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Day 2520: Girding and preparing for the day ahead

A few weeks ago, after girding and preparing myself for the day ahead,  I gave a speech at my 45th college reunion where I mentioned this daily  blog, as follows:

Also, seven years ago I expanded my network of friends by starting a daily blog. Every morning, including today, I’ve written about my heart, my son, my passion for the healing power of groups, my song-writing, my cats, my hopes, my fears, this speech — whatever helps gird me and prepare me for the day ahead.

Girding and preparing for the day ahead includes

  • getting in touch with my priorities,
  • observing what is,
  • relentlessly celebrating the small things,
  • awareness of loved ones who have passed,
  • connecting with humans and other creatures, and
  • sharing my photos from the day before.

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Here’s the obituary of Debora Carmichael, past President of the Northeastern Society of Group Psychotherapy, who was such an inspiration and support to me and so many others.

I am girding and preparing myself for a day without the earthly presence of Deb,  friends, family members, and other shining lights who have passed.

Girding and preparing myself includes listening to music I love. Yesterday, when I was walking amongst the creatures and environs around me, I was reminded of a musician I loved when I was young — Jacques Loussier, who played jazz versions of Bach pieces, like this one:

As always, girding and preparing includes sharing my gratitude to all, including YOU.

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Day 2478: Learning how to be brave

Yesterday, when I was brave enough to visit the Broken Tail Rescue cat adoption center in Cambridge, Massachusetts, I noticed this description of two of the kitties there:

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Luna is learning how to be brave by following her brother’s lead, says the description.

 

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I think Luna is learning a lot — she’s up front and seems fearless.  I also think her brother, Ray, is learning from her.

I’ve been learning how to be brave my whole life, which I’ll be describing in a 5-minute talk at my 45th college reunion in two weeks.  Learning how to be brave includes:

  • following good role models,
  • feeling the fear and doing it anyway,
  • letting go of harsh judgments,
  • having faith in your process,
  • accepting all your feelings,
  • being kind to yourself and others,
  • carrying supportive people in your heart and mind,
  • committing to the here and now,
  • learning from everything, and
  • telling your story authentically.

I’ll be using those “Learning how to be brave” guidelines when I’m bravely telling my story authentically in front of hundreds of people, soon.

I was learning how to be brave when I took these other photos yesterday:

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Harley is learning to be brave by being up off the floor.

What can we learn from Harry Potter: How to be Brave?

 

How are you learning to be brave?

Thanks to all the brave and learning ones who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — to you, my brave reader.

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Day 2029: Leave

While I’ve already written several previous blog posts with “Leave” in the title (here, here, here,  here, and here), I couldn’t leave well enough alone, mostly because

  1. I want a certain world leader to make like a tree and  leave and
  2. I heard this song yesterday morning:

Because I don’t like to leave everything up to chance, I asked my son — who is leaving soon for India and then Edinburgh — to help me create a relevant image for today’s post.

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If you don’t like posts with lots of photos, you should leave now.  If you don’t leave, you might notice that many of yesterday’s photos have to do with today’s title, in one way or another.

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When I think a meeting is bullshit, I want to leave.

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Now that we’ve found our new home by the sea, I never want to leave.

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My son Aaron will soon be leaving on a jet plane.

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Batman probably wants to leave the cat shelter as soon as possible.

Because I need to leave the house soon, I’ll leave it up to you to notice the connections with “leave” in the rest of my photos.

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I wonder how many readers will leave this post before all the photos load?

Before I leave my blogging for the day, I want to leave thanks for all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — for YOU.

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Day 1812: Not a fan

I am not a fan of

  • traffic,
  • filling out forms,
  • loud noises,
  • the cold,
  • the dark,
  • cages,
  • cubicles,
  • the new U.S. tax bill,
  • people who abuse power,
  • worry,
  • loneliness,
  • illness,
  • poverty,
  • war, and
  • harsh judgments.

I am a fan of

  • family,
  • friends,
  • cats,
  • chocolate,
  • cheese,
  • peace,
  • kindness,
  • comedy,
  • colors,
  • warmth,
  • light,
  • windows,
  • freedom,
  • walking,
  • blogging,
  • visiting old familiar places, and
  • sharing photos.

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Are you not a fan of any of those photos?  Are you not a fan of this song by Ben Folds?

I am a fan of

  • comments (whether you are or are not a fan) and
  • expressing my thanks to all who help me create these posts and — of course! — to you.

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Day 1611: Did you know?

Did you know …

  • my blog posts are often inspired by a photo I’ve taken the day before?

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  • I like it when colors match unexpectedly?

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  • one of our cats is named Oscar and when my son picked him out at a shelter over ten years ago, Aaron said, “That’s a really nice cat but Oscar is not a good name for him!” but after Aaron sat with the cat in the back seat on the ride home, Aaron declared, “Oscar is the perfect name for this cat”?

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  • we looked at gas cooktops yesterday?

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  • my boyfriend Michael and designer Kelly Wearstler worked together years ago at a Boston restaurant — she as a waitress and he as a line cook?

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  • because of technological advances, you and your children can now draw directly on refrigerators?

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  • Michael and I created something together yesterday?

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  • Michael sometimes suggests that I not take certain pictures and I ignore him?

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  • we like visiting a local cat shelter (where we found our other cat, Harley) even though we’re not looking for another cat?

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  • cats like to sleep on mysterious purr padds …

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… and in beds that look like fish?

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  • Michael cooks incredible meals, including gnocchi with  fresh tuna, snow peas, basil, cannellini beans, and two different kinds of tomatoes?

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  • I would make a terrible food photographer because I’m often in a rush to start eating?

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  • there is no image of a man kissing a snake in that video?
  • how to post comments on this blog?
  • I am always grateful for all who help me create these posts and — of course! — for YOU?
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Day 1564: Did you know …

Did you know …

  • I sometimes get the title for my daily post from something I photograph the day before?

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  • Some cats are not fans of other cats?

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  • T.J. Maxx has merged with HomeGoods?

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  • Fuzzy furniture is a thing?

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  • Whales are a thing, too?

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  • The best way to find out if you can trust somebody?

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  • I am nervous, but not afraid?

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  • What it’s like in a perfect world?

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  • How I feel about all of us, here and now?

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  • How grateful I am to all those who helped me create this post and– of course! —  to you?

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Day 1546: How to decide

How to decide how to start this post?

HOW TO DECIDE

  • Explore all your options.
  • Look at the pros and cons of all your different options.
  • Listen to others who have relevant wisdom.
  • Trust your gut.
  • Be logical.
  • Follow your heart.
  • Look for signs from the universe.
  • Pay attention to your dreams.
  • Flip a coin and see whether you want to flip it again.
  • Check your comfort level at each stage of the process.
  • Realize that even a “wrong” decision is not the end of the world.

How do you decide?

How to decide which photos from yesterday I should include here?

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How to decide whether to give peas and/or peace a chance?

How to decide which music to share?

Here‘s a song about how to decide from Into the Woods:

How to decide how to thank all who helped me create todays’ post and — of course! — YOU?

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Day 1536: How People Change

“How People Change” is a topic  of extreme interest to psychotherapists.

“How People Change” was also  the topic that my therapy group — filled with people who are very interested in change —  discussed yesterday morning.

Therefore, “How People Change” is the topic of today’s post.

I, a person, change every day. However, I do not change certain things — like  including recent photos in my daily blog.

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Because I’m not sure how WordPress is changing the size of that photograph on your current screen, here’s what I wrote about “How People Change” in yesterday’s group:

Everybody changes in different ways.

Flexibility is important!

Changes we choose are much easier to tolerate than changes we do not choose.

We deal with change a lot in this group because people come and go.

After the group, I changed the “angel card” in that description of change, just for the sake of change.

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What do you think of that change, people?

Do you see evidence of how people change in my other photos from yesterday?

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The reality is that I recited/sang these lyrics from the David Bowie song “Changes” in group yesterday.

Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes
(Turn and face the strange)
Ch-ch-changes
Don’t want to be a richer man
Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes
(Turn and face the strange)
Ch-ch-changes
Just gonna have to be a different man
Time may change me
But I can’t trace time

See and hear how David Bowie changed singing “Changes” as time changed him (here, here, and here on YouTube)

 

Some people have said, “The more things change, the more they stay the same.” Even though I change all the time, my gratitude  — for all who help me create these posts and for you, my readers — stays the same!

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Day 1515: Jealousy

Jealousy is one of those “negative” human emotions  which can make people uncomfortable.

Yesterday, the members of my therapy group discussed jealousy  without judgment. Any jealousy about that?

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I doubt there’s any jealousy about my handwriting and drawing abilities. This is what I wrote, yesterday, about jealousy:

  1. Jealousy is a human emotion. I am afraid of other people’s jealousy — I’m afraid the feeling is going to hurt me. But other people’s feelings and thoughts cannot hurt me.
  2. What makes jealousy worse for you? Lack of self-care. Cognitive distortions. Fear. $ Money.
  3. What helps you deal with jealousy? Self care. Recognizing it’s just a feeling. Leaning back and letting jealousy go by me without hurting me.

What are your thoughts and feelings about jealousy?

Do you have jealousy about any of my other photos from yesterday?

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Comparisons — the thief of joy — can often lead to jealousy.

Any jealousy about my having a wonderful son, who is turning 19 today and whose YouTube video has  90,000 views this morning?

Any jealousy about all the gratitude I have for everyone who helped me create this post and — of course! — for you?

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Day 1508: A quiet home

Yesterday, I returned to the quiet home of my EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapist George after a long, disquieting absence. George and I talked quietly about how difficult it’s been for me to find a quiet home after the multiple traumas of open heart surgery, my pacemaker getting recalled, complications with the pacemaker replacement surgery, all the noise around the U.S. election, the loudness of my mechanical heart valve at night, and the fear and discomfort I’ve been experiencing internally and externally. During my quiet time with George, I realized I could create a quiet home wherever I am, by focusing on whatever helps quiet my mind and my soul.

Soon after that quieting session, I saw this:

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I’d love a quiet home, too.  How about you?

Can you see any quiet homes in my other photos from yesterday?

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While I was looking through windows of hope for quiet homes yesterday, I quietly heard this quiet music from Hamilton:

 

Thanks to all who helped me create  this quiet home today and to you — of course! — wherever your quiet homes are.

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