Day 2363: You can’t change other people’s behaviors


You can’t change other people’s behaviors.  You can only change your reactions to them and/or your own behaviors.

You can’t change my behaviors, including

  • blogging daily,
  • working hard, and
  • sharing my photos, including these:













I can’t change Michael’s behaviors, which include monogramming my slice of left-over gelato cake last night.

You can’t change my flying to Chicago today to spend the weekend with group therapists from the American Group Psychotherapy Association, but you can wish me a safe trip.

We can’t change Brian Wilson‘s behaviors, but we can wish him a happy belated birthday and appreciate his music.


Keep an eye on summer, because it begins today!

I can’t change your commenting behaviors, but I’ll appreciate any comment you leave.



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19 thoughts on “Day 2363: You can’t change other people’s behaviors

  1. You are right, I don’t even try to change other people’s behavior’s, I have enough trouble controlling/containing my own behavior’s….

  2. Thank you so much for doing what you do, Ann.

  3. Maureen

    Tim Minchkin sure tries to get people to change their behaviour and take their canvas bags to the supermarket. Or, is he trying to get people to stop telling people to take their canvas bags to the supermarket? Your call:

  4. The older I get the more I focus more on trying to lead by example. For instance I try to set an example of not trying to change anyone else’s behavior. I can’t say that others around me have been inclined to follow me, but in following my own example I have to accept that.

  5. Wishing you a safe trip=- and you are so right- it’s all about how we react.

  6. You are so right. ‘You can’t change other people’s behaviors’, but observe colors, feel vibrations, and solve a puzzle creatively on a daily basis, like you do everyday on that dry board!

  7. Have a good time in Chicago. Lots of energy there! And don’t try to change anyone’s behavior. I can’t say I’ve stopped trying, but mostly it’s in the form of asking questions rather than reacting badly…though occasionally a really blank face will reveal my attempt not to react…

  8. Very true

  9. I hope Chicago welcomed you, Ann! 🙂 I certainly agree that we can’t change other people’s behaviors. Not only does that NOT work, but I have enough trouble managing my own life. 🙂

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