Day 214: (Small) Talk About The Weather

When I was younger, I used to think that talking about the weather was “small talk.” When people talked about the weather, I thought they were avoiding talking about something important. I had some judgment about small talk, assuming that it was the avoidance of a deeper, more authentic communication or connection.

There have been times when I’ve said, “I don’t like small talk.” And   “I’m not good at small talk.”

Lately, I’ve been wondering if there is such a thing as small talk.

The more therapy groups I do and the more I really listen to people with an open mind and heart, the more I hear in every statement.

Right now, on the morning of my last work day before my two-week vacation, as I listen to the rain outside my window, here are some random thoughts about “talking about the weather.”

  • Weather is often a metaphor for how people feel.
  • Weather really affects how people feel.
  • When I studied English Literature in college, I remember learning about “pathetic fallacy”, which is defined here as ” a literary term for the attributing of human emotion and conduct to all aspects within nature. It is a kind of personification that is found in poetic writing when, for example, clouds seem sullen, when leaves dance, when dogs laugh, or when rocks seem indifferent.”
  • The weather is something that a lot of experts have been talking about lately, with different amounts of concern and fear about the future.
  • When I talk to people about their emotions (especially disowned or otherwise negatively judged emotions such as anger or sadness), I use the metaphor of allowing emotions to pass through naturally, “like the weather.”*
  • I have had moments of worry about what the weather will be when I travel to England and Scotland next week, because people have been telling me that area of the world has been “unseasonably warm.”

Here’s what I’m thinking, right now, as I’m readying to wrap up this post, so I can go into work and wrap up some things before leaving on vacation:

It helped me to write this post, as always.

However, I think I might have written about some — if not most — of these things in previous posts.

And I’ll name this: I do have a fear of repeating myself.  I guess I fear that repeating myself will make what I am saying seem … what?   Less believable? Less important?

Sort of like small talk.

Which, as I hope I’ve demonstrated for your reading pleasure and satisfaction today, does not exist.

And even if “less important” communications do exist,  just wait.  They will pass through —  just like the weather — soon to be replaced by the next big thing.

Let’s see if I can find a photo I’ve taken this year, to illustrate this post …

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That’s a photo I took, a few months ago, when I did my last (small) bit of traveling. (Knowing me, I probably had some moments of worry about the weather for that trip, too.)

Okay!  Thanks for reading everything small, or big, I wrote today.

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*  Thanks to my friend Carol and her friend Eric for talkin’ ’bout this metaphor.

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11 thoughts on “Day 214: (Small) Talk About The Weather

  1. I love your random thoughts — they’re not random at all, they make quite a point!

    And, as I was reading the thought passed through my mind that the weather never worries about repeating itself — why should we? Remember that course in speech-giving? We need to repeat things three times — tell them what you’re going to say, say and tell them what you said…. 🙂

    Have an amazing and wonderful trip. How exciting!

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  3. As a cashier, I have mastered the art of small talk and detest talking about the weather because it’s too easy to relate to people that way. Sometimes I want to say, “I love the rain! Sure beats the sun?” just to get a reaction out of people. But sometimes I feel like the over talkative cashier… love your blog by the way.

  4. “I do have a fear of repeating myself. I guess I fear that repeating myself will make what I am saying seem … what? Less believable? Less important?” This one in particular stuck with me. I have repeated myself at times, and I always feel frustrated with myself about it. But I try to remember that every event that takes place, every thought that generated from it,or still does…is an evolution for the fullness of the integration of that event or thought. I guess what I mean is that we find new truths in old stories over and over again, and someday we may not need to repeat them because then we will feel we understand what we were supposed to come to terms with in those events and thoughts.

    But then…we may still share them, because what we have learned needs to be shared. Some of your readers are new, so this is new material for them…I for one have not felt you repeated yourself…but I’m starting recently and I believe that if I see a repeat, it will be because there is an evolution in your thoughts and maybe even if there is not one in yours…perhaps…you write it for an evolution in OURS.

    Sincerely,
    Shekhinah

    • I agree with all you wrote here, Shekhinah, and am so glad you shared your thoughts. You are reminding me of the “ascending coil”, which I wrote about early this year, on Day 6. I am very grateful that you are reading and commenting.

  5. Gene Phillips

    I have no problem with small talk if it includes humor. Engaging in small talk is a way of acknowledging shared humanity and of passing time pleasantly. What I don’t like is discussion of big issues with not real intent to actually do anything about them.

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