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Day 2482: Difficult people

Yesterday, in a Coping and Healing group, non-difficult people talked about difficult people.

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If it’s difficult to see “difficult people’ in that list of topics, it’s on the third line, third topic from the right..  Some solutions to dealing with difficult people are also on that third line: “self care” and “letting it go.”

Coincidentally,  I was researching difficult people the day before that group.  Here‘s a link to a Psychology Today article by Kimberley Key — “How to Handle a Crazymaker:  4 keys to keep from losing it when they start playing games.”  Kimberley Key’s 4 keys to dealing with difficult people are:

  1. Take an observer’s point of view.
  2. Maintain a healthy sense of self worth.
  3. Keep a healthy distance.
  4. Cultivate internal validation.

I need to deal with a difficult person at work today.  Blogging about that, here and now, is reducing the difficulty for me — I’m actually looking forward to the opportunity to practice these helpful skills.

Is that difficult to believe?

Let’s see if there are difficult people in my other photos from yesterday:

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Harley deals with difficult people by hiding under the bed.

Even difficult people can inspire good things.  It was because of a difficult person that I wrote my first original song, 16 months ago:

And a difficult person inspired my latest song, which I performed at the Edinburgh Festival Fringe last month:

How do you deal with difficult people?

Here’s another way I deal with difficult people: I get in touch with the gratitude I have for all the non-difficult people in my life, including YOU.

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Day 2469: Daily Tasks

One my favorite daily tasks is creating this daily blog.  That helps me face all my other daily tasks, no matter what I’m in the mood for. My daily blogging tasks include sharing my photos from yesterday:

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What’s on your list of daily tasks?

My tasks today include

  • getting ready for work,
  • driving to a parking lot near Boston’s Fenway Park,
  • pronouncing “Park” unlike a native Bostonian,
  • walking the mile to the hospital where I work,
  • being on “Quick Response” for the doctors and patients of  the Primary Care Practice at the hospital,
  • eating the right amount of greens to maintain a good INR level,
  • ordering a half-portion of the best hospital macaroni and cheese I’ve ever had in my life,
  • facilitating a “Coping and Healing” group,
  • doing individual therapy, and
  • enjoying the start of a long weekend.

Tomorrow, my tasks include

  • doing individual therapy,
  • taking my car in to be serviced,
  • looking for comfortable, affordable, and spectacular-enough clothes for my 45th college reunion, and
  • enjoying the long weekend.

Here‘s “Relaxing Concentration Music — designed to help you work, study, and focus on your task.”

 

Perhaps that music will help you focus on the task of leaving a comment, below.

Another one of my daily tasks is finding gratitude and sharing it with you.

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Thanks to all the people who help me with my daily tasks and thanks — of course! — to my wonderful readers, including YOU.

 

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Day 2449: This & That

I’m on vacation this week & next!

During my vacation I’ll be

  • staying at home & traveling overseas,
  • taking Oscar & Harley to the vet,
  • seeing a lawyer & changing my will,
  • attending the Edinburgh Fringe Festival & performing there,
  • doing this & doing that.

I noticed this & that yesterday:

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The Stop & Shop and this & that appear in this song by Jonathan Richman & The Modern Lovers:

 

When I feel great, I fear that something bad will follow. Good things & bad things happen, but not necessarily in that order.

 

Last night, when I was feeling great about this week & next, that crown fell off.  My dentist — who is wonderful & enjoying a much earned vacation in Florida — reassured me & texted another dentist at Beacon Hill Dental Associates.  On Tuesday, I’ll take the cats to the vet & see that dentist.

Are you reading & commenting today?

Thanks & more thanks to all who helped me create today’s post & to you (including my wonderful dentist!) for reading, here & now.

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Day 2442: Everybody’s somebody’s _____

Last night, I sang my latest original song — “Everybody’s Somebody’s A–hole” — at the Jam’n Java Open Mic in Arlington, Massachusetts.

Everybody’s somebody’s

Everybody’s somebody’s …

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teammate,

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proud partner,

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ninja,

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angel,

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feartrigger, time off, safety, news, danger, clickbait, health, illness, stillness, trip, and

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talented local performer.

I’ve asked the coordinators of the Jam’n Java Open Mic if I could be a featured performer some day and they replied, “We usually book people who’ve had a show elsewhere.”

I’m working on it.

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Everybody’s somebody’s observer, so feel free to leave any observations in the comments section, below.

No matter what I am to anybody else, I’m always grateful to be your blogger, every day.

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Day 2427: I’m curious about …

I’m curious about …

  • everything that’s happened to you since the last time I saw you,
  • how you’re doing in this moment (including thoughts, feelings, and body experience),
  • everything that you’re aware of that might be contributing to how you’re doing in this moment,
  •  how other people have been affecting you,
  •  how you’ve been affecting other people,
  • how the weather’s been affecting you,
  • how the news has been affecting you,
  • how you would introduce yourself to somebody who is meeting you for the first time, and
  • what you’re curious about.

If you’re curious about my Coping and Healing groups, I introduce the check-in portion of the group by saying what I’m curious about.  What I’m curious about often includes the curious list above.  Because I don’t want my curiosity to be too important, I always conclude my list of curiosity with this:

Feel free to ignore everything I just said, because it’s YOUR check-in.

I’m curious about this:  even people who have been coming to the group for years often smile at that line.

I’m curious about how these photos affect you:

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I’m curious about whether you’ve heard the song “Curious” by Midnight Star.

 

I am curious about what you would say in a comment below, but feel free to ignore everything I’ve just said, because it’s your comment.

Thanks to all who helped me create this curious post and — of course! — thanks to YOU.

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Day 2425: Messes

Yesterday, somebody who was trying to make sense of life’s messes showed me this:

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Because I’ve witnessed a lot of shame about messes in my life, I loved that mess by artist David Shrigley.

Later, in a therapy group, messes showed up again.

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The group focused on “Self-Worth” and we worked on experiencing unconditional self-worth, despite inevitable messes.

Here are some quotes about messes:

Beginnings are always messy. — John Galsworthy

People are messy; therefore, relationships will be messy. Don’t be surprised by messiness. — Timothy Keller

Surely it’s better to love others, however messy and imperfect the involvement, than to allow one’s capacity for love to harden. –Karen Armstrong

A problem is only a problem when viewed as a problem. All change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end.  — Robin S. Sharma

Life itself is a haphazard, untidy, messy affair. — Dorothy Day

Messy is a word we use to explain a conflict with an expectation we had. Eliminate the expectation, and you eliminate the messy. — Steve Maraboli

It’s good to leave your room super-messy when you’re away. Whoever tries to break into your room will think it has already been ransacked. — Douglas Adams

The truth is messy. It’s raw and uncomfortable. You can’t blame people for preferring lies. — Holly Black

A messy kitchen is a sign of happiness. — Anonymous

Do you see any messes in my other photos from yesterday?

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Here’s I Have Made a Mess by They Might Be Giants:

David Shrigley and Chris Shepherd have made a fine mess with Who Am I and What I Want.

Don’t worry about making a mess in the comments section, below.

Messy thanks from me to all who helped me create this post about messes and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 2419: Keep doing what you’re doing

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“Keep doing what you’re doing” is

  • something I’ve written on my white board and on prescription pads at work,
  • often a validating, supportive, and encouraging phrase,
  • a non-judgmental acceptance of habitual behavior, and
  • a new title for this blog.

Because WordPress and my laptop keep doing what they’re doing,

  • I can’t save a post while I’m writing it and
  • only some of my photos are loading today.

Keep doing what you’re doing, including smiling,

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scanning,

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welcoming,

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watching,

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noticing signs,

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celebrating,

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avoiding danger,

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and focusing on what’s important to you.

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I keep doing groups and I keep doing rhymes.  Yesterday, I wrote this rhyme in a group focusing on “the unexpected.”

The unexpected

Needs to  be respected

And not neglected

And definitely accepted.

People keep listening to this podcast interview about my heart keeping on:

https://tinyurl.com/y43gqqvf

I keep sharing what I’m sharing in this blog, including this song by Anita Wilson:

Keep doing what you’re doing and if that includes commenting on this blog, thank you!

I keep expressing gratitude every day for the help I receive from others, including YOU.

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Day 2414: Looking for love

If you’re looking for love, don’t be looking at the news. Instead, try looking around you.

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After I took those two photos yesterday morning at the parking garage near work, I knew I’d be looking for love for the rest of the day.   Winston, who works at that parking garage, was looking at me as I was capturing those images, so I explained to him what I was doing. (If you’re looking for more about Winston, you should be looking here, here,  here, and here.) Winston, looking serious, told me people who are looking for love can see it. As I was looking at him, he  also told me that he and I would both live on after death. I told him I’d be looking for him in the afterlife. He said, “You might not recognize me,” so I replied,  “I think I’d recognize you, Winston.”  He was looking happy when I walked away.

Here are the results of my looking for love for the rest of the day:

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Do you agree that if you ‘re looking for love, you’ll see it?

Looking for a song about looking for love?

You can find those “Looking for Love” tunes  by looking on YouTube here, here, here, here, and here.

I’ll be looking for your comments on this “Looking for Love” post.

Looking for gratitude from me for all those who helped me create this post and for you? Look no further.

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Day 2393: First-Aid for Desperate Moments

When I was having some desperate moments yesterday because of sleep deprivation (among other stressors), I found “First-Aid for Desperate Moments” online at Sundown Healing Arts, with these helpful phrases from Sonia Connolly, LMT, Reiki Master:

“I give thanks for help unknown already on the way.”

“It ended.”

“This problem is already solved.”

“I am doing the right thing.”

“What if this isn’t mine?”

“Don’t go to the hardware store for milk.”

“Don’t compare your insides to someone else’s outsides.”

“I am already good enough.”

“I don’t need fixing.”

“It’s okay to be where I am right now.”

It was more than okay to be at Sonia Connolly’s helpful website.

I would like to believe that, as a group and individual therapist, I provide first-aid for desperate moments, too.

Here are some moments from yesterday:

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Dining out near the ocean is definitely first-aid for desperate moments and so is music I love. Here’s “First Circle” from the Pat Metheny Group:

 

What is your first-aid for desperate moments?

Gratitude is an aid for any moment, so thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 2368: The little things

Five hundred and seventy-eight little days ago (but who’s counting these little things?), little ol’ me wrote a little blog post,  Day 1790: Thankful for the little things.  Yesterday, I was a little perturbed by many little things when I was writing yesterday’s little post, so  I sent Michael this little email:

Hello my darling,
I would say we have an infestation of ants .  This is based on many of them crawling on me this morning while I was blogging, which is a new experience for me here at Squanticello.  Let us research kind ways to invite them to leave.
Much love,
Ann

When I got home from work, Michael was more than a little freaked out at the not-so-little size of the invaders, which turned out to be carpenter ants. He said, “Usually I don’t think of insects as animals, but these enormous winged things are definitely animals.” Michael spent many little moments yesterday identifying the big ants’ little points of entry and applying spray that is kind to little things like children and pets.

I didn’t take any pictures of those little things, but I invite you to spot the little things in today’s little photos.

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I don’t see any little or large ants as I’m creating this little post, so I’d say that Michael’s efforts paid off, in a big way.

Here‘s “The Little Things You Do Together” from a little musical called Company:

Here are the great lyrics to “The Little Things You Do Together”  by that musical giant, Stephen Sondheim:

It’s the little things you do together
Do together
Do together
That make perfect relationships.
The hobbies you pursue together
Savings you accrue together
Looks you misconstrue together
That make marriage a joy.

It’s the little things you share together
Swear together
Wear together
That make perfect relationships.
The concerts you enjoy together
Neighbors you annoy together
Children you destroy together
That keep marriage intact.

It’s not so hard to be married
When two maneuver as one
It’s not so hard to be married
And Jesus Christ, is it fun.

It’s sharing little winks together
Drinks together
Kinks together
That make marriage a joy.
The bargains that you shop together
Cigarettes you stop together
Clothing that you swap together
That make perfect relationships.

It’s not talk of God and the decade ahead that
Allows you to get through the worst.
It’s “I do,” and, “You don’t,” and, “Nobody said that,”
And, “Who brought the subject up first?”

It’s the little things…
The little things, the little things, the little things

The little ways you try together
Cry together
Lie together
That make perfect relationships.
Becoming a cliche together
Growing old and gray together
Withering away together
That make marriage a joy.

It’s not so hard to be married,
It’s much the simplest of crimes.
It’s not so hard to be married,
I’ve done it three or four times.

It’s people that you hate together
Bait together
Date together
That make marriage a joy.
It’s things like using force together
Shouting till you’re hoarse together
Getting a divorce together
That make perfect relationships.
Uh uh
Kiss kiss
Mmmm mmmmm.

I’m greatly looking forward to all your little comments, below.

Gratitude for the little things helps me deal with all the little and big things every day, so big thanks to those who help me create this little blog and — of course! — to YOU.

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Soon after publishing this post, I made up some new little lyrics for that song, more relevant for tall Michael and little me:

It’s battling ants together
Making sure you dance together
Keeping the romance together
That make perfect relationships.

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