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Day 353: Where there’s a will, there’s a way

The title is something my mother used to say to me. It’s a good title for today’s post, I think, because I finally completed this:

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I’ve had lots of thoughts and feelings about the process of creating that, during this Year of Living Non-Judgmentally (which I blogged about here, here, and elsewhere).

Here are some thoughts and feelings I’m having, today:

I don’t want to mind-read (because that would be a cognitive distortion), but I do wonder if others are having certain thoughts now, like these:

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“Did you leave ME anything?”

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“I know I’m new, more skittish (therefore more blurry), and probably not quite as loved yet, but … did you leave ME anything?”

I probably AM projecting onto others, here.  But it’s difficult not to do that, you know?

Anyway, it was quite a process, completing that will. I mean, it took 60 friggin’ years. And, as Indiana Jones said:

“It’s not the years, honey, it’s the mileage.”*

Speaking of mileage, here are some shots I took, yesterday, on my journey to sign that will:

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The building on the left is where my parents lived their last years together.  That’s where I saw my father, for the last time, in 1997. I am so grateful for that encounter, still. Before I left that day, he said to me, “Give me five,” holding his hand up high. I replied, “I’ll give you ten,” and I gave him a hug.

Here’s another, clearer shot of that building:

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My parents lived on the second floor, on the right.

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Here’s where I spent a lot of hours, as a kid, reading and choosing books to take home:

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When I took those books home, this is similar to what I would see:

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And this is where I read those books:

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This is what I sometimes saw, when I would leave my home, back then:

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When I visited yesterday, I did see some new things, including this:

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It’s nice that some people can attain Nirvana every day, isn’t it?

Here’s a photo (taken when I was heading back home last night) that’s related to that, I believe:

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I hope I remember that flashy Stop sign** the next time I have a thought that doesn’t help me.  Because, the more I can let go of unhelpful thoughts, the more I can do these things (suggested by a bumper sticker last night):

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And I’ve got some time to do those, apparently,  because a lawyer promised me, yesterday, that signing my will wouldn’t kill me.

Being a lawyer, he immediately added, “And if it does, at least now you have a will.”

Thanks to all who contributed to creating this post and — of course!! — to you, for visiting.


* I wanted to find a sound or video clip for that, but c’est la vie.

** Check out the antidote of “Thought Stopping,” here.

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Day 70: Questions and Answers (and The Liebster Blog Award)

First question of this post:  What is the Liebster  Blog Award?

First answer of this post: It is, apparently, a kind of tag-team award that WordPress bloggers give each other.  Last week, frankiedman, a blogger whom I respect and follow here,  tagged me for this award.

Here are the “rules of engagement” for the Liebster Blog Award:

  1. Each person must post 11 things about themselves.
  2. Answer the questions that the tagger has set for you plus create 11 questions for the people you’ve tagged to answer.
  3. Choose 11 people and link them in your post.
  4. Go to their page and tell them.
  5. No tag backs!

It took me about a week to respond back to frankiedman’s tag, but today’s the day!

I’m glad to participate in this (despite my I’ve-never-done-this-before anxiety).  The format appeals to my natural affinity for questions and answers.

I enjoy games that involve questions and answers.  As a matter of fact, I will take any opportunity to turn a regular conversation into a game of 20 Questions, by asking  the following question at any point:

“Wanna guess?”

As in, “Hey, something really unusual happened to me today.  Wanna guess?”

When I’m at my best at my job (as a psychotherapist), I’m in touch with my natural curiosity about people.

The last place I worked (before my current job)  was a day program where we did groups all day.  In the last group of the day — which was called “Wrap Up” —  we would end that group with a Wrap Up Question, which everybody — staff and clients — answered.

Here are some of the Wrap Up questions I heard and answered during my 12 years there:

  1. What’s your favorite ice cream flavor?
  2. If you were to write the story of your life, what might be the title?
  3. What’s a nickname you’ve had or one that you would give yourself?
  4. What was your favorite book, when you were a kid?
  5. If they made a movie of your life, what actor would you choose to play you?
  6. What’s your fantasy job?
  7. Who is your favorite musician?
  8. Who is somebody you admire?
  9. What’s your favorite movie?
  10. What’s a song you’d choose for your “theme song”?
  11. If you could be any animal for a day, what would you be (and why)? 

When I first interviewed for a job at that day program, I liked a lot of what I saw.  Attending the Wrap Up meeting sealed the deal for me — I knew I wanted to work there. Why? Because I loved the curiosity and playfulness in that ritual of questions at the end of the day.  I appreciated that everybody answered the questions. I liked that anybody could pose the question.  I loved the questions. I loved the answers.

So thank you, Frankiedman, for nominating me for this award, and inviting me to participate in a Festival of questions and answers.

For the 11 things to reveal about myself, I’m going to answer those Wrap Up questions I posted above.

  1. My favorite ice cream flavor is Cinnamon Chocolate Chip.
  2. The title for a book about my life?  Perhaps “I’m Making This Up As I Go,”  (a line from “Raiders of the Lost Ark”).
  3. I never had a nick-name.  People have called me “Annie,” every once in a while, but that doesn’t fit for me.  I like the idea of the nick-name “Ace.”
  4. My favorite book when I was a kid was “Charlotte’s Web.”
  5. I would choose the actress Debra Winger to play me.
  6. My fantasy job is back-up singer for a musician I love (although my current job is getting close to a fantasy job).
  7. My favorite musician is Pat Metheny, the jazz guitarist.
  8. Somebody I admire is my son.
  9. My favorite movie is the Gene Kelly musical “Singin’ in the Rain.”
  10. The theme song I’d choose today is “I Can See Clearly Now.”
  11. If I could be any animal for a day, I would choose to be a duck, because a duck can fly in the air, walk on land, and swim in the water (and it can quack).

I will now answer the 11 questions that Frankiedman asked when he nominated people:

  1. What’s your favorite food?

Pasta!

  1. Why did you start blogging?

Because I was working on a book that was a combination of a Memoir and Therapy Ideas, and a friend suggested that I try blogging.  And it’s a great fit for the way I like to communicate, with freedom, flexibility, and interactivity.

  1. Name one thing you would like to do before leaving this earth.

One long-standing one was to go to a Red Sox World Series game, which I did in 2007.   I want to travel to several places including Italy, Greece, and Peru (I’m fascinated by ancient ruins).

  1. Where do you live?

Massachusetts, USA.

  1. What time is it?

7:54 AM as I’m writing this line. It’s the Monday after a Daylight Savings time change.  I usually feel very cranky and “off” the Monday after a time change, but so far, so good.

  1. Whats the weirdest thing you have ever eaten?

A recipe I made once with beets and cheese. Never again.

  1. Whats your favorite childhood movie?

“West Side Story.”  (I don’t remember any kids movies I saw, and I remember loving that movie so much when I was a kid.)

  1. Why did the chicken cross the road?

Because that was exactly where it was supposed to be.

  1. Are you having fun yet?

Absolutely

  1. Do you have pets?

I have a cat named Oscar.

  1. Whats your favorite animal?

Felines.

Here are 11 bloggers I enjoy reading here,  and whom I’m “tagging” to participate in this Liebster Award chain.  I’m asking them to answer the same 11 Wrap Up Questions I answered.

http://teetotalfortwo.wordpress.com/

http://thegirlinthehat.wordpress.com/

http://5kidswdisabilities.com/

http://morristownmemos.wordpress.com/  (she already has received this award, so she requested that I pass it on to a 12th blogger)

http://aopinionatedman.com/

http://urbanwallart.wordpress.com/

http://binabrakken.wordpress.com/

http://corngoblin.wordpress.com/

http://gongjumonica.wordpress.com/

http://parentingandstuff.wordpress.com/

http://meganhasocd.com/

http://cristianmihai.net/about/

Thanks  to the bloggers above. And thanks for reading, everybody!  And feel free to answer any of these questions (or pose your own).

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