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Day 2264: Choices

Exactly three hundred and seven days/posts ago (but whose choice is it to count?), I published a post titled “Choices” in which I chose to share an exercise about the topic of “Choices” from a therapy group the day before.   Today, my repetitive choice is to mention yesterday’s therapy group, wherein people made choices to focus on the topic “Choices” from all the topics discussed and to share (1) important choices from the past, (2) choices coming up for them, and (3) what makes choices more difficult or easier.

My photographic choices yesterday included these choice images:

 

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Note that a patient made the choice of “anticipation” over “hopelessness” from the feeling chart on my office door:

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Also, I didn’t make the choice to photograph my list of important life choices, which included:

  • Going back to social work school to become a therapist in the 1990s,
  • Deciding to specialize in group therapy, and
  • Developing my Coping and Healing groups.

What important life choices have you made?

Earlier this week, I made the choice to ask Nat —  a social work intern and fellow musician —  to write a song with me, which we will choose to perform together, singing close and choice harmonies, at a future open mic..  Together Nat and I have already made some choices including this one:  I write the lyrics and Nat writes the music.

My choice is to share these lyrics with you:

Nobody’s Perfect

lyrics by Ann Koplow

Nobody’s perfect

Even us two.

We try to be perfect

But that doesn’t do.

We both make mistakes,

In that, we’re like you.

Nobody’s perfect.

That’s perfectly true.

Nobody’s perfect,

Including your friends.

If you’re looking for perfection

Those friendships might end.

Your friends make mistakes,

In that, they’re like you.

Nobody’s perfect.

That’s perfectly true.

Perfectionism makes us imperfectly judgy,

Rigid, unhappy, refusing to budge-y,

It makes thoughts and feelings uncomfortably sludgey

With harsh self-flagellation even if you’re just pudgy.

Nobody’s perfect,

Even a star.

Stars may need to look perfect

But they seldom are.

They all make mistakes,

In that they’re  like you.

Nobody’s perfect

And that’s perfectly true.

© Ann Koplow, 2019

 

Nat chose to tell me he’s glad we’re writing a song together with the choice words “self-flagellation.”

Nat made the choice yesterday to send me some choice music he’s already composed for “Nobody’s Perfect.” Soon, we’ll be making  more musical choices together, including featuring the choice fiddle stylings of our talented co-worker, Alice Malone.

Other people have made the choice to write songs titled “Nobody’s Perfect” including this one:

I wonder what choices my readers will make in the comments section, below.

As always, I make the choice to end my posts with gratitude for all those who helped me create this post and — of course! — YOU, for making the choice to visit this blog, here and now.

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Day 1216: So what if …?

One of the stress-relieving “antidotes” I give people in therapy is this:

The So What? Technique. Consider that an anxiety-producing possibility (even the worst case scenario) might not be as bad as you fear. For example, “So what if this one person doesn’t like me? Not everybody is going to like me.” or “So what if I lose my cell phone? It’ll be an incredible hassle, but I’ll be able to deal with it.”

So what if …

  1. I’ve already blogged about this technique before, over a thousand days ago?
  2. I confuse the link icon with the quote icon on WordPress all the time?
  3. I considered many different topics for today’s post before I settled on this one and one of those other topics might have made a “better” blog post?
  4. “Better” and “worse” are relative and subjective?
  5. My patients have to do without me for one week while I’m on vacation?
  6. We can’t  please everybody all the time?
  7. Nobody’s perfect?
  8. It’s difficult to balance other people’s needs with our own needs?
  9. I dropped my iPhone this week and the glass is now a little cracked?
  10. Somebody tried to log into my Facebook account from India yesterday?
  11. I probably won’t get a call back when I audition for “The Voice” for the second time, in June?
  12. I might make some mistakes when I sing at an Open Mic next Friday?
  13. My son is going far away from home to the University of Edinburgh this year?
  14. Something always needs repairing and around here, it’s usually one of the two toilets?
  15. I can’t say “yes” to every social invitation?
  16. People are inevitably going to hurt other people’s feelings, some times?
  17. Not everybody is going to feel the same way about us that we feel about them?
  18. The flowering trees in the Boston area might not be as spectacular this spring, because of the April snow?
  19. One of our cats sticks to me like glue and the other one runs away from me?
  20. My cardiologist says I can’t ride mopeds or scooters any more?
  21. My son can’t attend the annual Sheepshearing Festival in Waltham, Massachusetts today with me and my boyfriend because he’s doing a run-through of another play he wrote with his friend Cameron?
  22. This list is so long that people might be skimming it, at this point?
  23. I keep adding to this list even after I published this post?
  24. These are the only pictures I have to share with you today?

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So what if you can’t choose a favorite picture there?

So what if you don’t like this tune, which I LOVE?

So what if I never locate a copy of the Berklee College of Music recruitment video I helped create in the 1990s, which used that tune in the opening?

So what if people don’t leave a lot of comments about this post?

So what if I need to write another blog post approximately  24 hours after I publish this one? I love doing this, every day. Thank you for being a part of it, here and now.

 

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