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Day 2978: I can’t get enough of …

I can’t get enough of conversations with my husband Michael, including our recent one about breakfast cereals, in which I told him that my favorite cereal jingle was “I can’t get enough of that Sugar Crisp” as sung by the cool and crooning Sugar Bear.

Because I used to work in advertising, I can’t get enough of those vintage commercials and how they reflect societal norms, priorities, assumptions, and technology.

I can’t get enough of my son Aaron and I can’t get enough of this incredible creation his cousin Victoria made for Aaron’s birthday:

I can’t get enough of anything that promotes self inoculation against the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, including walks by the water, celebrating small victories and progress, education, Michael’s cooking, the Daily Bitch Calendar, fun conversations on Twitter, and cats.

I can’t get enough of your comments, so consider leaving one about what YOU can’t get enough of.

I can’t get enough of gratitude, so thanks to all who help me create these daily posts, including you!

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Day 2977: Self inoculation

Two days ago, my post was self-destructive. Today, I’m writing about self inoculation, which is effectively preparing yourself for troubles ahead.

Yesterday, in a therapy session when we were talking about self-hatred, people committed to each other that the next time they did, felt, or thought something that triggered self-hatred, they would take a deep breath and love (or at least LIKE) themselves instead. In essence, people were self inoculating against a known destructive response.

This morning, before I got on the scale, I self inoculated by saying this to myself: “No matter what that number is, I am going to welcome it. That number is not going to affect my self worth.”

Blogging, for me, is another example of self inoculation. With each daily post, I am preparing myself for troubles ahead — refreshing my resilience. That’s why blogging has been such a priority for me over the past eight years.

Do you see any examples of self inoculation in today’s images?

As The Daily Bitch shows us, sometimes the way we self inoculate might cause trouble for other people.

Many of us will need to be inoculated with a coronavirus vaccine before we attend a concert like this — Huey Lewis and the News performing “I Want a New Drug” (which sounds like self-inoculation to me).

If expressing your thoughts and feelings is self inoculation for you, please leave a comment below.

Ready for some self inoculation of gratitude?

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Day 2975: Self-destructive

When people in therapy tell me they are self-destructive, I think:

  • that is how they are telling the story about themselves for now,
  • it might be a helpful insight,
  • it might lead to hopelessness,
  • it might be a self-fulfilling prophecy,
  • it’s not destructive that they are in therapy,
  • there are other things they are doing that are not self-destructive, and
  • they are not destroyed.

I don’t think it’s self-destructive to share the inspiration for today’s blog title:

Is it self-destructive to share all of my recent images?

Is anybody being self-destructive in today’s video, a compilation of home news bloopers?

It would not be self-destructive to leave your thoughts and feelings about this “Self-destructive” post in the comments section, below. It’s also not self-destructive to express gratitude, so thanks to all who help me create these daily blogs, including YOU.

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Day 2973: I forgot

Yesterday, at the end of our session, my therapist asked me what my first memory about money was. I don’t forget why she asked me — I told her I wanted to work on my shame and fear related to money and taxes.

When I had trouble accessing early memories about money, she asked me to work on that before our next session.

I forgot my first memories about money, but I believe my shame, fear, and forgetting might be related to the fact that my family was Jewish. I realized when I was young that some non-Jews believed that Jews only cared about money and seemed to hate them for that. My parents didn’t want me or others to forget the Holocaust — the worst result of those beliefs. I wanted to forget because the Holocaust seemed too big and scary for me to understand.

I forgot to take many photos yesterday because I was focusing on giving and getting therapy and staying safe from the cold and the snow.

I forgot what I recently wrote on Twitter, so I’ll see what’s there.

Here’s “I Forgot” by Steve Martin, which is about money and taxes!

If you don’t leave a comment below, you can borrow this excuse from Steve Martin: “I forgot.”

In all the years I’ve been blogging, I never forgot to say thank you to my readers.

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Day 2950: One step closer

Just by starting this blog post, I’m one step closer to publishing it. I’m also one step closer to reaching a milestone: my three thousandth post!

Just by waking up, I’m one step closer to my birthweek vacation, starting in two days.

In therapy, people often talk about being one step closer to their personal goals. Yesterday, somebody said that identifying small and very achievable next steps really helped them move forward, which also brought them one step closer to self esteem.

Every day, we’re one step closer to overcoming this deadly pandemic and, I hope, overcoming social injustice, inhumanity, out-of-control greed, fear, anger, rampant misinformation, and short-sighted and self-centered partisanship. If we don’t take those vital steps forward, I believe we’re one step closer to mass destruction.

I’m one step closer to sharing my latest images but before I do, here’s a great live version of “One Step Closer” by the Doobie Brothers.

With every step we take, our shy cat Harley is one step closer to trusting me.

Are you one step closer to leaving a comment, below?

I’m one step closer to closing this post with gratitude, so thanks to all who take small, achievable steps to be closer to where they want to be, including YOU.

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Day 2949: Messages to friends

Last night, my friends, as the friendly skies sent down messages of snowflakes, I heard “Message to My Friend” from friendly Pat Metheny and John Scofield.

Here is “Message to a Friend” from friends Pat Metheny & Charlie Haden:

Yesterday, in therapy, there were many messages to friends, including “I’m glad you showed up exactly the way you did,” “the pain of a loss is in direct proportion to the importance of the relationship,” “all your feelings are welcome,” “it’s never what you expect,” “all change is anxiety-provoking, even good changes, and especially changes we didn’t choose,” “there’s a huge difference between worry and planning,” “congratulations for not going completely bonkers,” and “what you’re doing is good enough AND you can make it better.”

Today, because of friendly messages I got from the hospital where I work, I’m getting my first vaccine for the coronavirus.

Here are more messages to friends:

I appreciate timely messages from my friend and yours, The Daily Bitch.

Feel free to leave messages to friends in the comments section, below.

All my messages to friends include gratitude, so thanks to all who help me create these daily messages to friends, including YOU.

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Day 2945: Rear view mirrors

Lately, I’ve been using a helpful image to leave behind and let go of toxic things in my life: I imagine them in the rear view mirror of my car, getting smaller as I drive away.

Donald Trump is in my rear view mirror. He’s also in Randy Rainbow’s rear view mirror, as we can see in “Seasons of Trump.”

Also in my rear view mirror are:

  • perfectionism,
  • fear,
  • worry,
  • shame, and
  • assholes.

Soon I’ll be putting my fear about getting COVID-19 again in my rear view mirror, because I’m getting the vaccine on Wednesday!

I wonder what I’ll actually be seeing in my car’s rear view mirror as I drive to the Boston hospital where I work to get my shot.

Do you see any rear view mirrors in these photos?

Compassion will make you beautiful, no matter what mirror you’re using.

What, or who, would you like to put in your rear view mirror?

Thanks to all who helped me create this rear-view-mirrors post, including YOU.

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Day 2939: Hey, cutie!

Hey, cutie!

I’m writing today’s blog post for all of us who are not feeling particularly cute these days.

You are much cuter than you feel.

I’m not being cute — I know this because of all the years I’ve spent being a cute-enough therapist to many cute-enough people who have trouble realizing how cute they are.

Just last week, I was doing a remote therapy session on the phone with a cute-enough person who was feeling sad, depressed, and anxious about many non-cute realities.

Because I cutely and acutely know that shame and self-doubt often increase during crises, I suggested at the end of the session that, once a day, she look in the mirror and say to herself, “Hey, cutie!”

It was cute how dramatically her mood improved after I said this. I could hear the cute lightness in her tone when she promised she would try my cute prescription.

Hey, cutie! What do you think would happen if you tried that same cute prescription?

Hey, cutie! Do you see any cuties in my latest images?

That last image shows my latest cute attempt to get more cute engagements on Twitter.

Hey, cutie! You’re still cute, no matter how many cute people engage with you on social media and elsewhere.

Hey, cutie! Here are the cute Turner brothers covering a cute Hank Williams classic.

Hey, cutie! Consider leaving a cute comment, below.

Hey, cutie! Many thanks to you and all the other cuties who help me create this cute blog, every day.

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Day 2938: Supportive and loving places

Throughout my life, I have looked for — and tried to create — supportive and loving places.

Last night, before I sang my new lyrics for “People are Strange,” I talked about supportive and loving places.

Do you see any supportive and loving places in my photos from yesterday?

Supportive and loving places are created by supportive and loving people and those are two of them: Joe, who is the MC of the Jam’n Java Open Mic, and Nat, who has appeared in this blog here, here, here, here, and here.

Nat sent me these supportive and loving messages after my performance:

Nat: So much fun!!! Sooooo on point. Some governmental agency should pay you to use that as a public safety announcement.

Me: You should be my manager!

Nat: Easiest management gig ever – your awesomeness promotes itself! You should put that on YouTube at least.

Me: I will!

And I did.

What are your supportive and loving places?

Gratitude and appreciation create supportive and loving places, so thanks to everyone, including YOU!!!

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Day 2937: What is helping people fall asleep this week?

Last night, when I couldn’t fall asleep, I tweeted the question in today’s title. Much to my surprise, I got lots of answers, which helped me fall asleep.

How would you answer that question? What is helping you fall asleep this week?

Do you see anything in my recent images that would help you fall asleep?

The Daily Bitch is telling me that there are friggin’ reasons why I’m having trouble falling asleep this week.

Here’s “How To Fall Asleep In 2 Minutes” from AsapSCIENCE:

Hearing back from people helps me fall asleep, so consider leaving a comment below.

Finally, gratitude is helping me fall asleep this week, so thanks to all who read this blog, including YOU!

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