Posts Tagged With: being in the moment

Day 3087: Sitting with the discomfort

Last week, when I was sitting at my laptop conducting an online therapy session, I gave somebody the assignment of sitting with the discomfort. When that person had some discomfort figuring out the details of the assignment, I said, “Sit for ten minutes every day, get in touch with the discomfort, and see what happens.” My belief was that it would not be difficult to get in touch with discomfort, because we are all feeling some discomfort these days.

Because I feel discomfort asking somebody to do something I am not willing to do, I committed to doing the same assignment of sitting with the discomfort daily for ten minutes until our next therapy session.

I have been sitting with the discomfort since then and, as I sit here with some discomfort (the aches and pains of early rising), I am comforted to tell you that I am finding that assignment helpful.

Too often, we deal with our discomfort with distraction, addictions, avoidance, and disconnection. It helps to just BE with the discomfort for ten minutes a day, noticing and observing without judgment.

Here are some images I captured yesterday when I was not sitting with the discomfort:

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There is some sitting, some discomfort, but mostly joy in “Good Morning” from Singin’ in the Rain.

I won’t be sitting with discomfort waiting for comments on this sitting-with-discomfort blog post.

I am grateful and comforted to be sitting, standing, walking, and blogging for you!

Categories: life during the pandemic, personal growth, photojournalism, Psychotherapy | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 22 Comments

Day 3058: Very busy brains

Two nights ago, when my very busy brain woke me up and prevented me from getting back to sleep, I tweeted this …

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I received very many helpful responses about very busy brains.

My very busy brain did come up with this mantra a month ago: “I am at peace. We are all one, connected.“ However, when my very busy brain is interfering with my sleep, I have trouble remembering it! This reminds me of the very first time I ever noticed the very busy Jeff Goldblum.

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Do you see evidence of very busy brains in my other images for today?

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Just like Scorpio Rising …

… I calm my very busy brain by spending time in nature and photographing it. Here are some photos I took within 20 busy miles from where I grew up:

Very busy brains tend to go into the future, often with worry about what will be. We need to refocus, over and over again, on the precious present moment.

My very-busy-brained husband, Michael, suggested yesterday that we calm our very busy brains by committing, once again, to no worry for a year. We tried that once before, starting in April 2019, and, unfortunately, our brains got very busy with worry in March of 2020, when I and very many other people came down with COVID.

Do any other very busy brains want to join me and Michael in committing to no worry for a year?

My very busy brain goes into the future and the past, so here’s one of my very favorite TV show theme songs from the distant past:

My very busy brain looks forward to some very busy activity in the comments section, below.

Finally, here’s some very busy gratitude for all who help me create these very busy posts, including YOU!

Categories: life during the pandemic, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

Day 3018: Why is it so difficult for people to stay in the moment?

Whenever I invite people to stay in the moment, rather than thinking about the future or the past, I acknowledge how difficult that is to do. Every moment, people agree with me. It’s difficult to stay in the moment — the human mind wants to go into the past and/or the future.

In this moment, it occurs to me to ask the question: Why is it so difficult for people to stay in the moment? When people do stay in the moment — experience the present with all their senses — they appreciate the break from regrets about the past and worries about the future. And yet it remains so difficult to stay in the moment.

Because I can’t answer the question I posed in the moment, I just tweeted this:

Before I finish this post, I’ll check back on Twitter to see if I have any answers.

In the meantime, notice the focus on the future and the past in these other images I am sharing in the moment.

In the moment, I think the Daily Bitch is inviting us to stay in the moment.

There are no answers to my question on Twitter, so I’ll see if there are answers on YouTube to “Why is it so difficult for people to stay in the moment?”

Here is Eckhart Tolle with “Accepting the Present Moment not the Life Situation!”

As usual, it’s difficult for me to stay in the moment as I’m reminiscing about my son’s past YouTube “Louie Louie” creation

… and wondering if I will find any videos of Jackie Chan dancing:

Still no answers on Twitter in the moment, so I’ll ask you: Why is it so difficult for people to stay in the moment?

It’s not difficult for me to stay in the moment with gratitude, so thanks to all who help me blog every day, including YOU.

Categories: life during the pandemic, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 28 Comments

Day 3015: 4-3-21

Today is countdown day in the United States: 4-3-21.

What are you counting down to? While my mind counts down into the future with how things could be different or better, I’m trying to stay in the moment with acceptance and awareness.

4-3-21 …..PHOTOS!

4-3-21 ….TWEETS!

4-3-21 … MUSIC! (“Countdown” by Beyoncé)

4-3-21 … COMMENTS! (see below)

4-3-21 … GRATITUDE!

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Day 2991: My idea of a good time

My idea of a good time is

  • blogging first thing in the morning,
  • providing group therapy to all who need it,
  • going for walks,
  • spending time with my husband Michael and other kind, loving, and funny people,
  • spending time with animals and nature,
  • balancing alone time with social time,
  • balancing my needs with others’ needs,
  • eating delicious, nutritious food,
  • accepting all feelings,
  • fighting injustice,
  • identifying next achievable steps,
  • learning new things,
  • good music,
  • good communication,
  • letting go of regrets about the past and worries about the future,
  • being in the moment,
  • longer days filled with light, and
  • capturing and sharing images.

My idea of a good time these days includes Twitter, in moderation.

Here’s “My Idea of a Good Time” by Mark Winkler:

My idea of a good time is asking you to share your ideas of a good time.

My idea of a good time is expressing gratitude to all who help me blog every day, including YOU.

Categories: group psychotherapy, life during the pandemic, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 18 Comments

Day 2903: Just BE

Sometimes we need a break from thinking, worrying, and doing, to just BE. After all, we are human BEings (not human doings etc.), as difficult as it might BE to BElieve that and just BE.

Just BE, as you look at my images for today.

Just BE as you take a moment to celebrate as you choose.

Just BE as you listen to Frank Sinatra sing “Oh! What it Seemed to BE.”

Just BE in a comment, below. I’ll BE reading and responding to your comments later, after I get to BE with other group therapists in a ZOOM meeting.

Finally, just BE with my gratitude for all those who help me BE here every day, including you!

Categories: life during the pandemic, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 25 Comments

Day 2872: What we dwell on

Yesterday, when I was dwelling on Donald Trump, Donald Trump’s supporters, and angry people, I found this quote by Oprah Winfrey:

Oh no! Oprah knows for sure that I will become Donald Trump, a Donald Trump supporter, and/or an angry person unless I dwell on something else. Luckily, there are many other things to dwell on in my other photos from yesterday.

Uh-oh. Now I’m dwelling on the fact that we just lost our internet connection. Also, it’s taking forever for me to upload any more photos that are dwelling on my phone by using cellular data.

Now I’m dwelling on the possibility that if Donald Trump, Donald Trump supporters, and angry people want to take over my country with a coup, knocking out the internet of people dwelling in liberal parts of the USA is probably a great way to do that.

Now I’m dwelling on this: a coup in the USA is highly unlikely. Also, the photo I am trying to upload in this precious moment says “Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.”

Rather than dwelling on worry, I choose to dwell on

  • hope,
  • quotes from wise people,
  • people I love,
  • people I trust,
  • cats,
  • dogs,
  • the ocean,
  • things that make me think,
  • things that make me feel,
  • things that make me laugh,
  • delicious nutritious food,
  • my health and the health of others,
  • staying safe,
  • music, and
  • taking a walk on a beautiful morning.

Therefore, I am going to take a masked walk on this beautiful morning after sharing this one other photo which uploaded successfully:

Dwell on this: In 2019 I bet people cookies that Donald Trump would not win re-election. That box of Mallomars is part of my winnings, with more cookies on the way.

Because it helps me to dwell on music, I’m going to search YouTube for music that dwells there, as I peacefully accept that I can always share my other temporarily unload-able photos tomorrow.

Strangely enough, when I search YouTube for “what we dwell on”, I find another Game of Thrones video.

Now I’m dwelling on synchronicity and gratitude for all who help me dwell on blogging every day, including YOU!

Categories: 2020 U.S. Election, 2020 U.S. Presidential election, blogging, life during the pandemic, personal growth, photojournalism, politics, technical problems | Tags: , , , , , , , | 39 Comments

Day 2615: Something terrible is probably about to happen

Everyday I look around, wondering if something terrible is about to happen.

Here’s what today’s Daily Bitch Calendar has to say about that:

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Something terrible might include floods …

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or  technology disasters.

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How do we enjoy the good times if something terrible is probably about to happen? Is it possible that knowing that something terrible (like injustice, pain, sickness, and death) is probably about to happen might HELP us enjoy the good times?

In both of my Coping and Healing groups yesterday, people talked about good times AND somethings terrible, which I wrote up on The Board of Importance.

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Somebody who had been away from the group for a long time shared that  listening to this song on YouTube had helped them get through something terrible:

Good times!

Feel free to share good times, something terrible, or anything else in the comments section, below.

Something thankful is probably about to happen.

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Day 2491: Looking forward

“Looking forward” is something people often write and say about the future.  Today, I’m looking forward to

While looking forward to events in the future can help one feel hope, it can also trigger worry and fears about that future, like “Is this too much?”  “Will all these activities next week interfere in my self care?” “Will the absence of the late Walter Becker get in the way of my really enjoying the Steely Dan concert?” “What’s the weather going to be like?” “Am I ready for November?”  and “Where the hell am I going to park?”

The cure for future-oriented fears is refocusing on the present moment. And in this moment, I have several new photos to share with you.

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To make this my day, my way, I’d like to revisit and clarify one difficult-to-read photo above:

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History is a relentless master. It has no present, only the past rushing into the future. To try to hold fast is to be swept aside.

John Fitzgerald Kennedy

I’m looking forward to thoughtful and articulate future Presidents of the United States of America.

Finding this on YouTube is helping me look forward, even more, to the Steely Day concert on Friday:

I’m looking forward to knowing what you’re looking forward to. In other words, I’m looking forward to reading any comment you might leave, below.

I wonder if anybody is looking forward to my thanking everybody for all you do for me, every day, here at this blog.

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Day 2449: Easy for people to get in touch

Yesterday, when I was trying to make it easy for me to get in touch with

  • people I love,
  • all my feelings,
  • confidence,
  • hope,
  • needs,
  • support,
  • strength,
  • vulnerability,
  • adventure,
  • being prepared for my speech at my college reunion next week,
  • recovery from an inappropriate encounter, and
  • the present moment,

… it was easy for me to get in touch with these two notifications on my touch screen:

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I don’t know if adding a phone number to Oscar’s Facebook page would make it easy for people to get in touch, since Oscar doesn’t talk on the phone.

It’s easy for people to get in touch with my life because I share so many photos, like these:

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It’s easy for me to get in touch with Oscar, Harley,  and all of my photos, for now.

Thanks to YouTube and Spotify, it’s easy for me to get in touch with music I love.

It’s easy for people to get in touch with the comments about that live performance of “Song for Bilbao” by the Pat Metheny Group, including these:

Noemi Zaffanella
2 years ago (edited)
I heard Pat Metheny and Lyle Mays since I was 6. I remember my mum when she told me that pat’s music is ever green. It’s true, I’m 19 now and I listen pat metheny every day for 13 years.

Steve Tocco
4 years ago
They’re all exceptional artists and I’m convinced Antonio Sanchez is not human.

Steven Reichert
3 years ago
A stage full of geniuses.

Luiz Janela
4 years ago
Heard trumpet sound, came to see if it was Pat soloing, but this time i was wrong. Great Cuong Vu. Beautiful!

geraldotorres35
5 years ago
Lets not forget Mr. Steve Rodby this guy sure keeps a smooth steady pulse love his groove PMG pls get back together …plssss

Joyce Sweeting
4 years ago
Pat becomes one with his guitar …you gotta luv it! 🙂

00xanawolf00
4 years ago
This is the first time I’ve heard this…

My mind is blown.

Fabio Copponi
4 years ago
Bona’s solo is a piece of magic…the calls to old jazz pieces are fantastic

edward shivers
4 years ago
GREATEST LIVE PERFORMANCE OF ALL TIME

Sometimes it’s easy for people to get in touch with appreciation.

Here and now, it’s easy for me to get in touch with my appreciation for the cats, pop-up shopping experiences, the Pat Metheny Group, the beauty surrounding me, and — of course! — YOU.

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