We compare ourselves to others, with ourselves coming out short. For example, “I’m not as smart (or good, competent, good-looking, lovable, etc.) as that other person.” Or, we compare ourselves to how we think we should be, or how we’ve been before. We might think that comparisons help motivate us, but they usually make us feel worse.
Yesterday, in a therapy group, we focused on comparisons.
I believe the human mind is built to make comparisons, in order to make meaning of what’s around us. However, when we compare ourselves to others, the resulting blows to our self-confidence and self-esteem can be beyond compare.
I’ve been making a different type of comparison lately. I compare the blog posts I’ve written after and before the November 2016 USA presidential election and I see differences. Less joy. Less hope. Less confidence in the future. Less faith in humans to be respectful and kind.
Some might compare me to a snowflake. Personally, I don’t mind being compared to a snowflake — each one is beautiful, intricate, and unique.
Let’s see how the rest of my photos compare to the one I’ve included above.
When I search YouTube for “comparisons,” most of the results have to do with money and wealth — not particularly useful comparisons.
If we don’t realize all animals are beyond compare, we will continue to lose more and more to extinction. Here’s a video showing comparisons of animal size:
The most recent comment on that video includes this: “Fake news.” I now compare my life to how it was before I heard that phrase so frequently.
Here‘s one result for “comparisons music.”
I look forward to comparisons in comments, below.
Now it’s time to compare two ways of my expressing gratitude to all who helped me create another “comparisons” post and — of course! — to YOU.