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Day 2769: Big hikes

Today’s Daily Bitch Calendar relates to big hikes:

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I am hearing from many people, through my Coping and Healing groups, that food choices and walks are very important these days.

Here are some photos from yesterday’s big hike:

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Thanks to Michael for that big meal (with monkfish, vegetables, and noodles) after my big hike.

It was hot here yesterday, so here‘s “Heat of the Day” by Pat Metheny and Lyle Mays:

 

No matter where I’m hiking, I’m always feeling big gratitude:

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Day 2768: Smiles

I wonder how many smiles appear when the latest post of The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally shows up (even when it’s late, like today)?

In a Coping and Healing telehealth group today, the mindfulness exercise was focusing on smiles. We talked about how even a fake smile can get endorphins going and improve somebody’s mood.

Smiles are particularly difficult to come by these days because of

  • tension,
  • stress,
  • worry,
  • fear,
  • uncertainty,
  • discomfort,
  • loss, and
  • masks.

How many smiles can you find in these recent photos?

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You may need to click on some of those smaller photos to look for smiles, but smiles are always worth looking for.

Here‘s a song about smiles:

I’ll smile if you leave a comment and I hope gratitude makes you smile.

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Day 2757: Here and now, with all of it.

Here and now, I’m pointing out that the subtitle of this blog, The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally, is “Here and now, with all of it.”

I’m doing two online Zoom meetings for my group psychotherapy organization this morning, and I’m going to do my best to be in the here and now, with all of it.

Why is it so difficult for us to be in the here and now, with all of it?

I could guess, but I’d rather be in the here and now, with all of these photos.

This music, which I shared in a recent post, has been helping me stay in the here and now, with all of it.

Here and now, all of your reactions are welcome.

Here and now, with all of my gratitude to YOU, until next time.

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Day 2748: Comfort and Discomfort

In my therapy groups, there are often discussions of opposites, like trust and distrust, love and hate (or indifference), hope and hopelessness, power and powerlessness, peace and war,  life and death, and — especially lately — comfort and discomfort.

Do you see any comfort and/or discomfort in today’s photos?

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Here‘s “Comfort” by Satchy.

I am comforted by the thought that you might leave a comment about comfort or discomfort.

Comfortable thanks to all, including YOU.

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Day 2742: Community

On June 13, I am going to be facilitating an online community meeting for an esteemed community of group therapists.

Here’s an online definition of community:

com·mu·ni·ty
/kəˈmyo͞onədē/

1. a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common.

2. a feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.

As I’m looking at that definition, I’m thinking how important difference and diversity are (not just things shared in common) for enriching a community.

I’m planning on asking people questions during the online community meeting, like

  1. What does community mean to you?
  2. What gets in the way of community for you?
  3. What helps you connect to a community?

I’d also like to share the poem “community” by rupi kaur, which was featured in my previous blog post about community:

when the world comes crashing at your feet

it’s okay to let others

help pick up the pieces

if we’re present to take part in your happiness

when your circumstances are great

we are more than capable

of sharing your pain

Here‘s a video on rupi kaur  from the community of the Sikh Foundation of Canada.

 

Do any of my photos from yesterday relate to community?

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Because part of community is creating a safe enough space for others to participate, what are your thoughts and feelings about community?

I am grateful for all my communities, including this one!

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Day 2728: News you can use

Since so many people are telling me that they are avoiding the news these days, I’m hoping to provide some news you can use, here and now, including these headlines:

  • My panel discussion of providing therapy groups remotely  during the pandemic went very well yesterday.
  • I’ll be performing my original song “Triggers” at an online Open Mic tonight.
  • As always, I’m doing my best to lose my investment in the outcome while remaining totally committed to the process.
  • I take selfies with my cat.

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Is there any news you can use in these new photos?

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More news you can use:

This may be more news you can use. My husband Michael and I have an old private joke, where we have this exchange:

Me: Michael!  This (and I describe some thing that occurred that day) happened and guess what I did?

Michael: You cried.

I cry at lots of things, including Some Good News.

We can all use gratitude, so thanks to all who help me create these daily blogs, including YOU.

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Day 2727: Numbers

Seven, which is a common lucky number, appears twice in the number of today’s blog.  Seven is also the number of my previous blog posts about numbers (here, here, here, here, here, here, and here).

It’s been quite a number of days since I last wrote a post about numbers (one thousand, one hundred, and sixteen days, but who’s counting?) I think “numbers” is a good topic, here and now, because there is so much in the news about numbers (number of new coronavirus cases, number of deaths, number of jobs lost, etc. etc.)

Also, this is today’s Daily Bitch:

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Please take a number for your favorite photo from today’s post. That first photo, above, is, of course, #1.

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I think there are a number of people who would not allow a cat to be on the dining room table.

The Ranker website has a list of the best songs with a number in the title. What’s your favorite song about numbers? Here‘s one of mine:

 

And another one:

And one more:

 

Now I have to prepare for a panel discussion about doing therapy groups remotely during the age of the coronavirus.  There are four  people on the panel and I have eight minutes to talk about my Coping and Healing groups. I don’t know if that will be too much, too little, or just right.

I’ll let you know how it goes in post # 2728.

I have a large number of photos indicating gratitude, and here are just a few  of them:

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Day 2714: Bitching Days

As we’ve all been bitching about during this bitching pandemic,  it’s been difficult to know what bitching day it is, because one bitching day merges into another one.

Therefore,  I was bitching thrilled when the Daily Bitch Calendar arrived at my home yesterday.

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I’ve been missing that bitching calendar from work, every bitching day.

Can you bitching believe what that bitching calendar was bitching about the last day I was in my bitching office?

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On February 28, I was bitching to my husband Michael that I didn’t want to leave him and go to bitching New York City for a bitching week-long conference with hundreds of other bitches from all over the bitching world, what with all the bitching news about the bitching coronavirus pandemic.

Well, we’re all bitching about the bitching pandemic together now.

I shared yesterday’s Daily Bitch calendar page with both my bitching  Thursday therapy groups.

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That is bitching hilarious, because people in groups often bitch about their families.

Here are many other bitching days from The Daily Bitch Calendar:

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I wish we all had an adult role model to look up to, every bitching day.

This daily bitch …

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… is a nice segue to all my other photos from my bitching day yesterday.

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Honestly, what has Harley got to bitch about?

Here‘s a cat video from some bitching days in 2020:

 

I look forward to your bitching comments, every bitching day!

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Day 2712: People are resilient until they’re not

One thing I’m thinking about this morning is the suicide of Dr. Lorna Breen, an emergency room director  in New York City.

In this article by Rhea Mahbubani and Dave Mosher about the recent suicides of Dr. Breen and John Mondello, an EMT in NYC, I noticed these quotes:

“Of my four children — well I guess now I’ve only got three — no one would’ve predicted that Lorna was having a hard time,” Dr. Philip C. Breen, her father, told Business Insider. “She would not even be on that list.”

As the pandemic has left millions under lockdown and triggered deep loss and widespread grief, medical workers and emergency responders like Mondello and Lorna Breen have faced the brunt of the crisis with grueling workloads, unprecedented stress, deep uncertainty, and a steep death count.

Medical workers are drawn to the profession to alleviate suffering and protect their patients. During the pandemic, however, the virus has in many cases robbed them of the ability to achieve either goal.

Laurie Nadel, a psychotherapist and author, characterized the coronavirus as an “equal-opportunity destroyer” that’s forcing frontline medical workers to go “mano-a-mano with mortality on a larger scale” than ever before.

There are ways to support workers in such high-pressure roles, but Dr. Shauna Springer advocates not calling them heroes. “There’s an invisible pressure that comes with that.”

“People are resilient until they’re not. And so people who are called out as resilient are often more reluctant to acknowledge human struggles and to reach out when they need help.”

For people who are resilient until they’re not (which can include all of us),  that article advocates the healing powers of listening without offering advice and also doing things to lighten each other’s loads.

Do you see evidence of people who are resilient until they’re not in the images I captured yesterday?

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I posted that last picture of that resilient tiger on my Facebook page last night with this caption: “She’s taking crisis calls.”   I’m noticing, here and now, that it’s easier to be resilient when somebody has your back.

People are resilient until they’re not, so let’s watch the fifth installment of “Some Good News” with John Krasinski:

 

Resilient thanks to all who do their best helping themselves and others, including YOU.

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Day 2707: Outlets

It’s challenging to find outlets for our feelings, thoughts, needs, wants, and wishes when the coronavirus is out there, not letting us live our normal and familiar  lives.

Yesterday, my outlets included

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My outlets also include music and dancing, and Michael and I recently danced to this old R.E.M. tune:

(Don’t Go Back To) Rockville
R.E.M.
Looking at your watch a third time
Waiting in the station for the bus
Going to a place that’s far
So far away and if that’s not enough
Going where nobody says hello
They don’t talk to anybody they don’t know
You’ll wind up in some factory
That’s full time filth and nowhere left to go
Walk home to an empty house
Sit around all by yourself
I know it might sound strange but I believe
You’ll be coming back before too long
Don’t go back to Rockville
Don’t go back to Rockville
Don’t go back to Rockville
And waste another year
At night I drink myself to sleep and pretend
I don’t care if you’re not here with me
‘Cause it’s so much easier to handle
All my problems if I’m too far out to sea
But something better happen soon
Or it’s gonna be too late to bring you back

When people have an outlet to express themselves (like my Coping and Healing Groups), they’re saying it feels too late to bring ourselves back to where we were before the pandemic and that we might all be wasting another year waiting for this to be over.

How can any year be wasted if we meet each moment fully and as a friend?

What are your outlets, my friends?

Here’s another daily outlet for me: gratitude.

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