Posts Tagged With: the New York Times

Day 3790: What therapists don’t say

I just read a New York Times article titled “What Therapists Don’t Say.” There seems to be some fascination with that — the premise of the TV show Shrinking is that “a grieving therapist starts to break the rules by telling his clients exactly what he thinks.”

What I don’t say, in an individual therapy session, includes

  • You think that’s bad? Let me tell you about my problems!
  • I’m distracted.
  • I’m afraid you really don’t want to change.
  • You should do this.
  • I don’t think I can help you.
  • I wish I were doing something else.
  • That hurts my feelings.
  • I have to pee (this one was mentioned in the New York Times article).

I don’t say any of those things because (1) they are passing, momentary thoughts and (2) unhelpful. Also, when I have a thought that I don’t say, I take it as important information — often a window into what the other person is feeling.

Do you see anything that therapists don’t say in my images for today?

Sometimes I do say a World Holiday or what the Daily Bitch says in a therapy session, if it’s relevant.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “what therapists don’t say.”

Now I’m wondering what you would say in the comments section, below.

Here’s something I say every day:

Categories: personal growth, photojournalism, Psychotherapy | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments

Day 3781: What’s going on in this picture?

Now that I’m back home from a terrific trip down the Rhine on a Viking river cruise (during which I implicitly kept asking “what’s going on this picture?” in this blog), I’m noticing this feature in the New York Times for young readers:

It’s occurring to me that, since I rarely caption my photos, I might be asking my readers to do too much work trying to figure out what’s going on in this picture. Today, I’ll be giving you a vacation from that, so you don’t have to ask yourself “what’s going on in this picture?”

Here are Judy and Dick, two lovely people I met on the river cruise. We connected on a walking tour when Dick mistook me for Judy from the back, put his arm on my shoulder and asked “are those lilacs?” At this farewell breakfast yesterday, we found out that we both live near Boston and that Judy and I work at the same hospital!
Judy, Dick, and I sharing breakfast together before we disembarked the river cruise in Basel, Switzerland. I’m wearing the dress/coat I bought in Strasbourg, which turned out to be super comfortable for plane travel.
Dick asked Manny (seen in this here blog post) to take a picture of the three of us from the back to demonstrate how easy it was for him to confuse me with Judy on the walking tour.
I noticed this window in the Basel airport and I took a picture of it, thinking that “join the journey” might make a great title for today’s blog.
Here’s Joan welcoming me home from my eight-day journey, which she couldn’t join because she’s a cat. I didn’t take any other pictures of the all-day plane journey from Basel to Frankfurt to Boston because I was trying to conserve my energy and also my phone’s energy so I could call for a Lyft after going through customs.
This is the present I bought for my husband Michael in Strasbourg. Michael likes snow globes and I think he appreciated this gift, even though it’s technically a snow pyramid.
Here’s another view of that gift from Strasbourg. Despite the great value Michael places on historical accuracy and truth, he didn’t seem to mind the surprising size differential between the cathedral and the stork.
Michael and I went for a walk near our home south of Boston, which has views that rival any of those I saw on the river cruise (although I do kind of miss the storks).
Joan and Harley enjoying the on-deck activities at home.
I’m not sure why I asked this particular question on Twitter last night but I assumed it would get a lot of interesting answers. My first reply to that question would probably be our shelter cats, although the River cruise, the snow pyramid, my new coat/dress, my little yellow car, and our home are other possible answers.
Some great answers to my question about bargains. Note some similarities to my answers and note also the exquisite title of “Our Lady of Perpetual Maintenance.”
More great answers to my question from folks on Twitter.
I appreciate the political satire and the household tips.
That about covers it for bargains.
I don’t know the answer to the Daily Bitch’s question for today but I think we get what’s going on in this picture.
I don’t know why some days have so many daily holidays and other have so few, but I can easily celebrate teachers and buttons.
Hurrah for the buttons on my new dress/coat!
Hurrah for this button I made for one of my patients and for myself!

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “what’s going on in this picture?”

Here’s what’s always going on in my picture: gratitude for all who help me take and share the pictures of my life, including YOU.

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Day 3744: Money

Because I pay money to the New York Times, yesterday they sent me an email about money:

Here is a quote from that NYT article about money:

Try not to repress the emotions that come up as you read these quotes about money.

I love blogging and after ten years, the money has yet to follow.

Do you see money (or other things of value) in my images for today?

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for money.

Here’s another money song from the Beatles.


Thanks to all who give me riches more valuable than money, including YOU!

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Day 3725: Streaks

Last night, right after midnight, when I thought I would be extending my Wordle streak, I found out that I had broken it.

In other words, I thought I had played Wordle yesterday, but I hadn’t. If I had opened up the New York Times app a few minutes before I did, I wouldn’t have broken my streak.

That sent me on streaks of negative thoughts and feelings, surprising in their intensity. I thought about my unbroken and long streaks in daily blogging and tweeting over the years, despite some very challenging and overwhelming days. I felt streaks of regret, disappointment, and self judgment about that unconsciously broken Wordle streak, caused by simple forgetfulness (or perhaps disorientation because of the time change).

Because I wanted to maintain my current short streak of good night’s sleeps, I tried to let go of those streaks of negative thoughts and feelings by searching online for “streaks Wordle.” First I found this …

… which isn’t totally accurate, because you can break your streak simply by not playing the game for one day.

Then, I found an article about people deliberately breaking their Wordle streaks in support of striking New York Times employees, which had this headline:

And the last line of that article helped me maintain my streak of non-sleepless nights.

Now, I need to embrace the chaos of the unknown and maintain my ten-year streak of blogging by sharing these images with you.

It looks like the Daily Bitch has broken a streak, too.

When I search YouTube for “streaks” I find this

… and this:

Thanks to all who help me maintain my blogging streak, including YOU!

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Day 3580: States

The United States of America is approaching its midterm election. I am in such a state about the state of our country that I’m afraid to read what this New York Times article states:

I’d like to state that I live in the state of Massachusetts and I wish that the state of my country and the world weren’t so precarious right now. I hope people are in clear-thinking states of mind when they vote in their local elections. The state of inflation is bad world-wide right now and we can’t overstate how often people vote based on the state of their bank accounts. .

What states can you find in my other images for today?


Here’s what I find when I search for “states” on YouTube:


What state are you in? Feel free to state your states in a comment, below.

I’m in a state of gratitude for everyone who helps me state my states every day, including YOU!

Categories: life in the USA, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Day 3560: Expectations

I don’t know what people’s expectations are about my blog, but you can usually expect to see the Daily Bitch calendar.


It’s not unrealistic to expect that there are many quotes out there about expectations.


I wonder if my other images for today will meet your expectations.

In a therapy group last night, several people expressed relief that the month of September is coming to a close, so my expectation is that some of my readers may feel the same way.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “expectations.”

I have no expectations about what comments people might make about this “expectations” post, but I’m still looking forward to them.

Any expectations about how I’m going to end this post?

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Day 3511: What’s new

What’s new is

  • this day,
  • unprecedented happenings all around the globe,
  • New Jersey, New Zealand, the New York Times, etc. and
  • these images appearing in this blog:

Those National Days are new to me.

Here’s “What’s New” sung by Ella Fitzgerald…

by Linda Ronstadt

… and “What’s New” by Megan Thee Stallion:

What’s new with you?

Thanks to all who help me write a new post every day, including YOU.

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Day 3391: The creative process

Here and now, I’m trying to overcome some self-consciousness about moving forward with the creative process regarding my original songs.

Before the pandemic, I unexpectedly and joyfully experienced months where my creative process produced many original songs, which I performed at Open Mics and featured in this daily blog.

My manager — a fabulous human being whom I helped create 24 years ago — thinks I should create recordings of my best songs with excellent sound quality and feature them prominently on my YouTube channel.

For some reason, which I can’t quite process, I’ve been avoiding following my son Aaron’s wise advice, focusing instead on the creative process in my therapy groups and on social media.

Part of the creative process, for me, is naming and (sometimes) sharing the obstacles, so I’m hoping that creating this blog post will help me move forward with my original songs. Today, I plan to record a great version of “I Left the House Before I Felt Ready.”

Do you see the creative process in my images for today?

I did NOT create National Pigs in a Blanket Day nor National Pet Parents Day, but I am a proud pet parent to Joan …

… and Harley.

Here’s a video I created at the Sheep Shearing Festival yesterday, which my son Aaron is going to send to his girlfriend overseas:

I hope to create a video of “I Left the House Before I Felt Ready” with better sound quality than that, today.

What are your thoughts and feelings about the creative process?

Gratitude for what I have is part of my creative process, so thanks to all who help me create this blog every day, including YOU.

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Day 3357: What people say

What people say can be

  • confusing,
  • clear,
  • reassuring,
  • scary,
  • familiar,
  • unfamiliar,
  • groan-inducing,
  • loving,
  • hateful,
  • funny,
  • sad,
  • repetitive,
  • original,
  • hopeless,
  • hopeful,
  • enraging,
  • soothing,
  • thoughtless,
  • thoughtful,
  • emotional,
  • unemotional,
  • mysterious,
  • profane,
  • direct,
  • indirect,
  • honest,
  • dishonest,
  • obfuscating,
  • authentic,
  • misleading,
  • helpful,
  • unhelpful,
  • important,
  • unimportant, and
  • too many other things to say.

Because I’m very interested in what people say, I asked this question last night on Twitter:


What do you say we look at my other images for today, which include what people say.

I’m just imagining what people are going to say about National Worship of Tools Day.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “what people say”:

I also find this:

I look forward to seeing what people say in the comments section, below.

No matter what people say, at the end of every post I say “thank you” to all who help me create this daily blog, including YOU.

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Day 3315: Promises

Just now, I noticed that the Bidens have fulfilled one of their campaign promises from last year.


The New York Times, which promises “all the news that’s fit to print,” is all over that story, too.

This promises more uplifting news stories ahead for all us cat lovers.

I promise more uplifting images in today’s blog.

I promise that the label “weird” often comes up in my therapy groups, and it’s promising that people usually embrace the label “weird” in a promisingly positive and productive way.

I promise to check YouTube for a good song for this “Promises” blog.

I promise you that “Promises, Promises” has been running through my head since I started creating this post.

If you leave a comment below, I promise to respond very soon.

A promise I make and keep is to express gratitude to those who help me fulfill the promise of each new precious day, including YOU!

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