Today’s title reminds me of two common cognitive distortions: black-and-white thinking and labeling. Yes, we humans — winners and losers all — tend to see things in all-or-nothing terms and we also assign judgmental labels to people, especially ourselves.
We are all winners and losers at some points, aren’t we? Actually, a more winning perspective might be that “winners” and “losers” are subjective terms that don’t really help. If I call myself a winner or a loser today, does that change who I am? Don’t those all-or-nothing labels just cause me to temporarily win or lose confidence, putting myself on a self-esteem roller coaster? What would we lose if we stopped calling ourselves losers or winners and just radically accepted ourselves exactly where we are? Personally, I think we would win a lot.
Considering my thoughts on winners and losers, am I a winner or a loser to now ask which of my photos from yesterday are winners or losers?
I shall not lose the opportunity to win you over by sharing the impulses behind those photos:
- I am trying to win some acceptance about starting a new medication: Warfarin (a/k/a Coumadin).
- Warfarin/Coumadin affects how your body uses Vitamin K.
- The foods listed on the white board win the prize for having high amounts of Vitamin K.
- I’ll need to win a greater understanding of how to control Vitamin-K-rich foods in my diet, or I might lose my health.
- Hygga is a Danish word meaning “cozy,” a new-to-me concept which I find very winning.
- My cat Oscar can be very hygga.
- I am trying to win calmness and lose stress about my upcoming heart surgery and my only child going overseas for college by playing online solitaire.
- My boyfriend Michael cooked a winning meal last night.
Is this piece of music a winner or a loser, according to you?
If you leave a comment, I’m a winner!
I’d be some kind of loser if I didn’t express thanks to all who helped me create this post and to you — of course! — for winning my heart by visiting here, today.
The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally 