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Day 2979: Cheer the F*ck Up

In last night’s Coping and Healing group, as people discussed how to cheer the f*ck up during this f*cking pandemic, somebody shared this coloring book:

How do you cheer the f*ck up these days? People in my groups cheer the f*ck up by

  • practicing mindfulness,
  • venting,
  • setting healthy boundaries,
  • swearing,
  • crying,
  • laughing
  • accepting all feelings, and
  • realizing they are not alone.

Do any of today’s photos help you cheer the f*ck up?

After a long working day, I cheer the f*ck up with Michael’s cooking.

I find this when I search YouTube for “Cheer the f*ck up” …

… and this:

Gratitude helps me cheer the f*ck up, so thanks to all who help me create this daily blog, including YOU.

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Day 2971: What groups do you belong to?

If you belong to the group of regular readers of this blog, you know I’m a therapist who specializes in groups.

Here’s a new group I belong to:

I’m very glad to belong to this group, as you can see by this recent tweet:

Like anyone else, I belong to many groups, like the groups of mothers, wives, and heart patients. Do you see evidence of more groups in my other images?

I belong to the group of people who believe that lowering expectations AND maintaining high hopes for progress can both help.

I also belong to the group that looks for meaningful and relevant music.

What groups do you belong to? Do you belong to the group that leaves comments on this blog?

I also belong to the group that expresses gratitude, every day.

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Day 2968: Deprivation

In the training group I attended this weekend, we discussed, enacted, acknowledged, and healed people’s deprivation.

Lest there be a deprivation of definition here, here’s a definition of deprivation:

The deprivation we addressed in the training group “Developing Resilient Group Leadership” was not of the material kind. It was the deprivation of emotional validation, physical contact, and unconditional love. I got to address some personal early deprivation by expressing my feelings and needs safely, by telling people I loved them, and by receiving love back.

Do you see deprivation in my most recent images?

I don’t want this post to have a deprivation of music, so here’s “Deprivation” by the Thofte/Thorsen Quintet:

If you don’t want there to be a deprivation of comments about this “Deprivation” post, please leave one below.

There is no deprivation of gratitude here, so thanks to all who help me create this daily blog, including YOU!

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Day 2967: Anti-Stress Word Searches

Every morning, for me, includes searching for words for my daily blog post that are anti-stress. These searches help me face each new day, because it’s so difficult to find anti-stress words anywhere else.

Before I join my training group this morning on Developing Resilient Group Leadership (which will probably include some anti-stress word searches), let’s search for anti-stress words and images together.

Every day, I search for words, images, and also music that are anti-stress. If you search the words in this post, you’ll find this

…and this:

My word searches for gratitude are also anti-stress, so thanks to all who help me create these anti-stress posts, including YOU!

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Day 2966: Motivation

In therapy yesterday, several people discussed motivation as a problem, which did not surprise me.

Somehow, I have the motivation today to (1) find a definition of “motivation” online …

… (2) attend the first day of a two-day remote Zoom group on developing resilient group leadership, and (3) share my latest images with you.

That quote from Hillary McBride, sent to me by a patient, helps fuel my motivation to be a resilient group therapist.

Transformative music can also fuel motivation, so here is “Spain” by the late, great Chick Corea.

Here is a live, acoustic version of “Spain”:

If you have the motivation to leave a comment, please do so.

I always have the motivation to express gratitude, so thanks to all who help me find the motivation to create a blog post every day, including YOU.

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Day 2942: Let the healing begin

I believe that, after years of wounds, cruelty, injustice, and outrageous actions, my country may start healing today.

Let the healing begin.

Do you see any healing beginning in my latest images?

Let the healing begin in this memorial to COVID-19 victims from my nation’s Capitol, last night.

Let the healing begin in the comments section, below.

Thanks to all who let the healing begin, including YOU.

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Day 2930: Home is

Home is

  • where the heart is.
  • where I hang my masks.
  • where I don’t have to wear a mask.
  • where I’m writing this blog post.
  • where I have all my feelings.
  • where I try to let go of fear, worry, anxiety, and despair.
  • a comfort to me.
  • where I feel safe.
  • where I am doing my remote Coping and Healing groups.
  • where I gather my strength.
  • where I live with my husband Michael and our cat Harley.
  • like the best restaurant ever because Michael is such a great cook.
  • where I took these photos:

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Home is different things to different people.

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“Home is” by Jacob Collier is what I was listening to yesterday when I took those photos of homes.

Home is where I’ll be awaiting any comments on today’s post.

Home is where I am grateful, here and now, for all who help me feel like I’m always at home, including YOU.

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Day 2929: When the bottom drops out

Yesterday morning, before the bottom dropped out at the USA Capitol Building in Washington, people in my Coping and Healing group discussed experiences of when the bottom drops out, including how that feels and how to cope. By sharing those experiences of when the bottom drops out and realizing they were not alone, the group members lifted each other up. I suggested that when the bottom drops out again they look down, feel their feet securely on the floor, and realize that the bottom is still there, even if it feels like it has dropped out.

According to an online definition, the bottom drops out “alludes to collapsing deeper than the very lowest point, or bottom.”

Yesterday afternoon, the current inhabitant of the White House collapsed deeper than his previous lowest point/bottom, inciting his followers to violently disrupt the transfer of power in the country I love.

As the whole world watched in horror, the bottom dropped out in the USA yesterday. Those of us who are familiar with malignant narcissists like Trump know that the bottom will drop out even LOWER if he remains in office.

When the bottom drops out, I’m too upset to take many photos, so here are all my recent images from top to bottom:

What do you do when the bottom drops out? When the bottom drops out for me, I reach out for people I love and trust, I anchor myself in the present moment, and I tell myself, “It’s safer than it feels.”

Therefore, I’m going to post, again, the video I shared on this blog yesterday, before the bottom dropped out, of audience members at the Stephen Colbert Show lifting up the late, great U.S. congressman from Georgia, John Lewis, as he crowd-surfed above them.

It makes me cry, here and now, to see how far the bottom has dropped out of my country.

Here is Senator Amy Klobuchar speaking to Stephen Colbert last night about her experience of when the bottom dropped out yesterday:

Here‘s Stephen Colbert showing a lot of feeling in his live monologue last night after the bottom dropped out and before his interview with Senator Klobuchar:

And here‘s his interview with Republican Representative Adam Kinzinger about his experience of when the bottom dropped out.

If you have any thoughts or feelings about when the bottom drops out, please drop a comment, below.

Now that you’ve reached the bottom here, thanks — from the bottom of my heart — to all who help me drop a blog post every day, including you.

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Day 2923: Past, present, and future

In my Coping and Healing groups in the past, present, and future, I have written, I write, and I shall write the important themes on the “Board of Importance.”

I tell my group members that when I write the words “past,” “present,” and “future” on the board I can relax, because I know I’ve captured everything.

At the turn of the year, people seem to think even more about the past, present, and future. Can you see the past, present, and future in the images I captured in the recent past, am sharing with you in the present, and will remember in the future?

There’s the past, present, and future, in one saying: “There is nothing like you, there was nothing like you, and there shall be nothing like you.”.

Now I can relax, because I know I’ve captured everything.

Here‘s a blast from the past: “Past, Present and Future” from The Shangri-Las.

Creating this post is now in the past, I am very grateful in the present, and I look forward to your comments in the future.

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Day 2917: Gifts

During a holiday season when we are not exchanging any material gifts, gifts still abound.

I especially appreciate these gifts:

  • New leadership for the USA.
  • Hope.
  • Health.
  • A home near the shore.
  • Family.
  • Friends.
  • Faith in myself and in others I trust.
  • My work as a group therapist.
  • Time off.
  • Time.
  • Awareness.
  • Acceptance.
  • Thoughtfulness.
  • Joy.
  • All the feelings.
  • Nourishment.
  • Patience.
  • Eagerness.
  • Curiosity.
  • Spontaneity.
  • Practice.
  • Stillness.
  • Movement.
  • Music.
  • Laughs.
  • Love.
  • Living.

What gifts do you most appreciate, here and now?

Do you see gifts in today’s images?

I also appreciate the gifts of others.

The gifted blogger Maria left this gift in yesterday’s post, which I am happy to re-gift to you:

As usual, I end with the gift of gratitude, so thanks to you and all the gifts you bring.

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