Posts Tagged With: tilapia dish

Day 2438: Magic is totally real

These socks are totally real

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… and so are all these other things I photographed recently, including Michael making a hot tub disappear.

 

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Michael, who really doesn’t like tilapia, magically transformed that fish into something even he totally liked last night.  The magic ingredients included coconut, ginger, cream, and mango.

I believe that magic is totally real because I’ll be doing a show at the Edinburgh Fringe on August 19.  Here’s the totally real front and back of my flyer:

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Here and here are what I magically find on YouTube when I totally search for “Magic is totally real”:

I’m really looking forward to the magic you totally create in the comments section, below.

My gratitude is totally real, so thanks to all who  helped me magically create today’s daily blog post and — of course! — to YOU, for being totally here, before you disappear.

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Day 2418: Big Fear

Here and now, what’s your big fear?

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Take a moment.

Breathe, close your eyes, and allow your mind, body, AND soul  to respond to that question.

Again,  here and now, what’s your big fear?

Does your big fear have to do with …

  • money?
  • people’s responses to you?
  • being judged?
  • the unknown?
  • changes you’ve chosen?
  • changes you have not chosen?
  • stagnation?
  • being trapped?
  • betrayal?
  • abandonment?
  • authority figures?
  • being misunderstood?
  • being manipulated?
  • being ignored?
  • time running out?
  • being forgotten?
  • forgetting things?
  • feeling too much?
  • feeling too little?
  • knowing too much?
  • knowing too little?
  • having too much?
  • having too little?
  • loss?
  • anger?
  • guilt?
  • shame?
  • being hurt?
  • hurting others?
  • turning out just like so-and-so?
  • family?
  • strangers?
  • people?
  • animals?
  • bugs?
  • not knowing what to say?
  • saying the wrong thing?
  • not being seen?
  • being seen?
  • your behaviors?
  • other people’s behaviors?
  • order?
  • chaos?
  • limitations?
  • failing?
  • succeeding?
  • heights?
  • depths?
  • violence?
  • the past?
  • the future?
  • aging?
  • pain?
  • death?
  • fear itself?

Do you see big fear in my other big photographs from yesterday?

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What helps you deal with big fear?

  • Naming it?
  • Sharing it?
  • Calculating the possibility that it will come true?
  • Accepting it?
  • Letting it go?
  • Self care?

When I search YouTube for “big fear” I find this 

this

… and this:

 

Fear not! All comments about big fear are welcome, below.

Big thanks to all who help me create this big blog and all who read it (including YOU).

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Day 2320: People who ____ are happy.

I’m happy to start out my second blog post in a row with a generalization about people, inspired by a Yogi Tea quote. While yesterday’s blog post title (and Yogi Tea quote)  was “People who love are forgiving,” today’s is about people who are happy.

Before I share the Yogi Tea quote, I’m going to ask you to fill in the blank for “People who _____ are happy.”  Do you think the missing word is

  • forgive,
  • smile,
  • create,
  • share,
  • hope,
  • laugh,
  • look,
  • listen,
  • love,
  • live,
  • give,
  • strive,
  • accept,
  • play,
  • work,
  • inspire,
  • grow,
  • learn,
  • teach,
  • connect,
  • relax,
  • rest,
  • move,
  • ask,
  • nourish,
  • awaken,
  • gladden,
  • sing,
  • feel,
  • reveal, or
  • some other word?

I shall now reveal the Yogi Tea quote:

Do you happily love that or any of my other photos from yesterday?

I love the song “Happy” by Pharrell Williams.

Do you think that people who comment are happy? I think people who express gratitude daily are happy, so thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — to YOU.

 

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Day 2300: Up for anything

Now that I’m up for the day, I can tell you that lately I’ve been up for anything, including

  • doing my taxes,
  • getting tasks off my plate more quickly,
  • writing lyrics and music,
  • figuring out harmonies for “Nobody’s Perfect”, which I co-wrote and will be co-singing with Social Work intern Nat Shirley,
  • performing music in front of people,
  • doing presentations at work,
  • facilitating five therapy groups a week,
  • serving as President of a group therapy professional organization,
  • reaching out to new people,
  • blogging daily,
  • saying “yes” to things I want to say “yes” to,
  • saying “no” to things I want to say “no” to,
  • quieting my harsh inner critic,
  • taking classes,
  • binge watching RuPaul’s Drag Race,
  • dancing,
  • accepting and giving compliments,
  • asking for what I want, and
  • Michael’s home-cooked meals,

I’m up for sharing the lyrics of “Nobody’s Perfect” if you’re up for reading them.

Nobody’s Perfect

Nobody’s perfect, even us two.

We try to be perfect,

But that doesn’t do.

We both make mistakes.

In that, we’re like you.

Nobody’s perfect.

Nothing is more true.

Nobody’s perfect, even your friends.

If you’re expecting perfection

Those friendships may end.

Friends make mistakes.

In that they’re like you.

Nobody’s perfect.

Nothing is more true.

Perfectionism makes us imperfectly judgy,

Rigid, unhappy, refusing to budge-y,

It makes your thoughts and feelings uncomfortably sludgy,

With mean self-flagellation even if you’re slightly pudgy.

(if an instrumentalist joins us)

Nobody’s perfect.

Even us three.

Letting go of perfection

Helps us to be free.

Ann: She and he aren’t perfect,

In that, they’re like me.

Together: Nobody’s perfect,

You, them, or we.

Perfectionism makes us imperfectly judgy,

Rigid, unhappy, refusing to budge-y,

Expectations turn unrealistic and sludgy,

It’s a crime and a sin even if you’re just pudgy.

Nobody’s perfect.

Even a star.

Stars need to look perfect,

But they never are.

Stars make mistakes,

In that they’re like you.

Nobody’s perfect

And that’s perfectly true.

© Ann Koplow, 2019

Are you up for my photos from yesterday?

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I’m up for anything, including sharing this first attempt by Nat and me to create harmonies for “Nobody’s Perfect.”

 

 

I’m up for telling you that Nat wrote the melody for “Nobody’s Perfect.” I may not be up for singing that high when we perform it, so we may have to lower it.

Now I’m up for your comments, which you can make below.

I’m definitely up for thanking those who helped me create this up-for-anything post (especially Nat), and — of course! — YOU, for being up for anything in this blog.

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Day 2250: I will never fear again

Yesterday, at the end of a day when I had feared many outcomes that did not come to pass, I texted my friend, Jenn:

I will never fear again.

I will never fear again making statements like that.  I have felt too much fear in my life and I fearlessly love the idea that I will never fear again.

I will never fear again sharing my photos with you.

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I will never fear again sharing details of my life with you, like these:

  • On my way to Disney World I got the results of my 23andme DNA genetic test, which said I had “less than the average tendency to be afraid of heights.”  After a life where I’ve been afraid of heights, I decided to believe that report and never fear heights again.
  • While my boyfriend Michael and I feared that he had seriously scratched up my little yellow car with an ice scraper, I was able to get most of them off by fearlessly and vigorously running my thumb over them while it was still cold as ice.  I will never fear again somebody doing damage to my car.
  • People in my group yesterday found it helpful to make lists of “Too Much” and “Too Little.”  I will never fear again suggesting an exercise in one of my groups.
  • One of my patients made me a beautiful red hat.  I will never fear again accepting a gift like that.

I will never fear again asking my readers a question like this: what do you think would happen if you decided to never fear again?

I will never fear disco or Panic! At The Disco again.

I will never fear again requesting comments for a blog post.

I will never fear again expressing my authentic feelings, including gratitude for all who helped me create this post without fear and — of course! — YOU.

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Day 1983: My mind’s a blank

“My mind’s a blank” is a line from the second original song I recently wrote, “Catastrophizing.”

My mind’s a blank when I try to find things to say about these photos I took yesterday:

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My mind’s a blank when I try to describe how Michael transforms a blank plate into a lovely feast.

My mind’s a blank when I hear some people’s ideas about how to keep a school safe.  Guns?  Metal Detectors?  Panic buttons?  Cameras? Cupcakes?

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My mind’s a blank when I

  • eat too much sugar,
  • catastrophize,
  • am really impressed,
  • get very nervous,
  • am in pain,
  • have to deliver a speech,
  • consider current American politics,
  • try to meditate,
  • look at a hostile or disapproving face,
  • need to fill out a form,
  • feel overcome by emotions,
  • wonder what I’m going to blog about in the future,
  • wonder about the future in general,
  • don’t get enough sleep,
  • am about to perform in front of people,
  • can’t find the right words,
  • encounter cruelty or stupidity, and
  • think about people I love who are dying.

When is your mind a blank?

“My Mind’s a Blank” by Wiretaps gets blank reactions on YouTube.

Is your mind a blank here and now?  If so, will you leave a blank comment?

Even when a card is blank inside ….

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… it can still say “Thank You.”

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Thanks to all who help me create these posts even when my mind’s a blank and — of course! — to you, for temporarily blanking out everything else to read this blog.

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Day 1913: What’s getting in the way?

When somebody (including me) is having trouble doing something, I like to ask, “What’s getting in the way?”

Within the past week, I’ve asked “What’s getting in the way?” about

  • doing one’s taxes,
  • being more assertive,
  • joining an organization,
  • exercising,
  • eating better,
  • sending an email,
  • making a phone call,
  • getting out of the house,
  • attending a therapy session,
  • stating a need,
  • accepting compliments, and
  • saying what’s left unsaid.

Is there something you’re having trouble doing, here and now? Take a moment and ask yourself, “What’s getting in the way?”

Is fear part of the answer?

What’s getting in the way of us getting fear out of the way?

What’s getting in the way of my sharing my photos today?   What’s getting in the way is my fear that I have only four new photos and 25% of of them include language that might get in the way.

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Nothing is getting in the way of my finding two “Gettin’ in the Way” songs on YouTube (here and here).

What’s getting in the way of your leaving a comment?

Nothing is getting in the way of my expressing my thanks to all who helped me get out of my own way to create today’s blog post and — of course! — to YOU.

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