Before I reveal something about myself in a therapy group, I ask myself “Who is it for?”
If the answer is that it’s mostly for me, I will not share the information. If I believe that it’s mostly for the group, I will use self-disclosure.
Yesterday morning, while I was feeling very sad about the death of jazz pianist Lyle Mays, I was listening to a jazz program on WHRB, the Harvard radio station. I decided to call them and tell them about the death of Lyle. Who was it for? It was for me and for any fans of Lyle who might be listening.
As I suspected, the two Harvard students who were DJ-ing the morning jazz program on WHRB were not familiar with Lyle, but they did this for me: they announced his death on air and played one of his tunes. Then it was for me and for the other listeners who called in that they abandoned their scheduled playlist and shared lots of Lyle.
One of the tunes they played yesterday morning was “It’s For You.”
When I first heard about Lyle’s death Monday night, a melancholy melodic phrase from “It’s For You” filled my head, but I couldn’t remember the name of the tune. It’s for you and for me that I share a live version of “It’s For You” now.
It’s for you that I take and share my recent photos.
Who was that delicious and nutritious meal for? It was for me and my husband Michael as we watched the returns from the New Hampshire primary last night.
Who is it for when I blog every day? In case you didn’t know, it’s for you AND for me.