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Day 1111: Ones

If one takes one moment and  one looks at the numbers in today’s title, what does one see?  Ones.

How one-derful!

Here’s one photo on my one iPhone:

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My one thought when I saw that, yesterday:

It’s one shoe.  Is someone  waiting for the other shoe to drop?

One thing I hope one writer of this blog has learned  after one one one one days of blogging:

There is no other shoe, so spend not one moment  worrying about one’s future. Worry is one especially useless way to spend one’s time.

Here’s more than one thought about ones, on this 1111st day of this one blog:

  1. I have one son.
  2. Last night I had one dream that my one son was gone.
  3. I one-der if I had that one dream because my one son will be attending one college (TBD) in less than one year.
  4. One needs to look out for number one, because what number of people will do that if you don’t?
  5. One needs some al-one time, once in a while, to keep oneself together.
  6. People need people, and yet one thing I witness as a psychotherapist — one day after another —  is everyone’s difficulty asking for help and support from even one other person.
  7. Mindfulness  —  one’s ability to be present from one precious moment to the next one — is one useful practice.
  8. One is the loneliest number according to one amazing singer/songwriter named Harry Nilsson and also (one + one + one)  Dog Night.

 

One may be the loneliest number, but the ones in my one title today aren’t lonely — they have each other!

Which one of these other photos on my one iPhone best represent ones?

1111 thanks for every-one’s support through 1111 days of blogging. One never knows how many more days one will have, besides this one precious day.

Will there be one comment from the one person reading this blog, in this one particular moment?

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Day 899: Waiting for the other ____ to drop

Rather than have you wait for the point of this post to drop, I’ll start by telling you that I hear this phrase a lot, in therapy sessions:

I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I’m pretty sure I’ve already dropped a previous post or two about the topic of

Waiting for the other shoe to drop.

If that’s true, I’ll drop some links to those posts after I drop this post on WordPress.  (Pssst! Here,  here, and here).

Here’s my main drop, for today:

People often express dread about what might be coming next, whether their current experience is particularly negative OR positive.

Waiting for other points of this post to drop?

  • Many positive things have been happening to me lately — including a successful workshop about my therapy groups, good recovery from my surgery in May, positive feedback at work, meeting up with fellow blogger Mark Bialczak last weekend — and yet, two days ago, I was waiting for some other shoe to drop,  as nervous as a cat.

  • Oscar’s not particularly nervous, but our other cat, Harley, usually is. Perhaps Harley’s waiting for another shoe to drop, on him.

 

  • Maybe when things go unexpectedly well OR poorly, we prepare ourselves for the unknown future by being on alert for the next whatever to drop, thinking that will help us deal with it.
  • Waiting for the next anything to drop drops us out of the present moment, in which there are lots of wonderful things dropping all around us, including …


                                                              

…  kids, cones, clouds, cats, hats, peace, pizza, pups, people, watches, and — yes! — real (not imaginary) shoes.

What else have you noticed, dropping in this post?

Lately, I’ve been  waiting for other things to drop, including:

  • My 900th consecutive daily post, here at WordPress and
  • My 2000th follower, who dropped in last night.

No need to wait for the other music to drop. Here it is:

My bf Michael just dropped a couple of guesses on me before he identified “Pressure Drop” by Toots and the Maytals. He also dropped the observation that there’s a cool version of “Pressure Drop” by the Clash:

Waiting for my gratitude to drop? Many thanks to every kid, cone, cloud, cat, hat, peace sign, pizza, pup, person, watch, and shoe contributing to my dropping this post.  Also, special thanks to you — of course! — for picking things up, here and now.

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Day 3: The Fear of Feeling “Too Good”

Here’s a little bit of history behind my deciding to write this blog at this particular time:

Things have been going really well for me lately.

As a matter of fact, I’ve had this thought recently: this might be the BEST year of my life.  Ever.  And a big part of what’s made me see my story that way is that I’ve been feeling more confident, safer, more hopeful about the future, and more peace about the past. That is, I’ve noticed that I’m feeling better about myself and my life, better than I can even remember before.  And as Robert Frost said (about a particular road) “that has made all the difference.”

But, there’s been a wrinkle — a side effect, if you will — to my feeling this way.

And that would be : The Fear of Feeling TOO Good.

Does that ring a bell for you?  Can you identify with that fear at all?  I have to tell you, this is another fear that I’ve observed in a LOT of other people.  Along with the Fear of What Other People Think (a topic of my 2nd blog entry here), I’d call this another Psychological Epidemic.  It’s another source of pain that I see in so many people.  And it gets me mad sometimes, people!  (Things that hurt others can get me mad sometimes.)

If I had a quarter for each time I’ve heard expressions of this fear — from clients, friends, and in my own head — I’d probably be able to feed parking meters and use public laundromats forever. Here’s an example of one of those  change-revenue-producing statements:

When things are going too well, I have trouble enjoying that.  It seems like I’m always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Oh, man.  Doesn’t that SUCK?  It’s the ultimate buzz-kill. The ultimate Joy Murderer.

Well, I’ve got Headline News about that statement. 

There is no other shoe.

But for many of us, that expectation — that we will be zapped by some disaster as retribution for feeling too good — is a cause-and-effect relationship as inevitable as Newton’s basic laws of physics,  like this:

For every action (involving feeling too good) there will be an opposite and equal reaction (major catastrophe).

So where did this belief come from, and why do so many of us share it?

If you can relate to this at all, think about your own reasons.  I’ll write about mine in my next blog entry.

Hey, my first cliff-hanger!

Thanks for joining me here, dear reader.

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