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Day 2336: The difference between worry and helping

As I described in last week’s post — Day 2328: A Year of No Worry — I have pledged to not worry for a year, which has been helping!  As also described in that post, I told an employee at Home Depot — who said, “It’s my job to worry” — that there was a huge difference between worry and helping.

Yesterday, in a therapy session, the difference between worry and helping came up again.

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As you can see from those lists, worry entails many negative experiences and helping includes much more positive experiences.  In some cases, the experiences are almost opposite (“frozen” vs. “warmth” and “future” vs. “in the moment”). And yet, people often intertwine worry with helping, believing that unless they worry about others, they will focus too much attention on themselves — becoming selfish jerks rather than helpers.  As usual, black and white thinking (one of the cognitive distortions found here) causes us to think it’s all or nothing — either we are selfish jerks or worrying helpers.

What I’m discovering, in my year of no worries, is that letting go of worry is helping me become a better helper to others.  Worry saps my energy and gets in the way of my being as much as possible in the moment with others and therefore more sensitive to their needs.

I’m not going to worry about whether my writing in today’s post or my other photos from yesterday are helping.

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If you need help interpreting any of those photos, don’t worry.  Ask for help and I’ll give it, worry-free.

Here‘s what comes up on YouTube when I search for “The difference between worry and helping”:

I think that video about differences between humans and animals is very helpful.

The  human band Golden Earring has at least two songs about worry:  “No Need to Worry”

.. and “Don’t Worry.”

 

No need to worry and don’t worry about leaving a comment, below.

Worry-free and helping thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1929: If I Ruled the World

If I ruled the world

Every day would be the first day of spring,

Every heart would have a new song to sing

And we’d sing of the joy every morning would bring.

If I ruled the world

Everyone would be as free as a bird,

Every voice would be a voice to be heard,

Take my word we would treasure each day that occurred.

My world would be a beautiful place

Where we would weave such wonderful dreams.

My world would wear a smile on its face

Like the man in the moon has when the moon beams.

If I ruled the world

Everyone would say the world was their friend,

There’d be happiness that no one could end

No, my friend, not if I ruled the world.

Every head would be held up high

There’d be sunshine in everyone’s sky

If the day ever dawned when I ruled the world.   — Lesley Bricusse and Cyril Ornadel

If I ruled the world

Every blog would have a wonderful song

You’d be free to dance and/or sing along

Groups would help each person feel much more strong.

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Different people would know that they belong.

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Wearing goofy socks would never be wrong.

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What would happen if you ruled the world?

No matter who rules the world, gratitude rules!

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