Day 1628: Be You

Be you.

Everybody else is taken.

Being me, I am checking whether my memory of that quote is correct. Actually, it’s

Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde

“Be you” is today’s title because, to be honest,  I see “be you” in several of my pictures from yesterday.

Be you and tell me if you agree.

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Someone or something is being difficult: I had to restart my computer twice to post those photos.  Being me, I had to let you know.

Here’s a Be-atle being him:

 

Please be you and leave a comment be-low.

I shall be me and express  gratitude to all who helped me create this post by being them and — of course! — to you, for being you.

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Day 1627: Love, Validation

As I was reading the news online this morning, I felt many painful emotions. Then, I saw this headline:

Two-Headed Porpoise Just Wants Love, Validation

And I thought, “That two-headed porpoise is just like us.”

I just want love, validation for these photos I took recently.

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Did you notice any love or validation in those pictures?

I looked for love, validation on YouTube and found this

and this:

I wonder: will there be any love, validation in the comments for this post?

Love, validation, and thanks to all who helped me create today’s blog and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1626: Emotions

I am having some emotions as I discover that I, a licensed psychotherapist, have not yet written a blog titled “Emotions” during all these years of blogging non-judgmentally.

What emotions do you think those would be?  Anger?  Sadness? Fear?  Happiness?  Surprise?  Is surprise an emotion?

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Surprise! We focused on emotions during a therapy group yesterday.

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Do you have any emotions when you see all the topics we could have focused on instead?  (I have some emotion about the lack of focus in that photograph.) (Is disappointment an emotion?  Is embarrassment an emotion?)

Do you have any emotions about all the questions I’m asking?  Any emotions about my other photos from yesterday?

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This photo of a tissue box in my office …

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reminds me that I try to let people know that expressions of sadness and other feelings are all welcomed.

I have emotions when I notice mistakes …

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… and I also have emotions when I listen to music.

No matter what emotions you’re feeling now, I hope you know they’re all welcomed here. And if you leave a comment about emotions, my emotion will be happiness.

Emotional thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and to you — of course!! (Is gratitude an emotion? Is enthusiasm? What would you include on a list of emotions?)

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Day 1625: Vitality

Yesterday, when I was on Cape Cod visiting fellow blogger Mark Bialczak, his lovely and dear wife Karen, and their filled-with-vitality dog Ellie B. (a/k/a Dogamous Pyle),  I noticed this:

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Mark and Karen both told me I had more vitality than the last time they saw me, two years ago. I said that was probably due to my heart valve replacement last September.   I told Mark  he seemed much happier than when I had seen him last and he agreed, with vitality.

Spending time with wonderful people, like Mark and Karen, is very good for my vitality.

Do you see vitality in my other photos from yesterday?

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Personally, I think that last photo has the most vitality.

As I face a lot of vital changes — including selling a home, buying a home, moving near the water, and returning to work full time next month — I need to preserve my vitality.

What helps preserve my vitality?

  • Self care.
  • Caring for others.
  • Spending time with great people.
  • Getting enough sleep (working on that).
  • Eating right.
  • Good vacations (so I’ll be visiting Scotland with my son in August).
  • Letting go of worry.
  • Blogging.
  • Listening to music.

Pat Metheny playing “Song for Bilbao” during a second encore Sunday night  improved my vitality,  big time.

What improves your vitality? I hope you know your comments are excellent for my vitality.

Vital thanks to all who helped me create today’s blog post and to you — of course! — for the vitality you bring here, now.

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Day 1624: Questions and Answers

Question: What did I do yesterday?

Answer: I attended a lecture and demonstration group by world-renowned Group Psychotherapy expert Dr. Molyn Leszcz.

Question:  What kind of questions does Dr. Leszcz  ask people in therapy groups?

Answer: “What are you thinking?” “How do you feel right now?” “What is your hunch about that?” “How do you think other people are experiencing you?”  “What do you want people to know about you?” “What are you going to do next?” “What did you see?” “How would you like to work on that in the group?”

Question: Does Dr. Leszcz think that working in the here and now is good?

Answer:

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Question: What did I do last night?

Answer: I went to a Pat Metheny concert.

Question: Whom did I meet there?

Answer:  Gabe, who is a jazz guitar student at Berklee.

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Question: What’s the first question Gabe asked me?

Answer:  “Are you a musician?”

Question: What question did I ask Gabe?

Answer: “Do you have any music on YouTube?”

Question: What did Gabe say?

Answer: “Yes.”

Question: What Pat Metheny tune did Gabe and I name as a particular favorite?

Answer:  Question and Answer.

Question:  Did Pat play that tune last night?

Answer: YES!

Question:  Did I take any other photos yesterday?

Answer: What do you think?

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Question: What am I doing today?

Answer: I am going to the bank in preparation for selling my condo, getting an INR blood test at the hospital, and driving down the Cape to visit with fellow blogger Mark Bialczak and his dear wife Karen!

Question: Should you leave a comment about today’s blog?

Answer: Yes, please.

Question:  Who should I thank, here and now?

Answer: Everybody who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — YOU.

 

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Day 1623: What thoughts intimidate you?

What thoughts intimidate you?

Your own thoughts?

Other people’s thoughts?

These days, I am more intimidated by my own unhelpful thoughts than I am by other people’s thoughts.

Any thoughts about my photos from yesterday?

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Do any of those thoughts or photos  intimidate you?

Yesterday, I was not intimidated by the thought of becoming President of the Northeastern Society of Group Psychotherapy (NSGP). Nobody else seemed intimidated by the thought of that, either.

Tonight, after another full day at the NSGP annual conference, I’m going to see the intimidatingly talented jazz guitarist, Pat Metheny.  I just searched for “Pat Metheny intimidating” in YouTube, and here‘s what came up:

Please leave any thoughts in a comment, below.

Thoughtful thanks to NSGP, to Erica (a board member from the New York affiliate group therapy organization), to Steve Cadwell (who ran yesterday’s “Group Therapy as Theater” Workshop), to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., to Pat Metheny,  to everyone else who helped me create this (I hope!) non-intimidating post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1622: Following directions

I admit that I have trouble following directions. When somebody tries to give me directions that are complicated, I stop listening and figure things out on my own.

Maybe I should be following directions I give others and ask for what I need. The next time I have trouble following somebody’s directions, I’ll direct them to slow down so I can take one step at a time.

Yesterday, as I was following directions during a group psychotherapy conference, I noticed these directions:

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I remained calm while hearing the following directions during the group therapy conference:

  • Put your feelings into words.
  • Take interpersonal risks.
  • Let go of old, unhelpful scripts.
  • Connect with others.
  • Use the support that’s available.
  • Embrace the beautiful fiasco of being human.
  • If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito in the room.

Are any of the directions in this post worth following?

I am following directions at YouTube to share the following directions scene with you:

Please follow directions to leave a comment  below.

I am following my own directions for expressing appreciation, so thanks to all who helped me direct today’s post and to you — of course! — for following me here.

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Day 1621: Admit One

If you were going to admit one thing, here and now,  what would it be?

I admit that it’s difficult to admit only one, so I hereby admit that

  • I’m attending a three-day group therapy conference,
  • I’ll be participating in a therapy group with other group therapists today,
  • I am the president-elect of the professional organization giving the conference,
  • I told my groups yesterday that “I’ll be a better group therapist next week, after attending the conference,”
  •  one of the therapy groups yesterday focused on the topic of “fear,”
  • the other group discussed thoughts and feelings about their names, and
  • I took only three photos yesterday.

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I admit that I just searched for “Admit One” on YouTube and found this:

I admit that I could have used that book before being admitted to the hospital.

I admit that I like to include music in this blog.

I admit that I recently posted here that I might miss a Pat Metheny concert this weekend because of the group therapy conference. I admit I made a mistake — I have a ticket that will admit one to see Pat Metheny Sunday night, after the conference is over.

I admit one more thing: I am very grateful to all who helped me create today’s Admit One post and — of course! — to you, for admitting me into your home, here and now.

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Day 1620: Why do we exist?

I exist to ask questions like “Why do we exist?” and to look for answers.

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Do you agree that we exist to build great things?

I will now try to build a great blog post with my other existing photos from yesterday.

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Dead & Company is built from past members of Grateful Dead & John Mayer. They exist to build great things like this:

I trust that my existing readers will build great comments.

I exist to give great thanks to all who helped me build this blog post and  — of course! — to you, for the miracle of your existence.

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Day 1619: Who do you trust?

Who do you trust?

Do you trust the leaders of your country?

Do you trust what a teabag tells you?

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Do you trust yourself to speak?

Do you trust your friends?

Do you trust your family?

Do you trust people to do their jobs?

Do you trust a Prius owner with a Trump bumper sticker?

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Do you trust the weather?

Do you trust the forecasters?

Do you trust the news?

Do you trust your sports teams?

Do you trust your head or your heart?

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Do you trust the food you eat?

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Do you trust me to choose “Who Do You Trust” videos (herehere and here on YouTube)?

I trust you to leave trustworthy comments.

Who do you trust to express gratitude for all who helped create this blog post and — of course! —  for you?  I hope you trust me.

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