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Day 1314: We decide

We decide so many different things, every day.  How do we decide?

Today, I decide what to include in this post.


You decide how you react to it.

I decide to show you these other photos from yesterday.












Yesterday, I decided to show my readers this amulet my friend Jeanette decided to send to me:



Later that day, I decided to sing two songs — “Sleepy Man” and “Mad World” — at the first-Friday-of-the-month Open Mic at the Kickstand Cafe in Arlington, Massachusetts, USA.

Because the 11-minute video I recorded of my performance last night (1) has no visuals, (2) includes silence before and between the numbers, (3) demonstrates my lack of proficiency with the guitar during the first song, (4) includes extraneous noises from the Kickstand kitchen staff, and (5) is much less than perfect, you decide whether I should include it in this post. (I also decide to share, here and now, that some audience members decided to tell me “You were wonderful”  “You have a strong and beautiful voice.” and “I love your voice. It made me smile.”) In case you have trouble deciding what to do, I decide to tell you I have no investment in the outcome.

I decide who to thank in these posts. I hereby decide to thank all those who helped me create this and you — of course! — for deciding to read it.

We’ve decided!

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Day 1030: Be Yourself

I’m going to take the advice in my post title, today, and be myself.

That’s the easiest thing to do, isn’t it? I mean, who else could I possibly be? Haven’t I’ve been being myself since the day I was born?

Be yourself, right now, and think about your reactions to that title.  Have people told you to be yourself? Who, why, where, and when?  Have you ever told yourself that?  What was the result?

I’m just being myself, now, asking questions about other people.

When I’m being myself, I often like to explain what’s behind my actions.  Therefore, I’ll tell you that I’m writing about “Be Yourself” today because I said that to two people I love, yesterday, who are both nervous about interviews.

I don’t know if “Be Yourself” is helpful advice. It’s difficult to be yourself when you’re

  • anxious,
  • meeting somebody new,
  • wanting to impress,
  • concerned about the possibility of rejection, and
  • invested in a particular outcome.

I’m just being myself whenever I include a bulleted list of examples, like that one.

I’m going to be myself and show you some photos I recently took, hoping that some of them fit today’s topic. Be yourself, please, when you look at them.

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I took this photo


when I was being myself, stuck in Boston traffic and wondering, “What IS that on the side of the Hancock tower?”

When I got home from work,  I was myself — I googled it and found this article, “Artist Behind Mural on Former Hancock Building Revealed.”

Myself, I did NOT know

  • that was a temporary art installation by French artist JR or
  • that the Hancock tower is now the “former Hancock building.”

I guess I was too busy being myself.

If you were being yourself and writing this post, what music would you include?

That’s Graham Nash, being himself and singing “Be Yourself.”

Thanks to all who are themselves, including you!

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