Day 3086: betrayed, bewildered

Lest you feel betrayed, bewildered by today’s title, I shall start this post by sharing two tweets I sent last night:

Nobody guessed the answer to my pop quiz but several people felt betrayed, bewildered by the reappearance of a salad bar in Whole Foods at this point in the pandemic.

Here’s who said “betrayed, bewildered” in a 1996 film:

Yesterday, my non-betraying and non-bewildering life-long friend Barbara and I kept using the phrase “betrayed, bewildered” while we were discussing many bewildering interactions we’d had with other people in which we felt betrayed. The reality is that many interpersonal interactions are bewildering and seeing them as a betrayal doesn’t help — when we do that we are personalizing the situation. People are going to be themselves no matter what you do and it doesn’t help to expect “you” from them.

What did help Barbara and me yesterday was to realize we were not alone in feeling betrayed, bewildered and to laugh together about all those interactions that had us temporarily feeling bewildered and betrayed before reaching a level of acceptance and peace.

I hope you don’t feel betrayed, bewildered by my run-on sentences or any of my other images for today.


Here’s “Bewitched, Bothered, and Bewildered” sung by the incomparable Ella Fitzgerald.

I won’t feel betrayed, bewildered by any comment you might leave about this “betrayed, bewildered” post.

Neither betrayed nor bewildered, just grateful for you.

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23 thoughts on “Day 3086: betrayed, bewildered

  1. My inner editor is quite bewildered at the Bowie graffiti artist’s typo on the little but important lyric word use, Ann.

  2. There’s something about betrayal that requires more than a passing thought. It’s easy to recognize when we feel betrayed, because it’s such an uncomfortable feeling. But the person who does the betraying doesn’t always see it that way. Whether I am the person who has been betrayed or the one who seems to have done the betraying, it can take me a long time, even years, to really understand what happened.

  3. Looks like you had a beautiful day with your friend. Love the Twitter jokes!

  4. Is it possible to be trayed and be wildered? Just asking for a friend!

  5. Thanks for posting Ella’s “Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered”. It’s a show tune and popular song from the 1940 Rodgers and Hart musical ‘Pal Joey’. I enjoy the renditions from the jazz singers, such as Billie Holliday’s ‘Blue Moon’, ‘My Funny Valentine’ by Sinatra, and this one by Ella were all from Rodgers and Hart. After Hart’s death, Rodgers and Hammerstein were considered the “golden age” of musical theatre. There’s a lot of interesting music history here, but there’s no betrayal nor bewilderment because Harley is here.

  6. puella33

    I especially love the first picture of the pier. The appearance of the water can always be a dangerous betrayal.. always be en guard.. I’m also speaking metaphorically.
    Have a nice day, Ann

  7. As soon as I read “Betrayed, bewildered…” I thought of Nathan Lane, and then my mind jumped to “I just never realized John Wayne walked like that.” And also to 1996 when on Friday nights some network would have special guest stars hosting “My Favorite Movie”. One week it was Rear Window hosted by Brent Spiner who knows a lot about Hitchcock and Jimmy Stewart. At the end he announced that the next week’s film would be La Cage Aux Folles hosted by Nathan Lane, and Spiner invented a Jimmy Stewart poem right on the spot: “There is a man named Nathan Lane./He reminds me of Marjorie Main./He’ll be here next week with La Cage Aux Folles,/Everybody’s favorite movie, except…Bob Dole.”
    Also I have very strong opinions that Nathan Lane can be a beautiful woman.

    • I am the opposite of betrayed (“saved”) and bewildered (“clearheaded”) that you would get that reference and write this comment, Chris.

  8. brings new meaning to b & b -)

  9. I enjoy your photos and the Twitter exchanges. Although I’m not too much for Twitter myself. Thinking about Lost Girl’s comment about having to distance herself from people in order to not get hurt, she’s missing the point. You can be all alone and still get hurt – simply by remembering a time when you were hurt. Or by stubbing your toe or tripping and falling. In fact, six years ago I merely took a step down and broke my foot and tore a tendon. Thank goodness I wasn’t alone!

    • I’m so glad you do WordPress and thanks for this comment!

      • I’m glad I discovered WordPress as well. Writing has long been a way for me to process my life and share bits and pieces. And because I grew up just outside of Boston, now living in the Pacific Northwest, I love to see your pictures.

  10. The Birdcage is one of my favorites, and I had forgotten the Nathan Lane moment until you mentioned it. So funny! How nice that you and your friend had a lovely day together. 🙂

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