Day 1476: I haven’t been the same since …

When people get into therapy, they often say, “I haven’t been the same since …” and they name some life-changing event.

Personally, I haven’t been the same since …

  • my first heart surgery at age 10,
  • I got my first cat,
  • I got my first car,
  • I rode a bicycle for the first time,
  • my heart valve replacement surgery last September,
  • my son was born,
  • my son went away to school in Scotland,
  • my son returned home for Christmas,
  • my son went back to school yesterday,
  • I took my first disco dance lesson,
  • I met my husband,
  • my divorce,
  • my cardiac pacemaker was recalled in 1975,
  • my cardiac pacemaker/defibrillator was recalled two weeks after my valve replacement surgery in September,
  • President John F. Kennedy was killed,
  • Bobby Kennedy was killed,
  • Martin Luther King was killed,
  • John Lennon was killed,
  • I went away to college,
  • I was attacked by a rapist outside my apartment in Cambridge, Massachusetts,
  • I first got into therapy,
  • I went to film school,
  • I became a therapist,
  • Barack Obama was elected President of the United States,
  • Donald Trump was elected President of the United States,
  • I met my boyfriend Michael,
  • I first saw Gene Kelly dance,
  • I heard my first pun,
  • I made my first pun,
  • I attended Berklee School of Music for a summer program when I was in high school,
  • I worked on the recruitment tape for Berklee College of Music in the 1990s,
  • I did stand-up comedy at an Open Mic,
  • my son performed stand-up comedy at an Open Mic,
  • I had my first cup of cocoa with marshmallows,
  • my father died,
  • my mother-in-law died,
  • my mother died,
  • my father-in-law died on Friday,
  • I encountered Mexican food for the first time,
  • I had my first black raspberry ice cream cone,
  • I saw my first palm tree,
  • I started blogging,
  • I got my first comment on this blog,
  • I bought my first personal computer during the 1980s,
  • I wrote computer manuals in the 1970s,
  • I slept out under the stars in Monument Valley,
  • I went cross country by bus,
  • I attended the Edinburgh Festival Fringe,
  • I heard Pat Metheny play guitar,
  • I sang in front of people,
  • I met every person who is important to me,
  • I saw my first Stephen Sondheim musical,
  • I first heard the band Steely Dan over the sound system at a Cambridge store, playing this song

  • and countless other events.

I haven’t been the same since all those things happened and yet I’m still the same person.

I haven’t been the same since I took all these photos:









Give the happiness of a comment and I will end up happy.

I haven’t been the same since I first learned to express gratitude, so many thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and to you — of course! — for being changed and yet the same, every moment.


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49 thoughts on “Day 1476: I haven’t been the same since …

  1. I haven’t been the same since I started blogging seven years ago and began meeting great people from all around the world. People like you, Ann.

  2. I agree with Simple Village, This is great community and I love to hear you. Thank you, Blessing and Happiness, Love, nia

  3. Amanda Curtin

    What a gift for you to share all those experiences that changed you. It is an amazing list. I love how vulnerable you are. I agree that we are on a path of change to discover what has never changed. I am feeling gratitude for you and all the people who comment.

  4. A little over two years ago a doctor explained a major surgical procedure I was about to undergo and then asked if I had any questions. I said, “After it’s over will I be able to tap dance?” She smiled and said, “I’ve heard that one before.”
    As I read your list of life-changing events I realized the things you share change me, change others too, by deepening our understanding of each other.
    That’s one I’ve never heard before.

  5. Your list is much the same as mine, minus the heart surgery, of course. I gleefully get to add that I have not been the same since I retired. But I sadly get to add that I haven’t been the same since I got Dengue Fever a little over a year ago.

  6. Life event change us Ann. We learn as we go. And I’ve learned that I love dropping by to see what you’re up to! ❤
    Diana xo

  7. I haven’t been the same since starting to read your blog everyday. I don’t post daily, but thanks to starting my day with your blog, I start thinking about things I might post, and actually did one yesterday! I hope you’ll check it out. Thank you for telling us about all those things that have changed you. I’m sorry about some of them and wildly happy for you and even us about others. You are a cool chick!

    • I haven’t been the same since I met you here, Sunny, and I haven’t been the same since I read your delightful blog post!

  8. I read your list carefully and with respect for each item. Was surprised by the computer manuals. Wondered how old you were when you had black raspberry ice cream and if they ever caught your attacker.

    One item puzzles me. How were you changed by a palm tree? So far, I have never felt moved by a palm tree even though I was 15 before I saw one for the first time, in Phoenix, and it did not seem real as I had only seen them in Gilligan’s Island. Perhaps I should give palm trees a second look.

  9. You’ve done a lot! The tea bag wisdom sums it up for me.

  10. What a yummy post! I enjoyed experiencing (most of) your list. I was saddened by some of the items. It was also fun hearing the Steely Dan song again.

  11. I haven’t been the same since the day I was born … and moving to the United States. Big changes are catalysts for so many more. Enjoy the ever changing ride Ann!

    • The ever changing ride has been much more enjoyable since you’ve joined in, Val! Thanks for being a catalyst for change for so many. ❤

  12. Yes a normal person has many life changing events

  13. I saw this list earlier today, and I have been dipping into at intervals since then (later I saw that you had dipped into my blog). It’s a wow list and I love the way you have paired up items, like the cat and the car, and Obama and Trump, it makes it into poetical rhetoric and each item hits harder for the contrast. I’m sorry about your father-in-law. You have made me realise that our life turns a corner most days. Thank you.

    • You have made me realize, again, that my life is better with you in it, Hilary. I haven’t been the same since we met here and I’m so grateful for that.

  14. What a marvelous way to summarize life so far! Hope you keep experiencing many things that change you!

  15. You covered many bases of life in your list, and I’m sure that’s a small portion of what you could have added. I like taking inventory in this way and I think I’m going to add black raspberry ice cream as an addition to my list when possible. I have yet to taste that flavor and it sings to me. 🙂 I’m very sorry for the loss of your father-in-law. Truly.

    • I truly appreciate meeting you here and I haven’t been the same since. It makes me happy to know that we will both experience black raspberry ice cream in our lives!

  16. I lost my step mother on Monday and we had the funeral on Friday. Death definitely changes people and I know that this death will impact my Dad the most. My mother’s death 24 years ago still affects me. Thank you for sharing so much of your life. I guess we all have life altering moments but we never put ourselves out there and post them all at the same time. I’m truly sorry for all your pain and happy for your good times. May the good times overshadow the bad. Love!

    • I haven’t been the same since I met the lovely Mama Cormier here at WordPress. I’m sorry for your loss, Carol, and thank YOU for sharing so much of your life.

  17. The more things change the more they stay the same…the same can’t really be said for us- through all the changes of life we change, but at the core, we are still the same I think

  18. I began blogging in May 2012

  19. I haven’t been the same ever since Harley started FaceTiming Grumpy!

  20. What a life list! What a blog! What a great bunch of followers and commenters you have! Thanks for being!

  21. wow…deeply detailed and organized…reading over your post is like a journey and new adventure…

  22. Ann! Haven’t been the same since I realized I’m only a fleeting shadow of my Real self.

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