Day 2876: What you didn’t get

At the end of my Coping and Healing groups, I invite people to think about what they didn’t get, because

  • nobody gets all their needs met in a group therapy session,
  • if they identify what they didn’t get, they can think about where else they might get those needs met (perhaps in a future Coping and Healing group, perhaps elsewhere),
  • that’s my way of letting them know that all of their feelings, including disappointment, are welcome, and
  • identifying what you didn’t get (along with identifying what you DID get) are important parts of getting closure, which allows you to move more smoothly to what’s next.

Whenever there is an election or any other major transitioning point, people don’t get all their needs met. As we can see in the news, reactions to that include

  • anger,
  • fear,
  • joy,
  • sadness,
  • hope,
  • disappointment, and
  • denial.

Here’s what I didn’t get from the recent USA election: any indication that the twin threats of the coronavirus and the economic recession will be addressed effectively before the end of the year. I also didn’t get the answer to which party will control the Senate. What I DID get was relief about changes in leadership ahead.

What you haven’t gotten in this post, so far, are my photos from yesterday.

What Harley didn’t get yesterday was all the food he wanted. He seems okay with that, though.

Here’s a recent performance of “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” by The Rolling Stones.

You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might get what you need (and I need your comments about this what-you-didn’t-get post).

What you do get here is gratitude, so thanks to all who help me create this daily blog, including YOU.

Categories: 2020 U.S. Election, 2020 U.S. Presidential election, group therapy, life during the pandemic, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , | 21 Comments

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21 thoughts on “Day 2876: What you didn’t get

  1. But if you try some time, you just might find, you get what need, Mick told us. May that stand true still, Ann.

  2. We have one of those justice signs in our yard too–makes a powerful statement!

  3. I didn’t get a nice Thunderbird for any birthday or Christmas. It’s going in my letter to Santa!

  4. Here’s Aretha:

    I didn’t get a kitty consult. Good morning Dr. Harley!

  5. I may not always get what I want, but if I find your daily post – I know it’s going to be a great day!!

  6. puella33

    I like the Red Rose quote- it’s uplifting , and I love the antique Thunderbird. I perceive it to be a tangible souvenir from an harmonious era.
    Have a nice day, Ann

    • At first I didn’t get what you meant by the Red Rose quote, but then I realized it was the quote on the Yogi Tea bag. I’m glad you get so much from this blog!

      • puella33

        I never tried Yogi tea, I thought only Red Rose had little proverbs on their bags and had little statues of animals in their boxes. Have a nice day, Ann

  7. Sometimes all I want is some good music, but also a better world. One of those things is easy, but I think we’re also headed for the other.

  8. I don’t get mean people.

  9. I think I missed this post yesterday morning because my husband and I got up early to do some painting of our front entryway. We aren’t the best painters and so we also spent a few hours scraping paint off the French door window glass that we had over painted.🙂

    I miss Oscar. I am enjoying the Harley photos very much.

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