Posts Tagged With: Carol Pearson

Day 2249: Cold as ice

Yesterday, when it was cold as ice, I  ventured out only once, to try to start my little yellow car.  The car was totally covered in ice and it took me many tries to get one of the doors open.  I used the first tip in this online article — “How to Open a Frozen Shut Car Door” —and got the passenger side door open by pushing on the door first before opening it. Even though I’ve lived in New England my whole life, where the winters are as cold as ice, I’ve never heard of nor tried that method of opening a cold-as-ice car door.  It warms me when a simple fix to a seemingly difficult problem works so well!

This morning, my instinct is to stay inside, because it’s cold as ice, again. However, I have to get to work by 9, so I’ll use all the methods I know  — new and old — to make it on time without becoming cold as ice. Because my trip to work includes a twenty-minute walk, those methods include layering, layering, layering. Two people who are doing my therapy groups have quoted this  saying about living in weather that’s cold as ice:

There is no such thing as bad weather; there is only bad clothing.

The two people who shared that quote ascribed it to different countries, both of which have winters that are cold as ice.

Because of my cold-as-ice words in this post, I now have two songs running through my warm brain (here and here on YouTube):

Takin’ care of business in this blog includes sharing my recent photos, no matter how cold it is.

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What warms you when something in your life (the weather, a person, etc.) is as cold as ice? I’m warmed by

  • people I love,
  • creatures I love,
  • food made with love,
  • fun movies,
  • enlightening books,
  • cool music,
  • fireplaces, and
  • warm memories.

It’s time for me to get ready for my cold-as-ice world.  See you on the other side of this cold-as-ice weather, tomorrow.

And it would be cold as ice for me to forget to thank all who helped me create this cold-as-ice post and — of course! — YOU, my warm readers.

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Day 322: Abandoned/The Orphan

Yesterday, I witnessed somebody I love very much, experiencing a primal, human feeling.

He was expecting other people to show up and, for a while, it looked like nobody was coming. Nobody.

He was trying to make meaning of that.

But what I saw, most of all, was pain.

I tried to provide, as I do with anybody in pain, witness to the hurt and — when appropriate — inviting room for the hope.  The hope that people would come, eventually.  The possibility that the abandonment, while painful, was temporary.

And the abandonment was temporary.

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Carol Pearson, in this book …

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writes about 12 archetypes — primal human roles we go through on our journey through life.

The first archetype is the The Innocent.  That is how we enter the world.

The second archetype is The Orphan. Into every Innocent’s life, disappointment will come. Abandonment, of some form.

Orphans feel helpless, powerless, confused.  They try to make meaning of this new perspective on life, but the new feelings of loss and pain are … overwhelming.

The world is not as safe as they thought.

We all feel orphaned, at some time or other. We think:

Nobody is coming. Nobody cares. I am alone in this.

This is what we cannot see, when we feel orphaned:   The people who are around us.

Maybe they don’t know about our pain.

Maybe they are on their way.

That’s what I witnessed yesterday, with somebody I love.

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I know that feeling of being orphaned. Abandoned.

I still feel it, at times, today.

This post is a reminder for me and other orphans, of all kinds.

I may feel alone, in pain. But, truly, I  am not.

Okay!  Time for a Google Image, for “archetype orphan.”

And here it is.

When you’re feeling abandoned,  people are there, even if you cannot see them. In the meantime:

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Love yourself.

Thanks to the Buddha, Carol Pearson, orphans everywhere, and to you — especially — for visiting today.

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Day 293: Repetitiveness, again

Here are some things I’m repeating, which are on my mind, today:

  1. This topic, from yesterday.
  2. My sister and I get to go to a Red Sox World Series game, for the second time!red-sox-2007-world-series-championsChicago White Sox v Boston Red Sox
  3. I’m wondering  about judgmental thoughts people might have about my writing, right now.
  4. I’m reminding myself that  (a) I don’t know what anybody else is thinking and (b) who cares what other people are friggin’ thinking, anyway?
  5. There are lots of things I want to include in this blog post today, including images of  places I re-visited yesterday:IMG_1930IMG_1936IMG_1946IMG_1950IMG_1955IMG_1957
  6. When I tell somebody something, I like to follow through. For example, a wonderful blogger, The Laughing Housewife, commented about yesterday’s post,  “I can read the same book over and over; but it is its familiarity that makes it so special.” I replied, “I read some books over and over again, too. I think I’ll add that to the post I’m concocting in my mind right now.” So, here are some books I’ve read, many times, that have helped me:                                                                                                                                                                                                      brown  9780064400558 91HJgLKI1GL._SL1500_helpcatch-22_coverpride-and-prejudice (1)                             Awakening-the-Heroes-Within-9780062506788
  7. Making lists of things that seem important.
  8. Noticing something different, as I’m composing this post, which is worrying me.
  9. Fearing some worst-case scenarios (e.g.,  I will lost this post before I can publish it; I will not give people credit who deserve it; links I’ve included won’t work or will be inappropriate).
  10. Accepting that I fear the worst, sometimes, and that I can let go of that, too.

Things on that List of 10, which I’m doing differently, this time around:

All of the above.

That concludes today’s post, everybody.

Thanks to David Ortiz,  Koji Uehara, everyone else involved in the creation of this post, and to you, too, for visiting today.

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