Posts Tagged With: South Shore of Boston

Day 2784: The truth

The truth

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The truth is that I continue to go on walks with my husband and my son, wearing masks and maintaining social distancing.

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The truth is that our wonderful kitty Oscar is not going to get any better as he spends his final precious days with us.

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The truth is that there are heroes everywhere.

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The truth is that one of my heroes is my husband Michael, who prepares wonderful meals for us.

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The truth is that I also took these photos yesterday:

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The truth is that reminds me of this 11-year-old video of my son Aaron and our cat Oscar:

The truth is that

  • Oscar is a very chill and accepting cat,
  •  I would like to be more like Oscar, and
  • I am very grateful for all who are reading this, including YOU.

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Day 2780: Sunshine and hurricane

The sunshine in my life includes family, friends, my work as a group therapist, cats, music, this blog, humor, nature, good memories, the riches of the present moment, persistent hope about the future, and a helpful stance of curiosity.

The hurricane in my life includes the imminent death of our sweet, plucky, and ailing kitty Oscar; losses of good friends;  bureaucracies; corrupt world leaders; social injustice; the coronavirus pandemic; and yet another taxes-related fiasco (the IRS rejecting our e-filed return yesterday because “your spouse’s birthday doesn’t match the IRS records”).

When I was freaking out and focusing on the hurricane yesterday, my spouse (whose birthday SHOULD match the IRS records!!!!) said to me:

“What is it that you tell your patients?  Nothing is actually hurting you now. I think the taxes glitch will be easily resolved.”

My spouse brings so much sunshine into my life, even during the hurricane.

Do you see sunshine and/or hurricane in these images from July 4, 2020?

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Here‘s Dolly Parton’s  “Jolene” covered by Sunshine and the Hurricane:

What are your thoughts and feelings about sunshine and hurricane?

I like to end every post, no matter what the weather,  with the sunshine of my gratitude for everything, including YOU.

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Day 2770: _________ People

Hello, people!

The news today is full of __________ people.  How would you fill in the blank?

Today’s Daily Bitch Calendar refers to BEAUTIFUL people.

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Here’s a quote from Chief Red Eagle about ANGRY people and LOVING people:

Angry people want you to see how powerful they are. Loving people want you to see how powerful you are.

I will be seeing LOVING people today at an outdoor memorial gathering for my beloved friend, Eleanor.

__________ people take photos like these:

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Now I’m thinking about APPRECIATIVE people and SOULFUL people.

Ranker.com has a list of The Best Songs About People, Here and now, I’m choosing Curtis Mayfield‘s “We The People Who Are Darker Than Blue.”

GRATEFUL people end their blog posts like this.

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Day 2767: Staring at the Sun

Staring at the Sun: Overcoming the Terror of Death is a book I’ve stared at many times.

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Yesterday, when I was staring at my son in the midday sun …

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… I got the very sad, unexpected, and darkening news that my long-time friend Eleanor had passed away.

Eleanor, who was described in an online memorial as “sunshine, determination, kindness, humor, a keen mind and a really great friend” brought the sun into my life for over 45 years.  Here’s a portion of her obituary:

Eleanor was a caring and giving person, made up of pure love and light, and left nothing but warmth and care with everyone who knew her. She had a contagious smile and strong will. She was the sun on a dark day, the cool breeze on a hot day. The twinkle in her eyes could warm the darkest, most inner part of anyone’s soul. We now have another angel on our side to help us fight for peace, which is what she always wanted. May her spirit continue to guide us through this life, and always remind us to live and lead with our heart. There will be a private ceremony. To make donations in Eleanor’s honor please consider Project Bread, http://www.projectbread.org/, the Kestrel Land Trust https://www.kestreltrust.org/, or the Equal Justice Institute https://eji.org/.

Eleanor last commented on this blog on Mother’s Day:

Eleanor
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY ANN!
And this mother thanks you for all your posts over the years – what I look forward to each day to amuse me, inspire me, make me ponder, and just enjoy.
Peace and love to you

Eleanor was a caring and loving friend who gave me advice, cards, tickets to wonderful events,  rides to appointments when I was dealing with health issues,  and — during rain and shine —  her fabulous company (described here, here, herehere, here, here, here, here, and here,). We talked about cats, haircuts, food, work, politics, children, husbands, other people, social justice, the present, the past, the future, love, and everything else under the sun.

Whenever I asked her if I could put her picture in my blog, she’d say, “Some day.  Not yet.” I can picture the sunshine of her kind, curious, and loving face, right now.

Eleanor gave me these avocado socks …

… and I believe that the last time I saw her we had avocado toast, dining under the sun at a cafe near the shore.  There was such synchronicity and connection between us, we often finished each other’s sentences.

I took many photos yesterday, staring at the sun and the new reality that my long-time friend Eleanor had passed on.

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That last photo of a couple staring at the sun makes me think about Eleanor’s husband, Ira, who sent me the email yesterday about her passing.  May her memory be a comfort to him, her two children, and all who loved her.

As always, I’m staring at gratitude for all I have, here and now.

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Day 2760: Intelligent Civilizations

Yesterday, I noticed this headline on the Forbes website:

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There are at least 36 intelligent alien civilizations in our galaxy,  say scientists. My question is, if we count Earth, are there more than 36?  And what makes an intelligent civilization, any way?

Does an intelligent civilization include:

  • kindness,
  • listening,
  • flexibility,
  • learning from past mistakes,
  • empathy,
  • acceptance of all feelings,
  • balancing emotion and thought,
  • balancing preparation with spontaneity,
  • open mindedness,
  • a sense of humor,
  • creativity,
  • an appreciation of the arts,
  • an appreciation of the present moment,
  • knowledge of history,
  • a commitment to achievable next steps,
  • awareness of others,
  • awareness of self,
  • forgiveness,
  • integrity,
  • equality,
  • peace,
  • charity,
  • resiliency,
  • nourishment,
  • respect for all creatures,
  • sharing,
  • curiosity about differences,
  • connection,
  • growth,
  • healing,
  • hope,
  • love,
  • an awareness of mortality,
  • investments in the future, and
  • a commitment to social change?

How would you describe an intelligent civilization?

Do you see signs of intelligent civilization in my other captured images from yesterday?

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When I search for “Intelligent Civilizations” on YouTube, I find this:

When I search for intelligence in the civilized comments about that video, I find this:

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Aliens don’t come to earth because it has only one star reviews

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2020 really looking like a great filter right now

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The aliens probably just left us on read

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everyone asking “where are the aliens” but not “how are the aliens”

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Arthur C. Clarke — ‘Two possibilities exist: either we are alone in the Universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying.’

Here‘s Christopher Tin conducting the world premiere of “Sogno di Volare”  — the Civilization VI theme song  — performed by the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra and the Angel City Chorale in London, July 19, 2016.

Another sign of intelligent civilization is gratitude, so thanks to all who helped me create todays “Intelligent Civilizations” post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 2759: Way stations

I just found my way to an online way station that has a definition of “way station.”


way station (noun)

Definition of way station

1: a station set between principal stations on a line of travel (such as a railroad)
2: an intermediate stopping place

Synonyms

station, stop

Examples of way station in a Sentence

a way station for truck drivers

Recent Examples on the Web

The house became a gathering place for an indelible cultural moment, a way station for Andy Warhol, Terry Southern, Ike and Tina Turner, and Black Panthers.
— Mark Rozzo, The New Yorker, “Dennis Hopper’s Quiet Vision of Nineteen-Sixties Hollywood,” 22 Dec. 2019


In my way, I tried to make that definition of “way station” a way station (an intermediate stopping place) within today’s post.

I think it’s helpful, here and now, to think of every thing we experience — alone and together — as way stations on our way to where we are going.

Do you see any way stations in my photographs from yesterday?

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As I’m moving among way stations, I often listen to The Way Up by the Pat Metheny Group. Here’s one performance of The Way Up from the way station YouTube:

 

On your way today to other way stations, I hope you spend some time listening to The Way Up and also in the way station of the comments sections, below.

No matter what the way station, I am grateful to be there and grateful for YOU.

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Day 2751: Shadows

Today, the United States is dealing with terrible shadows, cast by many.

Three years ago, this televised Brief History of Racism included  the poet and artist known as Sir Shadow reciting  his ode to Timothy Caughman. Timothy Caughman was a 66-year-old social worker who was stabbed to death in New York City by a 28-year-old white man who had traveled there to kill black men.

 

I’m glad I took pictures of shadows yesterday; otherwise I wouldn’t have found and shared that video with you today.

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What shadows do you see, when you look around?

Without a shadow of a doubt, I am grateful for all who showed up here today.

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Day 2743: Good job!

In my good job as a psychotherapist, I sometimes ask new people how they feel about compliments (including encouraging words like “Good job!”).    They often do a good job honestly answering that they have trouble with compliments. I hope I do a good job explaining that

  • they are not alone in struggling to believe and accept compliments,
  • I like to give compliments, and
  • all my compliments are authentic.

When I was doing my good job in person at my office, I would point out the good clock there with the inscription “Show up.  Be Gentle.  Tell the Truth.”  I think that does a good job explaining the process of therapy for both the patient and the provider.

People are dong a good job accepting authentic compliments when they take them in without internal or external protest and simply say, “Thank you.”

I hope I did a good job yesterday capturing these images around me.

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Michael did an incredibly good job creating Shepherd’s Pie from on-hand good ingredients like potatoes, cheese, mushrooms, carrots, corn, and ground turkey.

I have a good many jobs to complete this weekend for my good professional group therapy organization, Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy.  I will try to follow my good advice to somebody else about doing a good job for the organization: “Have fun with it!”  I hope I did a good job conveying that a good job does not have to be a perfect job.

That reminds me of a good saying I heard on the job:  “Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good.”  Your Secret Mental Weapon  (found here) does a good job describing how that modern saying derives from these good quotes:

Voltaire: “The best is the enemy of the good.”
Confucius: “Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without.”
Shakespeare: “Striving to better, oft we mar what’s well.”

Striving to better this post, I hope I do a good job finding a good enough video.

Here‘s Alicia Keys with her great new song, “Good Job.”

I haven’t done a good job here if I don’t convince you to watch that video of many good workers doing a good job during the coronavirus pandemic.

Good job getting to the end of this post and thanks for reading!

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Day 2740: I forgot

I forgot why I decided to call this post “I forgot.”

Wait!  I remember.

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I forgot to check the celebrity gossip yesterday. I also forgot to share yesterday’s Daily Bitch Calendar.

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I forgot to mention that I think there are many delicate balances in life.

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I forgot what that off-shore structure was for (if I ever knew), but I didn’t forget to take more photos of it yesterday for the amazing blogger Christopher Waldrop (who mentioned it in a comment about yesterday’s post).

I forgot that we bought a Breaking Bad  hat years ago.

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I forgot most of the episodes of Breaking Bad because I binge-watched them so I could watch the final episode with Michael and Aaron.

I forgot that we  bought a silver pen so that the star of Breaking BadBryan Cranston, could sign that hat, but he forgot to come out and meet fans after a performance of the play All the Way in Cambridge before its Broadway opening.  I forgot whether that was the only time he didn’t come out during the Cambridge run of the play, but I think so.

I forgot my cardiologist’s story about meeting Bryan Cranston, but I think it was a good one. (My cardiologist has SO MANY stories and I have so many stories about him.)

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I forgot to feel sad about Oscar’s cancer yesterday, because he is doing so well.

I forgot why yesterday was an all-day “New Event” in my calendar.

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Don’t forget: every day is an all-day new event.

I forgot whether the rest of my photos from yesterday fit today’s topic.

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I forgot to ask a question from that book in my Coping and Healing group yesterday.

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I forgot to take off those socks before my Coping and Healing group, but nobody could see them anyway.

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I forgot to practice keyboards.

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I forgot to read more of that excellent book about how the body remembers trauma.

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I forgot how the ocean looks so different, every friggin’ day.

 

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I forgot to remind you how awesome you are.

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I almost forgot to share that photo of Michael’s latest cooking masterpiece. I forgot to eat crunchy snacks yesterday because Michael’s vegetables are so satisfyingly crunchy.

I forgot all the details of this old Steve Martin routine.

Don’t forget to leave a comment and I never forget to express my gratitude to all my readers, including YOU.

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Day 2735: For now

For now,

  • Oscar seems to be feeling better, perhaps due to his steroid medication,
  • friends and family seem to be well,
  • I am not suffering,
  • a lot of people are in pain,
  • I am facilitating a telehealth version of my Coping and Healing groups five times every week,
  • I am using the word “mute” and “unmute” way too often,
  • I’m working from home for the foreseeable future,
  • I am still President of the Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy,
  • pasta is still my favorite food,
  • the weather in Boston is beautiful,
  • I am living near the water,
  • most people in my neighborhood are wearing masks when they are outside,
  • I see a lot of white male rage,

  • I love Melissa Villasenõr,
  • I believe in skill, perseverance, flexibility,  and luck,
  • I was inexplicably able to fix an inexplicable and annoying display change on my laptop,
  • when somebody calls me “annoying” or any other critical label, I have trouble letting go of that,
  • I think saying “hello” and “goodbye” are both very important,
  • focusing on the future often raises anxiety,
  • I’m trying to avoid fortune telling, mind reading, and the other cognitive distortions,
  • I prefer to live in the now,
  • I am very grateful for all that I have, and
  • I am sharing all my photos from yesterday.

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For now and forever, I don’t drink wine because I’m on Coumadin for the rest of my life. For now, I am totally fine with that.

For now, I need to end this post and get ready for work, so thanks to all who helped me create another “For Now” post, including YOU!

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