Posts Tagged With: Marsha Linehan

Day 1806: Sense AND Sensibility

Yesterday, I had the sense and sensibility to walk near the seashore with Michael, to visit the Harvard Book Store, AND to see an excellent production of Jane Austen‘s Sense and Sensibility  with my sensible friend, Deb.

When I was a senior in college, I had the sense and sensibility to write my undergraduate thesis on Jane Austen.  The title of that thesis was Judgment and [a word I don’t have the sensibility to remember, but my sense is that it’s something like “Perception”] in the Novels of Jane Austen. 

“Sense'” AND “sensibility” are defined in this quote from Wikipedia’s description of Jane Austen’s  novel Sense and Sensibility.

“Sense” means good judgment or prudence, and “sensibility” means sensitivity or emotionality.

Today, I would venture to say that combining one’s sense and sensibility results in wise mind — the overlap of logic and emotion.   I now have the sense and sensibility to quote Marsha Linehan, the creator of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT):

Wise mind is that part of each person that can know and experience truth. It is where the person knows something to be true or valid. It is almost always quiet, It has a certain peace. It is where the person knows something in a centered way.

Do you see any sense and/or sensibility in my photos from yesterday?

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I have the sense and sensibility to include this music from the 1995 film version of Sense and Sensibility:

As usual, I have the sense and sensibility to end a post with thanks to all who helped me create it and to you — of course! — for bringing your sense and sensibility to my blog.

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Day 1525: Distress tolerance

Distress tolerance is an important skill to learn because, no matter who we are, we all encounter distress we need to tolerate.

I’ve been tolerating a lot of distress lately, including

  • open heart surgery,
  • a cardiac pacemaker recall,
  • American politics,
  • rejection,
  • mistakes,
  • loss, and
  • disappointment.

Chances are that you’ve been tolerating distress lately, too.

So how do we tolerate distress?

Personally, I tolerate distress with

  • blogging,
  • music,
  • humor,
  • nature,
  • animals,
  • movies,
  • walks,
  • talks,
  • reading,
  • spending time with people I love,
  • chocolate
  • taking action, and
  • taking pictures.

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Which of those photos are best for your distress tolerance?

For me, these two photos

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… illustrate this important lesson: If you want a cupcake, don’t go for a cookie masquerading as a cupcake.  Get the real thing.

And this picture

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is very good for my distress tolerance, because it shows me that beautiful things can turn up, even when and where you least expect them.

Here‘s Marsha Linehan talking briefly about Distress Tolerance:

And here‘s some music that helps me tolerate distress:

Here’s a joke I just found on YouTube:

Arnold Schwarzenegger works in a record shop and a customer asks him where to find the Brandenburg Concertos.

Arnold answers “Aisle B, Bach”

I’ll be back with another post, tomorrow.

Thanks to all who helped me create this distress-tolerating post and to you — of course! — for tolerating my blog, here and now.

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