“Of my four children — well I guess now I’ve only got three — no one would’ve predicted that Lorna was having a hard time,” Dr. Philip C. Breen, her father, told Business Insider. “She would not even be on that list.”
As the pandemic has left millions under lockdown and triggered deep loss and widespread grief, medical workers and emergency responders like Mondello and Lorna Breen have faced the brunt of the crisis with grueling workloads, unprecedented stress, deep uncertainty, and a steep death count.
Medical workers are drawn to the profession to alleviate suffering and protect their patients. During the pandemic, however, the virus has in many cases robbed them of the ability to achieve either goal.
Laurie Nadel, a psychotherapist and author, characterized the coronavirus as an “equal-opportunity destroyer” that’s forcing frontline medical workers to go “mano-a-mano with mortality on a larger scale” than ever before.
There are ways to support workers in such high-pressure roles, but Dr. Shauna Springer advocates not calling them heroes. “There’s an invisible pressure that comes with that.”
“People are resilient until they’re not. And so people who are called out as resilient are often more reluctant to acknowledge human struggles and to reach out when they need help.”
For people who are resilient until they’re not (which can include all of us), that article advocates the healing powers of listening without offering advice and also doing things to lighten each other’s loads.
Do you see evidence of people who are resilient until they’re not in the images I captured yesterday?
I posted that last picture of that resilient tiger on my Facebook page last night with this caption: “She’s taking crisis calls.” I’m noticing, here and now, that it’s easier to be resilient when somebody has your back.
Yesterday, in a therapy group, we talked about silver linings, which are
the hopeful side of a situation that might seem gloomy on the surface. The common expression “every cloud has a silver lining” means that even the worst events or situations have some positive aspect.
The silver linings we talked about in group included the dark clouds of traumatic events which had made people stronger, more resilient, and grateful for the gifts of the present.
I found my own silver linings in that group: I couldn’t write important themes up on the white board because of my torn rotator cuff so one of the group participants wrote those lines instead, which meant
more group engagement and
I was so pleased with these silver linings that I said,”Now I’m glad I hurt my arm.” At first the group said, in unison, “No you’re not!” but that led to more valuable discussions about silver linings.
I want to underline this about silver linings: I’m a person who can find a silver lining in my own painful injuries, but I can NOT find silver linings in another horrific assault-weapon massacre in the U.S. Maybe I can’t find silver linings there because nothing seems to disperse or lessen the cloud of gun violence in the United States.
When my only child decided to go to the University of Edinburgh I easily found this silver lining: no school shootings in Scotland.
What are your thoughts and feelings about silver linings? Can you find any silver linings in my other photos?
I have a silver lining of hope that people will change their thoughts and change the world .