When people with a history of trauma (which seems to include everybody, these days) are feeling shaky, anxious, and fearful, I often encourage them to focus on this helpful phrase:
It’s safer than it feels.
Yesterday, our scaredy-cat Harley was safer — even if he didn’t feel like it — when our new vet, Dr. Jo, came for a house call.
Michael, who wanted everybody to feel safer, had spent days developing a plan for how Dr. Jo could safely examine Harley and give him his shots. When Dr. Jo arrived, Michael was closed up in Aaron’s bedroom with Harley, having set up the room so there was (as Michael said), “Nowhere to run, nowhere to hide.”
Dr. Jo helped us all feel safer as she quickly, efficiently, and kindly examined Harley and gave him his yearly shots, declaring our “chunky” cat safely healthy. Miraculously, Harley felt safe enough to be in plain sight minutes after we allowed him to escape from that safe room.
In the past, when Harley felt unsafe, we would see neither hide nor hair of him for hours, if not days.
Now that we have a great vet who makes house calls, we all feel safer. Can you tell that I was feeling safer when I took the rest of the photos in today’s blog?
Who feels safe enough, here and now, to dance to “Nowhere to Run” by Martha Reeves and the Vandellas?
I hope it feels safe enough for you to express your thoughts and feelings about this “It’s Safer Than It Feels” post, below.
Thanks to everybody who makes this world feel safer, including YOU.