Day 2553: Why we love weddings

Why we love weddings is the topic of the online article Science Reveals the Age-Old Secret of Why We Love Weddings So Much” which includes these quotes:

“When there’s a bit of uncertainty in the world,” Norton told Mic, “looking for a little bit of order is something humans like to do. It could be by doing a private ritual. It could be by doing a social ritual. Rituals make people feel like they have a handle on things. We know from lots and lots of research that feeling in control is a huge predictor of well-being. People who feel they don’t have some control over outcomes in their lives tend to suffer.”

It’s easy to think that rituals like weddings are pointless and overdone. But that big cake, sparkling white dress or bouquet toss are helping us move through life in a positive and healthy way. There’s no need to apologize for embracing it.

People seemed to love our wedding yesterday, even though there was no big cake or sparkling white dress. However, there WAS a bouquet toss.

If you love any of those wedding pictures, you can click on them to enlarge them.

Immediately after the wedding in the City Clerk’s office, Michael loved pretending he was the City Clerk  …


… and his brother Martin loved pretending he was exerting some influence in city politics.


I loved that the City Clerk, Nicole Crispo …


… loved those goofy photos of Michael and Martin.

I love everyone who was at our wedding, including my friend Carol


… who took many more lovely photos of our wedding, which I love.  If you love weddings, I’ll include those in a future post (if I can figure out how to get them here).

I love that Aaron’s long-time friend Clark …


… caught the lovely bouquet.

I love that my son Aaron looked so handsome in his tuxedo …


and I love that Michael and Aaron love each other so much.

Do you love weddings enough to watch yesterday’s entire ceremony, taped by Michael’s loving and lovely sister-in-law, Tammy?

I love that I was thinking about this wedding scene from Best Friends with Burt Reynolds, Goldie Hawn, and Richard Libertini when Michael and I  said, “I thee endow.”

I would love any comments about weddings or love, below.

Thanks to all the lovely people who witnessed our wedding, including YOU!




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66 thoughts on “Day 2553: Why we love weddings

  1. Debbie T

    I love that you posted a video of the ceremony so we could all be there!

  2. Sarah Marie Dunleavy

    Much happiness! Xxoo

    On Sat, Dec 28, 2019 at 8:53 AM The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally wrote:

    > Ann Koplow posted: “Why we love weddings is the topic of the online > article “Science Reveals the Age-Old Secret of Why We Love Weddings So > Much” which includes these quotes: “When there’s a bit of uncertainty in > the world,” Norton told Mic, “looking for a little bit of orde” >

  3. Kathy Bowers

    Congratulations Ann
    I am so very happy for you and Michael
    Kathy Bowers(Mt Auburn Cardiac rehab)

  4. Eleanor

    I love that you mentioned rituals in today’s post. When I think about the many reasons I have had a long and happy marriage, one is because of rituals — we do a lot of our rituals and I think those rituals create great glue. I can’t wait to watch your wedding ritual video. Peace and love, Eleanor

  5. Congratulations Ann
    Good to see, how happy you look after the wedding 😀

  6. Congratulations Ann and Michael. I love weddings and watched your video all the way through. I always cry at weddings and I could feel my eyes tear up as I watched yours. So happy for you both. Love and blessings for 2020 and forever.

  7. Happy love and wedded bliss!❤️❤️

  8. Beautiful. Congratulations and best wishes for a long and happy life together.

  9. I love that the ceremony was such a fun event and that it marks a beginning to much happiness for you and Michael, and Aaron, and Clark, and all of us!

  10. I love that you and Michael have employed the wedding ritual to celebrate your love.

    PS I love weddings and love how happy and radiant you look!

  11. Congratulations! Thank you for sharing the video. I thought of you yesterday and knew you would be smiling, and now I have been able to virtually attend your wedding and see those smiles for myself. There was such love in the room.

    • I love that you could virtually attend my wedding, Maureen. Thanks for adding so much love to the room whenever you visit here, my good friend.

  12. Congratulations, Ann and Michael! What a lovely wedding and thank you so much for sharing it with us!

  13. Congratulations! Loved being at the virtual side of your wedding. Thanks for sharing!

  14. Congratulations to the stunning couple. I love love. That’s the best love comment I can think of Ann. All the very best to you and yours. ❤

  15. puella33

    Very beautiful and uplifting ceremony. God bless and congratulations !

  16. Looks like it was a wonderful day – congratulations again!!

  17. Congratulations Ann & Michael!!!

  18. How exciting to be invited in to the actual ceremony, Ann. Wonderful. You and Michael looked absolutely fantastic individually, and together you make a wonderfully stunning duo. I am so happy for you that words feel a little inadequate.

    And I must tell you in fun, I owned “Best Friends” as a VHS for years and it is a favorite. I didn’t even need to click on the link as I immediately knew what portion of the movie came to your mind. I chuckle right along with you at that.

    All the best to you both. Blessings for years of happiness ahead. Weddings and marriage always inspire hopefulness, and God knows we need that more than ever. xx

    • There are so many reasons why I love you, Debra, and this comment shows many of them! Thanks for being such a wonderfully supportive witness to my life and for truly sharing my happiness. ❤ ❤

      • I can feel your joy, and that blesses me. Love to you guys, and thank you for being such a special friend. xx

  19. I love weddings and you have shared one awesome photo after another

  20. I think you’re right about rituals. And I love the video!!! You both look fabulous and happy. I also like the picture of Michael pretending to be city clerk.

  21. I love that you and Michael are obviously so happy together and so much in love. Congratulations to you both!

  22. A splendid event

  23. You were a lovely bride, Ann, and Michael was a handsome groom. Thank you so much for taking us to your ceremony! May this joy visit you two every day.

    • Joy visits me every time you visit, Mark! Thanks for being a witness to so many events in my life, including this wonderful one. ❤

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  25. Well CONGRATULATIONS to you and Michael! That was a lovely ceremony and you are both so happy! I wish for you many many years together.

  26. Ada

    My my my! CONGRATULATIONS! You looked radiant and happy. Two beautiful people made in heaven! Sooooo soooooooo happy for you and Michael, and the best is still to come! 😁😍😘❤️

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  29. Mazel Tov!!!! Congrats!!! So happy for you! You looked beautiful- what a fabulous dress and bouquet!! Here’s to happiness in 2020!! Your vision is 20/20 for certain!! ❤

  30. I lose track of your blog for a short time and I miss big things haha. Congrats congrats congrats. You all look so happy. Wonderful wishes for your future.

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