you see during Thanksgiving?

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People who come together when the feeling’s right?

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People who make music?

 

You’re on my mind today, so

  • please let me know who is on your mind today and
  • accept my mindful gratitude on November 22, 2019.

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Day 2552: That’s the way we roll

As I roll out of bed every morning, I write a blog post, hoping for a minimum of eye rolls from my readers. That’s the way I roll.

Let’s roll out a definition of “That’s the way we roll.”

“That’s the way we roll” (“This is the way we roll”) means “That’s the way we are”. Another way of saying “That’s the way we roll” is “That’s the way we do things when we are being true to ourselves.”

“The way we roll” is how people behave when they aren’t “putting on a front” (faking it) but are expressing their true nature or their “real” attitude or reaction/s to that time and place. “That’s the way we roll” or “That’s the way I roll” is bluntly and unapologetically said with the unspoken addition of “and if you don’t like it, I couldn’t care less”.

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The core meaning of “to roll” is “to move a certain way”. It’s my position that the slang meaning of “to roll” = “to behave in an intrinsic manner” comes from the belief that the way a person “lives and moves” reflects and determines that person’s being.

 

That’s the way pancocojams rolls and defines “That’s the way we roll.”

It’s time for me to roll out my latest photos, because that’s the way we roll here at The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally.

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Harley rolls up on the sofa until people show up for a Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy Board Meeting. That’s the way he rolls.

According to the rolling bus pictured above, The Nutcracker is rolling into Boston soon. Here‘s one way it rolls on YouTube:

Here‘s the way Boston Ballet dancers roll in “The Russian Dance” from The Nutcracker:

 

People in political power are rolling all sorts of ways these days. I hope some will be rolling out of the way  a year from now.  That’s the way I hope our country rolls.

I’m looking forward to seeing the way you roll in the comment section, below.

Here’s the way gratitude rolls at the end of my daily blog posts.

 

 

 

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