This week in therapy, I’ve been suggesting that people replace the words “my fault” (or “my bad”) with
- my choice,
- my decision, or
- my responsibility.
My choice, decision, and responsibility as a therapist is to use less shaming and more adult words. Our blaming and judgmental thoughts (also called cognitive distortions) ignore the complexity of situations, keeping us stuck in negative feelings rather than moving towards actions and solutions.
What do you think of the word choices in today’s images?
My husband, Michael, whose word choices (and food choices) I always appreciate, recently relieved my anxiety about resuming a more “normal” life in the near future with these words: “It’s going to be like when you return to work after a long vacation. On the first day back, it’ll soon seem like you were never away.”
I hope you choose to listen to her words and I look forward to your word choices in the comments section below.
At the end of each post, my word choices are all about gratitude.