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Day 1978: Resentment

I hope there’s no resentment about today’s topic, which is discussed by Robert Enright, Ph.D. in a Psychology Today online article “Why Resentment Lasts — and How to Defeat it.”

I hope there’s no resentment about my choosing these particular quotes over others from that article:

To psychologists, resentment over a long period of time can be an unhealthy response to injustice.

This kind of resentment can lead to unhappiness, continual irritability, and psychological compromise including excessive anxiety and depression.

I know of one person who, upon having his morning cup of coffee, would replay the injustice and feel the inner strength as a way of getting ready for the day. He did this until he realized that over the long-term, such a routine was leaving him drained before he even left for work

How do I turn off the resentment?  What path do I take to have some inner quiet?  Taking up jogging might do it……but once you have recovered your energy from the run, the anger returns.  How about relaxation training?  Same issue: once the muscle relaxation is over, there is the resentment with its perverse smile looking back at you.  “I just don’t know how to rid myself of the resentment!” is a cry I hear too often.

Try to see the inner world of the one causing the disturbance.

Commit to doing no harm to the one who is harming you.

Stand in the pain so that you do not pass that pain to innocent others.

To forgive is a way of offering goodness to the one who gave you the unwanted present of resentment.

Which is the better identity: a life lived with an unwanted inner guest or a life free to be a conduit of good toward others and yourself?

Is there any resentment about these photos?

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What is your personal experience of resentment?  What makes resentment more difficult for you? What helps you deal with resentment?

There will be no resentment about any comments you send my way.

Here‘s “Resentment” by Beyonce.

Another great antidote for resentment is gratitude.  Thanks to all who helped me create this “resentment” post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1950: What makes you smile?

What makes you smile?

It makes me smile to remember that smiling helps you and others feel better. (See There’s Magic in Your Smile: How Smiling Affects Your Brain for many reasons to smile.)

Do the complete lyrics of my first original song make you smile?

I love a lot of people,

My friends know that I do.

Human beings are my favorite things

But I don’t like you.

 

There aren’t a lot of a-holes

Within my immediate view.

But you are one

and I’m pretty much done

And I don’t like you.

 

I don’t like you.

You’re a notable exception

To my usual perception

That people are divine.

 

I don’t like you.

If I could I would avoid you.

You are like a hemorrhoid on

The beautiful butt of mankind.

 

There may be tragic reasons

Your unpleasant qualities grew.

I try to be kind,

Have an open mind,

Still I don’t like you.

© Ann Koplow, 2018

Do any of my photos from yesterday make you smile?

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I am interested in the Mind body connection and also in music that makes people smile.

 

Of course, a comment from you would make me smile.

Finally, gratitude makes me smile, no matter where I find it.

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Day 1778: Love what is

I love what is on the hallway wall of Jane Hoffmann.

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Do you love what is on Jane’s wall?

Shall we love what is in the rest of today’s post?

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What might  help us love what is the most difficult day of the week to love? How about this?

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I love what is on that card.

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Oops!  I love what is a mistake, imperfection, or oversight, especially if I can correct it. I almost forgot to include a song for today.

I love what is in that YouTube video of Matt Corby singing “Monday.”

Love what is your reaction to today’s blog.

I love what is the latest way I’m expressing gratitude to all who help me create these posts and to those who read them — including YOU.

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