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Day 1937: What could go right?

In therapy lately, several people have decided to ask themselves “What could go right?” instead of consistently focusing on what could go wrong.

I’m pulling for everyone to have success in this valiant effort to change habitually negative thinking.  Would you like to follow us and redirect your thoughts from what could go wrong to what could go right?

What could go right, here and now?

These photos could go right.

 

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For those of us who think about what could go wrong when we can’t fall asleep, it’s a relief to focus on what could go right.

There are endless YouTube videos about what could go wrong and this one about what could go right:

 

Gratitude for those who help me create these daily blog posts and  for you — of course! — always goes right.

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Day 1930: Lucky to be different

Yesterday was lucky to be different in several ways:

  • It was Friday the 13th.
  • Vivian the social work intern showed me her Lucky to Be Different socks.

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  • Vivian and I were lucky to facilitate a therapy group where different people discussed how lack or loss of control affects them.

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  • I was lucky to find different images  throughout the day.

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It’s lucky to be different around here.

It’s lucky that there are different versions of “Get Lucky” on YouTube (herehere, and here).

Do you think it’s lucky to be different?

I’m lucky to get different comments every day.

It’s lucky to be different, here and now, expressing thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1929: If I Ruled the World

If I ruled the world

Every day would be the first day of spring,

Every heart would have a new song to sing

And we’d sing of the joy every morning would bring.

If I ruled the world

Everyone would be as free as a bird,

Every voice would be a voice to be heard,

Take my word we would treasure each day that occurred.

My world would be a beautiful place

Where we would weave such wonderful dreams.

My world would wear a smile on its face

Like the man in the moon has when the moon beams.

If I ruled the world

Everyone would say the world was their friend,

There’d be happiness that no one could end

No, my friend, not if I ruled the world.

Every head would be held up high

There’d be sunshine in everyone’s sky

If the day ever dawned when I ruled the world.   — Lesley Bricusse and Cyril Ornadel

If I ruled the world

Every blog would have a wonderful song

You’d be free to dance and/or sing along

Groups would help each person feel much more strong.

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Different people would know that they belong.

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Wearing goofy socks would never be wrong.

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What would happen if you ruled the world?

No matter who rules the world, gratitude rules!

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Day 1922: The temperature

Last night in a therapy group, we did a mindfulness exercise in which we focused on the temperature in the room. After the exercise, people shared that they were

  • cold,
  • hot, and
  • hot and cold at the same time.

This goes to show that different people in the same room at the same time can have very different experiences, even regarding something as measurable as the temperature.

Earlier in the day, I noticed that the temperature outside was the coldest I could ever recall for the Boston Red Sox home opener.

Later in the day, the temperature in the group room went up when people discussed what made them mad.

What makes you mad? How does that affect your temperature?

Here’s the last photo I snapped yesterday in the cold Boston temperature.

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Here‘s a film by David Leaf about the night James Brown saved Boston.

Thanks to all who helped me write this post about the temperature and — of course! — to you, no matter what the temperature is where you are.

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Day 1920: What’s bad for you? What’s good for you?

Yesterday, in a therapy group, people made lists of what’s bad for them and what’s good for them.

What would you put in your lists of what’s bad for you and what’s good for you?

Do you see anything that’s  bad for you or good for you in my photos?

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Here‘s a Good AND Bad Song from The Powerpuff Girls.

 

It would be bad for me to miss my 7:30 AM Physical Therapy appointment, so it’s good for me to end now with thanks to all who helped me create today’s post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1910: What’s left unsaid?

Often, near the end of an important encounter (like a therapy group), I’ll ask people, “What’s left unsaid?”

Yesterday, near the end of a visit with a dear friend and fellow group therapist who has a terminal illness,  I asked, “What’s left unsaid?”  She and her husband said, “Well, you could come back, you know.”    I was so glad that was said that I immediately said, “When can I come back?”  and we scheduled another visit in April.

What’s left unsaid, for you, with other people?   I’ve said this before:  “Say what’s left unsaid, because you don’t know if you’ll get another chance to say it.”

Many things were said at the March for Our Lives yesterday that are no longer left unsaid.

Which of my photos are left unshared?

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What’s left unsaid for you, here and now?

For me, what’s left unsaid is always this:  my thanks to all.

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Day 1906: We fear what we can’t control

I fear I can’t control the news, which included this headline this morning:

We Fear What We Can’t Control About Uber and Facebook

Do you agree that we fear what we can’t control about technology and other aspects of our lives?

If we fear what we can’t control, we must be afraid a lot of the time.

Yesterday, in a therapy group, people expressed fear, anxiety, and depression about things they could not control.  When people offered each other support, I temporarily took control and suggested that members write down and send messages to each other in the group.

Earlier in the day, I took  control of a staff meeting and sang a song about my therapy groups.

You can’t control how I share photos on this blog.

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We can’t control that those are actual diagnosis codes doctors can use about their patients.  Do you fear being bitten by a cow, pecked by a chicken, etc.?

I can’t control what comments you leave but I have no fear about that.

Thanks to all who helped me control today’s blog post and — of course! — to YOU, no matter what you control or fear.

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Day 1905: Can’t Wait

Yesterday, when I told  somebody at work that I might be singing a song about my therapy groups at a meeting today, she said,  “Can’t wait to hear it.”

Can’t wait to tell you the meaning of the idiom “can’t wait”:

Be very eager, anxious, or impatient, as in We can’t wait for the baseball season to begin or I can’t wait to see Dad—it’s been a year. While the literal sense of being unable to wait (for lack of time) is much older, this figurative usage dates only from about 1930. The American Heritage® Idioms Dictionary.

When people say “can’t wait,” my brain sometimes can’t wait to have these thoughts:

What do you mean you can’t wait?  Of course, you can wait. And you will wait, because what you can’t wait for is NOT happening immediately.

I’ve waited a long time to express those thoughts about “can’t wait.”  I can’t wait to tell you how pleased I am that the wait is over.

I can’t wait to show you my four photos from yesterday.

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I can’t wait to tell you that

  • I work in Boston,
  • I wrote about the group exercise What I Know/What I Don’t Know here,
  • the second-to-last entry on my “What I Know” list, above, is “That I have a lot to learn,” and
  • Michael made a delicious cod dish last night.

I can’t wait to share this music with you.

I can’t wait to read comments about this post.  Wait! I will need to wait (but I know the comments will be worth the wait).

As always, I can’t wait to express my gratitude to all who helped me create this “Can’t Wait” post and — of course! — to YOU.

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Day 1902: What I Know/What I Don’t Know

What I know, here and now, includes the following:

What I don’t know, here and now, includes the following:

  • What you might put on your lists of what you know and what you don’t know.
  • Why I’m avoiding doing my taxes.
  • Whether I’m going to sing new lyrics I wrote to “Mack the Knife” about my Coping and Healing groups at work next week.
  • Who is going to be the next President of the United States.
  • How you might react to my photos from yesterday.

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I know that Bugles have way too much saturated fat but I didn’t know they were America’s #1 finger hat.  Now I know.

I know I love this Stephen Sondheim song (which you may or may not know from a six-month-old blog post).

Today I could choose to see a Stephen Sondheim musical at a local university and/or work on my taxes.  I don’t know what I’m going to do.

I know this:  I could do both. I’ll let you know tomorrow.

I don’t know what I would do without the people who help me write this blog.  I know I appreciate all of them, including YOU.

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Day 1895: Forget Regret

Yesterday, in a group therapy session, people talked about regret.  I said, “Regret is really present in this room. Should we invite Regret to sit down?”   People looked a little less regretful when they invited Regret to sit in a corner.  They also asked Regret questions like “Why won’t you go away?”  I answered in the voice of Regret: “I won’t go away because I think I help you. What would you do without me?”  People said that as the session went on, Regret was still there but was getting smaller.

Near the end of the session, I went over to the chair where Regret was sitting, picked it up by the scruff of the neck, opened the door with my other hand, threw Regret into the hallway, and slammed the door.  I asked people how it felt now that Regret was out of the room.  “Wonderful,” was one reply.

Later that day, I went to physical therapy for my torn rotator cuff, and Regret visited me there.  I got so discouraged about my lack of progress that I focused on my regret for slipping and falling on January 31.  Then, I remembered the group, took Regret by the scruff of the neck and threw it out the door.

Here‘s the song I heard yesterday with the lyrics “Forget Regret.”

There’s only us

There’s only this

Forget regret

Or life is yours to miss

No other road

No other way

No day but today.

Kind and wonderful people — like Dr. Maria Gonzalez Del Castillo and Kate at Beacon Hill Dental Associates — help me forget regret.

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Taking photos for this blog helps me forget regret.

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Forget regret but don’t forget to comment!

I never forget to send a big thank-you to everyone who helps me create this daily blog, especially YOU.

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