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Day 3084: My mind

Today’s blog is brought to you by my mind and by The Daily Bitch Calendar.

Yesterday, my mind tried to set Twitter on fire with flying thoughts about popular proverbs and other matters:

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My mind was very occupied facilitating two Coping and Healing therapy groups yesterday, so I hope you don’t mind that I have only three photos of the outdoors to share today.

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There are usually songs going through my mind and I’m noticing that there are lots of songs with “mind” in the title. Here, according to ranker.com, is #1:

My mind went to “Georgia on my Mind” which was #43 on ranker.com’s list, which blows my mind!

My mind will answer any comments your mind leaves, below.

My mind, as always, is filled with gratitude, so thanks to all the minds that help me pull these blog posts out of my mind every day, including yours!

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Day 3083: Lovable

My lovable readers, which of today’s images seem lovable to you?

Personally, I think the Daily Bitch is very lovable. And cognitive distortions like personalization get in the way of feeling lovable.

Is this a lovable version of “You’re Nobody ‘til Somebody Loves You”?

No matter how lovable you feel, please leave a comment, below.

It’s lovable to express and receive gratitude, so thanks to all who help me blog daily, including YOU.

Categories: gratitude, life during the pandemic, personal growth, photojournalism, self esteem | Tags: , , , , , , , | 15 Comments

Day 3082: I forgive you

Many people I work with in therapy have trouble forgiving themselves for past mistakes and transgressions. Yesterday, I gave somebody this assignment: to look themselves in the face (in a mirror, any other reflective surface, or, yesterday, during our ZOOM call) and say, “I forgive you.” We practiced that many times during the therapy session, with this person adding their name at the end of the self-forgiving statement.

I’ve been practicing that also, and it really helps. I forgive you, Ann, for

  • being irritable with lots of people lately,
  • your lapses in memory,
  • repeating yourself,
  • unintentionally hurting other people’s feelings,
  • your internalized sexism, ageism, racism, and other isms,
  • not being good at everything,
  • not understanding everything,
  • doing less walking yesterday because of the heat,
  • taking only one photo outside yesterday,
  • not getting a better shot of those ducks,
  • eating meat in a restaurant last night,
  • buying way too much Ferrero Rocher gelato,
  • being a daily bitch,
  • seeing monsters where they don’t exist,
  • being a monster at times,
  • having trust issues,
  • scaring Harley just by moving too quickly,
  • comparing Harley to your late, lamented kitty Oscar,
  • repeating yourself, and
  • spending too much time on Twitter.

I forgive you, Ann, for sharing this song for the umpteenth time.

I forgive you, Ann, for asking people to comment on your blog about their own experience with self-forgiveness.

I forgive you, Ann, for ending each blog in the same way, day after day.

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Day 3081: Capacity

I have the capacity to

  • blog daily,
  • connect with others,
  • feel empathy,
  • speak the truth, and
  • work during a heat wave when our central air conditioning system is not working because of a broken capacitor.

After reaching out to many HVAC repair people since Saturday, we finally found one who had the capacity to respond to our requests, to show up last night at 10 PM without charging us overtime rates, and to diagnose and fix the problem in less than 30 minutes.

Many other HVAC experts did not have the capacity to respond to our pleas for help and one with a very good rating online didn’t have the capacity to show up yesterday as he had promised or to call us and let us know.

Now our central air conditioning system with its new capacitor has the capacity to cool us down on another 90 degree+ day.

I don’t seem to have the capacity to stop thinking about the flux capacitor from “Back to the Future,” but I usually have the capacity to associate EVERYTHING with a film or a song.

I had the capacity to find this video about the flux capacitor on YouTube:

Yesterday, I had the capacity to take these photos in the heat before our central air capacitor was replaced:

As you can see from the photos above, Michael has the capacity to reach and remove Trump stickers that I can’t.

I have the capacity to use Twitter as a distraction from discomforts.

Now that I AM chilling, I have the capacity to notice that The Flux Capacitors band have the capacity to cover “Everybody Wants to Rule the World.”

If you have the capacity to leave a comment, please do so.

As you might know, I have an unlimited capacity to express gratitude, so thanks to all who help me maintain my capacity to blog every day, including YOU.

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Day 3080: Find your happy place

Even when your place has no air conditioning during a heat wave, it’s still possible to find your happy place.

This sign was at a happy place in our local shopping mall, where we were searching for a fan to make our place a cooler and therefore happy place:

How do you find your happy place? Is it inside yourself? Is it outside?

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Can you find your happy place shopping at a mall?

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Can you find your happy place on social media?

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Sometimes you need to find your sad place before you can find your happy place.

Very soon, I’ll be finding my happy place when I have a ZOOM call this morning with my friend Megan, who is moving to a new happy place in Connecticut with her family.

Let’s see if the Daily Bitch can find her happy place.

This is what I find on YouTube when I try to find “find your happy place.”

I find my happy place through gratitude, so thanks to everyone who helps make this blogging place happier, including YOU.

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Day 3078: It’s No Lie

It’s no lie that I am

  • going to meet up with blogger Mark Bialczak, his dear wife Karen, and his sweet dog Ellie B. on Cape Cod today,
  • looking forward to the weekend,
  • keeping this blog going for the 3078th day in a row,
  • wanting you to understand that my impressive blogging streak does include making sure that my then-boyfriend, now-husband Michael wrote three entries after my open heart/valve replacement surgery in 2016, and
  • terrible at lying.

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It’s no lie that it helps to know that you are not alone — that’s why I love being a group therapist (and that’s no lie either).

It’s no lie that my coping strategies, as we all deal with the pandemic and politics, include blogging, singing, dancing, walking, talking, eating, and tweeting.

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It’s no lie that I’m no expert on lots of things, including Brazilians.

It’s no lie that Mark Bialczak and I both love Steely Dan and it’s no lie that I was singing and dancing to this in my neighborhood yesterday:

It’s no lie that I end each blog post with gratitude, so thanks to all who help me blog every day, including YOU!

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Day 3077: Senses

Using your senses, what senses do you notice in today’s post?

On August 23rd, my son Aaron, my niece Victoria, and I will be experiencing the sense of humor of John Mulaney IN PERSON at a Boston theatre, which barely makes sense to me in the moment.

What’s the sense of this Saturday Night Live skit co-written by John Mulaney, which the show’s producers didn’t have the sense to include until after he had left the show and become famous?

Here are co-writers John Mulaney and Colin Jost discussing their senses of that Diner Lobster sketch:

I sense some comments coming my way, below.

Thanks to all who help me make sense of things every day, including YOU!

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Day 3076: Walking the walk

Before I began walking my walk yesterday, I tweeted this:

Why did I post that I was better at walking and talking than I was at tweeting? I was doing the familiar and unhelpful cognitive distortion of comparisons — feeling “less than” because everyone I looked at on Twitter was getting way more likes and replies than I was.

Usually I tweet just for fun, not caring about numbers; yesterday, I got caught up in comparisons and felt worse and worse. I kept tweeting, hoping I would get more responses. I didn’t. I knew I would feel better if I stopped tweeting and started walking, but I didn’t, for TWO HOURS on a BEAUTIFUL day.

This reminded me of a therapy session earlier when somebody was talking about the difficulty of breaking old patterns of taking risks with money. This person was stuck in those behaviors and in unhelpful comparisons, too, which we talked about.

I broke my own comparison/tweeting cycle by posting the tweet above, putting on my shoes, and walking the walk.

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After watching that duck swimming the swim, I tweeted this tweet:

Eventually, I stopped walking and saw impressive evidence of Michael decking the deck:

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I messaged this message to my friend Jenn, who loves pugs …

… and enjoyed eating the eats.

I prepared for blogging the blog by capturing all these other images:

As usual, the Daily Bitch is bitching the bitch.

Here’s what was playing when I was walking the walk by the sea:

I can’t believe there are only 106 likes on YouTube for that amazing performance of the wonderful “Sea Journey” by the late, great Chick Corea, who always walked the walk. Here he is walking his fingers all over the keyboards with his Elektric Band in “Side Walk”:

Who wants to comment the comment?

Thanks to all who help me walk the walk, talk the talk, tweet the tweet, and blog the blog, including YOU!

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Day 3075: Hope over fear

I woke up to this email this morning:

I’m always looking for hope over fear. Do you see that in my other images for today?

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I’m hoping for hope over fear as we navigate the future.

I hope you enjoy these songs that appeared in today’s post (here, here, and here on YouTube):

Hope over fear that there will be comments on this post.

Gratitude over everything, so thanks to all who help me put hope over fear every day, including YOU!

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Day 3071: Here comes trouble

Here comes trouble in the form of yet another daily blog post from me, who likes to wear these socks:

Here comes trouble as my hometown of Boston gets rid of almost all mask mandates and social distancing rules today, which is troubling many people I know.

Here comes trouble because major changes in rules and routines, widespread distrust in the media and in political leaders, real and present dangers, and uncertainties about the future are all very troubling.

Here comes trouble as I share all my latest images with you.

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Here comes trouble: I’ve posted WAAYYY more than 70 days in a row. (Three thousand more, WordPress!)

Here and here come the two songs I mentioned as I was causing trouble on Twitter:

Consider causing some trouble in the comments section below.

Here comes gratitude from me to YOU!

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