Day 2504: Please pardon our appearance

In the past, when I have had red eye (which I am prone to developing because I’m on anti-coagulant medication for the rest of my life), I have asked people to please pardon my appearance.

I assumed that

  • people were bothered by my appearance and
  • I needed pardoning.

No more!  From now on, whenever I get red eye, I shall ask for no pardons.  Why should I?  After all,

  • I am appearing as best as I can,
  • I love the color red, and
  • nobody’s appearance needs pardoning.

I am also not going to ask you to please pardon the appearance of my latest photos.


















I’m also not going to ask you to pardon the appearance of last night’s special at the Birch Street Bistro in Roslindale, Massachusetts, which was delicious.

Personally, I find it very freeing to stop asking for pardons about appearances.  Does anybody want to join me in that?

Here‘s “Guide for the Perplexed” from PARDON OUR APPEARANCE by The XVIII  Century Greats.


I like the appearance of that dog and I look forward to your appearance in the comments section, below.

Please accept the appearance of my gratitude, here and now.




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24 thoughts on “Day 2504: Please pardon our appearance

  1. I am in your corner with this one, Ann! No request for a pardon needed.

  2. I have an almost imperceptible jagged scar in the middle of my forehead. This was the result of tripping over a chain whilst running in the dark. My injury was stitched and bandaged. The morning afterwards I and the head of our Social Work training course were subjected to a statutory inspection. I sat inches away from the examiner. I resisted the need to explain and she didn’t ask. I always wondered what she thought. 🙂

  3. Please accept me as I am with all my imperfections.
    Your appearance each day is lovely!

  4. There’s no need for you to ask for a pardon for your condition, but I’m sure you’ll pardon anyone who doesn’t express their concern. Perhaps they’re trying to be impeccable with their words and not draw attention to what you already know about. Sometimes such situations can make us easily perplexed.
    In the meantime I’ll be waiting with anticipation for the fantastic news that your eye is better.

  5. puella33

    Don’t ask me why, but as I read today’s blog, my mind drifted to the turkey that will be pardoned by Trump! On a more serious note, I like the post that reads, ” learning something new”. Everytime I learn something new, I realize how much I don’t know. There is no need to pardon yourself for the red eye, Ann, whoever knows you and loves you, doesn’t notice those minor and trivial details. Have a nice week-end, Ann

  6. No need to pardon ones appearance, Ann.
    The only thing we need to pardon for, is when we forget to think and hurt other souls, which isn’t necessary at all.

  7. I have one very red eye today, but luckily I have an appointment with my eye doctor later this week. Having one red eye is not preventing me from assembling some Ivar cabinets for additional storage. I am hoping that the additional storage space will enable me to tidy up our guest room (which is also our hobby room) so that I won’t have to ask guests to pardon the appearance of our room anymore. The scary Warhammer gargoyley-thingies that the kids like to paint will be behind doors.

  8. It’s funny how many things we automatically, and probably without thinking, apologize for, I agree, Ann. As though you need to apologize to anyone for your appearance–ever! But we do it. It’s like we fear we’re offending someone. LOL! Wonder how young we are when that first begins. 🙂

  9. Please pardon my appearance if I am herre in my pj’s which today I am not, today I am dressed in shorts and top.

  10. Another great post – thank you! I LOVE the photo with of the emotions board! That is so cool, and I think it could be incredibly useful. So much can come from emotional learning and emotional literacy. Your photo really resonated with me and is relevant to some of the work that I am doing. On a slightly different note, as I read your post, what occurred to me is that, when I was at the height of self-doubt a few years ago, I had a tendency to take on opinions that I thought others might have of me. I took those as a truth when a) I only thought that others thought them, I didn’t actually know, and b) even if they were real opinions, they were only their opinions, they weren’t necessarily “the truth”. These supposed opinions fed my self-doubt significantly. The key for me was in learning to distinguish between opinions (real and imagined) and facts. This opened up an amazing world where I could choose what opinions I gave authority to. I wonder whether this is what you have done in deciding not to ask to be pardoned for your eye. Well done. (PS I didn’t feel that you needed to be pardoned for your eye and, if anyone else does, then that probably says more about them than your eye!)

  11. No pardon ever necessary here! But I want to know–what was the Fantastic News?!

    • That sign appeared after two fantastic doctors where I work got awards and much-deserved recognition.Thank you for appearing here and asking!

  12. Pingback: Day 2541: It all worked out | The Year(s) of Living Non-Judgmentally

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