Almost exactly a year ago, I wrote Day 1714: Second guessing. So this is my second post about second guessing. I’m guessing it won’t be my last.
A few seconds before my therapy group started yesterday, one of the members tripped and fell. As the other group members witnessed spilled coffee, blood, and first responders in the hospital reacting to the situation, people were second guessing their own and others’ actions.
In the group (after the injured member had been tended to by expert personnel), we discussed the flight-fight-or-freeze response, trauma, guilt, self-judgment, doing too much, doing too little, What’s the right thing to do?, selfishness, selflessness, empathy, looking, intrusiveness, how time stretches out during emergencies, different perceptions, helping vs. getting out of the way, and — I’m guessing — dozens of variations on the theme of second guessing.
I am not second guessing the healing power of groups, especially in traumatic situations. I’m also not second guessing my photos from yesterday.
In this second, I’m guessing that you — like the group members — want to know if the injured person is okay. The person is fine.
This is the second time I’ve included the song “Second Guessing” by Jonny Lang.
I’m not second guessing my wish to include this second song, by The Guess Who.
Please don’t second guess anything you choose to share in a comment, below.
No second guessing about my gratitude for all who helped me create this second post about “Second Guessing” and — of course! — for YOU.