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Day 1784: Judging You

One of the interns at work —  who knows I write a blog about letting go of judgment and who I hope is not judging me about that —  showed me this last week:

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Are you judging those “judging you” socks?

When I talk to people about joining my “Coping and Healing”  groups, I sometimes say

Judging is something we humans do.   I won’t be judging you about that. Please pay attention to harsh self-judgment and try judging you less.

Right now, I’m judging you, Michael, for not emailing  me those photos for today’s blog, which included cupcakes that looked like dogs.  I’m letting go of judging you, Michael, and I’m also letting go of judging me for not taking my phone with me yesterday when we visited a craft show benefiting a local animal shelter.

Don’t judge me for finding this video when I searched for “Judging You” on YouTube:

 

While cats may be judging you, I’m still thankful for cats, for Michael, for Vivian the intern, and for this one photo I took yesterday evening.

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Day 1780: Healthy/Not so healthy

When the days turn dark and cold, I witness more people talking about healthy and not so healthy habits.

Yesterday, in a therapy group, people made lists of healthy and not so healthy things in their lives.IMG_4961

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Is it healthy to make lists like that?

Do you see healthy or not so healthy things in my other photos from yesterday?

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Whenever I see a huge truck with evocative words and images like “Lost Angel,” I assume it’s full of alcohol.  Is that healthy or not so healthy?

Here’s some healthy music on YouTube:

 

Is it healthy or not so healthy to make comments on the internet?

I know it’s healthy to express gratitude, so thanks to all who helped me create this post and to you — of course! — for reading.

 

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Day 1774: “I’m out of here”

Yesterday, before people were out of my Wednesday morning therapy group, somebody said “I’m out of here” regarding a stressful, toxic family relationship.

I invited the group members to express thoughts, feelings, and associations about “I’m out of here”  using  words, drawings, poetry, or  interpretive dance.  I then did an interpretive dance of “I’m out of here” by leaving the group room to get a drink of water.

What are your thoughts, feelings, and associations about “I’m out of here”?

Let’s get yesterday’s photos out of my iPhone and into this post.

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Those ducks are out of their usual element  because Michael has been using a computer programming technique out of here  called “Rubber Duck debugging.”  He prefers to  express his  thoughts, while he programs, to the purple rubber duck out of Scotland (here). Why?  Because it looks more interested than the Hearing Duck (which is out of here).

Here‘s Shania Twain singing “I’m Out of Here.”

I’m out of here, but not before I express thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1771: Approval

I keep reading about “historically low” approval in the news.

In my work as a therapist, I try to help people improve low self approval. Improving low self approval often includes  group therapy, where people realize they are not alone in their unfairly harsh approval of themselves.

Self approval is often improved by

  • self care,
  • connecting,
  • sharing,
  • letting go of shame,
  • acceptance,
  • forgiveness,
  • honoring dreams,
  • identifying an achievable next step, and
  • giving oneself credit for progress, no matter how small,

What helps you improve your self approval?

I suspect there will be some approval of today’s photos.

 

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Is there approval for “Approval” by Brett Max?

 

My dreams include improved self approval for all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — for YOU.  Thanks for your approval!

 

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Day 1768: Difficult conversations

Yesterday, in a therapy group, people had a conversation about difficult conversations.

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What makes a conversation difficult?  Have you been having difficult conversations lately? What helps you start and make it through difficult conversations?

If I notice an elephant in the room, I feel the pressure to name it and invite difficult conversations.  While that might make a mess, I trust that cleaning up that mess together will promote growth.

Are there any difficult conversations in my other photos from yesterday?

 

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With the conversation in that last photo,  it’s not difficult to choose today’s video. Here  are Jimmy Fallon and Justin Timberlake having a conversation about Toto‘s Africa at  summer camp:

 

Feel free to start any conversation, difficult or otherwise, in the comment section below.

It’s not difficult to express gratitude to all who helped me with the conversations in this post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1759: What do you like most about yourself?

What do you like most about yourself?

What I like most about myself is that  …

  • I offer  therapy/support groups where people  bring in and answer excellent questions.

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  • I follow my own values and standards.

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  • I try my best to live righteously and love everyone.

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  • I appreciate and share great music.

 

  • I express gratitude, including thanking all who help me create these daily blog posts and — of course! — YOU.

 

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Day 1752: The universe

There’s a mindfulness exercise I often do in my therapy groups where I mention the universe, as follows:

When you breathe in, think of something positive you’d like to breathe in —   from this room or from the universe.

Every time I do that  universal mindfulness exercise, I tell the group I expect to breathe in gratitude, and I do.

Here are the pictures I was grateful to take in from the universe yesterday:

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What would you like to take in from the universe, here and now?

Here’s The Universe in 4 Minutes:

If you don’t have time for the universe in four minutes, here’s the universe in less than two minutes:

Finally, thanks to the universe and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1740: Get Out

Get out!  I can’t believe that all my recent photos relate to the phrase “Get Out.”

 

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Those last two photos came out of a therapy group where people with histories of emotionally abusive relationships were brainstorming  how to get out  of old patterns and improve their lives.

What does “Get Out” mean to you?

You can get out to YouTube to hear “Get Out” by Lauryn Hill:

Now I need to get out to work and then get out to a performance of the musical Evita.

Did you think I’d forget to thank all the people who helped me create this post and you — of course! —  for reading it?  Get out!

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Day 1738: Sharing dreams

Yesterday, I was asked to facilitate a group for staff, in addition to my usual Tuesday “Coping and Healing” group.  As usual, I was honored to provide a safe-enough space for people to express themselves and to connect with others in a healing way.

In both of the groups, people discussed the tragic events in the news. In one of the groups, the members decided to share and comment on each other’s recent dreams.  Whenever I work with dreams in a group, I encourage people to respond to other people’s dreams  with “If it were my dream, it might mean ….”  People’s dreams included sacrifice, animals, losing a baby, wandering in an enormous house, being chased, and communicating with dead relatives.  I mentioned that I’d recently dreamed that I was friends with Stephen Colbert.

If it were your dream, what might those dreams mean to you? What dreams have you been having lately?

I snapped only four photos yesterday, two consciously and the other two unconsciously.

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During dark times, try sharing your dreams.

Somebody is sharing dreams on YouTube:

 

Many thanks to you for sharing these dreams with me, here and now.

 

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Day 1733: I don’t know what to do.

Last night, in a therapy group, somebody kept saying, “I don’t know what to do.”

I suggested that people write down “I don’t know what to do” and then express thoughts and feelings about that.

I wrote a poem titled “I don’t know what to do” but I didn’t take a picture of it, so now I don’t know what to do.

I know what to do. I’ll show you the photos I did take yesterday.

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That’s my friend and co-worker Megan, who is leaving soon. I don’t know what to do without her.

Here are some things to do when you don’t know what to do.

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  • Speak up.

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  • Find your purpose.
  • Listen to music.

  • Express gratitude for all you have and all who support you, every day.

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