Day 2566: What’s the matter with me?

What’s the matter with me, that I’ve written three posts  (here, here, and here) with the title “What’s wrong with me?”  over the last seven years?

What’s the matter with me, that one day after I lost and found my wallet, I dropped a New Yorker tote bag with my marriage certificate while I was walking to work in the extreme cold, even though that marriage certificate matters so much to me?

What’s the matter with me, that I was considering titling this post “What would Freud say?”

What’s the matter with me, that I’m explaining losing track of important things by telling myself that I’m so concentrated on not losing my wedding ring (which is too big) that I’m dropping other things?

What’s the matter with me, that I have SO MANY things to keep track of every day?

What’s the matter with me, that I’m sharing only these photos from yesterday?

What’s the matter with me, that I’m losing track of so many things these days but can still hear this song in my head?

What’s the matter with me, that

• I’m sad that Sam Cooke died so young,
• I’m anxious about so many matters in today’s news,
• I tell people in my therapy groups that anxiety about forgetting makes us forget even more, and
• when people ask me “What’s wrong with me?” I answer “nothing.”

If you comment on what you think is the matter with anything, that will matter to me.

What’s the matter with me, that I always end every post with gratitude?

 

Day 2145: Come as you are

What does “come as you are” (which I saw in a magazine yesterday while waiting for an echocardiogram) mean to you?

Here comes an online discussion of “Come as you are”:

Best Answer: Come as you are on a party invitation indicates that the host or hostess is having a very informal party and Dress is not important. Now, if you were thinking about going naked to the party you might want to determine if it would be the best option. Things to consider might be 1. do you look good naked,2. are you secure enough in your looks to go to a party naked,3. how much importance do you put on shock and surprise of the other guests. Generally, come as you are means, if you have on jeans and a Polo and deck shoes, or in the summer if you have on shorts, a tee shirt, and sandals, you will be in acceptable attire. It simply means what it says come as you are, no need to dress up.

Only hell mama ever raised · 1 decade ago

Come as yourself and don’t try to make any false characteristics about yourself.
♥Caribbean American Princess♥ · 1 decade ago

In my Coping and Healing groups, I often say at the end, “I’m grateful that everybody showed up exactly the way they showed up today.”  I hope that’s an invitation for people to come as they are.

It’s time for my other photos from yesterday to come as they are.

As I’m creating this blog post as I am, this message keeps coming at me from WordPress:

A new editor is coming to level-up your layout.

I don’t know if I want a new editor coming to level-up my layout.   I’d prefer my blog posts to come as they are.

Here’s another entry from that online discussion about “Come as you are”:

it think that whoever has invited u listens to Nirvana, a lot…wear a Nirnana t-shirt or go naked.

Here comes Nirvana as they were, with “Come as You Are.”

 

If you’re coming here as you are from outside the USA, you may not be able to watch that video.

For the next two days, I’ll be coming as I am to a group therapy conference in New York. I assume I’ll come away from that experience as a better group therapist.

Here’s thanks coming from me to all those who helped me create this come-as-you-are post and — of course — to YOU, for coming as you are.

 

Day 1625: Vitality

Yesterday, when I was on Cape Cod visiting fellow blogger Mark Bialczak, his lovely and dear wife Karen, and their filled-with-vitality dog Ellie B. (a/k/a Dogamous Pyle),  I noticed this:

Mark and Karen both told me I had more vitality than the last time they saw me, two years ago. I said that was probably due to my heart valve replacement last September.   I told Mark  he seemed much happier than when I had seen him last and he agreed, with vitality.

Spending time with wonderful people, like Mark and Karen, is very good for my vitality.

Do you see vitality in my other photos from yesterday?

 

 

 

Personally, I think that last photo has the most vitality.

As I face a lot of vital changes — including selling a home, buying a home, moving near the water, and returning to work full time next month — I need to preserve my vitality.

What helps preserve my vitality?

• Self care.
• Caring for others.
• Spending time with great people.
• Getting enough sleep (working on that).
• Eating right.
• Good vacations (so I’ll be visiting Scotland with my son in August).
• Letting go of worry.
• Blogging.
• Listening to music.

Pat Metheny playing “Song for Bilbao” during a second encore Sunday night  improved my vitality,  big time.

What improves your vitality? I hope you know your comments are excellent for my vitality.

Vital thanks to all who helped me create today’s blog post and to you — of course! — for the vitality you bring here, now.

Day 1594: Fun with Phobias, Part 4

During my second year of blogging, I wrote three “Fun with Phobias” posts (here, here, and here). While phobias —  extreme or irrational fears or aversions — aren’t fun, I have fun making up names for my own personal fears, like tax-o-phobia, pill-o-phobia, spill-o-phobia, pack-o-phobia, and pantrymoth-o-phobia.

When I read over my previous “Fun with Phobias” posts, I was surprised to see what was missing (and by the way, miss-o-phobia was NOT missing).

Technophobia: The fear of (1) technology, (2) being left behind by accelerating changes to technology, (3) technology-related problems including viruses and confusing updates, and/or (4) technologically-adept people who make you feel stupid.

I had my latest attack of technophobia earlier this morning when I  downloaded a free version of Adobe Acrobat, decided that version was probably a scam, and deleted it.

Does anybody else out there suffer from technophobia?  Unless you have comment-o-phobia, please let me know, so I can feel less alone.

Let’s see if I took any fun or phobia-related photos yesterday.

I definitely have map-o-phobia (the fear of maps or map-related misunderstandings).

However, I obviously do not have aquaphobia (“a persistent and abnormal fear of water”), because I take so many water-related photos.

 

I hope you don’t have aquaphobia and can get relief from technophobia, map-o-phobia, or any other phobia with some water music.

 

Thankfully, I don’t have thank-o-phobia, so I can happily thank all who helped me create another fun-with-phobias post and you — of course! — for your fun visit, here and now.