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Day 3526: Just because

I create this daily blog just because it helps me feel better, no matter what’s happened the day before. And just because I believe all healing is mutual, I share it with you.

I capture images just because I have faith they’ll fit together well enough in my posts. Here are my images from yesterday, just because.

On National Just Because Day, the Daily Bitch expresses her feelings just because.

Just because of the title of these songs, I’m going to share them with you now.

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Just because I enjoy reading your comments, why don’t you leave one?

Just because I’m grateful you made it to the end of this post, I’m sharing these final photos with you!

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Day 3523: What sticks

I tell people in my Coping and Healing groups that what sticks in our minds tends to be negative, so we need to consciously let go of unhelpful and distorted thoughts and reinforce helpful reframes.

What sticks for me, here and now, is

  • the new harness for my cat Joan, which uses strips of Velcro for easy on and easy off,
  • that somebody on Twitter unexpectedly blocked me, and
  • my gratitude for all the people who do keep me in their lives.

What sticks in my images for today?

If I stick to my healthier eating habits, I won’t be having any sticky waffles or pies today.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “what sticks”:

Please stick any thoughts and feelings you choose to share in the comments section, below.

What sticks at the end of my posts is my thanks to all who help me create this daily blog, including YOU.

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Day 3519: Different perspectives

One thing I’ve learned as a group therapist is that different people can have very different perspectives on the same issue.

Not surprisingly, there are many different quotes on different perspectives.

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Do you see different perspectives in my images for today?

I have different perspectives on air travel, which I hope will be nationally accessible next month when I fly south to Florida and Georgia.

Here’s what I find when I search YouTube for “different perspectives.”

I also find this:

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I look forward to the different perspectives that appear in the comments section, below.

Thanks to all who have different perspectives, including YOU!

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Day 3518: The proper response

As a therapist, I often think about the proper response to what people share in groups and individual therapy. In the therapy biz, we call that “an intervention.” Sometimes, focusing too much on the proper response or the “perfect” intervention can get in the way of being present in the moment with people.

Because I’ll be offering groups to the doctors at the hospital where I work, I just joined The American Balint Society and signed up for their online training program, so I can give the proper response when I facilitate Balint groups for the first time.

The Daily Bitch Calendar today is all about the proper response.

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Do you see the proper response in any of my other images for today?

I don’t know what the proper response is to those National Days, especially since I’m trying to lose a little weight before my trip in September.

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “the proper response.”

I hope you know that any comment you choose to leave is the proper response to this post.

The proper response at the end of my blogs is always gratitude for YOU.

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Day 3517: Untold stories

Because I’m a group therapist, I am privileged to witness the healing power of untold stories being told.

Yesterday, after listening to previously untold and moving stories in a group, I noticed this sign at the Public Gardens in Boston:

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Do you find any untold stories in my other images for today?

There are often untold stories behind the National Days.

Here’s an untold story about the National Days and me: Periodically somebody on Twitter gets mad about the frivolity of my tweeting the National Days list every morning. From now on, I’m responding with this:

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “untold stories”:

I look forward to your untold stories, below.

Thanks to all who share and witness previously untold stories, including YOU.

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Day 3484: What Helps

In my office at the hospital, I have two giant lists of What Helps.

What helps me is remembering facilitating therapy groups in that room years ago and continually adding to that list of “What Helps.”

What helps is to know that people in groups can be creative, supportive, and resilient despite trauma, losses, and diagnoses like anxiety, depression, PTSD, and other “disorders.”

What helps in my other images for today?

What helps is knowing that I don’t have to pretend to give a shit (because I love my work so much).

Here’s what I find on YouTube when I search for “what helps.”

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Pema Chödrön definitely helps me. What helps you?

What also helps is expressing gratitude and appreciation, so thanks to all who help, including YOU.

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Day 3482: Introductions

The introduction to today’s post is going to be my random thoughts about introductions:

  • I’m working on the introduction to the first book I’ve ever written — “How to Make Your Brain Shut Up.”
  • My introduction of a new member into my Coping and Healing groups always includes inviting the other people to remember what it felt like when they were new to the group.
  • When I was giving a talk about my groups and was asked what I wanted as an introduction, I replied, “Just say, this is Ann Koplow. She knows what she’s talking about.”
  • Before the introduction in 2016 of a mechanical heart valve and the need to take Coumadin/Warfarin for the rest of my life, I was very anxious about the impact of those things, but now it’s all second nature to me.
  • My husband Michael and I feared that the introduction of a new cat, Joan, would bother our old cat Harley, but after a brief introductory period of hissing and him adjusting to her, everybody’s fine.

Now that we’ve finished the introduction, do you see introductions in my images for today?

To celebrate National Cousins Day, I want to tell my cousin Lani (who’s being reading this blog since its introduction in 2013) how much I love and appreciate her. I’m looking forward to our introduction to Viking River cruises in May 2023.

Here are the two songs I think have especially great introductions:

I feel fine about ending this post about introductions with gratitude for all the wonderful people I’m been introduced to over the years, including YOU!

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Day 3471: Unknowns

When I write notes for therapy sessions, I document people’s stressors, and those stressors often include “unknowns about the future.”

People have always dealt with unknowns, but unknowns these days include

  • when the pandemic will end,
  • what other diseases will emerge,
  • how people will make it to their next paycheck,
  • the future of democracy,
  • whether injustices will ever be satisfactorily addressed,
  • the planet’s response to climate change, and
  • who and what will survive.

No wonder so many people are stressed by unknowns!

For some unknown reason, I still hold out hope for the future. Maybe it’s because I have to, in order to face unknowns here and now.

Do you see unknowns in my images for today?

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Roller skates are not unknown to me but that Jefferson Starship lullaby is. Sometimes, unknowns can become knowns almost immediately.

What are your unknown (to me) thoughts and feelings about unknowns?

It’s probably unknown to you how much I appreciate your visits here, but I do my best to let you know!

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Day 3466: Recognition

My blog posts — which get a satisfying amount of recognition — often start with a definition, so here’s a definition of recognition.

Because of my work as a group therapist, I often think about the importance of recognition. Everyone needs some recognition, especially recognition of one’s authentic self. Also, in order for us to survive, there are injustices that need recognition.

Do you recognize recognition in my images for today?

Do chocolate with almonds, collector cars, and freezer pops need more recognition?

Here’s “Santé” by Stromae, deserving of much more recognition.

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In recognition of all who help me create this blog every day, thank you!

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Day 3458: Flexpectations

Last week in a therapy group, somebody used the word “flexpectations” to describe an effective coping strategy. Rather than getting stuck in and disappointed by expectations and assumptions, this person tried flexibly adapting their expectations as situations developed and changed.

Since then, I’ve worked on flexpectations while planning trips for September and May and — despite my old habit of expecting disappointment — good things are happening when I least expect them!

Let’s practice flexpectations as we make our way through the rest of this blog post.

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Here and now, I have flexpectations about meteors, social media, Bomb Pops, and handshakes.

Here’s what I find when I search YouTube for “flexpectations.”

I have flexpectations about what comments I’ll get about this post and I have gratitude for all who helped me create it, including YOU!

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