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Day 3396: Naming It

I’m naming it, here and now, that I’ve written previous blog posts named “naming it” because naming it is a helpful coping strategy.

Earlier this week, people in therapy named how naming your feelings — including grief, anxiety, fear, sadness, and anger — can help you deal with those feelings. And I recently read an article, which I can’t name right now, that cited scientific proof that naming feelings can help relieve them.

Can you name any examples of naming it in my images for today?

I’m naming that (1) The Daily Bitch Calendar is a great name for my favorite calendar and (2) there are many National Hairball Awareness Days around here.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “naming it.”

At the end of each post, I name my thanks for all the people who help me blog every day, and your name is on that gratitude list!

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Day 3358: What’s wrong with you

Today’s blog title is brought to you by The Daily Bitch Calendar.

I’m smiling at that calendar now. Is that wrong?

As a therapist, I’ve heard many people ask the question “What’s wrong with me?” Often, I respond like this:

“What’s wrong with you? Nothing. And that’s the wrong question.”

Yesterday, I was feeling like something was wrong with me, as I took in so much of what was wrong with the world. I started focusing on the wrong in me and in others, including my husband Michael. After a rough day when so many things went wrong, we were sitting in silence at the dinner table. I didn’t want to say the wrong thing and make anything more wrong between us.

Finally. I said, “Michael?” He replied, “Yes, Ann?” And then I said something I used to think was wrong for a humble person to say:

“I’m awesome.”

Michael laughed and agreed and suddenly what was wrong was right again.

What’s wrong or right with my other images for today?

What’s wrong with you if you feel like goofing off on National Goof Off Day? Nothing.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “what’s wrong with you.”

What’s wrong with expressing gratitude to all who help me blog every day, including you?

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Day 3255: What’s a good next step for you?

Last night before I went to bed, a good next step for me was to ask this question on Twitter:

A good next step for some was to answer my question.

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A good next step for me is to share these images in today’s blog:

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “a good next step”:

A good next step is for me to share how that video reminds me of an Opening the Heart retreat when we all danced blindfolded and staff made sure we didn’t bump into each other. That was a good next step for me, decades ago, to experience joy of movement without self-consciousness.

A good next step for me, here and now, is to get ready for my one day each week of in-person work at the hospital.

What’s a good next step for you?

A good next step is gratitude, so thanks to all who took the step of visiting this blog, including YOU!

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Day 3198: Safe spaces

We all need safe spaces to heal, but what spaces feel safe these days?

I’m thinking about safe spaces, here and now, because today is National GOE Day in the USA.

Do you see any safe spaces in my other images for today?

Locally, we’ll be making our home into a safe space when we repair the extensive structural damage under the upstairs shower. I’m just glad that my used-to-be-boyfriend-now-husband Michael observed water leaking outside the house before somebody fell through the floor!

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “safe spaces.”

How do you create your own safe spaces?

I hope the comments section, below, is a safe enough space where you can express your thoughts, feelings, and experiences about safe spaces.

Thanks to all who help me create a safe space here, including YOU.

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Day 3193: One of those days

Yesterday, I had one of those days where everything seemed to go wrong, including

  • lots of trouble locating my reserved parking space for my in-person Monday work at the medical center,
  • temporarily losing my pager,
  • arriving late despite leaving plenty of time to get there early,
  • being continually and inexplicably locked out of using the computer at work, which I need for almost every aspect of my job as a psychotherapist,
  • not receiving an important email that resulted in problems with one of the insurances I take,
  • not being able to locate information needed to fill out a form to rectify the insurance problem,
  • witnessing the pain of many people who were dealing with way more than just one of those days, and
  • confronting all this with a minimal amount of sleep the night before.

When I was on the phone with a help desk person, who was baffled by why I kept getting locked out of using my computer, I told him I was having one of those days. I wondered if he was having one of those days too, but this was one of those conversations where only one of us was doing much talking.

Now I’m writing this wondering if I’m going to have one of those days again today. Here’s one of my thoughts about one of those days — they are much more bearable if there is only one of them.

So many people all over the world are having one of those days, over and over again.

Let’s see how many of my photos reflect one of those days.

Joan continues to have one of those days when she has to wear a cone.
My husband Michael was having one of those days when he was having trouble filleting the skate for this delicious meal. At one point, he stabbed it with his knife and said, “This is for Steve Irwin!”
This was a perfect teabag for me to get after having one of those days.
This was the only question I could think of asking on Twitter at the end of one of those days.
This is going to be one of those days that many people might enjoy celebrating.
The Daily Bitch is remembering one of those days in the long-ago past.

Here’s “One of Those Days” by one of the greats, Weird Al.

Consider leaving one of those comments about this one-of-those-days post, which would make my day.

Even when it’s one of those days, I’m grateful to get another day with people like YOU.

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Day 3181: Self Acceptance

Yesterday, I asked this question about self acceptance on Twitter:

Many people responded about the positive and healing aspects of self acceptance. Some people expressed a belief/fear that if they accepted themselves exactly the way they are, they would stay stuck, be settling for less, and would never change.

My observation and experience is that self acceptance is usually the first step to being balanced, present, and more able to see the way clear to taking the next positive and achievable step towards self improvement.

Personally, I find self acceptance freeing and energizing. Do you see self acceptance in my other images for today?

My sense is that the Daily Bitch accepts herself exactly the way she is.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “self acceptance.”

What are your thoughts and feelings about self acceptance?

Please accept my gratitude for your acceptance, here and now!

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Day 3158: Human

In therapy, whenever somebody assigns a negative label to themselves — like lazy, unworthy, stupid, selfish, or bad — I suggest they replace that label with one word. Human.

I’m grateful this the human writing this blog is getting a break from work so she can feel more human and ready to deal with the pain of many humans when she returns in two weeks.

Last night, with humans I love, I saw comedian John Mulaney do a very human stand-up routine in Boston, in which he talked about his friends’ intervention into his drug use, his treatment, and many other human experiences. After the show, my son Aaron, my niece Victoria, and I shared our gratitude for witnessing a much more human, darker, deeper, and still hilarious John Mulaney.

It’s only human that I want to share a few quotes about being human, here and now.

Here are the other human images I choose to share with you today.

If you’re human, you need a break, and it’s only human to waffle and enjoy pie.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “human”:

I look forward to your human comments, below.

This human ends every post with gratitude, so thanks to all who help me create this daily human blog, including YOU!

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Day 3118: How are you going to celebrate this precious day?

As I tell people in therapy, it helps to celebrate whatever you can, especially these days.

How are you going to celebrate this precious day?

As usual, I’m going to start celebrating this day by blogging and sharing images with you.

I’m also going to celebrate this day by putting my phone down after I finish this blog post.

Here is Kool & the Gang celebrating a precious day in 2011:

As always, I celebrate each day by expressing gratitude to YOU.

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Day 3082: I forgive you

Many people I work with in therapy have trouble forgiving themselves for past mistakes and transgressions. Yesterday, I gave somebody this assignment: to look themselves in the face (in a mirror, any other reflective surface, or, yesterday, during our ZOOM call) and say, “I forgive you.” We practiced that many times during the therapy session, with this person adding their name at the end of the self-forgiving statement.

I’ve been practicing that also, and it really helps. I forgive you, Ann, for

  • being irritable with lots of people lately,
  • your lapses in memory,
  • repeating yourself,
  • unintentionally hurting other people’s feelings,
  • your internalized sexism, ageism, racism, and other isms,
  • not being good at everything,
  • not understanding everything,
  • doing less walking yesterday because of the heat,
  • taking only one photo outside yesterday,
  • not getting a better shot of those ducks,
  • eating meat in a restaurant last night,
  • buying way too much Ferrero Rocher gelato,
  • being a daily bitch,
  • seeing monsters where they don’t exist,
  • being a monster at times,
  • having trust issues,
  • scaring Harley just by moving too quickly,
  • comparing Harley to your late, lamented kitty Oscar,
  • repeating yourself, and
  • spending too much time on Twitter.

I forgive you, Ann, for sharing this song for the umpteenth time.

I forgive you, Ann, for asking people to comment on your blog about their own experience with self-forgiveness.

I forgive you, Ann, for ending each blog in the same way, day after day.

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Day 3033: Take a breath

“Take a breath” is something I often say to myself and to others in therapy. Take a breath to

  • take a break,
  • take a step back,
  • take care of yourself,
  • take care of others,
  • slow down,
  • reduce anxiety,
  • be less impulsive,
  • practice radical acceptance,
  • get in touch with what you know,
  • get in touch with what you do not know,
  • gain clarity,
  • gain perspective,
  • connect with yourself, and
  • connect with the universe.

Take a breath as we look at all my images for the day.

It’s like the world is taking breath after justice has been served for George Floyd, who was deprived of his right to take a breath and live.

Here‘s “Take a Breath” by Raffi.

Take a breath and leave a comment, if you choose.

Take a breath and experience my gratitude for all who help me take a breath and blog every day, including YOU.

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