Monthly Archives: December 2019

Day 2546: Celebrating with you!

For the past seven years, I’ve celebrated many things with you, including

Now, I’m celebrating my upcoming marriage to Michael with you!

fullsizeoutput_3f93.jpeg

That celebratory card is from my thoughtful and celebrated co-workers, who celebrated with me yesterday by giving me these cupcakes.

IMG_0266.JPG

IMG_0268.JPG

I am celebrating with you that cupcake ring, which I might need on Friday since one of the his-and-hers wedding rings we ordered online IS the wrong size, just as I feared.  I like celebrating  mistakes, but some mistakes can be a shock to the system. If I get the wedding ring resized quickly, I’ll certainly be celebrating that with you!

As usual, I’m celebrating with you many moments from yesterday:

IMG_0251.JPG

IMG_0255.JPG

IMG_0257.JPG

IMG_0256.JPG

IMG_0259.JPG

IMG_0262.JPG

IMG_0253.JPG

IMG_0263

IMG_0260.JPG

IMG_0254.JPG

IMG_0258.JPG

IMG_0269.JPG

IMG_0270.JPG

Celebrate good times …come on!

Thousands of people are celebrating with each other on YouTube in the comments for that video, including:

  • celebrating because my mother has now been declared as cancer free
  • When your crush asks you out
  • Passing my exams that I didn’t study for brought me here
  • When you write one word for your 200 letter essay
  • When the weekend comes along
  • IM NOT PREGNANT HELL YEAH!!
  • I was inspired to listen to this song because I saved my neighbor’s cat
  • Celebrating because my brother got accepted into college
  • When they are giving out free food
  • When you successfully make up a “when” joke
  • I finished the dishes. I freakin finished the DISHES!!
  • I WON THE LOTTERY!

Please share what YOU are celebrating with us, in a comment below.

As always, grateful to be celebrating with you,

Ann

IMG_9994

 

Categories: blogging, celebrating, group therapy, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , | 28 Comments

Day 2545: Shocks to the system

Every day, there are shocks to the system, as you can see in my Friday Fotos:

IMG_0243.JPG

IMG_0237.JPG

IMG_0238.JPG

IMG_0236

IMG_0242.JPG

IMG_0244.JPG

IMG_0235.JPG

IMG_0241

IMG_0248

IMG_0245.JPG

IMG_0233.JPG

IMG_0231.JPG

fullsizeoutput_3f92.jpeg

fullsizeoutput_3f91.jpeg

Some shocks to the system are nicer than others.

Any change from routine can be a shock to the system. Starting tomorrow, I’m off for a vacation that will include several shocks to the system, like

  • Hanukkah,
  • Christmas,
  • seeing my 21-year old son Aaron in a tuxedo,
  • my fiancé Michael wearing his first suit ever, and
  • Michael and I getting married a week from today!

Here‘s “Shock to the System” by Yes.

It’s not a shock to my system that one member of the soon-to-be-married couple loves Yes and the other one decidedly does not. Differences may be a shock to the system but they make life much more interesting.

For regular readers of this blog, my ending with gratitude cannot possibly be a shock to the system.

IMG_0246.JPG

Categories: personal growth, photojournalism, therapy | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 23 Comments

Day 2544: Emotional Reasoning

Emotional Reasoning is one of the cognitive distortions in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

Emotional Reasoning is defined here as follows:

Emotional Reasoning.
We take our emotions as evidence for the truth. Examples: “I feel inadequate, so there must be something wrong with me.” “I feel overwhelmed and hopeless, therefore the situation must be impossible to change or improve.” (Note that the latter can contribute to procrastination.) While suppressing or judging feelings can be unhelpful, it’s important to recognize the difference between feelings and facts.

My definition of “Emotional Reasoning” does NOT include examples of the negative aspect of that, as in “I do NOT feel that way, therefore it’s not true.” I’m reasoning that I could have written that definition with this example: “I do not feel adequate, so there must be something wrong with me.”

All this came to my emotional mind this morning when I read this news headline:

President Trump: “It doesn’t really feel like we’re being impeached”

To me, it doesn’t really feel like

  • Trump is President,
  • I’m getting married a week from tomorrow, or
  • the human race is going to survive.

That is all emotional reasoning.  I know that two of those statements are true, no matter what I’m feeling.  And I have many emotions about the third statement, so who knows if it’s true?

Do you see emotional reasoning in any of my photos from yesterday?

IMG_0212.JPG

fullsizeoutput_3f8d.jpeg

IMG_0214

IMG_0216.JPG

IMG_0219

IMG_0220.JPG

IMG_0221

IMG_0217

IMG_0223

IMG_0228.JPG

IMG_0225

IMG_0224

IMG_0226.JPG

IMG_0227.JPG

fullsizeoutput_3f8f.jpeg

Yesterday at work, somebody said that this photo of Harley (taken by my soon-to-be-husband Michael)

fullsizeoutput_3f8c

… felt like a photo that Ellen DeGeneres might want to include on her show.  That seemed like emotional reasoning to me, but I submitted it anyway.

“Do You Hear What I Hear” feels like a Christmas song, but that’s not how it was written.

Here’s a portion of the story I heard on the radio yesterday:

While artfully couched in the iconography of the Christian nativity, the songwriters were making a political statement: a plea for peace, and a reminder of the ravages of war.

The song opens with the night wind speaking to a lamb, long a literary symbol of peace. Soon we hear the line, “A star, a star, dancing in the sky//With a tail as big as a kite.”

“The star was meant to be a bomb,” said Gabrielle Regney.

Later we hear the lyrics “A child, a child, shivers in the cold,” which Regney said is a reference to the “real children” who inspired the song.

And the line, “Let us bring him silver and gold” was a reference to “poor children,” said Regney — a reminder of the human cost of war.

But no matter how you interpret the song, Noël Regney and Gloria Shayne left no mistake about the central message at the climax of the song.

“The biggest part for them was the ‘pray for peace’ line,” said Regney. “That line, ‘pray for peace,’ was very big for both of them.”

Do you hear what I hear in this emotional rendition of that song?

Feel free to share emotional reasoning in a comment, below.

There are reasons why I end every post with the emotion of gratitude.

fullsizeoutput_3f8e

Categories: personal growth, photojournalism, Thanksgiving, therapy | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 18 Comments

Day 2543: Recommended daily doses

Experts recommend daily doses of

IMG_0194

  • calm and bright,

IMG_0199

 

  • self-love,
  • self-respect,

IMG_0197

  • letting go of judgment, guilt, dread, worry, and other unhelpful habits,

IMG_0198

  • caution,

IMG_0202

  • strength,
  • support,

IMG_0203

  • whimsy,
  • warmth,
  • animals, and

fullsizeoutput_3f81

fullsizeoutput_3f85

fullsizeoutput_3f7f

  • BITCHING!

Here‘s the dose of YouTube music pictured above:

 

Now it’s time for my daily dose of gratitude!

IMG_0195

 

 

 

Categories: personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 23 Comments

Day 2542: Monday!

This just in: Yesterday was Monday!

I saw evidence of Monday all day long, starting with this …

IMG_0178.JPG

….  and ending with this:

IMG_0180.JPG

What are your associations with Monday? Let’s see what associations we find in my other Monday photos.

fullsizeoutput_3f73.jpeg

IMG_0169.JPG

IMG_0167

fullsizeoutput_3f72.jpeg

fullsizeoutput_3f6d.jpeg

IMG_0168.JPG

fullsizeoutput_3f70.jpeg

fullsizeoutput_3f71.jpeg

IMG_0175.JPG

fullsizeoutput_3f74

fullsizeoutput_3f6f.jpeg

IMG_0176

IMG_0164

IMG_0165

IMG_0179

IMG_0182.JPG

IMG_0183.JPG

IMG_0184

IMG_0191

IMG_0192

IMG_0193

No matter what day it is, I have trouble deciding what to wear.

Here are the top 10 songs about Monday, even though it’s Tuesday.

 

Every day of the week, I end with thanks to you.

fullsizeoutput_3f6e.jpeg

 

 

Categories: personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , | 20 Comments

Day 2541: Cares

Even though I’ve rarely used the word “therapy” in a blog title, I’ve often used the word “care” (here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, and here).

Does that mean I care too much? Or have too many cares? I’m not sure, but I do care to tell you that I just woke up from a dream where I said the word “kill” (as in “Did that make you want to kill them?”) which was overheard by somebody I knew, who then dropped to the floor  in obvious emotional pain and crawled laboriously away (like a snake) down a hallway,  as her husband told me not to care about her reaction. He said, “This happens and she’s just going somewhere to pull herself together.”

I care what you make of that dream.

Care occurs twice in my photos from yesterday. Do you care to see them?

IMG_0141.JPG

IMG_0142.JPG

IMG_0143.JPG

IMG_0144.JPG

IMG_0145.JPG

IMG_0146.JPG

IMG_0147.JPG

IMG_0148.JPG

IMG_0149.JPG

IMG_0151.JPG

IMG_0152.JPG

IMG_0153.JPG

IMG_0154.JPG

IMG_0155.JPG

IMG_0156

IMG_0157.JPG

 

Do you care that I put little “easter eggs” in this blog for my caring fiancé, Michael, who sometimes reads this blog?  For example, this …

IMG_0147

… is a reference to our first exchange over the internet, almost ten years ago, when we discussed our shared dislike for beets.  And yesterday’s video stars somebody singing “meow, meow, meow” for lyrics, which Michael does a lot, including here:

What do YOU care about, here and now?

I care about getting to work on time, so I’ll quickly end this post with care.

 

fullsizeoutput_3f6c.jpeg

Categories: Dreams, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 19 Comments

Day 2540: Therapy

Since I practice group therapy and individual therapy, I must have created many other “Therapy” posts, right?

What attracts my attention now is this:  the only other post I’ve published with “therapy” in the title is Day 430: What I learned at the group therapy conferenceand that is one of my shortest posts, ever.

So why this therapy post, today?

IMG_0108.JPG

That’s a sign I saw yesterday at Designer’s Circus in Boston. At Designer’s Circus, I found Therapy and Joy.

IMG_0111.JPG

That’s Joy, who was one of the many people at Designer’s Circus who heard that I was there to shop for a dress for my December 27 City Hall Wedding and who wanted to be involved in the process.

IMG_0113.JPG

That’s Kathleen, one of the owners of Designer’s Circus, who helped me find two great dresses. Spending time with her and the other wonderful people I met at Designer’s Circus was definitely therapy for me.

After retail therapy at Designer’s Circus, I got more therapy at the annual glass sale at Almost Perfect Glass in Cambridge, Massachusetts because I spent therapeutic time with my good friend Deb, seen here at last year’s sale.

Wherever I look, I find therapy. Can you find therapy in my other photos from yesterday?

IMG_0103.JPG

IMG_0104.JPG

IMG_0105.JPG

IMG_0106.JPG

IMG_0112.JPG

IMG_0114.JPG

IMG_0133.JPG

IMG_0115.JPG

IMG_0116.JPG

IMG_0117.JPG

IMG_0120.JPG

IMG_0122.JPG

IMG_0123.JPG

IMG_0124.JPG

IMG_0121.JPG

IMG_0125.JPG

IMG_0126.JPG

IMG_0127

IMG_0132

IMG_0131.JPG

IMG_0128

IMG_0129.JPG

IMG_0130.JPG

IMG_0135.JPG

fullsizeoutput_3f57.jpeg

fullsizeoutput_3f58.jpeg

IMG_0137.JPG

If you want pizza therapy, go to Santarpio’s in Boston, which makes the best pizza I’ve ever had.

How about some music therapy?

Because I especially love group therapy, I wonder how my group of readers will respond to this post.

Gratitude is great therapy for all of us, so thank you!

IMG_9774

Categories: personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , , , | 33 Comments

Day 2539: What attracts our attention

When I was driving to work the other day, my attention was attracted by a story on the radio about how Christmas lights on a vehicle are illegal because they distract and attract too much attention.   The reporter said, “The animal in us notices everything that moves.”

Yesterday, when I was distracted by all the activity in the hall outside the group room (which I could see through the glass door), I invited the group members to do a mindfulness exercise where we noticed what attracted our attention and then stayed with that. What attracted my attention was not the activity outside the room, but rather the little ripples in my water bottle that was standing on the table and reflecting the movements in the room.  Those ripples totally kept my attention throughout the mindfulness exercise.

What attracts my attention these days includes:

  • movement,
  • danger,
  • anger,
  • loud noises,
  • mysteries,
  • stress,
  • trauma,
  • pain,
  • politics,
  • faces,
  • the unexpected,
  • color,
  • light, and
  • the things in these photos:

IMG_0094.JPG

fullsizeoutput_3f55.jpeg

IMG_0096

IMG_0097.JPG

IMG_0098.JPG

IMG_0099.JPG

IMG_0100.JPG

IMG_0101.JPG

That giant Santa cookie might have attracted my attention, but I didn’t buy it.  However, I did buy some black and white chocolate drizzled popcorn, which attracted my attention way too much last night.

What attracts our attention in this amazing video by Jacob Collier?

Gratitude always attracts my attention — that’s why I take so many photos of it!

Categories: group therapy, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 26 Comments

Day 2538: Be Nice!

Yesterday, I heard a nice presentation by the very nice  Woody Giessmann,  founder of Right Turn, which provides innovative, creativity-based treatment for addictions. It’s nice that Woody was inspired to create Right Turn after his personal experience with addiction when he was the drummer for the Boston 1980s band The Del Fuegos. It’s extremely nice that the Del Fuegos reunited in 2011 at the Paradise to raise money for Right Turn.

Now I’m going to be nice and share a photo from Woody’s presentation:

fullsizeoutput_3f53.jpeg

While I watched Woody be nice in his presentation,  I decided that our beliefs about treatment were so nicely similar that we were “siblings from other parents.” After his presentation, I told him that and also said that it would be nice if I could visit Right Turn during my nice week off from work, later this month.  It was nice that

  • Woody agreed and
  • was nice enough to take my card about this blog.

Here are other nice photos from yesterday, in nice chronological order:

IMG_0074.JPG

IMG_0075.JPG

fullsizeoutput_3f51.jpeg

IMG_0079.JPG

IMG_0080.JPG

IMG_0081.JPG

IMG_0082

IMG_0084.JPG

IMG_0085.JPG

fullsizeoutput_3f4f.jpeg

IMG_0088.JPG

IMG_0089.JPG

IMG_0090.JPG

IMG_0091.JPG

IMG_0092.JPG

It would be nice if people could be nice to each other during this time of the year, as we discussed in both my “Coping and Healing” groups yesterday.

Now I’m going to be nice and share these nice YouTube videos of The Del Fuegos (here, here and here):

Be nice and leave a comment and I’ll be nice and respond later.

Now I’ll be nice and express my sweet gratitude for YOU.

fullsizeoutput_3f4e

Categories: group therapy, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | 28 Comments

Day 2537: “I don’t know what to do.”

I just woke up from a nightmare where I was lost, wandering around an unfamiliar city with two cell phones that did not belong to me and somebody else’s water bottle which looked like mine, unable to remember anything I needed to get to some place safe, and I kept saying out loud, “I don’t know what to do.

I did know what to do.  I woke up from the nightmare.

I just now got a message on this laptop that says, “Your disk is almost full.”  I don’t know what to do.

I did know what to do. I deleted some stuff.

Sometimes I don’t know what to do when desperate people tell me that they don’t know what to do.

I do know what to do.  I listen and let them know they are not alone.

I don’t know what to do when I’m

  • angry,
  • disappointed,
  • lost,
  • frustrated,
  • hopeless,
  • confused,
  • desperate,
  • depleted,
  • alone,
  • purposeless,
  • mistaken, or
  • in pain.

I do know what to do. I write a blog post every morning.

I don’t know what to do if none of my photos from another ordinary/extraordinary yesterday relate to today’s topic.

IMG_0048.JPG

IMG_0049.JPG

IMG_0051.JPG

IMG_0052.JPG

IMG_0053.JPG

IMG_0054.JPG

IMG_0057.JPG

IMG_0055.JPG

IMG_0056.JPG

IMG_0058.JPG

IMG_0059.JPG

IMG_0060.JPG

IMG_0062.JPG

IMG_0065.JPG

IMG_0068.JPG

IMG_0070.JPG

IMG_0071.JPG

IMG_0072.JPG

IMG_0073

I don’t know what to do about finding the right video for this post.

I do know what to do.  I recorded this last night:

And I do know what to do about freeing up more disk space.  Now that I’ve shared that video of Oscar, Michael, me, and a musical snow globe here, I know I can delete it from my laptop.

What do you do when you don’t know what to do?

I don’t know what to do to tell you all how much you have meant to me and how much you have helped me over my almost seven full years of daily blogging. Wait, I do know what to do.

IMG_9420

Categories: blogging, group therapy, personal growth, photojournalism | Tags: , , , , , , , , | 29 Comments

Blog at WordPress.com.