Posts Tagged With: “Third Wind”

Day 2761: Stuck

When I was in Social Work Graduate School in the 1990’s, I read an article that suggested that all  mental health diagnoses be replaced with one: “Stuck.”  That has stuck with me, over the years.

Today, I feel stuck in grief, because yesterday we euthanized our amazing cat Oscar, who was stuck in advanced and debilitating cancer.

This was yesterday’s Daily Bitch Calendar:

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Now you’re stuck with that and with all these other recent photos:

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When you’re stuck, sometimes it helps to say “f*ck this shit” and sometimes it helps to cry.

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Yesterday, I stuck those tissues on the table near where we were saying goodbye to Oscar, who was stuck on his favorite blanket on the sofa.

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The Lap of Love  founder and vet, Dr. Sally,  asked us yesterday if Oscar was spending a lot of time stuck in the bathroom.  Oscar had been stuck on the bathroom mat for hours yesterday while we waited for Dr. Sally to arrive at 5 PM.

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Dr. Sally said that cats often get stuck in the bathroom at the end, perhaps because they are dehydrated and want to hear the sound of running water.

I’ll always be stuck with Dr. Sally’s kind demeanor, which I could read through the mask  stuck on her face because of the coronavirus pandemic (which we’re all stuck with for the time being).

Here’s some of information about herself that Dr. Sally has stuck onto the Lap of Love website:

Despite being so enamored with animals as a child, I was not able to get my first dog until I was 13 year old, but on that very special birthday, I was handed a tiny, black puppy…and I immediately burst into tears of joy! Rocko and I had many adventures together throughout my young adult life, and being his pet parent taught me more than I could have imagined about responsibility, friendship, and, above all, unconditional love. We spent many years walking our neighborhood together, and with every mile, he listened to me talk through my hopes and dreams, my concerns, and my fears. I know that everyone says this about their dog, but he was the best…a piece of my past, and a piece of my spirit…always.

I’m glad that Dr. Sally is stuck with Rocko as a piece of her spirit. Of course, Oscar will always be a piece of ours.

Here’s a video from six years ago of Oscar and I stuck in another bathroom for over eight minutes as I tried to sing along to a favorite Pat Metheny tune:

I didn’t successfully stick all the high notes there but I’m glad to be stuck with that memory of Oscar who, as usual, stuck by my side for the whole thing.

I’m looking forward to being stuck with whatever comments you choose to leave, below.

Thanks to all who have stuck it out to the end of this “Stuck” post. I’m very grateful to be stuck, here and now, with you.

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Day 2684: Oscar

Oscar, who deserves an Oscar for being the sweetest, most loving cat I’ve ever met, has cancer.

We’re grateful we still have the 18-year-old Oscar for more precious moments, even if we don’t know how many.

How many Oscars can you find in these photos from yesterday?

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There are four Oscar-worthy appearances of Oscar in videos I’ve posted on YouTube (here, here, here, and here)  over the past 13 years:

As you can see, Oscar has been a great supporting actor for both me and my son Aaron, who wisely picked him out of a shelter fourteen years ago.

Thanks to all sweet and supportive creatures, here and now, including YOU.

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Day 1559: Good Advice

Just now, when I searched my own posts for “Good Advice,” I got this message:

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So, if you were looking for good advice between January 1, 2013 and April 7, 2017, it might have been advisable to look elsewhere.

Let’s see if we can find any good advice here, today.

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Thanks for that good advice, Ocean!

Here’s more good advice:

  • Assume that you will survive everything that comes your way.
  • Enjoy the journey as best you can.
  • Throw away things you don’t need.
  • Do more of what helps.
  • Do less of what doesn’t help.
  • Spend time with people you like.
  • Avoid those who hurt you.
  • Take a deep breath.
  • Make noise.
  • Accept all your feelings.
  • Show up.
  • Be gentle.
  • Tell the truth.
  • Be in the moment.
  • Use all your senses.
  • Access your wisdom.
  • Let go of worry, fear, and shame.
  • Trust yourself.
  • Love freely.
  • Care less about what other people think.
  • Communicate clearly and directly.
  • Move.
  • Stop and smell the roses.
  • If there aren’t any roses around, stop and see my latest photos.

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If you have any good advice, I advise you to leave a comment.

More good advice from me:

  • Listen to music that makes you happy.

  • Express gratitude.

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