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Day 3118: How are you going to celebrate this precious day?

As I tell people in therapy, it helps to celebrate whatever you can, especially these days.

How are you going to celebrate this precious day?

As usual, I’m going to start celebrating this day by blogging and sharing images with you.

I’m also going to celebrate this day by putting my phone down after I finish this blog post.

Here is Kool & the Gang celebrating a precious day in 2011:

As always, I celebrate each day by expressing gratitude to YOU.

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Day 3082: I forgive you

Many people I work with in therapy have trouble forgiving themselves for past mistakes and transgressions. Yesterday, I gave somebody this assignment: to look themselves in the face (in a mirror, any other reflective surface, or, yesterday, during our ZOOM call) and say, “I forgive you.” We practiced that many times during the therapy session, with this person adding their name at the end of the self-forgiving statement.

I’ve been practicing that also, and it really helps. I forgive you, Ann, for

  • being irritable with lots of people lately,
  • your lapses in memory,
  • repeating yourself,
  • unintentionally hurting other people’s feelings,
  • your internalized sexism, ageism, racism, and other isms,
  • not being good at everything,
  • not understanding everything,
  • doing less walking yesterday because of the heat,
  • taking only one photo outside yesterday,
  • not getting a better shot of those ducks,
  • eating meat in a restaurant last night,
  • buying way too much Ferrero Rocher gelato,
  • being a daily bitch,
  • seeing monsters where they don’t exist,
  • being a monster at times,
  • having trust issues,
  • scaring Harley just by moving too quickly,
  • comparing Harley to your late, lamented kitty Oscar,
  • repeating yourself, and
  • spending too much time on Twitter.

I forgive you, Ann, for sharing this song for the umpteenth time.

I forgive you, Ann, for asking people to comment on your blog about their own experience with self-forgiveness.

I forgive you, Ann, for ending each blog in the same way, day after day.

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Day 3033: Take a breath

“Take a breath” is something I often say to myself and to others in therapy. Take a breath to

  • take a break,
  • take a step back,
  • take care of yourself,
  • take care of others,
  • slow down,
  • reduce anxiety,
  • be less impulsive,
  • practice radical acceptance,
  • get in touch with what you know,
  • get in touch with what you do not know,
  • gain clarity,
  • gain perspective,
  • connect with yourself, and
  • connect with the universe.

Take a breath as we look at all my images for the day.

It’s like the world is taking breath after justice has been served for George Floyd, who was deprived of his right to take a breath and live.

Here‘s “Take a Breath” by Raffi.

Take a breath and leave a comment, if you choose.

Take a breath and experience my gratitude for all who help me take a breath and blog every day, including YOU.

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Day 2999: Narratives

For almost three thousand days in a row, I’ve been sharing personal narratives with you here.

As a practitioner of narrative therapy, I recognize that we each have our own way of telling stories. Narratives can be

  • tragic,
  • humorous,
  • heart-breaking,
  • heart-broken,
  • hopeful,
  • despairing,
  • positive,
  • negative,
  • connected,
  • disconnected,
  • clear,
  • confused,
  • thoughtful,
  • thoughtless,
  • triumphant,
  • self-defeating,
  • proud,
  • humble,
  • unresolved,
  • closed,
  • expansive, and
  • inevitably limited by one’s experience and perspective.

What narratives do you see in today’s images?

Here is “The Power of Personal Narrative” — a TED Talk by documentary filmmaker J. Christian Jensen, which I find powerfully inspiring:

Here is one of my musical heroes, Pat Metheny, sharing personal narratives about the album “Secret Story” almost thirty years ago:

I hope you share some narratives in the comments section below.

My narratives here always end with gratitude, so thanks to all who help me construct and share these daily narratives, including YOU.

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Day 2996: Who is taking up too much space in your brain?

I don’t know about you, but annoying, obnoxious, miserable, angry, and unsafe people take up too much space in my brain.

My brain tells me that it needs to focus on these people, because they are threats to our well being.

I am telling my brain that we also need to focus on more pleasant, restful, and helpful things, in order to take care of ourselves and to conserve our energy.

I hope my latest images don’t take up too much space in your brain.

Here’s what I find when I search you tube for “Who is taking up too much space in your brain?”

Please make space in your brain for that important message: we can’t control thoughts and feelings, but we can control our actions.

Who will be taking up space in the comments section, below?

Thanks to all who have helped me take up blog space for almost 3000 days in a row, including YOU.

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Day 2978: I can’t get enough of …

I can’t get enough of conversations with my husband Michael, including our recent one about breakfast cereals, in which I told him that my favorite cereal jingle was “I can’t get enough of that Sugar Crisp” as sung by the cool and crooning Sugar Bear.

Because I used to work in advertising, I can’t get enough of those vintage commercials and how they reflect societal norms, priorities, assumptions, and technology.

I can’t get enough of my son Aaron and I can’t get enough of this incredible creation his cousin Victoria made for Aaron’s birthday:

I can’t get enough of anything that promotes self inoculation against the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, including walks by the water, celebrating small victories and progress, education, Michael’s cooking, the Daily Bitch Calendar, fun conversations on Twitter, and cats.

I can’t get enough of your comments, so consider leaving one about what YOU can’t get enough of.

I can’t get enough of gratitude, so thanks to all who help me create these daily posts, including you!

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Day 2977: Self inoculation

Two days ago, my post was self-destructive. Today, I’m writing about self inoculation, which is effectively preparing yourself for troubles ahead.

Yesterday, in a therapy session when we were talking about self-hatred, people committed to each other that the next time they did, felt, or thought something that triggered self-hatred, they would take a deep breath and love (or at least LIKE) themselves instead. In essence, people were self inoculating against a known destructive response.

This morning, before I got on the scale, I self inoculated by saying this to myself: “No matter what that number is, I am going to welcome it. That number is not going to affect my self worth.”

Blogging, for me, is another example of self inoculation. With each daily post, I am preparing myself for troubles ahead — refreshing my resilience. That’s why blogging has been such a priority for me over the past eight years.

Do you see any examples of self inoculation in today’s images?

As The Daily Bitch shows us, sometimes the way we self inoculate might cause trouble for other people.

Many of us will need to be inoculated with a coronavirus vaccine before we attend a concert like this — Huey Lewis and the News performing “I Want a New Drug” (which sounds like self-inoculation to me).

If expressing your thoughts and feelings is self inoculation for you, please leave a comment below.

Ready for some self inoculation of gratitude?

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Day 2975: Self-destructive

When people in therapy tell me they are self-destructive, I think:

  • that is how they are telling the story about themselves for now,
  • it might be a helpful insight,
  • it might lead to hopelessness,
  • it might be a self-fulfilling prophecy,
  • it’s not destructive that they are in therapy,
  • there are other things they are doing that are not self-destructive, and
  • they are not destroyed.

I don’t think it’s self-destructive to share the inspiration for today’s blog title:

Is it self-destructive to share all of my recent images?

Is anybody being self-destructive in today’s video, a compilation of home news bloopers?

It would not be self-destructive to leave your thoughts and feelings about this “Self-destructive” post in the comments section, below. It’s also not self-destructive to express gratitude, so thanks to all who help me create these daily blogs, including YOU.

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Day 2973: I forgot

Yesterday, at the end of our session, my therapist asked me what my first memory about money was. I don’t forget why she asked me — I told her I wanted to work on my shame and fear related to money and taxes.

When I had trouble accessing early memories about money, she asked me to work on that before our next session.

I forgot my first memories about money, but I believe my shame, fear, and forgetting might be related to the fact that my family was Jewish. I realized when I was young that some non-Jews believed that Jews only cared about money and seemed to hate them for that. My parents didn’t want me or others to forget the Holocaust — the worst result of those beliefs. I wanted to forget because the Holocaust seemed too big and scary for me to understand.

I forgot to take many photos yesterday because I was focusing on giving and getting therapy and staying safe from the cold and the snow.

I forgot what I recently wrote on Twitter, so I’ll see what’s there.

Here’s “I Forgot” by Steve Martin, which is about money and taxes!

If you don’t leave a comment below, you can borrow this excuse from Steve Martin: “I forgot.”

In all the years I’ve been blogging, I never forgot to say thank you to my readers.

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Day 2950: One step closer

Just by starting this blog post, I’m one step closer to publishing it. I’m also one step closer to reaching a milestone: my three thousandth post!

Just by waking up, I’m one step closer to my birthweek vacation, starting in two days.

In therapy, people often talk about being one step closer to their personal goals. Yesterday, somebody said that identifying small and very achievable next steps really helped them move forward, which also brought them one step closer to self esteem.

Every day, we’re one step closer to overcoming this deadly pandemic and, I hope, overcoming social injustice, inhumanity, out-of-control greed, fear, anger, rampant misinformation, and short-sighted and self-centered partisanship. If we don’t take those vital steps forward, I believe we’re one step closer to mass destruction.

I’m one step closer to sharing my latest images but before I do, here’s a great live version of “One Step Closer” by the Doobie Brothers.

With every step we take, our shy cat Harley is one step closer to trusting me.

Are you one step closer to leaving a comment, below?

I’m one step closer to closing this post with gratitude, so thanks to all who take small, achievable steps to be closer to where they want to be, including YOU.

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