Posts Tagged With: therapy

Day 2004: A Word

Can I have a word with you?

Yesterday was a day when I added an amalgam of A words to a whiteboard.

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Are any of those A words applicable to anybody at all?

In the afternoon, I expressed another A word about words on the news:

Aaaarrrrghhhhh!

Any A words addressed anywhere below?

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After a day like yesterday, Ann needs a moment to say “Ahhhhhhh.”

Here are additional A words.

Ann announces an admiration for anyone who leaves a word, below.

Another A word:

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A word of gratitude for all is always available here.

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Day 1865: Abilities

Yesterday, in a therapy session, somebody was talking about her learning disability.   This disability — and  other people’s inability to recognize her strengths when she was younger — has resulted in her disability to see herself as smart enough.  Like most people, she has the ability to compare herself to other people and judge herself “less than.” Because of my ability as a therapist, I invited this person to  look at her ability to learn, understand, and do many things.

Because of my ability for falling on the sidewalk last week and injuring my dominant arm, I am now dealing with (I hope!) temporary disability.  This disability is interfering with my ability to

  • open doors,
  • reach for anything above my waist,
  • wave hello or goodbye, and
  • write on the whiteboard during group therapy sessions.

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However, this disability is not interfering in my ability to blog, read, sing, walk, talk, smile, laugh, or listen.

As always, it helps to refocus on abilities.

Orthopedics had no ability to schedule an appointment for me until Friday, so I was not able to get more information about my disability yesterday.  However, I was able  to keep an appointment yesterday with an eye doctor. On the way to that appointment, I saw somebody who had the ability to wear a great hat.

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Then, he had the ability to put that hat on my head and take these three photos:

Honestly, I wouldn’t have had the ability to put that hat on my  head without some assistance.

I did have the ability to take one more photo yesterday, in a co-worker’s office.

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That cautious co-worker and I have the ability to perform a new version of “The Lion Sleeps Tonight” at a Social Worker party on Friday.   I had the ability to write new words to that song and I have the ability to blog about that, too.

I also have the ability to find, on YouTube, this previous performance of “The Lion Sleeps Tonight” at a social worker party three years ago:

 

I believe I now have the ability to sing that song with more confidence.

I know you have the ability to leave a comment and I have the ability to thank all who helped me create today’s post.

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Day 1829: Worry vs. Planning

I didn’t plan to write about this today, but no worries.

In therapy, we often talk about reducing worry. A lot of people believe that worry is an essential part of planning. They confuse worry with planning and have trouble separating the two.

I suggest to people that

  • you can plan without worrying and
  • worry doesn’t help with anything, including planning.

Yesterday, we made a list of Worry vs. Planning:

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I wasn’t planning to put that list in this blog so I didn’t write neatly.  I’m not worrying about that.

You might not have planned to think about this today, but what do you think are the differences between worry and planning?

Here are some other unplanned photos from yesterday:

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I didn’t plan on sleeping late this morning, but I did.  I’m not going to worry about that, either. I’m just going to quickly find a video for this post, publish it, and get ready for work.

 

I always plan to thank everybody who helps me create these posts and who reads them. These days, I’m not worrying about how I express my gratitude — I just do it.

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Day 1598: Silence sucks

There’s a new ad campaign in Boston: “Silence sucks.”

Do you think that silence sucks?  Always?  If not always, when?

I believe that silence sucks when there’s

  • injustice,
  • danger,
  • pain, or
  • the need for help.

Here are two examples of the “Silence Sucks” ad campaign:

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It sucks that I couldn’t get better photos of those yesterday. The tagline on those posters is:

When it comes to postpartum depression (PPD)

SILENCE SUCKS

I noticed “Silence Sucks” yesterday because

Here’s a video about postpartum depression that doesn’t suck.

It doesn’t suck that

  • my son is home for the summer,
  • I’m getting a 5-year award at work this morning,
  • I’m facilitating a therapy group after that, and
  • I’m seeing my therapist this afternoon.

You know what else wouldn’t suck?  A comment from you.

Non-silent thanks to all who helped me create this post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1574: Others

In all the other posts I’ve written for myself and for others, only two have had the word “others’ in the title —  Day 163: Alone in the presence of others and Day 180: Horror Stories (and  others).

I expected there would be others about “others,” since I (and others) seem to think about others a lot of the time.

My first and last photos from yesterday both captured the word “others” (among others).

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Were those two photos about others the only pictures I took yesterday?  No, there were three others:

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I spent a lot of time yesterday with seven others, talking about ourselves, others, and group therapy.  As my t-shirt said, I was alone in the presence of others. And because there was mutual respect, trust, and love among me and the others, each of us had the time and space to be alone AND connected with the others in the room.

In other words (written by another therapist and blogger, Dr. Vollmer):

Therapy offers, as Winnicott eloquently says, a patient “to be alone in the presence of another.”  Deep relationships offer this as well. This is the  luxury of experiencing one’s internal world, while a caring person is present in the room, but not intrusive into one’s internal process.

Here‘s what comes up on YouTube when I search for “others”:

I wonder what others might think, feel, and say about today’s blog?

Thanks to all the others who helped me write this post (among others). Special thanks to you and all the others reading this, here and now.

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Day 262: Rx’s

Rx is:

A medical prescription. The symbol “Rx” is usually said to stand for the Latin word “recipe” meaning “to take.” It is customarily part of the superscription (heading) of a prescription.

Another explanation for the origin of Rx is that it was derived from the astrological sign for Jupiter which was once placed on prescriptions to invoke that god’s blessing on the drug to help the patient recover.

(from MedicineNet.com)

This is how Rx is written, on a prescription pad:

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Sometimes, at the end of a therapy session, I will write somebody a prescription, on a notepad, like this one:

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Whenever I write a prescription for somebody, I discuss it with them first. Then, after I write it, I hand it to them and say that I can rewrite it, if they want.

Sometimes the prescription is an action, sometimes it’s a phrase.

Here are some prescriptions I’ve written recently.

Rx:  “I’m doing the best I can.”

Rx:  Go more with your gut.

Rx: Ask yourself, “Does this thought help me?”

Rx: Focus on the phrase, “This will come to an end.”

When I hand somebody a prescription, I often say,  “Take as often as you want, when needed.”

So far, I haven’t heard about any adverse side effects.

Thanks to prescribers, old and new, and to you, for reading today.

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Day 156: Taking in what’s out there

There are certain things that are difficult for me to take in, for whatever reason.

I’m working on being more open to perceiving them, and allowing them in.

I could write about many things, in this regard, but i’m going to focus on one.

The love that’s out there.

I have trouble “reading” it, sometimes.  I’m afraid of it. Afraid of needing it. Afraid I’ll see it when it isn’t there, and then be disappointed and bereft. Afraid of losing it, once I see it and believe it.

Sometimes, when I’m feeling good, I see love everywhere. In everything.

I see it when I take a detour, walking to work:

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In the bunny in the backyard:

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In the faces of people “on my team“:

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In people I’ve just met:

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In people I’ve known, for a long, long time:

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I see it in messages people leave for others:

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And in messages I leave to myself:

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What makes all that love so difficult to take in?

Disappointment.  Anger. Pain.

That’s been my experience.

At the same time, in my work, I try to make it very, very clear that I invite — that I whole-heartedly welcome —  those very things: people’s disappointment, anger, and pain.

I think that’s essential, for healing. To believe that those things are finally welcomed by somebody. To feel those things. And to clear the way, leaving room for everything that’s out there.

Including those things that are so hard to see, sometimes.

I guess this post is done, for today.  Thanks for reading, everybody.

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