This morning, I would like to present some random thoughts I’m having about direct communication.
I need to warn you, before I begin, that there ARE obstacles to direct communication, here and elsewhere, including
- the wish to avoid hurting somebody’s feelings,
- confidentiality issues,
- uncertainty about what is appropriate to reveal in different circumstances with different people,
- realizing that people can be uncomfortable with direct communication, at times,
- the fact that direct communication is not easy and takes practice, and
- confusion about what direct communication actually IS, especially if it wasn’t practiced much by the people around you, when you were growing up.
I want to be direct, now, and share with you, if possible, a simple definition of direct communication.
Okay, I’m having trouble coming up with this, right now.
Maybe an example would help.
Nope, I’m having trouble with that, too. All my current examples have to do with issues at work and in my personal life, and I don’t feel comfortable revealing any of them, in the blogosphere, right now.
I want to talk directly to the people involved, before sharing details with you.
It might be helpful — and it might give this post some more direct value — if I check my past blog posts, to see if I’ve written about this before.
Aha! I have! Approximately 225 days ago (but who’s counting?), I published Day 375: Direct Communication.
I’m skimming that post now (with one eye on the time) and wondering this: “How direct was I being in THAT post?”
OMG! I just realized — as I was linking to THAT post — that we have an unprecedented three-fer or three-peat, ladies and gentlemen, here in the Land of Living Non-Judgmentally. To be more direct, I wrote ANOTHER post with the same title, over a hundred days before that one: Day 172: Direct communication.
I just skimmed that earliest of my Direct Communication posts and I directly want to say this: I recommend that you read that one. It’s short, to the point, and helpful, in my opinion.
But of course, I wrote all of them, so how credible is my opinion, in this case?
What else would I like to directly communicate to you, right now?
Just this: I’ve learned something, this morning. Direct Communication is an ongoing issue for me. That is, I still have much to learn about this, before I am done.
How do I know? Well, to communicate as directly as I can:
I keep writing about it here, don’t I?
I’m not sure what I’ll be able to directly communicate, now, with recent photos from my iPhone, but here goes: