Posts Tagged With: McCoy Tyner

Day 2660: Get Seen, Be Loved

Yesterday, when I arrived back in Boston, I saw two signs that summed up my experience at the American Group Psychotherapy Association annual conference, Connect 2020.

IMG_2199

IMG_2200

Getting seen and being loved, to me,  beautifully expresses the healing power of groups.

These recent photos are waiting to get seen and be loved.

IMG_2168

IMG_2166

IMG_2186

IMG_2170

IMG_2196

IMG_2195

IMG_0278

IMG_2193

IMG_2194

IMG_2192

IMG_2189

IMG_2197

IMG_2198

IMG_2201

Get seen, be loved, even with all the mess.

For the second day in a row, I want the late, great McCoy Tyner to get seen and be loved here.

If you’d like to get seen and be loved, please leave a comment, below.

As always, I am grateful to all who help me get seen and be loved, every day.

IMG_2191

Categories: group therapy, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 15 Comments

Day 2659: We really don’t know how we affect other people

Two thousand, five hundred, and forty-one days ago (but who’s counting?), I wrote another blog post with the same title as this one.

We really don’t know how we affect other people.

Rhys — the welcoming, perceptive, kind, aware, attentive, versatile, soulful, generous,  and lovable server at Junior’s restaurant in New York City — really didn’t know how he affected me until I published yesterday’s blog post (and today’s!).

I really didn’t know how I affected Rhys until he showed me his instagram account yesterday and asked to get some pictures with me yesterday.

fullsizeoutput_431d fullsizeoutput_4317

IMG_2175

fullsizeoutput_4321

fullsizeoutput_431f

I really don’t know how I affect other people by sharing thoughts and images here, including these:

IMG_2179

IMG_2172

IMG_2187

IMG_2162

fullsizeoutput_4319

fullsizeoutput_431e

fullsizeoutput_431c

fullsizeoutput_431a

fullsizeoutput_4318

IMG_2167

I’ve encountered so many people during my experience at this year’s American Group Psychotherapy Association conference. They really don’t know how they affected me, which was profoundly.

Perhaps McCoy Tyner, the incredible jazz pianist who died yesterday, didn’t really know how he affected other people.  Here‘s one of the most affecting pieces of music I’ve ever heard (performed live in Berlin in 1990):

Here‘s the recording of “Fly with the Wind” which has affected me for decades:

Here‘s another incredible piece from the same album:

We really don’t know how we affect other people unless we tell each other. I want to tell you how I grateful I am for all of you, every day.

fullsizeoutput_431b

fullsizeoutput_4320

fullsizeoutput_4322

Categories: group therapy, in memoriam, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 21 Comments

Day 2245: Expendable

Yesterday, in a therapy session, somebody talked about feeling expendable.  When someone labels themselves in a painful way, I write the word up on the board, to get it out of the person’s head and so that we can look at the label with different perspectives, perhaps making the unhelpful label expendable.

IMG_2493.JPG

A definition of “expendable” may be expendable, but I’m sharing it anyway.

ex·pend·a·ble
/ikˈspendəb(ə)l
adjective
of little significance when compared to an overall purpose, and therefore able to be abandoned.
“the region is expendable in the wider context of national politics”
synonyms: dispensable, able to be sacrificed, replaceable
(of an object) designed to be used only once and then abandoned or destroyed.
“the need for unmanned and expendable launch vehicles”

As I read that definition, it occurs to me that many people might be feeling expendable, as the current U.S. government shutdown drags on and on.

In that therapy session yesterday, I invited the expendable-feeling person to name what is opposite to expendable.  Here’s one non-expendable word:

img_2494

Another opposite-to-expendable word was “valuable.”  Apparently a picture of that word was expendable.

Wait! I found “valuable” on this scale, which I drew on the board:

img_2495

It might be valuable and appreciated, here and now,  if I ask my readers these questions: Do you ever feel expendable?  Appreciated?  Valuable?  Where are you on that scale, as you read this?  What helps you feel less expendable and more valuable and appreciated?

I wonder if any of the photos in this post are expendable, appreciated, and/or valuable.

img_2491

img_2496

It’s always appreciated when my non-expendable boyfriend Michael asks me to dance, and last night, after his very appreciated and valuable dinner (pictured above), we danced to this music, which is the opposite of expendable to me.

I really appreciate that Michael danced with me for the full eight-and-a-half minutes of that highly valued McCoy Tyner tune.

I hope you know that your comments are very valuable and appreciated.

Finally, here is some non-expendable gratitude for all who helped me create this post and — of course! — for YOU.

fullsizeoutput_369e

 

 

 

Categories: cognitive behavioral therapy, definition, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 22 Comments

Blog at WordPress.com.