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Day 2426: Say YES to …

Yesterday morning, after saying YES to sharing another daily blog post, I looked at a previously published post, also titled “Messes,’ and found this:

I will tell you that I messily shared at the end of the group session my inspiration to make a new t-shirt that says, “Say YES to the mess.”

Over two years later, I am belatedly saying YES to that intention by designing and ordering this t-shirt:

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I said YES to that typestyle of “Say YES to the Mess” because it’s called “Unkempt.” YES!

Here on this blog, and also in my therapy groups, we often discuss how and when to say NO, but it’s equally important to know how and when to say YES.

Say YES to …

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… listening to music you love.

Say YES to …

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… being mindful and non-judgmental of your moods.

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… observing what’s around you.

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… long life by practicing good habits.

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… the most valuable people in your life.

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… creating your dreams, even if it’s just one.

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… welcoming all.

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… whimsey.

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… the dress (I THINK that’s what that is).

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… beautiful sunrises and sunsets.

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… staying in touch.

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… curiosity, partnership, empathy, apology (when appropriate), reflection, legitimization, support, and wellness.

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… sharing what’s important to you with other people.

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… feelings.

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… flowers.

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… safety.

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… love.

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… healthy hearts, fewer worries, and good sleep!

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… group support.

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… taking the stairs.

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… Yoko, a valued member of the Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy executive board, who says YES to fresh fruit in her drinks and who also says YES to sitting with Oscar.

What do YOU say YES to?

Here‘s “Ascent” by Lyle Mays (featured, yes, in this post).

I always say YES to gratitude at the end of these posts, so thanks to all who helped me create this one and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 2405: Live with intention.

Yesterday, when several of us were living with intention and saying goodbye to our long-time social work manager (who always has the best intentions), I saw this:

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live with intention. walk to the edge. listen hard. play with abandon. practice wellness. laugh.  risk love. continue to learn. appreciate your friends.  choose with no regret.  stand by your family.  celebrate the holidays that make sense.  lead or follow a leader.  do what you love. live as if this is all there is.   — mary anne radmacher

I copied those words-to-live-by with intention, so I could “remember and do what matters” (another intentional quote by Mary Anne Radmacher).

Steve, the social work manager who is retiring, has lived with intention where we work for almost forty years.  If it wasn’t for his intention, I would not be living and working with intention as  I am now.  Steve posted my position eight years ago through the Northeastern Society of Group Psychotherapy, intentionally stating he was looking for somebody with “a passion for groups.”

Last night, I told Steve that I had quoted him, with intention,  in my group that day, as follows:

Never worry alone.

If you click on that “Never worry alone” link with intention, you’ll see that I quoted Steve in this intentionally daily blog one thousand, five hundred and sixty-six days ago (but who’s counting with intention?).

Steve spoke with intention last night, ending with “I love you all.”

I shall now share my other photos from yesterday, with intention.

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I organized those photos with intention.

Here‘s Kaitlyn Aurelia Smith with “An Intention”  live on Soundcheck at WNYC.

I invite you to comment with intention, below.

Every day, I express gratitude, with intention, for all who help me create these intentional posts and — of course! — for YOU.

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Day 2398: Get in touch

Yesterday, when I was getting in touch with many feelings about saying goodbye to four members of the Northeastern Society of Group Psychotherapy board of directors (who had completed their three years of service), I noticed this on my phone:

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It’s true that, in my work as a group therapist, I focus on making it easier for people to get in touch (with themselves and with others).  However, I doubt that adding a phone number to Oscar the cat’s Facebook page will make it easy for people to get in touch. Oscar doesn’t answer the phone, although by touching my iPhone yesterday he somehow managed to delete four important apps:  Waze, Wallet, Google, and Notes! Thank goodness it was easy to get in in touch with Apple support and recover those apps.

Soon after getting in touch with Apple support,  I supported people in a Coping and Healing group getting in touch with thoughts and feelings about positive feedback. Here’s what I touched on yesterday as I filled out my own Positive Feedback worksheet.

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Are you in touch with

  • how you tend to respond to compliments and other types of positive feedback?
  • positive and appreciative things people have said about you?
  • positive things you have recognized in yourself?

It’s time to get in touch with my other photos from yesterday.

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To help us get in touch with what we wanted to say at the Board Meeting last night,  I transformed that F-bomb into a “Farewell” bomb that people could touch as they were speaking.

Get in touch with “Get in Touch” by FireHouse:

 

You can get in touch with me in the comments sections, below.

Every day, it’s easy for me to get in touch with my gratitude for all, including YOU!

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Day 2389: On a roll

I’m on a roll, as I roll out this definition:

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experiencing a prolonged spell of success or good luck.
“the organization is on a roll”

I’m on a roll in my role as President of the Northeastern Society of Group Psychotherapy.

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I’m on a roll in my role as songwriter, because I wrote a new song yesterday.

 

Everybody’s Somebody’s Asshole

by Ann Koplow

 

Everybody’s somebody’s asshole.

Everybody’s somebody’s jerk.

You may think you’re great,

But you’re bound to irritate

Someone when you’re driving or at work.

Everybody’s somebody’s asshole.

Everybody’s somebody’s creep.

Even if you’re nice,

You needn’t wonder twice

You’ve definitely disturbed somebody’s sleep.

Who’s your asshole?

Whose asshole are you?

We’re all assholes

In somebody’s view.

Everybody’s somebody’s asshole.

Some asshole told me that long ago.

It might cause you grief

Or give you some relief

That it’s okay to let your asshole show.

© Ann Koplow, 2019

 

If I used an old-fashioned camera, all these photos might be on a roll:

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Dinner was on a roll Sunday night, but not last night.

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Here (and here) are two versions of Head Like a Hole/On a Roll:

 

Trent Reznor, Miley Cyrus, and Black Mirror are all on a roll.

Time to roll out the comments, below!

I’m on a roll with my daily gratitude, so thanks to all who helped me create this “On a Roll” post and — of course! — thanks to YOU.

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Day 2387: What would you like the power to do?

Yesterday, after a day of owning my  power at the Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy annual conference (Diving In: From the Shallows to the Deep) and on my way to a wonderful party at the home of one of the NSGP members, I saw this sign:

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What would you like the power to do? I would like the power to

  • speak up,
  • grow,
  • be confident,
  • play,
  • influence,
  • encourage people to heal in group therapy,
  • reach people through this blog, and
  • share my other photos from yesterday.

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I wish our current national leaders had the power to be nice and I’m wondering about the power of the upcoming New Hampshire presidential primary.

I would like the power to share my one video from yesterday, but I will have to power up my phone to do that after I share this post via my laptop.

Here, here, here, and here are the original songs I played at the party last night that one powerful  person had the power to call “Brilliant.”

The brilliant person at the party had the power to convince me to try to do a workshop at next year’s conference based on my original songs.

Would you like the power to comment?

I have the power to do gratitude at this daily blog, so thanks to all who gave me the power to create today’s post and — of course! — to YOU.

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I have the power to share this video of my singing my conference committee gratitude song at the NSGP business meeting yesterday. I also have the power to sing it today at the end of the conference, when it may be more powerful.

 

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Day 2384: 2 c or not 2 c

Yesterday, I chose to see this at a hospital parking lot …

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… and it occurred to me that we choose what to see and what not to see.

For example, because my eye was red yesterday …

 

… I chose 2  C  several eye-related things.

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Because I have an unusual heart, I often choose 2 C heart-related things.

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Because it’s Pride Week, I chose 2 C this:

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Because I want to avoid collisions, I chose 2 C these:

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Here are more things I chose 2 C yesterday:

 

Were U able 2 C that these socks …

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… are Ouija Board socks?  I choose 2 C that those socks are 4 people who want 2 C into the future.

I choose 2 C that Prince‘s song “I Would Die 4 U” is on YouTube, at least 4 now:

I also choose 2 C that Prince’s birthday is tomorrow, June 7.   I also choose 2 C that tomorrow is the start of the Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy’s annual conference in Boston.

What do you choose 2 C and not 2 C in today’s blog post?

I always choose 2 C gratitude, so thanks 2 all who helped me 2 create this “2 C or not 2 C” post and — of course! — 2 U!

 

 

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Day 2381: M.I.A.

Last night, at a Sunday working meeting to prepare for next weekend’s group therapy conference, somebody told me they thought I’d been M.I.A. for the last few days. I had many thoughts about that, including:

  • “Missing In Action”?  I’ve been right here all along!
  • Does that mean I’ve been Missing Important Action?
  • Has my responsiveness and accessibility changed since my son came home for the summer?
  • People notice when I’m missing!
  • I’m missing my very close friend from the organization, who passed away this time last year.
  • I don’t like to miss anything.

Last night, I dreamed about being lost with my sister and my son, leaving them to find help, and then missing my phone and ways to get back to them.  I was searching desperately for everything that was missing, over and over again, and then told somebody in my dream, “I can never get a break!”

I woke up deciding to write about M.I.A. Then I noticed that, as usual,  the action in some of my latest photos fit the action of my daily topic. I don’t want you to be missing any of those pictures, so here they are:

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Here‘s “Borders” by M.I.A.

I don’t want to be missing the action in your comments, so please leave one below.

Gratitude is never M.I.A. here, so thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 2358: We want to know what you think!

I don’t know what you think, but when I see a sign that says people want to know what I think …

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… I often think this:

They want to sell me something.

I think I might be too suspicious, especially since I always tell people in my Coping and Healing groups that I want to know what they think.

I let people in my groups know that I want to know what they think (and feel) by naming what I’m curious about in the moment, which often includes

  • their experience of whatever mindfulness exercise we did at the beginning of the group,
  • everything that’s happened since the last time I saw them,
  • what’s going on for them in the moment (including thoughts, feelings, and body experiences),
  • anything they’re aware of that might be contributing to what’s going on for them in the moment, and
  • many other curious thoughts I’m having.

Then I shut up, to let them know I’m more interested in what they think than I am in what I think.

I want to know what you think about my other photos from yesterday.

 

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I want to know what you think about things I might do during my week off from work, besides

  • walk and observe nature,
  • see lots of flowering trees,
  • spend time with friends,
  • enjoy delicious food,
  • complete a *%$*&#@ form for the Internal Revenue Service,
  • chair a board meeting of group therapists,
  • let people know about the Northeastern Society for  Group Psychotherapy‘s June conference,
  • celebrate Mother’s Day,
  • miss my late mother, and
  • appreciate each precious moment.

I want to know what you think of this song:

 

We want to know what you think of this post, of course.

Do you want to know what I think?  I’m thinking thoughts of gratitude for all those who helped me create today’s blog and — of course! — for YOU.

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Day 2348: Struck

I’m struck by how I’ve never used the word “struck” in a blog post title before.

I’m struck by how I’ve used the word “struck” in 13 previous blog posts, including Day 1966: Memorable linesDay 1875: Tipping Point, Day 1292: Seeing patients, Day 981: Righteous Numbers, Day 956: Never Give Up, Day 717: Interrupting, Day 463: Surprises, Day 367: Screen Shots, Day 364: What day is it?, Day 284: We never know how we affect people (The Ta-Da Pose),  Day 100: I Confess, Day 75: Things that make me go _____, and Day 58: Accelerated learning.

I’m struck by how …

  • long it takes me to do one of these “linking to old posts” openings,
  •  much my blog has changed over the years,
  • relevant some of those old post titles seem to me today,
  • many challenges I’ve been struck by (but not struck down by) over the years, and
  • many of my photos from yesterday connect with today’s title.

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I’m struck by how

  • long it takes me to make photo montages look right,
  • much I love being a group therapist,
  • many gates there are around Fenway Park, and
  • wonderful it is to live near the water.

Here’s the award-winning short film Struck:

 

What are you struck by, here and now?

As usual, I’m struck by gratitude for all who help me create these daily posts and — of course! — for YOU.

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Day 2346: What would you do?

Yesterday, I asked my readers “What would I do without you?”  

Today, I want to shift the focus to what YOU would do.

What would you do if …

  • somebody made a comment you had trouble answering?
  • you loved a certain dish but nobody could make it like your late mother did?
  • a family member stopped talking to you?
  • you wanted to stay open to all possibilities?
  • you started writing a new song four days before a Friday night Open Mic?
  • you had a backlog of unfinished original songs including one called “Rhetorical Questions?”
  • you wanted to spend more Friday evenings with your significant other who doesn’t like Open Mics?
  • you had pets that didn’t seem to like each other very much?
  • you had the chance to spend some time in historic Charlestown, Massachusetts?
  • you had trouble making decisions?
  • the news rarely reflected your personal experience of human beings?
  • you encountered sexism, racism, anti-Semitism, ageism,  homophobia, or other injustices?
  • you saw some beautiful rainbows when you were driving?
  • you wanted to be present to every moment but also capture some of them on your cell phone?

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What would you do if you found this channel on YouTube?

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwdo8-3UrfZ9scHPl0m4Ysg

What would you do if you found this song on YouTube?

 

What would you do if you had trouble just asking for things but you wanted comments?

What would you do if you had so much gratitude to all?

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