Day 3259: What’s a story you tell about yourself?

Yesterday, between two therapy groups where people tell stories about themselves, I asked this question on Twitter:

Some people on Twitter pointed out that there were many ways to answer that question — is the story the truth or a lie? Is it a story you tell to yourself or to others? My story about the questions I ask is this: there is no right or wrong way to answer any of them. I deliberately made the question ambiguous, so people could answer as they chose.

Personally, I’ve been thinking a lot about the old, habitual stories we tell about ourselves and how those affect us. Many people tell negative, limiting, and outmoded stories about themselves. For example, I tell a story about myself making a mistake that might markedly harm myself and others, even though that has rarely happened in my life. This fear-filled story can make me hesitant to act and can cause me to agonize over something I might have done or will do “wrong.”

I can also get confused by the conflicting stories others tell. For example, which story should I believe: “Look before you leap!” or “He who hesitates is lost!”

What’s a story that today’s images tell?

Now I’m thinking about (1) stories that use strong language, (2) stories people tell to bartenders and (3) the unforgettable stories that movies tell us.

Also, the story I’m telling about the potato latkes Michael made yesterday …

… is that they are the best I’ve ever had.

This is what I find on YouTube when I search for “what’s a story you tell about yourself?”

I really appreciate the stories Dr. Tracey Marks is telling in that video.

What’s a story you tell about yourself?

Every story I tell here ends with gratitude for YOU.

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11 thoughts on “Day 3259: What’s a story you tell about yourself?

  1. Way, way back my high school buddy and I arrived from Long Island to the upstate New York campus. After our parents left and said their goodbyes, we walked around amid all the strange sights and new people. He grabbed my shoulder and proclaimed so seriously, “Nobody knows us here. We can be cool now.” I don’t know if I became cool, but I did suddenly become much more confident about my ongoing college success … and we did do good, both of us.

  2. I can tell a story about crawling under the Queen’s bed – but not yet!

  3. I’ve spent most of the day trying to answer the question and thinking about how I consider myself a storyteller but at times when asked to tell a story I’ve frozen. But then I remember a comedian who said that when she tells people at parties that’s what she does and they say “Tell me a joke!” she says, “If I were a gynecologist would you ask for a Pap smear?”

  4. A story doesn’t need words. It just needs a subject and verb to convey actions so that humans feel they can interpret something. If there were no humans, there wouldn’t be any stories since according to the concept of ‘universal grammar’, there is a genetic component of the language faculty. Noam Chomsky states there are rules which are innate only to humans, independent of sensory experience. It suggests that linguist ability manifests without being taught. I rarely speak about myself and would rather let art, or some form of skill set I possess do the ‘speaking’.

  5. my daughter told me that every story I tell ends with me either laughing or crying

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