Do you ever get stuck in a behavior, a feeling, or a thought? Do you ever repeat patterns of acting or thinking you KNOW are neither positive nor helpful?
If you answered “yes,” you are NOT alone in your stuck-ness.
If you answered “no,” could you let the rest of us know how you stick to being unstuck?
Here’s why I’m stuck thinking about getting unstuck today:
- Tomorrow I go back to work helping others get unstuck in their lives, after two weeks of being wonderfully unstuck from my regular routines, on vacation.
- One article I read while in Social Work graduate school — that has stuck with me for decades — suggested that all mental/behavioral health diagnoses could be replaced with a single, one-word diagnosis: “Stuck.”
- While I’ve made a lot of progress in my own life, I still get stuck in certain ways of thinking, reacting, and behaving I KNOW are unhelpful, outdated, and automatic.
Let’s stick to the title of this post — “Getting Unstuck.” How do those of us who know we get stuck start unsticking from old, unhelpful habits of thinking and behaving?
Before I share some getting-unstuck advice, I invite you to stick to your own wisdom and experience.
What’s one thing you’ve learned in your life about getting unstuck, even temporarily?
Stick with that question, for a moment. What memories, images, or other associations about getting unstuck are sticking with you, now? If you stick any of those in a comment here, you might help others get unstuck, too.
Because I’m stuck with that promise I made to share something I have learned, in my long life, about getting unstuck, here it is:
When you feel stuck, get in touch with your experience and your intuition and do ONE THING differently. Then, notice the other changes that one simple change creates.
With all of you as my witnesses, I now pledge to do one thing differently when I return to work tomorrow. In order to get unstuck from old and unhelpful post-vacation habits, I am going to consciously allow the many wonderful feelings, thoughts, and images from eight glorious days in Edinburgh, Scotland to stick around, for a long time.
We’ll see how long I can stick with that.
If I had brought my Scottish walking stick back with me to U.S., perhaps that stick would help me stick to sustaining and change-inspiring memories of freedom, creativity, beauty, and growth. However, I left that stick behind on the streets of Edinburgh, stuck with the hope that walking stick might help somebody else — who might need support — move forward through that cobble-stoned city.
Because I have no pictures of that stick, I’ll stick to other images, old and new:
What music might help us all stick to those things that help us get unstuck in our lives?
I’m sticking with a song that’s familiar to me: the Scottish Gerry Rafferty and Stealers Wheel performing “Stuck in the Middle with You,” stuck back in the United Kingdom circa 1973.
Unsticking thanks to all who helped me stick to this topic, today, and to you — of course! — for sticking around for the end of this post.