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Day 2643: What are your priorities?

On this day, what are your priorities?

Do your priorities include taking care of tasks?


Do your priorities include noticing and appreciating what’s around you throughout the day?







Do your priorities include staying hydrated ?



Do your priorities include keeping track of what belongs to you?

Do your priorities include eating healthy food?


Do your priorities include socializing as best you can during these strange times?


Do your priorities include compassion, kindness, and grace?

Do your priorities include effective communication?


Do your priorities include smiling? Studies show that smiling helps improve your mood (even if you don’t feel like smiling).

Face it!  It can be very difficult to set priorities during changing and uncertain times. My priorities, here and now, include

  • blogging,
  • arranging and conducting on-line therapy groups,
  • forgiving myself for my mistakes,
  • listening,
  • communicating,
  • accepting myself and others,
  • balancing action with thought,
  • hope,
  • safety,
  • letting go of judgment,
  • letting go of worry,
  • finding joy wherever I can,
  • caring for myself and others as best I can, and
  • music (here and here).

As always, my priorities include gratitude, so thanks to all who help me create these daily posts, including YOU.


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Day 2045: Priorities

It’s been over five years since I’ve written a post about priorities,  and writing another one is my priority today.

With the overwhelming amount of information and responsibilities that many of us have, setting priorities can be difficult.

For example, what are the priorities among all the headlines in my Google news feed? Let’s see.

Takeaways from day 5 of the Paul Manafort trial

California fires: 14,000 firefighters now battling 16 major blazes across state

West Hollywood passes resolution to remove President Trump’s Hollywood Walk of Fame Star

In Chicago, One Weekend, 66 Shooting Victims, and Zero Arrests

Parkland school shooter told detective he heard a demon in his head, transcript shows

Armed bystander shot man who opened fire at a crowded Florida park

Former Nev. Senator Paul Laxalt dies at 96

Three employees of real estate company, two family members killed in California plane crash

Venezuela Is In Crisis But Its President Might Be Stronger For It

US economic sanctions against Iran are back in effect

Deadly Tanker Explosion on Italy Highway Causes Extensive Damage

Rand Paul invites Russian lawmakers to visit US

Judge in AT&T Case Ignored ‘Economics and Common Sense,’ Government Says

Facebook: Hey Can We Pretty Please Maybe Have Lots of Your Banking Information Too?

State media gives Google conditional welcome in China

Indra Nooyi’s Pepsi exit: Yet another female CEO replaced by a man

Google officially names Android 9 ‘Pie,’ rolling out to Pixels today and other devices this fall

2019 Ford Mustang Bullitt: What it’s like driving the car made famous by Steve McQueen

Dead Cells beginners guide

Microsoft adding support for Movies Anywhere, giving away free X-Men movie

The Bachelorette’s Becca Kufrin and Garrett Yrigoyen Speak Out on Instagram Controversy

Tristan Thompson Defends His Lunch With Mystery Woman To Khloe Kardashian

Shaun Weiss, actor who played Goldberg in The Mighty Ducks, arrested for public intoxication

Johnny Depp’s Notorious B.I.G.  Movie Pulled From Release Schedule

Don Lemon rips Trump over personal attack

Yankees finally getting their rotation trade prize back

Cleveland Browns: Baker Mayfield show to debut Thursday night

The 15 best 2018 fantasy football team names (that we could print)

Earth at risk of becoming ‘hothouse’ if tipping point reached, report warns

Massive rogue planet found lurking outside our solar system

SpaceX launch: Falcon 9 rocket from Cape Canaveral

Incredible Hulk? Nah, This Glowing, Green Light in the Night Sky is a Comet

What Does It Mean To Be A Doctor With A Disability?

A Soviet-Era Fox Experiment May Finally Reveal The Genes Behind Domestication

“Snapchat dysmorphia”: Selfies, photo filters driving people to plastic surgery, doctors say

Mosquitos in Logan test positive for West Nile virus, officials say

I assume that, depending upon your priorities, your Google news feed might be prioritized differently.

My priorities, here and now, include letting you know that

  1. The news item of the highest priority for me appears eighth from the bottom of that list and
  2. Another personal top-priority news item (today’s special election in Ohio) doesn’t even show up in my Google news feed.

One of my priorities in this blog is including a YouTube video that connects to the post title:


Another one of my priorities for these daily blog posts is sharing my photos from the day before:









Obviously, my priorities today didn’t include repositioning any of those photos. However, my priorities always include thanking all who help me create these posts and — of course! — YOU!

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Day 1938: Paramount

Yesterday, I was near the Paramount Theater in downtown Boston.

Today, it is paramount that I facilitate an all-day retreat for group therapists, where we’ll be talking about paramount issues.

Therefore, I am going to post all my photos of the Paramount  and let you decide which of the photos is paramount for you.

But first, an accurate definition of “paramount” might be paramount at this point.

more important than anything else; supreme.
“the interests of the child are of paramount importance”
synonyms: most important, of greatest/prime importance







Finding one’s purpose is often paramount, no matter how difficult or funny it is.

Because some people think it’s paramount for me to include a video in these blog posts, here’s the result of my search on YouTube for “paramount song”:

It’s not paramount that you leave a comment, but it is paramount for me to thank Boston’s Paramount Theater, the Paramount School of Excellence, and — of course! — YOU.

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Day 964: Who has the time?

Who has the time to do what’s important?

Who has the time to even figure out what those important things are?

Specifically, who has the time to:

  • read blog posts (besides you)?
  • write blog posts (besides me and several other people who read this blog)?
  • take lots of  photos of things that evoke personal memories and associations and which might be interesting to others?


  • go to the movies?

  • wear unusual hats at work (e.g., on the anniversary of the publication of Alice in Wonderland)?

  • play?


  • take much-deserved rests?

  • celebrate birthdays?

  • write clever, eye-catching marketing materials (besides these guys)?

  • attend to aches, pains, and sprains, taking the time to choose among different cold-delivery systems?


  • and, finally, express appreciation (for new shoes and everything else)?

In the end,  we all have the time to get better at setting priorities and making choices. Not unlimited time, but all the time we need.

Who has the time to choose the music for this post?

Thank goodness, the Beatles had time to write timeless music like “The End.” I also have the time, right now, to notice that 3K people had the time to like and 59 people had the time to dislike that video of “The End” on YouTube.

I have the time to make one more point: now that we know that 59 people can go out of their way to take the time to dislike THAT, why do the rest of us take any time at all worrying about what other people might dislike about us?

Who has the time to express any thoughts and feelings about this post?

I now have the time to thank the Beatles, my boyfriend Michael, my cat Oscar, my downstairs neighbor Karen, Faxy the dog who loves and lives with Karen, Mingus the dog who’s visiting before he leaves to love and live with Karen’s daughter and new son-in-law, the staff person who was wearing the Alice in Wonderland hat at Heathrow Airport, Marathon Sports, the produce department at Whole Foods, Penny from Pop Pop! at the Edinburgh Festival Fringe (who threw small potatoes at the audience), and you — of course! — for taking the time, today, exactly the way you are.

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Day 588: How to reduce anxiety

#1: Tell yourself  “It doesn’t matter.”

“It doesn’t matter” is something my 16-year-old son, Aaron, has said to me, when I:

  • had brightly colored food stuck in my front teeth,
  • was running a few minutes late,
  • couldn’t decide what to wear,
  • forgot to tell somebody something,
  • thought I looked terrible,
  • didn’t get enough sleep,
  • said “the wrong thing,”
  • couldn’t find something,
  • made a mistake, or
  • otherwise thought I had screwed something up.

As with anything, “it doesn’t matter” can be overdone.  That is, “it doesn’t matter” — said too much and too often — could be a sign of

  • depression,
  • anger, or
  • adolescence

… but I personally find that phrase an effective anxiety-reducer. This works especially well if I imagine my son’s voice saying it, in my head.

#2:  Freak yourself out by misplacing or losing something, so you can feel relief when the situation is resolved.

In four days, Aaron and I are flying to Edinburgh, Scotland. Regular readers of this blog might remember that I tend to experience some anxiety before traveling.

Yesterday, minutes before Aaron’s final appearance in a local production of “Assassins,” I realized that

something I absolutely needed for the trip

was gone.  My only credit card with an international chip was missing from my wallet.

My first thoughts were

Arrrgh!  You put that friggin’ credit card in your pocket last evening, when you were taking that nice walk with Michael, after Aaron’s show yesterday.

My second thoughts were

What is the matter with you?  You KNOW that when you do that, you lose track of the card and then you catastrophize and think the worst when you can’t find it.  WHY DO YOU DO THIS TO YOURSELF? Isn’t your life INTERESTING ENOUGH, without adding drama like this, especially during stressful times?

My third thought was

It doesn’t matter.  I will find the credit card at home. Or, if I can’t, there is time to order a new one, before we leave for Scotland.

As a result, I was able to let go of enough anxiety to focus on my son on stage, acting and singing as John Wilkes Booth, in a musical written by one of my heroes, Stephen Sondheim.




Then, after the show was over, I went home and found my credit card, within moments.

#3: Set a priority or two, and stick to it.

When many things seem simultaneously important, I can get overwhelmed and anxious.  To cope with this, it helps to have a short list of non-negotiable priorities.

For example, when I write a blog post, it’s very important to me to

  1. give credit to others and
  2. be respectful of personal boundaries, regarding somebody else being included in a post.


  1. I want to tell you that all three photographs shown in this post, so far, were taken by Kathy Tarantola, professional photographer, on the 8/8/14 opening night performance of the Arlington Children’s Theater production of Stephen Sondheim’s “Assassins,” and
  2. my son (with the dyed-brown hair and moustache) approved all three of those photos for use in my blog.

I’m realizing, now, that I haven’t cleared the use of these photos with the other excellent actors appearing in them. It helps me to remember, right now, that if they object, I can always fix that later.

#4:  Do something,  just because you like to.

While it’s not one of my top two priorities, I also like to include photos I have personally taken, in my blog posts.

And I did take some photos of Aaron this weekend, in his triumphant “Assassins” appearances.   But I haven’t cleared using them here, with Aaron.

However, I could show you these photos I took, this weekend:


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And, finally, because I would like a photo of Aaron in “Assassins” to show up as the featured image of this post,  I’m going to end with the fourth photo taken by Kathy Tarantola that Aaron approved:

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Thanks to my son, to Kathy Tarantola, to the town of Arlington (and its surrounding environs),  to people who do their best dealing with anxiety, to those who dare boldly, to wild childs and butterflies, to any other people or organizations who made this post possible, and to you — of course! — for all that you bring here, today.

© Kathy Tarantola Photography, 2014

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