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Day 3558: Flexpectations

Last week in a therapy group, somebody used the word “flexpectations” to describe an effective coping strategy. Rather than getting stuck in and disappointed by expectations and assumptions, this person tried flexibly adapting their expectations as situations developed and changed.

Since then, I’ve worked on flexpectations while planning trips for September and May and — despite my old habit of expecting disappointment — good things are happening when I least expect them!

Let’s practice flexpectations as we make our way through the rest of this blog post.

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Here and now, I have flexpectations about meteors, social media, Bomb Pops, and handshakes.

Here’s what I find when I search YouTube for “flexpectations.”

I have flexpectations about what comments I’ll get about this post and I have gratitude for all who helped me create it, including YOU!

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Day 3539: Freaking Adorable

I think the Daily Bitch is freaking adorable and that’s why I share that calendar with freaking adorable people.

Today I’m going to attend a Zoom conference with some fellow freaking adorable group therapists. Tonight, for the first time since the start of the freaking pandemic, I’m going to attend an in-person party for the freaking adorable Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy. I’m not freaking out about that because the party is mostly outside and I’ll wear this freaking adorable mask whenever I’m inside:

After all we’ve been through, we’re probably not as freaking adorable as we used to be, but I think we’re freaking adorable enough.

I hope you enjoy my other freaking adorable images for today.

It’s freaking adorable that the National Day Calendar sends you a puppy when you ask about a National Day that doesn’t exist (like National Fred Day or National Ann Day).

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “freaking adorable.”

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I think this comment about that video is freaking adorable:

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By the way, I’m very close to 30,000 freaking adorable followers on Twitter and I’ll be sharing this video when I hit that freaking amazing number.

I look forward to your freaking adorable comments, below.

Thanks to everyone who is freaking adorable, including YOU!

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Day 3538: Learning

I keep learning every day and I try to share some of that learning in this blog.

Yesterday, in a therapy session, somebody compared learning self-acceptance to maintaining a home. While we might wish that our hard work is finally done, we learn to keep recommitting to the upkeep, which is never finished.

This weekend I’ll be learning more about facilitating groups at the annual conference of the Northeastern Society for Group Psychotherapy. I’m never done learning more about groups, too.

I have to say that what I’m learning about my country can be very scary and discouraging. I hope that people in the USA are learning that they have to vote in November if they care about the future of their country and the world.

Do you see learning in my images for today?

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “learning.”

Thanks to all who support my learning, including YOU.

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Day 3536: Irritations

I don’t want to be irritating, but have you noticed people experiencing and expressing more irritations lately?

Maybe I’m more keenly aware of trends in irritations because of all the people I encounter in my therapy groups and on social media.

This reminds me of something I read about irritations recently: “If you meet a jerk every month, you’ve met a jerk. If you meet a jerk every day, you are a jerk.” I’ve been quoting that in my groups, expressing my amazement at discovering that I am a jerk (which people don’t seem to find irritating).

What irritations can you find in my images for today?

People sometimes express irritation with the National Days (although most people seem to enjoy knowing about them). To celebrate today, I’m going to share a photo that demonstrates all of today’s National Celebrations.

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Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “irritations.”

Feel free to express irritations or anything else in the comments section, below.

No matter what irritations I experience, I am grateful to spend another day on this earth with people who don’t irritate me, including YOU.

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Day 3532: Doing a good job

Doing a good job is important to me, although I often remind people that we are worthy no matter what we are doing or not doing. In a therapy group yesterday, I repeated (on National Repeat Day) that we are human beings, NOT human doings, so we need to try to accept and love ourselves even when we’re not doing well.

Part of doing a good job as a daily blogger is capturing images, looking at them in the morning, and coming up with a title and theme that fits.

Do you think I’m doing a good job with today’s blog post?

The Daily Bitch calendar is doing a good job reassuring us today. And I’m doing a good job on National Hug Your Cat Day hugging our cat Joan (seen above doing a good job on her first visit to her new vet and also helping me unpack).

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “doing a good job.”

Thanks to all who support me in doing a good job here and elsewhere, including YOU!

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Day 3510: Dancing for joy

Last night, in a Coping and Healing group, somebody described how — in the midst of ongoing struggles with anxiety and unhappiness — they suddenly started dancing for joy while cleaning their home, with family members joining in. I could see how this person’s story about dancing for joy joyfully affected the other group members because joy — like other feelings — can be contagious.

Today, I’m dancing for joy because I’m about to begin a two-week vacation which will include dancing for joy, walking for joy, resting for joy, reading for joy, eating for joy, flying for joy (with some fear and anxiety mixed in), and joyfully seeing the musical “Rent” in Portland with my good friend Maria.

I’m also remembering a weekend retreat, decades ago, where a huge group of people were dancing for joy — shedding self consciousness because we were all blindfolded and watched over by helpful facilitators.

Do any of my images for today evoke dancing for joy?

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “dancing for joy.”

Here’s a dancing for joy number from the movie version of “Rent.”

I look forward to your comments about this dancing for joy post.

Thanks to all who help me dance for joy, including YOU!

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Day 3389: Doodles

Yesterday, in both of my Coping and Healing groups, I asked people to doodle during the mindfulness exercise, either on a drawing surface or in their heads.

Here’s a definition of doodle:

I’m doodling in my mind, right now, about how I asked people to be mindful and absentminded at the same time. Nobody seemed to mind that in the groups yesterday, including someone who likes to call mindfulness “mindlessness.”

For me, mindfulness is about being in the moment, taking a break from fears about the future and regrets about the past. When I was in school, I used to take a break from those by doodling octagons in my notebooks, like these:

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Last night, after a long day of work, I asked this question about doodles on Twitter:

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Do you see any doodles (or things you doodle) in my other images for today?

Someone in a group yesterday said they doodle zentangles and those came up when I searched YouTube for “doodles.

I look forward to your word doodles in the comments section, below.

As always, I’m going to end this blogdoodle with thanks to all who help me doodle my thoughts and feelings here every day, including YOU.

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Day 3383: Joining groups

Because I believe so strongly in the healing power of groups, I always encourage joining groups, especially during these times of polarization and isolation.

Do you see joining groups in my group of images today?

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Because I’m joining (for the fourth time) the group that feels sick the day after they get a COVID vaccine, the screwing off begins right after I publish this blog post.

Answering my own question about joining a musical group: the Pat Metheny group is what I would join and here they are joining each other beautifully on “Third Wind.”

If you want to be joining the group that comments on this blog, see below.

Joining groups of grateful people is easy for me, so thanks to all who help me post every day, including YOU!

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Day 3380: Fear

Yesterday, in my Coping and Healing therapy group, people talked about fear. The discussions included (1) the differences among feeling fearful, frightened, and afraid, (2) fear as one of the primal emotions, (3) the movie Inside Out (which I resolved to watch again before our next meeting), and inviting fear to come in and take a seat while we talked about it.

Do you see fear in any of my images for today?

I never fear sharing the Daily Bitch calendar here.

When I search YouTube for “fear” I find this

… and this:

I have no fear about the comments you might leave about this “fear” post.

Thanks to all who help me overcome any fears I might have about sharing thoughts, feelings, images, and videos every day, including YOU.

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Day 3359: What brings you joy?

In my Coping and Healing groups (which bring me joy), people have been talking about being overwhelmed by the news, fears about the future, loss, medical issues, grief, uncertainties, tasks, unknowns, obligations, other people, and possessions. Regarding the latter, several people have brought up Marie Kondo and her advice to keep only the things that bring you joy.

During these anxious and depressing times, it can be very difficult to focus on the things that bring us joy, but I’m doing my best to bring it, every moment.

Do any of my images today bring you joy?

No matter how I’m feeling, Joan definitely brings me joy (among other things).

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “what brings you joy.”

I am grateful for all those that bring me joy, including YOU!

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